BIRTH VLOG *raw & real* // LABOR AND DELIVERY OF OUR FIRST BABY 

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True!! I’m a FTM and plan on getting one. I can barely handle my mild menstrual cramps so yes. Meds please lol I’m new to this motherhood world and found it shocking that many women feel like failures for getting one.

I had vaginal and had epidural and I feel like a mam and having a second kid and same delivery again I never thought if a failure actually I felt great to get to be a mommy

I think.... we can all push, painful but technically quick 20..30min? ...they give epidural to push out right? So y0u don't feel anything.. but the bigger pain are the contractions in my opinion and I don't know if the epi help with that. I didn't get the epi because the thought of not feeling makes me more scared and I was tolsd the effect could last a bit even after birth so no thanks.

My first labor was very much like yours except I was in an induced labor for 56 hours and only reached 3 cm before they did the first of my seven C-sections over the next 24 years. I had 5 spinal, two of which did not work, the epidurals with my last two. I had pre-eclampsia with my oldest son at 36 weeks...he weighed 5 lbs. 11 ozs and was 21” long. My babies were born in 1965, 1968, 1974, 1976, 1983, 1988 and 1990...2 sons and then 5 daughters from 2 marriages...the first one of 17 yrs. and the second for 38 1/2 yrs so far. I lost my oldest son 21 months ago. He died 3 days before his 54th birthday. He was a C.P.A. and owned his own accounting firm. His death is still an open homicide investigation with the woman he had been married to for 20 months at the time. We lost his oldest child, my first grandchild, a daughter when she was 21 yrs. old, in a car accident in December of 2008...we have missed her terribly. My son also left behind his two sons who were 18 and 15 at the time of my sweet son’s death. The 56 hours of labor then the surprise C-section were not nearly as horrible and devastating as his shocking death has been....the most terrible 21 months in my life. I loved my firstborn so very much and I miss him more than I can ever say. I hope you enjoy your baby girl’s growing up years and I pray that she has a long, healthy and happy life and that you have a successful VBAC (Vaginal Birth After C-section) for your next birth experience...and don’t let anyone tell you that you can only have only 3 surgical births. I was the following ages when I had my babies...18, 20, 26, 29, 36, 40 and 42 and all of my babies were normal, healthy babies who grew up to be wonderful adults and I did terrific after each birth....and both of my tiny sons grew up to be 6’ 2” tall and smart as could be. All of my children have college degrees and except for losing Rick, my life and theirs could not have been better. Congratulations again!

BTW...you did a great job and don’t forget...the MOST important aspect of pregnancy is to end the experience with a healthy baby and a healthy mother and that is how your pregnancy ended so just be happy that you live in a time when a surgical birth is an option when we need it....thank God we live in an age of modern medicine. You did GREAT, and so did your “best friend” who is your daughter’s wonderful daddy! You are all extremely lucky just like I was. Enjoy every minute of your daughter’s life!

"What kind of society teaches women..." The kind where people can do social media for a living. "Unmedicated birth" is a popular vlog title and keyword, probably because it gets more views. So it's the vloggers who in chasing views created the fad and the expectation, especially among othger vloggers, that unmedicated birth is the way to go.

I had an epidural with both my boys. It's a preference.

It’s sad that other women tell others oh I medicated is best great for those who can but it’s not for all

A society like ours in which not even cancer patients are adequately treated for their pain. Believe it or not crooked politicians, insurance companies,and the DEA are now the ones who decide what and when certain medications can be given. I spoke with a friend who was recently diagnosed with a high grade breast cancer, and her insurance company denied a claim for a medication that she needed to boost her immune system! I have suggested she consider consulting an attorney.

@@pattidale7968 wow I’m sorry your friend is going through that and it sucks that insurance companies even if you pay they deny you coverage when a person has cancer or a serious illness so paying for insurance is a scam and shouldn’t be that way they are stealing peoples money

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So true! I hate how there are so many moms or just people in general who say “you’re stronger if you don’t get an epidural” or basically those who compliment moms on being strong for not getting epidural. There’s nothing admirable about not getting an epidural just as there is nothing different when you do get an epidural. Epidurals merely make your birth experience more enjoyable. I don’t get why anyone wouldn’t want to have an epidural because when you don’t you’re too focused on the pain to enjoy and focus on your baby.

@@lex3683 Do people actually say that? I've never heard anyone say anything like that. Some are against epidural because it has certain risks. But it looks to me like vloggers are partially responsible for the fad of unmedicated birth because it gets more views.

My MIL is really against them as well because of the risk of back problems. I personally don’t know anybody who’s ever had issues from their epidural and I also know I don’t want to deal with the pain if there’s an option to. I have a low pain tolerance and even Pap smears are more uncomfortable than usual for me so there’s no way I’m not getting an epidural. No shame at all, give me that pain relief :)

Hoping to start trying soon but I’ve always wanted to do natural if possible bc of a past back injury. The epidural would go right near it and that terrifies me.

In the 1970’s epidurals were discouraged. I had both my son and daughter 100% natural and it was HELL. As she was suffering I swear my stomach clenched! There is no way to describe the pain.

What was their reason for c section ? What was going on with baby? I was induced twice . The first time didn’t work because baby wasn’t ready to come . About a week later they tried again and she came after about 4 hours of the hard labor.

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Its her first so labor will be long, don't worry it won't be as long next time

I wish to make another comment. Not judging you but contractions feel stronger and no dilation if you are dehydrated. So an IV would have been a possible good ideal before pitocin (hormones)! To be fearful is not a positive thing.

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Oh that's so sweet and understanding! It was a hard labor :( The mental pain of hearing I didn't progress was worse than the physical xxx

@@dorinefitt didn’t they put anesthesia on you during the c- section ?

Oh wow that's so intense

Oh wow I needed this comment, thank you for your kind and supportive words girl ! Much love from Belgium! xxx

@@dorinefitt you look like my teacher

No I have two baby and when I delivery I don't have doctor and I do it in toilet but you are so crazy I give my baby for his healthy and for my baby healthy I wait for every pain but you are crazy I swear to God to your baby has got problem in his healthy

@@dorinefitt you’re most welcome ☺️😘 hope it’s all going well xx you got this! 💜

You said it all Tessa thumbs up 👍. I remember I felt guilty to have meds in my IV I CRIED that’s with my first. Delivered naturally on first baby girl then had cecerean with Last 2 girls. I’m soo proud of you mama & dada. You both did great 👍

For next baby I'm going to say I don't want an induction :( I'm afraid it was indeed unnecessary... My boyfriend was very supportive and wanted to massage but I didn't want that. But I wish they would have told me to move around more. To walk around even tho it hurted even more. I think this would have helped me dialate or move her in a better position. So many things come to mind after experiencing it, sadly its too late now :(

@@dorinefitt I felt this exact way! I really felt the hospital staff gave me no assistance or advice after breaking my water manually which was also honestly unnecessary. But ultimately we made the best choices we could at the time and can only learn from experience! Good job mom

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Yes it is 😂 I won't use it this time tho I got 8 weeks left 😊 yay me

I had 3 kids nothing like epidural. Nurse asked me did you come here to sleep or have a baby lol😅

Thank you babe!! Awwww! Happy we could move you with our story xxx

Congratulations

It doesn’t do anything to you it helps the baby come faster and stops the contractions

I completely agree

Thank you for your comment! I do agree I didn't have to feel that dissapointed. But I was sooooo curious how it would feel, pushing a baby out and the push contractions haha. I really wanted to know how it's like to go all natural. I didn't get to experience it unfortunatelly not even on meds. I hope for my second I will have to PUSHHHHH haha

I had my son in 1983. Back then it was the era of natural childbirth and an epidural was not even an option. I had to do it with no pain killers at all. That was not fun, but at least you get a beautiful baby for all the pain you go through.

@@dorinefitt sometimes you can lower the dosage of the epidural so that you’re not completely numb. Most times epidurals just numb the pain they don’t numb the actual feeling of pushing the baby out. If you have a super heavy dosage of epidural then you won’t be able to feel yourself pushing the baby out, but if you ask for a lower dose then you might be able to get the experience you want

Thank you for watching! If the c section is not planned, you don't really have a lot of time to think about it. I was scared and I cried about it but the between the decision of getting one till holding my baby in my arms took +- 30 minutes total! It goes by really fast. No worries, you will do great either way xxx

Awww🥺. I'm so sorry for your loss

@@jessicajorgensen3685 I'm sorry 🥺. Have she thought of a surrogate?

Oh my... I am so sorry :( She's a little star in the sky!

@@jessicajorgensen3685 Aw :( We also had some difficulties getting pregnant

My 2 oldest sisters are pretty cute

A big relief indeed !! Thank you!!

That's soooo sweet! I did my best haha love you!

Oh really? I hope on a natural delivery for the second one! Thanks for your comment xx

Labor is not really easy, it's okey either we will deliver our baby in normal delivery or through cesarian section as long as we're okey and the baby as well. I am new to your channel and always watching your vlog.

@@dorinefitt yes, induced contractions are far, far stronger! Starting from zero effaced and zero cms-done that too-will make things take way longer. :( For my one VBAC I refused induction. Epidural happened as it was needed to lower my b/p but induction can really stress the uterus & especially a c/s scar. So, perhaps consider that. ❤️ from one tough birth trauma mama to another. I’m surprised that I watched this through, as my memories aren’t too far off.

Omg induction is no joke. Contractions are horrific when the drip gets turned up. My labour didn't progress either and I ended up having an emergency c section. Shame really but don't feel bad. I am expecting baby no. 2 and now I realise I probably shouldnt have bee induced in the 1st place. Hoping for a natural and less painful experience this time 🙏🏾 congratulations to you and your beautiful baby 💖

Thank you!

Oh wauw wat spannend voor jou!!! Laatste loodjes, dan even een marathon en dan je babytje :D Ik vond de eerste dagen in het ziekenhuis ook nog enorm zwaar fysiek en mentaal maar vanaf we thuis waren konden we echt genieten van ons drietjes. Kei leuk dat je alles zo hebt mee gevolgd!! xxx

Ja Jonathan was echt my rock, weet niet wat ik gedaan zou hebben zonder hem. Ben zo dankbaar dat hij is wie hij is haha

Ahw, thank you for watching my birth vlog!!!

So happy I have that footage of me seeing her for the first time! It's now a bit of a blur that moment because of all the meds :o xxx

Ohhh !! Dankjewel schat!

Ahww!! Thank you!

That's so so sweet!! Thank you for your comment

Jaaa heeeel emotioneel moment !! Ik krijg ook telkens nog tranen bij dat stukje

Dankjewel! Had het niet gekunnen zonder hem

Thank you!

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Ohhh wat lief dankjewel !!!! xxx

So exciting! Hope you have a good pregnancy!

Thanks you sweetheart

@@dorinefitt I just wanted to say congratulations for being pregnant you are so pretty blonde hair nice video vlog and cool camera shots is going to be a boy or girl

Doen we zeker!!

hahahahha funny

Ohh, dankjewel!!

Dankjewel schat heel lief!