Black Women “HATE” Their Natural Hair |  

This is such a great video! So informative and entertaining! Thank you for trusting You Go Natural. We will always celebrate black women loving their natural hair while being fashionable and comfortable! 🤍

it also should be mentioned, and this is why I went natural, that there are scientific studies that show that relaxers increase a woman's chances of developing fibroids , thyroid issues, and breast cancer. Black women's health is always overlooked and awareness should be brought forward.

The day the natural hair movement has succeeded is when a black woman with 4c hair can walk out of the house, into the workplace, into the church, into the clubs, anywhere without having to manipulate their hair to look presentable to other people.

I get a lot of backlash about my 4C hair from black women and black men. It’s annoying and alarming. The black community makes it seem like 4C hair is a struggle to deal with….it’s not.

People have attached too many rules to 4c hair. Dont grease your hair,wash your hair x amount of times, detangle your hair, stretch your hair. Your haircare routines are unnecessarily long and frustrating because you are trying to change the nature of your hair. Afro shrinks, embrace it. Your hair will never be perfectly detangled, black hair strands love hugging together,embrace it. You guys are completely going against the nature of your hair and as a result your hair will fight back by frustrating you. You wouldn't want someone trying to change your entire personality and being controlled, would you? Your hair has a life too. If anything, all these perceived challenges with natural 4c hair are teaching people to stop being control freaks. Leave your hair alone and it will grow.

I'm a Russian woman, and this issue is so interesting and puzzling to me! Thank you so much for the video. As a person from a country where there is almost no black population, only a few years ago I discovered that all this hair that Beyonce and other celebrities have is not their own!! I couldn't even imagine what black women go through with their hair, all the strengthening, wigs etc. To me, as well as to majority of white foreigners (not americans), natural hair on black women is just AS BEAUTIFUL as straight hair, I didn't even know about such deep issues with descrimination etc.

We don't really hate our hair, society hates it and it has a huge effect on our self images .

If a stylist want u to pay more, come early, or pre do your hair at home before u come to your appointment. DO NOT GO TO THAT STYLIST FIND A NATURL HAIR SALON. Cause a stylist who specializes in NATURL HAIR would NEVER tell u to pay MORE based off your texture and length.

The obsession with hair length is also due to the masculinization of most black women. Society makes us feel like we have to do so much and adhere to so many standards to be seen as feminine , they talk about the BBL girls but look at how they treat BW with average bodies, the fuller the features and the deeper the skin the more they try to associate us with men. So yes the obsession with length is very real and it’s very sad . I struggle with it too because I’m so tall and I feel all this unnecessary pressure to always be received as feminine. I have shaved my hair few times and enjoyed the freedom but also endured what I previously mentioned. I also learned that the right people as in people with common sense never mistakenly Ed me as a boy , especially black women, they saw me as the beauty that I was without all of my hair and I started to realize all that pressure was simply just engraved racism in society. I’ve since grown and am now looking to just grow a huge fro haha.

Honestly the moment you remove yourself from these societal views the less you care. I really believe we are too busy trying to get other people to accept something we haven’t fully accepted. They do not have to accept our difference. When will we ( collectively) focus on our own…

It’s so sad that the majority of beauty schools don’t teach black hair at allllll We’re not even tested on it. I was only taught how to apply a relaxer ☹️

Just looking through the comments here, and I’m kind of confused. I say this as a black woman with arm pit length 4B/4C hair. What is it that you guys are doing that takes hours? I wash style and detangle my hair every week and wear it in a wash and go, and it takes me 2 to 3 hours maximum, and I don’t touch it for the rest of the week. So what is everyone else doing? Could a huge part of disliking natural hair, be due to doing too much? Edit: this comment is 2 years old but people are still responding. It takes me about 1.5 hours a week to do my hair now, I have better technique and I use better products.

We need to take away the power that we’ve given hair in our community.

Lets be honest it come from with in our community then without. Older black women and especially black men&boys.

My two cents is we black women as a collective need to stop policing each other’s hair. It’s become exhausting. Whatever ur thing is, however wearing ur crown makes u feel beautiful and most importantly content , is what matters

What I find interesting about wigs and weave wearers, is that most say it's a protective style, yet the majority only have straight or traditionally white hair types wigs. Let's call a spade a spade. I said what I said.

I’ve fallen in love with my natural hair. Mastering it can bring you so much confidence! It took some time to learn how to do it, I’ve been natural for 6 years and I still learn new things about my hair. When I get tired or don’t have time to deal with my hair, box braids are my best friend. And I’ve learned to do them myself! I can’t even imagine getting a sew in or relaxer anymore. Those days with that tragic, dusty, crusty, 2 inch long, broken up, heat damaged leave out are over!! Nothing but long beautiful textured locks in my future 😎

Making our hair more "palatable" has truly stripped us of the GIFT of developing a love affair with our natural hair...It makes me sad.

It’s a different type of confidence I feel wearing my real hair. I know my real hair sisters understand me. Even if you’re texturized or permed.. it’s a flex to feel sexy in your own hair.

"Black women spend thousands of dollars on natural hair products" Looks at my $4 hair grease and $12 leave in. Wait what?? Lol

Im telling you as a afrohaired woman when I wear my afro I get hated on by black women. Other races absolutely admire and glorify my hair even asian women say I look like an angel with the flowers in my fro. I get stopped by ppl all the time about my hair. But black women will stick their hands in my hair without asking just to see how “nappy” it is or to make sure its not a wig. They don’t even compliment me on my hair first before they touch me! Its rude and disrespectful asf I don’t care what color they are they need to keep their hands to themselves bc their whole intention behind touching my hair is NEGATIVE and its all about selfhate. Its not mainly society its mainly black women who are afraid to rock afros. White men have followed me around the store just to glorify my hair. Black women need to heal and reprogram themselves. Its so bad when I do get compliments they will automatically start explaining why they wear a wig, or why they are bald for no reason. I never told them how to wear their hair Im always friendly while they roll their eyes. One time people where complimenting me and praising me for wearing my hair and my coworker said she had hair longer than mines until Covid. Then when she walked away everyone laughed bc they knew she was lying and hating. I can write a movie about the hate I receive from my own kind bc of my long 4a hair.

Confidence is ALL u need. I remember being called Peter at school when my hair was short. And? I love my Type 4 hair..grows slow but its ALL MINE 😍

Just off the title alone sis 👏🏾👏🏾. This is a conversation that needs to be had.

I can speak from my experience that I honestly hated my 4C hair. It was a lot to do so I recently relaxed it and it’s so much more manageable for me . But recently I went to the DR , & saw the black women embrace their crown and I was like 🥺 dang now why did I do this to me ?! I got treated so well overseas compared to the men here in America . European beauty standards are real and can damage you. Do what’s best for you. I may just go back natural cause the way the black women looked at me like wtf is wrong with her hair sent me in a spiral 😂😂😂😂

I live in Africa. Almost everyone has kinky hair. Girls with relaxed hair,alot of people envy girls with kinky hair. But they don't want it cause of the stress

I was taught to hate my natural hair because it's extremely thick and long. My mom hated doing my hair as a child and made it clear to me by hitting me on the head with the brush while doing my hair, always keeping it in the quickest most boring braids that she could do, or just pawning me off on my older sister or grandma because they could see my mom had no empathy while pulling brushes and combs through my hair with frustration. It hurt a lot. My older sister is mixed with white, while I'm a completely black woman without easy straight hair. My mom was annoyed I had regular black girl hair as she and my older sister don't have that. The first time I ever had a good experience getting my hair done, my mom permed it bone straight. My hair wasn't damaged and I got to wear it out for the first time. I loved it, and I didn't have to suffer under my mom's heavy narcissistic hand with thick, "nappy" according to her, hair. I've never worn my hair without a relaxer since age 6. I'll be 37 this year in July. My mom caused me to hate my natural hair, especially the texture.

As hard as it’s to take care of my hair. I feel the most prettiest in my natural hair ,so I learned to love it , growing up in Africa helped a lot because many hair dresses know what to do with it.

Bro natural hair products isn’t more expensive than wigs that’s the most delusional statement I’ve heard do you know how much women spend every month on wigs and weaves

I really did feel this video. I remember crying to my mom as a little girl. Asking her why I look the way I do. As a black girl I actually have more of a light sandy colored skin. So I was teased for being "too light" and for having "ugly" hair. But as my teenage years hit, I gained confidence and self love for who I truly am. I now appreciate the curls that I have and love my skin. I had to learn how to love my 4c hair. How to stop straightening it and actually just leaving it alone and letting it grow. I usually braid my natural hair and wear it just as that. Kinda like box braids without the weave I put it in buns, ponys and wear it down. I even once put it in twist and used my shrinkage for bangs. It was really cute. I'm now in high school, my last year. And seeing this video was a breath of fresh air. I really do wish 14 year old me could have seen this. This video really does mean a lot to me. 🥺💕

As someone who’s been natural for 5 years now, I’m tired. I’ve tried everything, done multiple big chops, it never gets easier. My hair was even shoulder length at one point and it didn’t make me any happier because it’s so coarse. I hate my 4c hair and I wish my curls were a bit looser so I wouldn’t have to spend 6+ hours in the bathroom every night smh I’m tired of being told I HAVE to like my hair, it’s so much work! It’s especially frustrating when it comes from girls with type 3 curls; they’ll NEVER know what it’s like to deal with constant breakage.

I went to beauty school and they barely teach u anything at all about black hair let alone 4c kinky curly hair. So that’s something within the system.

Black women are the only women who aren’t allowed to either manipulate their without it being called self hatred. Like I have white and Asian friends who literally bleach, dye straighten their curls, wear weave aka extensions to achieve the look they want. For us it’s just so much scrutiny and I feel like we’re appealing to the everyone else except ourselves

That's why I have always disliked the term "good hair" black folk need to get away from that term. As far as I'm concerned all hair is good!!! I'm just sayin...

our problem is when we think of long flowing hair as the standard of femininity and beauty which stems from whiteness. that’s what we grew up learning from movies,books, commercials. even though our hair can do all types of different things, we are way too obsessed with “length” when our hair is simply not made that way in its natural state. and that’s because of what we’ve been surrounded by. we don’t see and hear enough positive descriptions about our coils.

I’m going to say something controversial… Not all black women have to like shrinkage, hair that will not grow no matter what you do, having a difficult time combing your hair, breaking combs, or having a painful time combing it and trying to style it… We as black women have different hair textures and experiences and not all bw go through what I listed but some do …..I don’t think you have to like something that’s difficult for you if you’re having a hard time with it… My hair is a mixture of type 3 and 4a and I hate combing my hair with a passion because it’s literally painful because I’m tender headed and I’ve had difficulty growing parts of it no matter what I did and I don’t like it and guess what I still don’t and I OK with saying that there’s nothing wrong with that …I don’t have to like it Or things such as shrinkage… I refuse to have to make black women feel they must like parts of their hair that they actually don’t like for their own personal reasons if they are in fact struggling with it I don’t hate my texture is very nice in my opinion (most Black people tell me I have good hair and I know that that sounds ignorant to many but y’all know what that is… But that doesn’t mean I don’t have difficulties) but there have been some difficulty still at times and I don’t like it and that’s OK

Thank God a black female as u talks openly about this topic, 2 all my black women,... know that ur all beauties with ur own natural hair, many thanks 4 uploading this video Respect 2 u Mrs Toni

As a African living in Africa i really never knew that black women in the west were made to feel bad about there hair .. like here in West Africa it is deemed as wierd and not attractive when u hve loose curls as it is usually associated witn damaged hair

I don't hate my hair..I'm 30 and just came into the confidence of embracing my natural hair. I have pretty hair and I'm not afraid to show it off anymore

I like to experment so i try a lot with my hair but I'm always more comfortable in my natural hair.

Great commentary. I am one of those black women who loves her "naps". I switch it up from time to time and may throw on a wig. Recently I wore a short wig to work for a few days because it was time for a haircut and I couldn't get my hair to do what I wanted it to do. The Wyt people kept telling me how "stunning" I was when I wore the wig. I was actually offended. I couldn't wait to wear my natural hair again.

Not all black women hate their hair..I absolutely LOVE my hair!! I think our hair is very misunderstood and society associates long flowing hair as beautiful and coily kinkier hair as "Nappy"...I went Natural about a year and a half ago and tbh I didn't know anything about my hair,and I really studied my hair and relied on youtubers to teach me how to take care of my hair..this was all a process and I am absolutely in Love with my hair. Tbh it's steps for me because I'm now crossing the path of feeling comfortable to style my hair and wear my natural hair and not wigs.So last night , I actually did my hair put makeup on and posted pictures on FB of me and my natural hair...I was so scares because this was like a revealing for me to my friends who have Never seen me natural..and tbh they embraced and told me how beautiful I am..I am happy and this for me is TRULY a journey❤💯...I Hate when Black women say they hate their hair because your HAIR is apart of you and God given and being in that mindset is self hate...learn your Hair and embrace it..it's so beautiful..and I'm very happy and thankful for my beautiful hair❤💘💝

A lot of black women blame society. Truth be told, I have black women and black men criticize me when I let my hair grow in naturally. I have never been criticized by other races for my natural hair! White men actually seem to like my natural hair!

I'm a white Slavic girl (from Europe) and I absolutely love different ethnic features of people from all over the world. It hurts to see such beautiful black hair hidden and replaced with plastic (or real hair) straight weaves... so much work, not letting the skin on the head breathe 😢 and it often doesn't even doesn't look good! it's sad that people have been convinced natural hair isn't beautiful, that it's not tidy or even clean... it makes me angry, I hope people stop believing this old fake colonialist consumerist society bullshit 🤘

As a child, I never hated my hair. I was conditioned to hate my hair..from my own family. My light skin family with so called good hair 😑I love my hair again

Awesome video! You did an excellent job breaking down the history of hate toward Black hair!

We have been conditioned to want what we don’t naturally have and so it makes us seem ungrateful for what we DO have. Our hair is our BRAND AND BIRTHRIGHT. The colonizers wanted what they couldn’t grow therefore developing jealousy and the need to have us cover it up. No wonder why our hair is called our “GLORY”.. Love on it because it is a plant 🌱 that needs continued maintenance & watering. Our hair grows towards the sun ☀️ BECAUSE IT IS ALIVE… Remember that. ASE & LOVE TO OUR ANCESTORS

Thnx for discussing a topic that was really really important. I know lots of bw hate black hair texture, and I understand. That’s why I do my hair myself mostly if you don’t like my hair you shouldn’t be allowed to touch it. I’m not here to encourage anyone to love anything, I just wanna remind us that the power is still in our hands.

I am white and I have always loved black women’s hair. The braids, styles always draw me in. You can do so much and it’s beautiful! White hair is basic 😂 Plus your skin is so beautiful!

I don’t hate my hair, I just need products that make my hair easy to maintain. I don’t want to be a slave to my hair in terms of maintaining hair straightening and afraid to sweat it out due to exercising. Tired of perms.

WE . OURSELVES . BLACK WOMEN . we need to stop being so hard on ourselves and one another no matter WHAT we do with our hair . just embrace each other’s beauty . Hair is an accessory - people change it very often .

I told my hair stylist that I will be transitioning from relaxed to natural hair, she said if I was crazy because my hair is 16 inches long, and it won't be pretty anymore 🤷🏾‍♀️

My dad has been a hairstylist (for white hair) for 30 years. He HATES getting mixed people or black people with A LOT of hair. He hates how much extra time it takes. He never charged more though. He’s just complain after. Hairstylists used to charge for the services not what your hair looks like. Even if my dad had to try to lift someone who’s dyed their hair black to blonde, he wouldn’t charge more. You charge for the service, the the products used, etc. not based on what the clients hair looks like and by doing that he was able to take in HELLA tips. I mean, people would give him $40-$100 tips. BUT again, my dads 30 years in the game so things have clearly changed DRASTICALLY.

I guess I was lucky in that I never felt bad for having the hair that I do. I have type 4A hair (for some context) but I used to think I had 4C because of how dense my hair was (and still is)... and I didn't know leave in conditioner was a thing until like 2016😅 The only negative memories I have for my hair was my mum yanking my hair in efforts of detangling it, giving me headaches and of course the pain from my butt sitting down on the floor for hours. Although it was very painful, I appreciate my mum doing what she could to take care of my hair. And always telling me that I looked 'cute' with it and that its 'long' looking back it wasn't long at all, but I was the only in the family with a lot of hair being the only girl at the time. My mum really made me wear it with pride😂. During the mid 2000's when I was a kid I wanted to perm my hair since another girl had her hair permed and I thought it looked nice. My mum would always deny my request saying that I'll ruin my hair. I knew where she was coming from as she herself permed her hair continuously when she was a teenager and till this day her hair is really damaged from it. I'm thankful that she didn't let me do it, instead she was always very open to trying out hairstyles she never done before (like crochet) on my head. She'd watch youtube videos and everything! I know that my mum is glad that my hair is as long and healthy as it is today; she tells me that my hair right now is her goal. She really taught me and my sister that we can do a lot with out hair without damaging it and I think the fact that she was very open with trying out these new hairstyles helped my sister and I love our hair for what it is! Of course it also does help when your hair is 'long' by 'black hair standards' (I got a lot of comments from other black girls in my school who wished their hair was as long as mine -- again my hair was like neck length it weren't that long back then) but I honestly think it was because my hair's health was always out first compared to the actual 'look' of it. *The TLDR is: I'm thankful that my mum wanted me to learn what she did much later in life -- that black hair is beautiful, and deserves to be taken care of! Even if you gotta endure a little pain to find out what really works for you! Learning to love your hair also can mean experimenting with it, but always out of appreciation and curiosity of what your hair can do, not what you can conceal about it!*

I'm Nigerian living in Nigeria and you won't believe how bad people make me feel about my hair. All my life I've not had the confidence to wear an afro. Anytime I wear my hair in a puff people are always like "so when will you braid your hair?" or " when will you relax your hair?" Or they'll ask me to cover my hair ( I live in a Muslim dominated area) It's really a struggle.

Thanks for the beautiful video and reminding us how beautiful our hair is and spreading more light on it 💝

As a black man with 4c hair who has a young daughter(I don’t know what type of hair she will have). I’ll say I’ve had BW tell me they would not date me because of my hair and skin color and not wanting their children to look that way. In my experience BW perpetuate this. My mother had 4c hair and so do my sisters and they don’t perm. I also never heard my mom speak negative of our hair. I have good memories of her greasing our scalps on Sunday nights before school the next day. BW are the most naturally beautiful out of all women so y’all don’t need beauty products like that. As someone who wore their hair long for years, it’s really not that difficult to maintain. I taught myself how to do my hair, and I will teach my daughter to do the same. Y’all are beautiful.❤

Black women do not need long hair. Short hair complements us better.

I rarely see actual 4c naturals content creators blow up.

It’s so sad that black women have to explain why we like our hair or not , do what works for YOU. Everyone’s hair regime may not work for one. It’s about learning what your hair likes. Taking time to learn and listen to your hair needs. If you wear a wigs Rock that ishh then Natural hair rock that ishh like no one can tell you nothing Relaxer rock that ishhh Black women do not owe anyone any explanation as to why they do what they do for their heads . I don’t see any other race having these conversations and over explaining we gotta stop this .

My mom always told me my hair was beautiful. When I was little, my mom kept it braided up, so my hair was longer. Other black girls pulled it to see if it was fake and they hated me. LOL. I was surprised to find out my hair was no prettier than anyone else's as I got older. Moms, get that brainwashing in early and often! I can't wear wigs and weaves though. I feel stupid in them.

Thank you sooo much for making the point that wearing wigs or weaves or straightening our hair isn’t “self-hate”. I hate that term anyway, as if everything about us is tied up in our hair.

I used to hate my hair as a child. It seemed unmanageable, now with all the products I absolutely love it ! I dress it up and at 63, it’s going grey but it’s my best feature. It’s part of who I am . I’m from UK.

I'm just a european with wavy hair and I didn't know it's really like that. Why is something normal and natural considered something weird? Type 4 hair is pretty on it's own, without any efforts to make it resemble any other type of hair

I definitely think people shouldn’t be afraid to be their unique selves. Everyone is starting to look the same it’s sad. We need to embrace the features that make us different. THAT is beautiful💖if we all did that instead getting all this surgery and stuff there wouldn’t be a societal beauty standard because we would all learn to see the absolute beauty in everything and everyone!

I hated my 4c hair up until last year. It was hard to manage, I spent so much money on products and more. However, I big chopped last year and kept my hair in braids most of the time, Using in between braid styles to learn something new about my hair. Some of the things I learned so far is: my porosity, that it’s actually not 4c, that my hair is actually thin but there’s a lot of it, it really doesn’t like to be messed with and butter & cream based products are amazing while water and gel based are not. I chose to go this route because I started working out and my wigs will lift and I think that looks horrible. I started growing my edges back and I wanted to keep them 😂 I knew that if I didn’t start to learn how to love and embrace my crown, I will never be satisfied. I don’t believe it’s self hate to dislike your hair, I think you just need to get to know it and understand there’s value in taking that time to know the raw you.

Let’s talk about black women (specifically those with 4a, 4b, 4c hair, pasting their edges to their forheads. Where did that come from? To me, its an attempt to emulate mixed hair textures where the edges lay down naturally with no gel. Can we make puffy, “nappy” 4c edges cool? Like….we aint gotta copy other textures all the time. Smh

I support black women , whatever they want to do to their hair. I recently texturizer and I am so happy with it. Your hair is only a PART of you. It doesn't make you who you are.....

Beautiful video. It's prompted me to think a bit more about my choices when styling my hair. I've had every style, but the main thing is learning how to moisturise and take care of my hair. Not all hair can use the same products and I've never really gotten into trends. My hair is low porosity, my scalp gets dry, while my hair stays moisturised. My mum relaxed my hair as a teenager, before I knew how to take care of it and so it broke off. At near 40, I am learning what my hair needs, what it likes and doesn't like. My hair is completely natural and I'm currently wearing wigs. I like to keep it simple with regular treatments and trimming my ends and sticking to products my hair likes. I drink lots of water and eat well and have a healthy lifestyle. I believe you have to feed yourself from the inside out; skin, hair and nails tells us a lot about the state of our health. I love my hair. I love how fluffy it is when I blow dry my hair and I love the ease of brushing and combing and the intricate styles I can do. I've learnt so much from watching RU-vid videos. I really had to research products for my hair. It's a life learning journey for black women, as we have so many options. We are Queens and can do what the Fuck we want!

Society is so toxic. I love videos like this. ❤️

I don’t hate my hair. I hate how hard it is to keep it healthy. I love how my natural hair looks but there’s always something. I hate a lot of the low manipulation hairstyles 😫 they not cute to me or childish. I love my fro, my curl pattern and how my hair looks on me but it definitely is a hassle. I can’t never just NOT HAVE SPLIT ENDS. I’m always cutting my hair off cuz these dang ends but I want my hair to grow longer and bigger.

Then why all the wigs, weaves, sew ins I could go on? All whilst attacking white women’s hair constantly? Be honest it’s jealousy and makes you so angry

I am white and the fact that society shames women with healthy 4c hair and not white hair that sometimes doesn’t look healthy and looks like strings on the ends boggles my mind

Why are men happy with their hair texture

I absolutely love my hair.but I absolutely hate doing it. The pain, the time the energy just no. Let everyone do their hair how they want.

Natural hair is one of those things that has to be promoted from day 1. It has to be embellished, styled, cared for, and worn on a very regular basis

Malcolm X SAID WHO TAUGHT To HATE YOURSELF

Yes, girl!! Preach somebody had to say this, and you've done so with such empathy while educating us. I am glad I came across your channel 💕

I love my hair; the texture, density, the curls the way it defies gravity. I love washing my hair and doing my routines and styling and braiding it. I love hair in general 😂 What I don't like is the stares and the treatment that I get when I wear my hair out (wash and go, fro etc). It sucks that I get left alone when my hair is "flat" or "put away" My braids, bun or sometimes even a wig allows me to navigate through society unbothered which is.... sad. I just want to exist and receive the same treatment regardless of what my hair looks like. But I agree with the sentiments in the video. I think that when you are told by outsiders and your own people that your hair is inherently different (and therefore bad) it can really be hard to step away from that narrative. I have type 3 hair and have experienced the benefits of texturism...and yet I still feel uncomfortable and unsettled about my hair around others. I feel like we all have those insecurities they just manifest differently. Some ppl hate their hair, some people embrace it and some are afraid of it 🥹

As a black male, black hair is very unique and that is our identity, I understand what society has put black women through and it’s disgusting, but it’s okay to love your self all you have is you stop trying to make others feel comfortable while losing your self doing it, self love is power and that’s all we got our dignity.

As a white woman, I really learned a lot from this video. I’m glad to know what you go through. I admire so much the Queen energy that emanates from black women and I want to learn from you. I hope there is a day where it is normal for all beauty to be appreciated and celebrated for what it is. Thank you for making this video and helping me understand so I can be aware of it in my life and in raising my children.

Wonderful commentary👏🏽👍🏽 Thanks for the words of encouragement to embrace our hair and each other✊🏽

I have watched Chris Rock's documentary Good Hair and yes, majority of black Americans place emphasis on straight hair. Black women with straight hair are seen as more beautiful and black men desire black women with straight hair.

I live in a country with few blacks. I recently saw a black women with natural hair and I was stunned by her beauty. Women are too fake in general.

When guys say they like natural hair they're referring to looser curl textures

As a rather light skinned black woman, I'm just staring at how beautiful your skin is, can't stop staring at your arms! Looks great contrasted with your cream shirt. 💖

I've always had 4c hair with no apparent curls. I have always loved my hair, great density, lots of volume. Just wonderful ! I had a beautiful fro, I've never worn a wig in my life. I assumed my hair in all its forms, styled or not. But one day, almost 3 years ago, I started to notice that my hair was falling out and where did it fall out a new texture was growing? And I started to notice that my hair was kind of in transition, 4a roots and 4c lengths. It became impossible to detangle. I was crying when untangling, nothing was going well and my hair had become thinner too. For this and other reasons, I completely shaved my head (Never felt so beautiful in my life). Unfortunately I was forced to re-grow them. Since then, my hair and I have been enemies. I always see people complaining about having 4c hair. Yet from MY PERSONAL experience, this is the simplest hair. Today, my hair is always tangled, it has lots of fairy knots (something I didn't have before), it has no shape, detangling is a torture and VERY DRY. The saddest thing for me is that I can no longer do fro. I am extremely complexed by my hair. But ironically, I hide them less than before in the sense that I don't do braids at all anymore, my hair is exposed all the time. I'm just ugly. But I refuse to wear wigs, for many reasons, the first is that it simply doesn't suit me hahaha, it's not my thing. I'm so desperate but what do you want? Apparently it was the hormones that caused it. I bought so many product and absolutely nothing works. I even have more money now lol... I didn't tell you, but the most difficult thing to manage for me is the texture mix... Behind 3C? In front of 4c or 4b? All the center of my head 4a and the sides of my head 4b. All this with a cotton texture. I can't even determine my porosity, I did absolutely all the tests. I've watched so many RU-vid videos and girls with 4a 4b hair look amazing!! I'm so frustrated that on me, absolutely nothing looks good. How am I supposed to get out of this? I'm just tired... and broke. Sorry for my very very bad English.

As a black woman with natural, it sucks hearing other black women complain so much about the hair GOD gave us, he makes no mistakes. I see more wigs, lace-fronts, hair textures that are not naturally ours worn by black women so often that it send the message to other races, I prefer your hair texture to my own. Of course we can straighten our hair, make it curly, and so on, that's the wonderful thing about our hair its versatile, but complaining so much because you want your hair to act like someones else's, yes its frustrating so stop it and love your hair. The thing is, all the wigs look just like that..wigs..a cover up, everyone looks the same now...I love when I see natural hair embraced and wish more black women would too...I know unpopular opinion

Visually black hair is gorgeous. Your crown grows up ❤️

I highly disagree about this ‘people wanting to be close to whiteness.’ Most people would prefer to have brown skin and curly hair, like in the 3’s on the hair chart. Those features are actually much closer to blackness than they are to whiteness. Two fully white people cannot have a child with type 3 curly hair, just not possible. That hair types come from mixing with a black person. On the other hand, a black person doesnt have to mix with a European for the child to get a looser curl pattern, they can mix with any variety of person, whether that be Mexican, American Indian, Asian, etc. They all have straight hair, and a black person who has tightly coiled hair mixing with them, leaves the child with curly hair. So you saying that everyone wants to be white is completely false. As a multiracial guy (West African/black, American Indian, and white in that order) with type 4a hair, I am very happy with my skin tone but would prefer 3c hair due to the looser curl pattern. That has nothing with me wanting to be white, I don’t want white skin or straight hair. I want Afro hair with slightly looser curls than mine.

Thank you for making this video. Whenever I get box braids I like to keep them in for a long time; a woman who goes to my church would always stare right at my head, whenever she approached me. One day I was in the car with her, just the two of us, before I even got in the car she asked, “Now, when you getting your braids done?” “Have you talked to your mom about it?” She talked about it for a full 10 minutes. She acted as if it was her job to ask me about my hair. That situation pissed me off and I haven’t talk to her since. The amount of black women that stare at my hair is very disrespectful and uncomfortable. Another woman at my church… Whenever we talk to each other, she doesn’t even look at me, she just stares at my hair the whole time. Black women are the reason other black women are insecure about their hair.

Sadly based on my experience of working in the food service industry I quickly noticed that when my hair is in a afro textured hairstyle like braids, locks and twists people are very mean, rude, impatient and ruff towards me they are hesitant to say hello, look me in my face and have a good conversation with me. but when I wear soft wavy Marcia Brady hair ( minus the color) people treat give me tons of love, patience, and support. People are friendly, kind and helpful towards me as well.

Black women are just like all other women in the world. We like to make changes like other women. Why is it that all other women can make changes to their hair and body without hating themself, except Black women? Other women can change color, texture, length without judgement. Non-Black women do wear wigs, tracks, tape-in hair, clip-in hair, pony tails and hair pieces without all this judgement. Black women can do the same. It does not mean we hate ourselves or our hair, we just like to make changes. It’s a woman’s prerogative.

I'm glad my family didn't make me feel insecure about my hair. As long as its clean and the style is cute to me and doesn't take up too much of my time I'm good to go.

This was a great video and for me I love to change up my 4c hair but this year is a year of no wigs/weave for me. I am going back to embracing my hair and lord knows it's hard but I have been loving it.

I LOVE my hair. Kinky, nappy, frizzy, whatever anyone else calls it I don't care. It's thick and healthy and beautiful in it's natural state. I don't waste my money on none of the stuff people try and tell me I need for my hair. Blue magic suits me just fine lol.

This video is really important and informative. The last point really got me because sometimes I search up styles to do for my 4c hair and I mostly see extensions or mixed people with 3b or 3c hair or without the same hair texture as me as the result. Like that's not what I searched for I clearly searched for styles for 4c hair.

Personally I do hate my natural hair, but not because I hate natural black hair. I hate mine specifically because of the fact that it's so thin and not full at all it makes me annoyed I just prefer having it big or not at all, I don't even care for length

Our hair is stunning.

Im seeing alot of comments about dryness. Heres the secret, your hair doesnt have to be moist or wet unless youre styleing/manipulating (to avoid breakage). Allow your hair to feel coarse / "dry". My hair never feels moist and soft without extensive manipulation and products, its not bad to want the moist feeling but its a completely asthetic choice. So when you assume your hair is unhealthy because it "feels dry" youre doing yourself a disservice. If you do want that moist feeling though I recommend pomades, grease, and mousses.

I resonate with what you were saying at 5:22 so much. When I went natural in 2018, I didn’t want to go to school because I was anxious about my peers seeing me with short hair when I know I decided to transition from relaxed hair for myself. And now my Mum and I have noticed how typical everyday brands such as garnier and others are finally seeing the value of making products for black hair. Honestly the whole thing is crazy