@@AmaraEmme no, GG was a insensitive person so would have damaged the reputation of dorotea as the "good maid" who becomes part of the family, gg revealed so many painful secrets and it hurts me cause dan was the perfect character to me untill that new of him being GG
Season 5 was about That The only reason why Gossip girl stop for a little bit Was because of the accident that cause her to lose her baby and chuck almost dying
Ms Backwards Omg right?? I actually thought it was a dream sequence or something when it was mentioned the first time like, Chuck and Louis were talking about it so... simply, almost "mystically" if that makes sense I don't know, but whatever it was it wasn't how I expected it to be showcased.
i think her whole bulimic situation really goes unnoticed by the briefness of these kind of moments, and also, the way it's all so tacit. i mean it shows on how in only 3 minutes u did the entire compilation of the subject
From someone who had a severe bulimia disorder, the fact that it is a taboo subject is not helping, it just forces us to isolate. I love it when they show the real ed problem on the screen (and not just anorexia). It makes me feel like I’m not crazy or disgusting and that there’s help. I really think that this storyline on a big tv show would have start an open conversation about Ed 🙌
I don't get why her mother would feel it's okay to comment about her eating saying she should eat the fat-free yogurt and praising her when she tells her she has lost 2 pounds, WHEN SHE HAS AN EATING DISORDER.
Does eating healthy helps to stop being bulimic? Idk how it works but would eating healthy and not eating till you’re stuffed, helps with wanting to throw up🤔
@@OuiMimi I haven't had bulimia myself, but from what I've read on the subject overeating is not something easily controled (especialy when facing a difficult situations orfor people who undereat on daily basis, therefore their body/brain makes them make up for the restriction by eating a lot at once). When it comes to eating "healthy" it is not that simple for people with eating disorders- they often see it as eating very little or restricting whole groups of food. You can take something as simple as a banana, for most people it is healthy, it has vitamins, it is high potassium and fiber- on the other hand some people with eating disorders might see them as a fear food because of the calories (as bananas are little bit higher in sugar than most fruits). Hyperfixation on "eating heathy" is common amongst people with eating disorders, but it usually leads to starving/ overexercising/ overeating for comfort/ forcing themselves to thow up/ any combination of the above and more. Though eating heathy might help in some cases with some behaviours, we have to keep in mind that eating disorders are a mental illness, therefore it is more important to focus on the healthy mindset rather than on the food itself in order to achive full recovery. (Please, pardon my mistakes, I am not a native speaker.)
@@OuiMimi haha it definitely doesn’t help stopping it. You see the thing is, you can’t stop eating, which is such an awful part of it. In most cases It doesn’t really matter what you eat, because it’s the pain of being full, but still keep eating until you’re feeling sick to your stomach, that the illness is going after. So it’s very hard to stop eating when you are bulimic. And you throw up because you feel guilty for eating so much and you’re afraid of weight gain. However eating healthy can make you feel better about yourself.
@glossyy chanell yeah but this means that she opened up to dan about her bulimia and dan was the only person on this show who bothered to care for her mental health. This is the Exhibit A of why blair should've ended up with dan.
i acc dont remember her telling dan about it at ALL or him helping her through it.. can u guys remind me? also dorota clearly cared the most about it imo
THIS was the main reason i always thought Dorota was gossip girl. Blair's eating disorder was the one story that never came out. Dorota cares about Blair, always made sure she was eating. I thought it was telling that gossip girl could publish anything, but never the darkness that Blair was hiding even from herself. I'm still mad about the sloppy reveal ugh
Then, why would she post the story about Blair losing her virginity to Chuck and sleeping with Nate only a two, three days later on the same week ? It wouldn't make sense that it's her since she cares for Blair.
@@letitbe1977 I think the theory was that a Dorota gossip girl would only expose Blair when she did something wrong and needed to learn her lesson, (however there's plot holes even with that reasoning)
It still doesn't make sense. Dorota loves Blair and is very loyal to her. Why would she publish bad stories about here and air her dirty laundry? Even if it is to "teach her a lesson" that's a bit messed up.
Her mother was probably mainly the reason of her eating disorder! In the show they said she has an eating disorder not bulimia. I think since her mom is a designer and with Serena being the „gorgeous blonde“ Blair had so much pressure going on and her Mother pressured her a lot to he skinny as well. Her being always invited to events and fashion shows she constantly needs to look good. I felt so sorry for Blair but her eating disorder was mentioned very volatile.
Her mother was definitely the one that started it. In the first episode one of the very first things she says to Blair is "you'll never be as pretty and thin as you are now so enjoy it" who tf says that to their daughter?
in the book blair is bulimic. that’s a major part of her plot line. i don’t even think she gets better at all in the book series, they just stop talking abt it as much.
I watched this show like 4 times before I ever noticed these parts. All I knew was that the thanksgiving scene where she eats the pie and has all those flashbacks gave me the worst feeling of dread, it made me super uncomfortable as someone who has suffered with the same issue
I used to go through that, sometimes I still do but I thought bulimia was when you threw it up, which I didn’t I just feel guilty. I’m not sure if it’s still the same or not
I hate the fact that they just completely abandoned this storyline without any warning. It was all Serena, Serena, Serena. While I like Serena, I didn't only want to see her problems, I would've loved to see Blair's recovery and getting better with ED and I think it would've been one of the star plot points in her life that would make her more human. Even though we didn't get this to play out, Blair is and will always be my most favorite character
@@animeluverprincess actually it did. I remember reading how one of the writer's decided Blair's storyline wasn't good or interesting enough and they didn't want it to take away from Serena' s storylines at the time. They wanted to keep Blair mean and Serena nice and they didn't want people to empathize with Blair that much and they thought that her ed would be done that.
@@gabbygarcia5811 I see. Thats very interesting since throughout the series they found various ways to make people sympathize with Blair anyway. I wonder if that was intentional or not haha
It's not so much Serena's appearance it's the way she conducts herself. Her carefree, bubbly,flirtatious and sometimes reckless nature. It invites men in.
a lot of people are talking about how they wished there was more of this storyline but I always loved they showed it. It's so rare for the "eating disorder girl" in a tv show to have more than just that one personality trait- never mind a character like Blair (I usually see characters with eating disorders being shy pushover background characters not vengeful queen bees) in a way only seeing a few hints towards her disorder made it feel more normal to me
I mean I get what you mean, but I believe they should’ve at least brought a little bit more of attention. Exactly because of Blair’s personality (like you said), seeing her deal with it and recover would’ve helped a lot of girls that have it (I know it would help me). Definitely would’ve been better than seeing x100 plot lines about Serena’s boyfriends 👀😂 (sorry for the rlly late reply btw, just saw the video)
I agree, it was done in a way that didn’t shove it down our throats which is actually very realistic. Eating disorders aren’t as blatantly obvious and dramatised in real life as they tend to be portrayed in movies and shows. Only other show that I think portrays it with subtlety is Ginny and Georgia.
I had the same problem for years and it destroyed my health. But our problem is not the food itself it is our mentality, how we perceive ourselves. It is what we have to work on. I finally learned how to love myself and naturally I became to let it go of this obssession about food. I can't think of doing this kind of yoyo anymore. Just thinking about it makes me sad about how badly I treated myself and how horrible it was. Once you have this declic and try to be less stressed about everything (appearance, grades etc) and just see the world as something beautiful that gives you so much opportunities, you will be able to just eat with a lot of joy a good hamburger or a big meal.
I had the same problem! Having problems with your weight and food is just the worst…i have lost so much weight so many times and gained so much back so many times…i am now pretty chubby and i hate it so much it makes me so insecure but at the same time i just want to lose weight healthy and normally. I don’t want to worry or stress about food all the time it‘s so sickening and stressful especially since everyone eats normal and you will always be the outcast! You will damage your body so much with it as well…
@@katherinesu7217 sending you lots of love and light bestie❤️ we can both do it i am sure! Don’t stress or make yourself go crazy! It takes time and it‘s a process but we can do it with work and patience🤍
@@realSimoneCherie yeah just said she wished I was dead bc I ate some chocolate she doesn’t put me in the list for groceries or add me a plate at the dinner table it has nothing with her wanting me thin or her having an eating disorder tho it’s just she doesn’t love me xD but it did give me an eating disorder in a country where I can’t even get help
@@juliabenavider3171 your mom must not love herself very much if she doesn’t know how to love you (psycho101 I know). But regardless of that, the way she’s controlling you is NOT ok and is NOT your fault. You deserve love and your body deserve love as well. I understand the need for approval, and restricting yourself to have it, but it’s not worth it. Discover your self worth by doing the things you love, talk to a friend when you feel anxious, embrace your emotions as they come, and tell your mum when she’s unreasonable! 🙌 - From a fellow girl who had an Ed
I really hate how hearing "I'm not hungry" once makes family and friends so fucking defensive and angry, like calm down, Mary-Lou, the sausage rolls weren't that great
This storyline should have been explored more. It made Blair's character more human and fleshed out, and her having bulimia makes perfect sense. Being a daughter to a high acheiving mother who compares her to others and puts a lot of pressure on her is bound to have negative effects on your mental health
They didn’t explore this storyline further bc it was “too risky“ for cw. The network simply didn’t allow it so they have the age rating that allows them to run the show in the prime slot!
too risky for a show that had drug addiction and almost explicit underage sex (including with adults)... I think they just didn't pushed because it would give Blair a type of dramatic storyline that might have ruined her "mean girl attitude", which is why her bad attitude in the first season is so coherent but becomes tired with season 2. There's just not an explanation anymore to why Blair likes to have power over people and manipulate so much. She just became a walking stereotype with the purpose of creating tag lines and making the audience "omg, she's so iconic, love her"
I’m 10 episodes in not a fan of Blair or Serena but after seeing how Serena slept with Nate behind Blair’s back and seeing how she isn’t coping with her dad not around and the lack of love she gets from her mother then the Bulimic flashbacks I find myself feeling so sad for Blair’s character to it’s heartbreaking
It was because the show got new writers after season 1 and the new writers weren't as good as the first ones. They worked towards glamorizing their lifestyle not showing the darker side of their lifestyle.
The way that these moments are just thrown in gossip girl without her mom doing more to help; shows how mental and physical health was and still is widely ignored.
trying to remember how I took this back then... it's like we all knew that mom's like Blair's existed and were awful...but it was so common.... we didn't rage about it.... weird culture shift
it never made sense to me how her mother would control her eating like when she said “eat the low fat yogurt” but then when blair’s bulimia came back she was like “finish your breakfast”
honestly her mom was so inconsistent on this subject like she was saying that she should finish her breakfast and asking ab her throwing up, inquiring, one minute and the next shaming her for eating fatty food and praising the loss of weight. how?? and why??
@@ducky5415 i mean i would think that the whole telling her not to eat certain foods and saying she looked better as she lost weight would be expected but her switching up doesn’t really make sense to me
Tbh im glad they didn’t focus so much on her ed. many girls want to be like blair and I feel like it would have happened like with cassie, surely many girls will think that to be like them they need an ed. many times the stories of ed become the personality of the character
Now I understand why Blair ate that whole pie. Her mother didn't invite her dad to the dinner when Blair really wanted to spend time with her dad. So out of spite and payback against her overbearing mother, she decided to eat the pie instead of letting her mother and the dinner guests enjoy themselves.
I hope you will recover soon!! I know its hard sometimes, but it will get better. Just know that there are people who love you! I wish you all the best
I really like the way they depicted it. I mean it should have had more screen time and her mother especially didn’t help her with it but it seemed pretty accurate to me, as someone who has also suffered with this.
It was such a flimsy attempt for a storyline. I guess they thought bullimia is not glamorous so they cut it out. No wonder Blaire was always moody. Only Jenny was able to stand up to Blaire's mom. Some moms are very toxic.
um.. no they stopped the storyline because viewers weren't liking it at the time people got upset, so they took it out not because it wasn't "glamorous" who thinks like that.
They did that scene with the pie so well. I'm recovered now but it brought up alot of memories. I also like how they hid it in the background. Eating disorders are private, you'd be surprised how many people you know have it in secret
She’s rich though, if her only problem would’ve been a eating disorder and a business mother for it to be difficult then everyone else life must be in the fcking Mariana Trench.
Blaire’s eating disorder was brought on by the people who she loves most. Her parents impending divorce, Serena’s antics, Nate’s crush on Serena, and being a teenager in general…. It’s all they fault tbh
Fell in love with her Charakter when she ate that whole cake and being this "thing" looming in disguise made it more real and something only to be understood by "insiders", private knowledge you shared with Blair.
I've always related to Blair. The pressure to be perfect and doing anything to have that. Binging food then not eating for the rest of the day or puking it up all just to lose a few pounds. But in the end, it wasn't worth it. It made me feel worse. So to anyone reading, don't do it.
My auntie talked a lot about my body. She talked how I am skinny and about my body. I told my mom your sister makes me insecure and care too much about how I looked. But my mom said that I am overreacting and she is just joking. I am just trying to forget but whenever I met aunt, my wounds come to mind and I started to think how I look. Just keep saying to myself 'don't go back to past and don't repeat the past mistake because it is like torture that you do to yourself.' I am trying to forgive her but scars are too deep.
I never will understand why they didn't develope this story, it was interesting and worth talking about it. Instead they just moved on with other stuff.
I didnt know i had an eating disorder when i was watching gossip girl for the first time..but now i do and now i understand so many things. Now i understand Blair.
They def should have done more with this storyline. Such a shame. People are dying every day of eating disorders and they had the perfect soundboard to really shed light on this topic
they should have explored blairs relationship with her mother more, it was so so complicated from being concerned abt her ed but also kind of encouraging it early on
Im never having kids. Life is too shitty and parents makes 9 out of 10 kids with mental health issues feel SO much worse. Like why do people even have kids? Either they got drunk at a party or was just selfish with they're own life not considering/caring about the pain they're child will have to endure without them or worse with them. If you don't have kids don't have them they're a lot better off without this life. Even if you had a good childhood and/or adulthood don't mean they will. And im tired of seeing kids kill themselves.
this is so true... people should be ready to be parents before having kids... they like to call them a "product of love" or something like nuh sis having children is a LOT of work! 😭 if people cared more about how kids turn out they wouldnt have them...
These side effects actually don’t happen to everyone. I’ve struggled with bulimia for 14 years (but i’m fine now 🙌) and I never noticed any changes in my face, teeth or fingers. It was actually one of the reason no one noticed it for so long … still destroyed me inside though
This is what drew me into the show. That’s so sad I know, but I thought that Leighton Meester’s portrayal of someone with an eating disorder was amazing. I don’t know why the writers didn’t do more with those storylines. They simply dabbled with it and then went “Oh look, shoes!!” Which is sad at the possibilities they could have ventured into
i remember watching gossip girl for the first time and this storyline was unnoticed by some of the viewers but not me, i knew blair have ed. poor blair but also poor me, too young to know these things
wow i remember watching GG all the time in my childhood but i guess didnt fully understand back then. the books were definitely more specific about her ed...
I think they don't work on that part of character development of Blair bc that would promote that kind of disorders in the audience at that time. Anyway I always admire the strength of B when she overcome the eating disorder
Yeah they censured the shit out of this storyline but they were totally fine explicitly showing teens having sex in almost every episode sometimes 2 or 3 times per week, I fucking hate the hypocrisy of tv networks.
Im reading these comments right now and I see people asking how can any parent be as thoughtless as Blaire's. Well, at least her mom believes she has a binge eating disorder...
