Black Women “HATE” Their Natural Hair |  

This is such a great video! So informative and entertaining! Thank you for trusting You Go Natural. We will always celebrate black women loving their natural hair while being fashionable and comfortable! 🤍

The day the natural hair movement has succeeded is when a black woman with 4c hair can walk out of the house, into the workplace, into the church, into the clubs, anywhere without having to manipulate their hair to look presentable to other people.

I get a lot of backlash about my 4C hair from black women and black men. It’s annoying and alarming. The black community makes it seem like 4C hair is a struggle to deal with….it’s not.

it also should be mentioned, and this is why I went natural, that there are scientific studies that show that relaxers increase a woman's chances of developing fibroids , thyroid issues, and breast cancer. Black women's health is always overlooked and awareness should be brought forward.

People have attached too many rules to 4c hair. Dont grease your hair,wash your hair x amount of times, detangle your hair, stretch your hair. Your haircare routines are unnecessarily long and frustrating because you are trying to change the nature of your hair. Afro shrinks, embrace it. Your hair will never be perfectly detangled, black hair strands love hugging together,embrace it. You guys are completely going against the nature of your hair and as a result your hair will fight back by frustrating you. You wouldn't want someone trying to change your entire personality and being controlled, would you? Your hair has a life too. If anything, all these perceived challenges with natural 4c hair are teaching people to stop being control freaks. Leave your hair alone and it will grow.

We don't really hate our hair, society hates it and it has a huge effect on our self images .

If a stylist want u to pay more, come early, or pre do your hair at home before u come to your appointment. DO NOT GO TO THAT STYLIST FIND A NATURL HAIR SALON. Cause a stylist who specializes in NATURL HAIR would NEVER tell u to pay MORE based off your texture and length.

I was taught to hate my natural hair because it's extremely thick and long. My mom hated doing my hair as a child and made it clear to me by hitting me on the head with the brush while doing my hair, always keeping it in the quickest most boring braids that she could do, or just pawning me off on my older sister or grandma because they could see my mom had no empathy while pulling brushes and combs through my hair with frustration. It hurt a lot. My older sister is mixed with white, while I'm a completely black woman without easy straight hair. My mom was annoyed I had regular black girl hair as she and my older sister don't have that. The first time I ever had a good experience getting my hair done, my mom permed it bone straight. My hair wasn't damaged and I got to wear it out for the first time. I loved it, and I didn't have to suffer under my mom's heavy narcissistic hand with thick, "nappy" according to her, hair. I've never worn my hair without a relaxer since age 6. I'll be 37 this year in July. My mom caused me to hate my natural hair, especially the texture.

Honestly the moment you remove yourself from these societal views the less you care. I really believe we are too busy trying to get other people to accept something we haven’t fully accepted. They do not have to accept our difference. When will we ( collectively) focus on our own…

The obsession with hair length is also due to the masculinization of most black women. Society makes us feel like we have to do so much and adhere to so many standards to be seen as feminine , they talk about the BBL girls but look at how they treat BW with average bodies, the fuller the features and the deeper the skin the more they try to associate us with men. So yes the obsession with length is very real and it’s very sad . I struggle with it too because I’m so tall and I feel all this unnecessary pressure to always be received as feminine. I have shaved my hair few times and enjoyed the freedom but also endured what I previously mentioned. I also learned that the right people as in people with common sense never mistakenly Ed me as a boy , especially black women, they saw me as the beauty that I was without all of my hair and I started to realize all that pressure was simply just engraved racism in society. I’ve since grown and am now looking to just grow a huge fro haha.

It’s so sad that the majority of beauty schools don’t teach black hair at allllll We’re not even tested on it. I was only taught how to apply a relaxer ☹️

What I find interesting about wigs and weave wearers, is that most say it's a protective style, yet the majority only have straight or traditionally white hair types wigs. Let's call a spade a spade. I said what I said.

We need to take away the power that we’ve given hair in our community.

My two cents is we black women as a collective need to stop policing each other’s hair. It’s become exhausting. Whatever ur thing is, however wearing ur crown makes u feel beautiful and most importantly content , is what matters

Lets be honest it come from with in our community then without. Older black women and especially black men&boys.

I’ve fallen in love with my natural hair. Mastering it can bring you so much confidence! It took some time to learn how to do it, I’ve been natural for 6 years and I still learn new things about my hair. When I get tired or don’t have time to deal with my hair, box braids are my best friend. And I’ve learned to do them myself! I can’t even imagine getting a sew in or relaxer anymore. Those days with that tragic, dusty, crusty, 2 inch long, broken up, heat damaged leave out are over!! Nothing but long beautiful textured locks in my future 😎

Making our hair more "palatable" has truly stripped us of the GIFT of developing a love affair with our natural hair...It makes me sad.

It’s a different type of confidence I feel wearing my real hair. I know my real hair sisters understand me. Even if you’re texturized or permed.. it’s a flex to feel sexy in your own hair.

Just looking through the comments here, and I’m kind of confused. I say this as a black woman with arm pit length 4B/4C hair. What is it that you guys are doing that takes hours? I wash style and detangle my hair every week and wear it in a wash and go, and it takes me 2 to 3 hours maximum, and I don’t touch it for the rest of the week. So what is everyone else doing? Could a huge part of disliking natural hair, be due to doing too much?

My 10 year old nephew told me yesterday I look better with my natural hair. That was so sweet being that we was just looking at my ig pics and no one was talking about hair

Im telling you as a afrohaired woman when I wear my afro I get hated on by black women. Other races absolutely admire and glorify my hair even asian women say I look like an angel with the flowers in my fro. I get stopped by ppl all the time about my hair. But black women will stick their hands in my hair without asking just to see how “nappy” it is or to make sure its not a wig. They don’t even compliment me on my hair first before they touch me! Its rude and disrespectful asf I don’t care what color they are they need to keep their hands to themselves bc their whole intention behind touching my hair is NEGATIVE and its all about selfhate. Its not mainly society its mainly black women who are afraid to rock afros. White men have followed me around the store just to glorify my hair. Black women need to heal and reprogram themselves. Its so bad when I do get compliments they will automatically start explaining why they wear a wig, or why they are bald for no reason. I never told them how to wear their hair Im always friendly while they roll their eyes. One time people where complimenting me and praising me for wearing my hair and my coworker said she had hair longer than mines until Covid. Then when she walked away everyone laughed bc they knew she was lying and hating. I can write a movie about the hate I receive from my own kind bc of my long 4a hair.

I think the root of hate is that we’ve been taught that it must be TAMED

"Black women spend thousands of dollars on natural hair products" Looks at my $4 hair grease and $12 leave in. Wait what?? Lol

I really did feel this video. I remember crying to my mom as a little girl. Asking her why I look the way I do. As a black girl I actually have more of a light sandy colored skin. So I was teased for being "too light" and for having "ugly" hair. But as my teenage years hit, I gained confidence and self love for who I truly am. I now appreciate the curls that I have and love my skin. I had to learn how to love my 4c hair. How to stop straightening it and actually just leaving it alone and letting it grow. I usually braid my natural hair and wear it just as that. Kinda like box braids without the weave I put it in buns, ponys and wear it down. I even once put it in twist and used my shrinkage for bangs. It was really cute. I'm now in high school, my last year. And seeing this video was a breath of fresh air. I really do wish 14 year old me could have seen this. This video really does mean a lot to me. 🥺💕

Confidence is ALL u need. I remember being called Peter at school when my hair was short. And? I love my Type 4 hair..grows slow but its ALL MINE 😍

I went to beauty school and they barely teach u anything at all about black hair let alone 4c kinky curly hair. So that’s something within the system.

I live in Africa. Almost everyone has kinky hair. Girls with relaxed hair,alot of people envy girls with kinky hair. But they don't want it cause of the stress

As hard as it’s to take care of my hair. I feel the most prettiest in my natural hair ,so I learned to love it , growing up in Africa helped a lot because many hair dresses know what to do with it.

Just off the title alone sis 👏🏾👏🏾. This is a conversation that needs to be had.

Black women are the only women who aren’t allowed to either manipulate their without it being called self hatred. Like I have white and Asian friends who literally bleach, dye straighten their curls, wear weave aka extensions to achieve the look they want. For us it’s just so much scrutiny and I feel like we’re appealing to the everyone else except ourselves

And you know i don’t feel pretty with it but i don’t mind it. Even though it hurts to take care of and takes forever.. I know i will never get what i want with my 4c hair and that is what i think it is. I’m so damn tired of seeing everyone with straight wigs all the time, forcing our hair to match, ITS NOT GOING TO MATCH, it’s not supposed to. People at work tell me edge controls i need to try. My shit isn’t supposed to be straight, it doesn’t slick down because it’s not supposes d to. I don’t think it will ever be the standard to rock my 4c hair, and let me reiterate again, i wish every one would wear theirs, but i know I’ll never be treated the way i want to be if i do.

I can speak from my experience that I honestly hated my 4C hair. It was a lot to do so I recently relaxed it and it’s so much more manageable for me . But recently I went to the DR , & saw the black women embrace their crown and I was like 🥺 dang now why did I do this to me ?! I got treated so well overseas compared to the men here in America . European beauty standards are real and can damage you. Do what’s best for you. I may just go back natural cause the way the black women looked at me like wtf is wrong with her hair sent me in a spiral 😂😂😂😂

As someone who’s been natural for 5 years now, I’m tired. I’ve tried everything, done multiple big chops, it never gets easier. My hair was even shoulder length at one point and it didn’t make me any happier because it’s so coarse. I hate my 4c hair and I wish my curls were a bit looser so I wouldn’t have to spend 6+ hours in the bathroom every night smh I’m tired of being told I HAVE to like my hair, it’s so much work! It’s especially frustrating when it comes from girls with type 3 curls; they’ll NEVER know what it’s like to deal with constant breakage.

our problem is when we think of long flowing hair as the standard of femininity and beauty which stems from whiteness. that’s what we grew up learning from movies,books, commercials. even though our hair can do all types of different things, we are way too obsessed with “length” when our hair is simply not made that way in its natural state. and that’s because of what we’ve been surrounded by. we don’t see and hear enough positive descriptions about our coils.

As a African living in Africa i really never knew that black women in the west were made to feel bad about there hair .. like here in West Africa it is deemed as wierd and not attractive when u hve loose curls as it is usually associated witn damaged hair

I like to experment so i try a lot with my hair but I'm always more comfortable in my natural hair.

Wonderful commentary👏🏽👍🏽 Thanks for the words of encouragement to embrace our hair and each other✊🏽

Thanks for the beautiful video and reminding us how beautiful our hair is and spreading more light on it 💝

I love this. Informative, well spoken, amd the flow was everything! Thank you for encouraging all of us to embrace all textures of our hair.

Yes, girl!! Preach somebody had to say this, and you've done so with such empathy while educating us. I am glad I came across your channel 💕

I’m going to say something controversial… Not all black women have to like shrinkage, hair that will not grow no matter what you do, having a difficult time combing your hair, breaking combs, or having a painful time combing it and trying to style it… We as black women have different hair textures and experiences and not all bw go through what I listed but some do …..I don’t think you have to like something that’s difficult for you if you’re having a hard time with it… My hair is a mixture of type 3 and 4a and I hate combing my hair with a passion because it’s literally painful because I’m tender headed and I’ve had difficulty growing parts of it no matter what I did and I don’t like it and guess what I still don’t and I OK with saying that there’s nothing wrong with that …I don’t have to like it Or things such as shrinkage… I refuse to have to make black women feel they must like parts of their hair that they actually don’t like for their own personal reasons if they are in fact struggling with it I don’t hate my texture is very nice in my opinion (most Black people tell me I have good hair and I know that that sounds ignorant to many but y’all know what that is… But that doesn’t mean I don’t have difficulties) but there have been some difficulty still at times and I don’t like it and that’s OK

Thank God a black female as u talks openly about this topic, 2 all my black women,... know that ur all beauties with ur own natural hair, many thanks 4 uploading this video Respect 2 u Mrs Toni

WE . OURSELVES . BLACK WOMEN . we need to stop being so hard on ourselves and one another no matter WHAT we do with our hair . just embrace each other’s beauty . Hair is an accessory - people change it very often .

As a child, I never hated my hair. I was conditioned to hate my hair..from my own family. My light skin family with so called good hair 😑I love my hair again

I am white and I have always loved black women’s hair. The braids, styles always draw me in. You can do so much and it’s beautiful! White hair is basic 😂 Plus your skin is so beautiful!

this video is so true i'm even realizing some habits i've took apart in sadly, this helped me be aware of them though i'm definitely going to rock my natural way more, i really do love my hair and she deserves more love

You Go Natural head wraps are phenomenal!! I love the Open Turbans!! Very classy look in seconds!! I hadn’t seen my natural hair in over 40 years and just did my. IG Chop this past July. I am indebted to all the young ladies on RU-vid who have provided me with excellent information, techniques and product recommendations. I wear my hair “out” every day….mostly a big curly Afro. I love being ‘me’. May we (women with textured strands) treasure our tresses.

This is a beautifully orchestrated video & you spoke nothing but facts !!💯

This was very informative. I didn’t realize what you all go through 😩 for what it’s worth, I always thought my black friends were so much prettier when I was little. I loved their hair.

That's why I have always disliked the term "good hair" black folk need to get away from that term. As far as I'm concerned all hair is good!!! I'm just sayin...

I love this video! Great content! It nearly had me in tear because I struggled to love my hair. I kept my natural hair hidden for years because I didn’t know what to do with it. I wouldn’t even wash it. I would go to one beautician to wash it an another one to install my wig/weave. Until one day I was at training and didn’t have time to get my hair done before leaving and I took my weave out and realized how much hair I had. Of course when I returned home. I went back to my normal routine but now I am really trying to embrace my hair. A few weeks ago it felt liberating just to wear my own hair. I didn’t have to worry about my wig sliding, or my braids being too tight or the stress on my edges. It felt good just to rub my fingers through my hair but enough of me. Thank you for this video and I pray that it will be inspirational to other.

This video is really important and informative. The last point really got me because sometimes I search up styles to do for my 4c hair and I mostly see extensions or mixed people with 3b or 3c hair or without the same hair texture as me as the result. Like that's not what I searched for I clearly searched for styles for 4c hair.

I don't hate my hair..I'm 30 and just came into the confidence of embracing my natural hair. I have pretty hair and I'm not afraid to show it off anymore

I resonate with what you were saying at 5:22 so much. When I went natural in 2018, I didn’t want to go to school because I was anxious about my peers seeing me with short hair when I know I decided to transition from relaxed hair for myself. And now my Mum and I have noticed how typical everyday brands such as garnier and others are finally seeing the value of making products for black hair. Honestly the whole thing is crazy

I needed this video! I have such a love/hate relationship with my hair. Growing up I had relaxers and it was a lot easier to deal with. I also wore a lot of braids. I wasn't taught how to properly care for/maintain my hair (I was adopted by a white family.) I went natural 11 years ago and started wearing wigs and braids. I never took good care of my hair underneath. I recently chopped my hair and really started to care for it. It's grown so much. It's never been this healthy, but unfortunately I lost some of my edges due to tight braids and it's thinning. I still love my wigs and braids but I've been embracing my natural hair more. Plus my edges are growing back!

Your makeup and skin are so beautiful and smooth 😩❤👏🏾👏🏾

You taught me a lot thank you I used the term “nappy” for my hair not knowing the weight of that word I loved your video!

This is a great video! Honestly the convo is needed

I'm a white Slavic girl (from Europe) and I absolutely love different ethnic features of people from all over the world. It hurts to see such beautiful black hair hidden and replaced with plastic (or real hair) straight weaves... so much work, not letting the skin on the head breathe 😢 and it often doesn't even doesn't look good! it's sad that people have been convinced natural hair isn't beautiful, that it's not tidy or even clean... it makes me angry, I hope people stop believing this old fake colonialist consumerist society bullshit 🤘

I told my hair stylist that I will be transitioning from relaxed to natural hair, she said if I was crazy because my hair is 16 inches long, and it won't be pretty anymore 🤷🏾‍♀️

Great commentary. I am one of those black women who loves her "naps". I switch it up from time to time and may throw on a wig. Recently I wore a short wig to work for a few days because it was time for a haircut and I couldn't get my hair to do what I wanted it to do. The Wyt people kept telling me how "stunning" I was when I wore the wig. I was actually offended. I couldn't wait to wear my natural hair again.

the thumbnail was enough for me to say that you’re speaking fax, this needs to be talked abt mpre

Thanks for making this video. I am almost 30 and this message still hit me with love and validation. I've been recognizing my own hang ups and shame around my hair. I usually am so into myself but there are still things I am working on. I have a niece who looks like me, and one who is mixed and I feel like i am an example for them. I want to be the confident, beautiful Auntie they love once I remember they lookup to me. The pressure is indeed getting worse. Anyway thanks for making this!

We have been conditioned to want what we don’t naturally have and so it makes us seem ungrateful for what we DO have. Our hair is our BRAND AND BIRTHRIGHT. The colonizers wanted what they couldn’t grow therefore developing jealousy and the need to have us cover it up. No wonder why our hair is called our “GLORY”.. Love on it because it is a plant 🌱 that needs continued maintenance & watering. Our hair grows towards the sun ☀️ BECAUSE IT IS ALIVE… Remember that. ASE & LOVE TO OUR ANCESTORS

Thnx for discussing a topic that was really really important. I know lots of bw hate black hair texture, and I understand. That’s why I do my hair myself mostly if you don’t like my hair you shouldn’t be allowed to touch it. I’m not here to encourage anyone to love anything, I just wanna remind us that the power is still in our hands.

This was brilliant ❤ the presentation, the articulation, editing, everything was just *chefs kiss*

Love the way you unpacked this❤️

I can tell you're in news journalism by the cadence in which you delivered your topic. You'll do great in your future career! You already have it down packed...a total professional 💯 Great video!

Beautiful video. It's prompted me to think a bit more about my choices when styling my hair. I've had every style, but the main thing is learning how to moisturise and take care of my hair. Not all hair can use the same products and I've never really gotten into trends. My hair is low porosity, my scalp gets dry, while my hair stays moisturised. My mum relaxed my hair as a teenager, before I knew how to take care of it and so it broke off. At near 40, I am learning what my hair needs, what it likes and doesn't like. My hair is completely natural and I'm currently wearing wigs. I like to keep it simple with regular treatments and trimming my ends and sticking to products my hair likes. I drink lots of water and eat well and have a healthy lifestyle. I believe you have to feed yourself from the inside out; skin, hair and nails tells us a lot about the state of our health. I love my hair. I love how fluffy it is when I blow dry my hair and I love the ease of brushing and combing and the intricate styles I can do. I've learnt so much from watching RU-vid videos. I really had to research products for my hair. It's a life learning journey for black women, as we have so many options. We are Queens and can do what the Fuck we want!

Salute Sis! Well researched and analyzed commentary about our history with our Black hair❤❤❤

I love this video so informative. I almost shed tears. This is so real and relevant to me as well as the society we live in. The stigma put upon 4c hair is extremely discouraging and scary for me at least. I’ve alway had a struggle on wash day. Looking to RU-vid for tons of what I think could be a solution. Granted I learned something, but my results are not as good as I see in videos I see. I needed this video as I’m still learning my hair and I appreciate you for sharing this.

Fantastic video, so articulate and educated❤️

I'm a Russian woman, and this issue is so interesting and puzzling to me! Thank you so much for the video. As a person from a country where there is almost no black population, only a few years ago I discovered that all this hair that Beyonce and other celebrities have is not their own!! I couldn't even imagine what black women go through with their hair, all the strengthening, wigs etc. To me, as well as to majority of white foreigners (not americans), natural hair on black women is just AS BEAUTIFUL as straight hair, I didn't even know about such deep issues with descrimination etc.

Thank you for making this video. It's good to see we are talking about this issue more. Two things I want to point out is that the hair typing chart was created for a specific hair care line created by Andre Walker. It is not taught in cosmetology schools and it is very subjective. The other point is that our hair is not inherently weaker...we have passed down generations of bad hair care practices that has damaged our hair. I'm not a cosmetologist but I am an Esthetican and I follow Hair Scientist Cyndoll. She explains things in more depth than I could. Much love to you!

This really opened my eyes. Your videos are so good 😘❤️

I'm Nigerian living in Nigeria and you won't believe how bad people make me feel about my hair. All my life I've not had the confidence to wear an afro. Anytime I wear my hair in a puff people are always like "so when will you braid your hair?" or " when will you relax your hair?" Or they'll ask me to cover my hair ( I live in a Muslim dominated area) It's really a struggle.

I don’t hate my hair, I just need products that make my hair easy to maintain. I don’t want to be a slave to my hair in terms of maintaining hair straightening and afraid to sweat it out due to exercising. Tired of perms.

Great video I see this dislike for natural hair in alot of my friends I personally had that dislike until the movement and I saw all the things I could do with this hair. So now I'm all in

I love your channel 💕 your talking points are things that people don’t like to talk about

That was a great video Toni; it was very informative🥰

Great video 👍🏽I'm very passionate about natural hair, and have been natural for years now and have never looked back 😀

Best video I’ve seen on this topic. Kudos to you for this awesome content

Thanks for putting this info out sister. Black peoples' hair is totally different yet unique. I enjoy learning more about stuff like this, especially about our women. ❤

Well spoken and well said!

Not all black women hate their hair..I absolutely LOVE my hair!! I think our hair is very misunderstood and society associates long flowing hair as beautiful and coily kinkier hair as "Nappy"...I went Natural about a year and a half ago and tbh I didn't know anything about my hair,and I really studied my hair and relied on youtubers to teach me how to take care of my hair..this was all a process and I am absolutely in Love with my hair. Tbh it's steps for me because I'm now crossing the path of feeling comfortable to style my hair and wear my natural hair and not wigs.So last night , I actually did my hair put makeup on and posted pictures on FB of me and my natural hair...I was so scares because this was like a revealing for me to my friends who have Never seen me natural..and tbh they embraced and told me how beautiful I am..I am happy and this for me is TRULY a journey❤💯...I Hate when Black women say they hate their hair because your HAIR is apart of you and God given and being in that mindset is self hate...learn your Hair and embrace it..it's so beautiful..and I'm very happy and thankful for my beautiful hair❤💘💝

Beautiful intelligent commentary thanks for sharing this message with us. You are beautiful, your hair is giving girl!

Wow!!! Absolutely LOVE this conversation because it’s NEEDED💯 I didn’t like my hair because I was taught to hate it by my mother. At the age of 42, two years ago is when I truly started to love my hair….sad but true. And about a year and a half ago, is when I was able to learn and apply so much of the information I got for YT videos and adopted what works for ME. Now, wash days only take me 1:15 and when I do a protein treatment, just 35 more minutes, instead of the whole day. I also learned that my 4c hair is NOT hard to care for, rather I didn’t know how to care for it. Fortunately, I’m not one who obsesses over the length of my hair but rather the health of it. Now that I know and understand my porosity rather than curl pattern, my hair is thriving like never before! So, bottom line is, I WILL NOT LET NOBODY TALK DOWN ON MY HAIR ANYMORE….they will hear my because I AM TIRED OF THE IGNORANCE😤 Furthermore, ppl just need to mind the business that pays them and worry about their own hair bec we’re all different, what works for me may not work for everyone……AND THATS OK!!

Ewww chile!!! You did that, with this!!! I’m sharing to my IG! Beautifully put together! I love You Go Natural!!! This was the push to go ahead and change my profile picture here on YT…gotta find one! But yeah…💪🏾🙏🏾😘🖤✨

I used to hate my hair as a child. It seemed unmanageable, now with all the products I absolutely love it ! I dress it up and at 63, it’s going grey but it’s my best feature. It’s part of who I am . I’m from UK.

Been saying this. Great video.

This is very well executed. I looked up why women don't like wearing their natural hair and to get a perspective from someone other than my girlfriend and this came up. Thanks for going into detail!

I love my hair and loving my hair took years of damage from society, friends, family, ex- boyfriends, jobs and social media and I'm still learning to love my hair an my body an me on the whole the journey to natural beauty takes time. Currently rocking my Rasta locs an I'm just in love more an more as time goes by despite the few people still hating but they don't matter what matters is my happiness an my journey. ❤️🏵️😊😊 Our hair is gold embrace the *Nappy*

a highly informative video....Thanks Toni.

Malcolm X SAID WHO TAUGHT To HATE YOURSELF

OUTSTANDING video!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Thank you for this video. I am blessed to have 4c hair. I've been natural for 12 years. It was mostly a spiritual and mental journey... I can say today I genuinely believe it is EASY to take care of and grow my hair. This is because I stopped trying to change it. Trying to fit into 3c standards is better than trying to fit it into Type 2 I suppose, but many of us still ultimately have not accepted and do not love our kinky, zig-zaggy hair the way it is. AKA not being obsessed with wash n gos or only presenting it with an altered texture (like a twistout or braidout).

Great job 👏🏾 I enjoyed this video alot

I guess I was lucky in that I never felt bad for having the hair that I do. I have type 4A hair (for some context) but I used to think I had 4C because of how dense my hair was (and still is)... and I didn't know leave in conditioner was a thing until like 2016😅 The only negative memories I have for my hair was my mum yanking my hair in efforts of detangling it, giving me headaches and of course the pain from my butt sitting down on the floor for hours. Although it was very painful, I appreciate my mum doing what she could to take care of my hair. And always telling me that I looked 'cute' with it and that its 'long' looking back it wasn't long at all, but I was the only in the family with a lot of hair being the only girl at the time. My mum really made me wear it with pride😂. During the mid 2000's when I was a kid I wanted to perm my hair since another girl had her hair permed and I thought it looked nice. My mum would always deny my request saying that I'll ruin my hair. I knew where she was coming from as she herself permed her hair continuously when she was a teenager and till this day her hair is really damaged from it. I'm thankful that she didn't let me do it, instead she was always very open to trying out hairstyles she never done before (like crochet) on my head. She'd watch youtube videos and everything! I know that my mum is glad that my hair is as long and healthy as it is today; she tells me that my hair right now is her goal. She really taught me and my sister that we can do a lot with out hair without damaging it and I think the fact that she was very open with trying out these new hairstyles helped my sister and I love our hair for what it is! Of course it also does help when your hair is 'long' by 'black hair standards' (I got a lot of comments from other black girls in my school who wished their hair was as long as mine -- again my hair was like neck length it weren't that long back then) but I honestly think it was because my hair's health was always out first compared to the actual 'look' of it. *The TLDR is: I'm thankful that my mum wanted me to learn what she did much later in life -- that black hair is beautiful, and deserves to be taken care of! Even if you gotta endure a little pain to find out what really works for you! Learning to love your hair also can mean experimenting with it, but always out of appreciation and curiosity of what your hair can do, not what you can conceal about it!*

@Toni Bryanne TV I thoroughly enjoyed this video. It was very balanced, accurate, truthful, and light hearted. New subbie 🥰🕊💅🏿

i LOVE my natural hair. I remember having shoulder length relaxed hair and its all i identified by when i cut it all off it was the most freeing thing I had ever did I wish I could go back to that night just to feel the freedom one more time!