Bobby's gotta let go entirely. Living together, _sleeping_ together and not really dating is even more toxic than being in an actual relationship. He's torturing himself.
He doesn’t care pretty sure he’s getting some action too he just doesn’t wanna pretend he likes things for someone else but he’s just going to sport fuck till he find w.e girl stands out to following the standards he has
@@judbaker5752 ima addicted to pssy and being 5ft5 keeps me away from my addiction 💯🙏 edit: idk why this comment got so many likes but yeah being short is not a good thing if you want to get into the dating market
The dude literally said he was addicted to porn and not touching his partner, an addict, just played video games, and doesn’t care to support their endeavors lol I’m glad he realizes he’s not fit for a relationship. He’s pretty selfish, which is okay he just shouldn’t be with someone, so good for him.
@@nahhhbruhhh yeah youre still projecting your own insecurities, even if he has admitted to those things. Khayla is a obvious cheater of the worst sort (the one that doesnt care if you know about it and flirts with other people in front of her partner) and i dont get this whole monologue pittying her.
Breaking up and still living with her is perhaps ones of the most painful emotional things I’ve ever done to myself. When you break up, break up. Don’t hang around, holding on. 1 shot to the head is better than 5 to chest and bleeding out. But maybe that’s just me.
khlayla is a manipulator narcissist look up her being exposed. she cucked a ex boyfriend because she wanted to manipulate she knew it was slimy and wrong. she did the same thing to bobby. she brought another man in the relationship on bobbys money he flew her to hawaii because he wanted to do anything to keep her while he was in rehab in a dark place. bobby never wanted an open relationship if you watch the clues she was grooming bobby to be in an open relationship like her ex. once you see how slimy she is it all makes sense. it makes me think that brendan schwab was right now
I met Bobby Lee when he wasn't famous at The Comedy Store in LA and he was so cool and nice to me. I told him I knew 100% he was going to make it. I ran into him 15 years later and he remembered me! He was still just as nice and we had a great talk. Great guy and I have so much respect for how honest he is. Zero bullshit. He doesn't lie. You're the best Bobby and thank you for adding so much laughter to my life.
Bobby lies all the time, what are you talking about? He admits on every podcast that he lies constantly. He takes other people's stories and pretends it happened to him, he always embellishes or heavily exaggerates for comedic effect. He's always bullshitting and he would have no problem admitting that. He tells the truth too, but that's usually off camera.
GOD I loved how honest Bobby seems to be (SEEMS to be) about his life. The fact that he so often will admit his own failures, and deeply displeasing parts of his life makes me more likely to believe him when he speaks about a good aspect of his life.
They’re truly genuine and honest people I love them too. Unfortunately they are heavily targeted by narcissistic psychopaths, which surprise surprise was his gf.
One thing I have to say. Bobby expressed that “girls” want/need the cuddles and attention and then later spoke about his inability to go and do things for the sake of the other person bc he simply just doesn’t want to. That is not a women thing. In any relationship wether it’s familial or romantic of friendly requires each person to do things for the others happiness even if it’s not something you want to do. If you don’t do that, it’ll begin to feel transactional rather than loving. If Bobby continues to refuse to do things for the other persons sake and only does things when HE wants to, he will never find a person. It’s hard to swallow but true.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes. You don't want to spend time with your SO. You want to do your own thing don't be surprised if they hear you & leave you to be by yourself.
Him saying he doesn’t have the energy to put time/effort into a relationship is exactly where I am at. It’s no fault to the woman I’m seeing or talking too; I just personally don’t have any drive to create something new in my life. I’ve been open and honest to every woman I meet, and I find like Bobby said, not something woman are attracted too. But that’s okay; because I want to be alone. Maybe one day I’ll be ready for the time and dedication it takes to create something new. But for right now I’m just doing me Thank you Bobby for being so honest !!
And thats all fine and well, but if that's the case, rather than a relationship, maybe just look for a "friends with benefits" kind of situation? That way you get the sex/hanging out when you feel like it, but no commitment.
@@45johngalt Oh I dont disagree with you, but generally its the girl that catches feelings, and bobby made a point of being lazy in his relationships. So regardless who he goes with, more than likely its the girl that would suffer, So having friends with benefits would work for him, because he gets the sex but doesnt really give extra, and if they catch feelings somehow thats on them.
@@BattleBladeWarriorhe's addicted to p--- and has no need to have sex. He's the one who only had sex a few times in a few years with his partner, not the other way around. So a friend's with benefits would be useless too. He's better off alone as much as I love Bobby he's selfish af and not any good for a relationship in his current state and he's always been like that. Same happened to all his ex's just total neglect 16 hrs video games no emotional support no intimacy sex hugging kissing etc and he has no interest in other women except himself. He's better off just having friends Like Bad Friends 😏
@@Shannon-vv6rr Oh wow, now I think I get it. Damn, that is pretty bad on his part then. I enjoy porn and long gaming sessions as much as the next person, but even then, I still always make time for my fiance. If Bobbys not even interested in sex wit ha partner, let alone any sort of intimacy or whatever, than yea, he's definitely better off by himself.
You don’t fix depression overnight. Can you not hear him say he sees a psychologist and psychiatrist regularly. Why subject someone else and yourself to your depressed self.
@@Coastpsych_fi99 You misunderstand, my comment is about how his oversharing is unhelpful to him during this time. He needs close friends and that psychologist not a bunch of podcast listeners analyzing everything he says. I know it’s his job but some privacy and aside from the safe people in his life will help his healing.
@@ab-gail He's probably horrifically depressed but I don't think anything about sharing personal details is inherently bad for him. I've not followed him for years and only checked up on the news now but this is how I've known him since. I don't think he wants help right now other than the therapy sessions he's already getting.
Bobby is identical to so many of the 50 year old "forever bachelor" industry dudes here in LA. They are never satisfied because they're always looking to see what the next younger, "more exciting" thing around the corner may be. They're all self sabotagers. At this rate, Bobby will still be chasing his "dream girl" at age 60, but just banging whatever 20 year old actress he can bring home from the Comedy Store for that night.
Damn some women’s standards are in fucking hell 😂 he thinks money makes it all fine but complains about paying for dinners and shit? Pick a struggle? Women please don’t lower your standards to something like this. There are so many proper gentlemen out there with good paying jobs, that will put in effort, inspire you and strive to make your life more enjoyable and comfortable. Sigh
It's not really a break up when you still live together and even share the same bed. Bobby needs to decide where he wants to live and separate physically and financially or things will get worse.
He is a oddly different guy, things might hit different for him .. but he was crying before tiger belly and she wasn’t even on that episode, I don’t think I’ve ever seen that !!
Figure out? Bitch fuck out my house. Fuck out my bed. You are fired. Boom that’s it. His views will go up without her. I stopped listening to Tb after like 80 episodes. She’s too self indulged and mighty.
I just started listening to Bobbi (on and off) for about a year…I find that I really enjoy listening him just talk and tell stories. He has a gift in that
Interesting interview. A lot of resonance here. Bobby seems genuine here and very honest. He’s really good at expressing/verbalizing complicated thoughts and raw emotions. Thanks so much for this content. Great podcast.
I don’t even like talking about breakups with my friends lol. Imagine having to do a rundown on 17 podcasts my opinion has evolved lol I’m now jealous of what an easy bag Bobby’s getting just by talking about his breakup and I totally would do the same
Seriously. I’d be cringing after telling the story 3 times. I don’t feel like anyone really needs to know all the details anyway. People have a good idea already.
Dude I totally agree with bobby! But it is possible to have a healthy relationship and do your own thing. My husband and I are happily married and I am a complete shut in so if he wants to do something he does and I don't mind. We live our own lives together and get each other completely. I am very thankful that we have each other.
Im glad he was honest in admitting he is the problem and doesn't want to change. That takes a lot of balls to decide to just suffer the consequences of a bad choice you don't want to change
@@SuperRadChad of course theirs outliers, but most of thr tine open relationships fail, eventually someone is likely to find another person they enjoy spending their time with
It seems like Bobby is at that point of self-discovery where he is truly being honest with himself about himself. Take it or leave it. He will not judge/hate you either way. At some point, if he continues with therapy, he will move from this point. It may not be a far move, but he will give something to have that connection. Now, his lady on the other hand, may need to draw some boundaries. This man clearly loves you but is not willing to pour into developing the relationship. But, if she is okay with that, more power to you sister.
Respect to Bobby Lee in many ways. He never disrespects Khayla, he owns up to his issues, and is a work in progress. I’m glad the current culture is for people to step outside themselves and look at what’s broken. No shame in owning your character flaws. That said, it has to go beyond this. Admitting your damage doesn’t mean you’re not also doing damage to other people. Let’s collectively examine how we’re fecking up and have some empathy for the people who love us, let us in, and have to deal with our garbage. Then watch us change. Admittance without serious ownership of the harm we’ve caused becomes a new platitude of narcissism.
If I was listening to Bobby alone here, I’d honestly be kind of sad for him. But every time he says something heartbreaking, there’s Ryan laughing like a wolf whistle.
Been there and done that, but would never talk about it to friends or family, let alone the whole world. Gotta respect this man! Only a real man can admit his own wrongdoings. Love you Bobby Lee!❤❤❤
@@BahdVibeZ it's almost impossible to change someone who doesn't wanna change, i'm not saying that it's good or healthy but that's is life. what i'm really trying to explain is: He's the one who is gonna face the repercutions of is actions. at the end of the day. what we really can do is stay away from people like him. he said himself.
I like how we are all sitting here acting like the porn addiction wasn’t the problem the whole fucking time everyone knows porn is massively destructive to the male brain no matter how hot girlfriend is
P0rn addiction topped off with video game addiction... but the p0rn addiction is what kills his drive for her... and if she can't make him happy in that way... nobody will.
@@carter_1 exactly he was satisfying himself. Sex is supposed to be another incentive. Pornography (modern) is classed under super stimulus so you're getting far more stimulation then is normal in nature.
By the sounds of it 100% his porn addiction killed the relationship. If he's jerking it to oldje while he has a gorgeous partner waiting desperately for him then he's a sad case. Love Bobby and mean no disrespect but that's a huge red flag. I hope he can find the strength to see the light
Disclaimer. Just because Bobby lee does this doesn’t mean it’s okay for you to. This shit ain’t healthy, I fell into a bad mental spot just satisfying myself and ignoring everything and everyone around me. This doesn’t give you an excuse to live like that.
@@RazluzTV Usually it yields mental illness to live like that, it's not because it's immoral it's because it's not good for you. Bobby Lee has resources, the rest of us don't. We'll stagnate and end up broke if we live like that.
@T N. Sometimes you gotta listen to that soft voice you slowly turn the volume down on and actually do something for yourself regardless of if people say you’re being selfish or not. Might have been 5-10-15 years of turning the volume down friend but when you finally get that solemn time and exit a relationship it ain’t time to listen to everyone about how selfish you are or how sad you are that you are alone. It’s time for you to delve inside and start listening to that voice you turned down for so many years. You guys have to make and my friend. You gotta figure out some stuff, you gotta find yourself, you gotta find your happy, you gotta find your worth. Nothing selfish about any of that don’t forget that.
@@exitscreaming4637 unlike you I have experience in life and experience in this exact position. Fulfilling your own needs doesn’t bring happiness. Just like cars and clothes and jewelry doesn’t make you truly happy either. Keep feeding your own ego and don’t look to benefit anyone but yourself and you will never find happiness ever in your life. It is truly a fact, not an opinion. The sooner you figure it out the easier your life will be. Good luck 👍
I’ve found this to be true.. and the loneliest moments of my life. Being with someone but not with them. Makes you wanna cheat, go find someone else, break it off and be alone than alone in a relationship. But you love them and the moments you’ve shared. They don’t want to be FWB,don’t want you to leave, but don’t want you to seek that attention they can’t give. Gets upset that you befriend other men for a male perspective when he doesn’t like to talk. He doesn’t make the money to give… it’s just a awkward position. Almost feels pointless.
Bobby wants unreality. The chemistry, the magic, the special connection. These things all fade and then each party in relationship is left with…..another real person who has flaws, issues, and challenges in life. Surrendering to that is love and leads to a fulfilling life.
It’s a shame because I can’t help but feel that he self sabotaged his relationship. He sounds insecure with himself and that might have led to isolating. I hope he makes it out on top in the end.
Absolutely when he allowed to switch into a open realationship it was his way of hoping his ex would find someone else in hopes that she would break up with him bc he knows he isn’t mentally present enough to be a true partner in a romantic realationship. He needs to confront his trauma and quit finding new addictions to numb and dissociate from the past / present
@@TheFenixDown206 if he wants to be happy, he does. He isnt happy, he's numb... Which is what most addicts aim for. He may technically be "sober," but I guarantee he isn't "emotionally sober." I know he is an AA guy, but probably is not actually "working the program." If he starts working on himself, he may have a chance to be happy. Either alone or in a relationship. 🤷🏻♀️ as the child of an alcoholic/ addict, who has quite a bit of childhood trauma of my own, I spent my first 30ish years numbing myself. I actually worked on acceptance and forgiveness (of myself and others,) and at 34, I am actually happy now! 🥰
@mero40k serious question here. I don't have any overt, easily identifiable addictions, but find isolation alluring. Can isolation itself be the addiction?
He’s just successful and he wants what he wants he met shawty on tinder pretty sure he just went wit the flow and noticed he doesn’t wanna be with her off of pretending to be interested in shit he don’t care about ya need to go tf out and stop thinking ya woke because you think of situations deep for no reason this why nobody can get out of a victim mindset just fucking make some kind of excuse to not see it for what it is he wants to live how he wants to I’ve no interruptions just peace and the fact that so many men can’t even see that is the reason so many of ya can’t get no females and so many men not saying how this correlates to the red pill movement but so many saying they feel the same still talking about the first man to speak on this are dumb and aren’t paying attention just trynna get some clout I’m so upset I can’t even stay on topic because why are ya like this stop lowering standards for a female because this is the outcome only difference is we broke compared to him and females wouldn’t even think to put up with shit they don’t like besides cheating due to the biological attraction of a top tier guy that fucks many women and does what he wants
@@homefrontforge Im not a clinical Psych, Dr. or LCSW so I cant really answer that question. And the last thing Im looking for is a debate on YT. I just know what addiction and isoaltion look like from decades of personal and external experience. I honestly wish him the best though. Hes a brilliant comedian.
His addictive personality is at play. New love is addicting because "feel good" chemicals are bombarding you. That always drops off because that's not love, it's just infatuation. So many people have the issue where they think they no longer love their partner because they don't have the antsy, butterfly feeling anymore.
I’ve been married to my husband for 15 years. We have a great relationship on all fronts. We work together, we have a great love life, we enjoy our extended families, we have good kids, and we share our faith. It takes a lot of effort from both sides. In fact the first year we were married, we almost divorced. We went to counseling and the therapist told us he didn’t see us making it. My husband stood up, grabbed my hand and the then said to the therapist as he pulled me to the door, “ We are not listening to this shit!” In that moment we realized this was death do us part. Then last year my husband got sick and almost died from Covid. During that time I contemplated on the fact that I have the best, and how would I ever be lucky enough to have someone or something so good again. I don’t have any desire to ever date or get remarried again. I would be fine alone. So, I understand and believe Bobby when says that he is alright not dating again.
Sometimes therapy really is overrated. Therapists will often confidently say that you should leave a relationship because there are "plenty of fish in the sea" but this is a very flippant and American way of looking at things. Commitment is important and sometimes weathering the storm does more for both of you and the world than just giving up.
I was with my high school sweet heart for 9 years and had 2 daughters together. She went off the deep end and ran off to do some pretty shocking stuff. It's hard to leave someone you love even when you know you have to. Keep your head up Bobby and keep doing what's best for you
@@bigfrankentertainment damn same here this was 4 years ago we were together for 2years she hit me up she wants to catch up but I'm gd now sober and healthy and working out keeping my self busy the right one would come in time .keep your head up
5 for me and she left me bc I had a habit and her mom basically told her you can’t fix him unless he wants it and it took me a long time to realize reality
I once had a friend who had the biggest crush on a mutual friend. He chose the friend zone and eventually stopped talking to her once she had a boyfriend. I asked him why he never made a move, he was good looking and funny. He said "she deserved better than me".
I like Ryan, he’s funny but also down to earth and doesn’t make fun when people are being real but also asks the hard questions in light hearted way. Like it when people don’t judge others and just engage in a funny way
One of the most honest men around. Everyone's judging him and his situation but everyone has demons and nobody is this honest with themselves and others about it. The fact he puts it out on podcasts to the public is even more crazy. Got lots of love for Bobby and I hope he gets the help he needs and finds some self confidence. We can't lose another great comedian
@@Max-zu8xj That sounds like a pretty bias video for starters, and I'm pretty certain you don't know more about his personal life and his long term girlfriend than he does. I ain't into gossip.
@@jakeuren8688 I agree that it sounds bias. I recommend to take a look, youll see evidence. Nothing bias about that. Khalila is manipulative and Bobby is suverily damaged staying in that relationship for years. She still live in the same house and still sucks money from him.
You mean women do not like him???' He described emotional neglect and cruelty. He causes therapy because that is not a human that is a low cock with pockets who complains about everything to do and being around women. He hates beingaround women. What kind of guy who likes women hates to spend time with them?
@@nikkoa.3639 yeah I don't think so. i never see many men agree on men handling shit properly. They usually agree on "boys are boys" that is negatively affecting the world around them. But hey- who notices patterns.
He went deep into thought, even while joking around and was able to understand himself, what he went through, where it went wrong, why it went wrong and that he doesn't want it to happen again so he'll wait and work on himself until it's time and all those things align.
I think you are oversimplifying why it’s happening. I don’t think it’s about growing up at all, at least in my case it isn’t. I have a good, successful career which I do sacrifice for. However, when I’m not working, I want to do what I want to do. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If I don’t have to, I shouldn’t have to force myself to be unhappy for a majority of my life. And right now, at 25, unless it was the right type of person, I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship. I don’t want to have to worry about a significant others feelings, wants, needs, both emotionally and physically. I am at least self aware enough to realize that right now I’m not interested in that. However, saying that’s because people don’t want to grow up is asinine.
@@princeofgreece9054 well it also depends on how attractive you are or how much you've already been there and done that. If you're an incel saying that it's like a pacifist who can't fight. they are a coward and can't harm anyone anyway and act like it's a belief that they are a pacifist. No it's those who have swords but keep them sheathed who shall inherit the earth. One of the most egregious misquotes of the Bible is the meek shall inherit the earth when it's more like those who could kill but choose not to and turn the other cheek will. Those with great strength who don't abuse people or give into their rage. Those who dont clip their toenails shall inherit long toenails
The thing is, there’s no such thing as a road that doesn’t end alone. There are many ways to live, and whether you’re with a partner or not, you’re dying alone my friend, and who is to say you won’t die before your partner or the other way around.
@@darrenbrown7037 What if you're a loving couple in a violent accident, like a plane crash, or an explosion? Then you can die together with the ones you love. That's why I have an explosive device linked to my smartwatch so that if I flatline, I go out surrounded by those I love.
Corn / Video games is an addiction has Simler to alcohol/drugs/ gambling results are self destruction unless you admit you have a problem then rehab recover and change resulting in joyful life. Love everything about Bobby especially his honesty and kind heart
@@DriftmanXDefinitely happy alone with my cat and my apartment, as apose to an insane man, no thank you. Modern men are lunatic incels like you nowadays ❤
Major props to Bobby for his honesty and self reflection. Porn is a major intimacy blocker and can destroy relationships - if you feel stuck and it's hurting you or your loved ones, get help! You have the power to change 🙌
Problem for Bobby is he most likley does not get attention from the ladies(according to him and I can see why honestly) at least not until he's worth more money.
I can relate. I'm a pretty extreme introvert and a lot of my relationships failed because partners wanted / needed way more attention than I could give. I thankfully found someone very much like me and we go off and do our own thing, but then come back and share our adventures with each other. We've been happily married for 13 years and consider ourselves soulmates.
@@sweetembrace6706 Of course it can. Introverts can experience pretty significant exhaustion from human interaction. Even pleasant interaction with a beloved partner can be draining for a very introverted person. They need a lot of time to focus and recharge. So if you are paired with someone who requires A LOT of attention, that can be a recipe for disaster.
Used to date a girl we'd go to a beautiful park, were on the bench eating lunch together like movie-esc and she'd go "So what are we doing today?" and I'm like "Babe this is it, right now." like this is living to me, this is nice. She was a party girl, unless at a bar/concert/party/vacationing every 2 weeks then we weren't 'doing' something. We broke up.
And she used to date a guy that was too low energy for her and enjoyed a different pace of living and leisure. They broke up. Some people are just not compatible and there's nothing wrong with that.
I resonate with your girlfriend, because my girlfriend and I are the same right now. My girlfriend is a lovely, lovely person. But her go-with-the-flow personality is just too much for me to handle. She’s European, and constantly flip-flops on whether she’s going to stay in the states or leave depending on her mood. We stay in bed for hours on the weekend, until I eventually have to kick ourselves out and make sure we’re doing something, otherwise it feels like a waste. Throughout our entire relationship, I’ve always been the one to initiate texting/calling/planning because she’s just so aloof, loves nothing more than just spontaneously spending a day staring out at a skyline or up at the sky for hours while disregarding any real-life duties or experiences. And this will be the end of our relationship - mark my words. Don’t get me wrong, I love those slow, stop the world and melt with you moments. But I also love the stimulating parts of life. We recently went on vacation together - the whole week she wanted to stay on the beach. I wanted to see stuff and work in time for the beach as we went along. It’s hard being with someone who has their head in the clouds 24/7, because eventually you end up getting pulled away from the ground.
Bobby is basically admitting that he’s selfish, not many men want to do things they don’t enjoy with their partners but we do it to make the person we love happy,
yes because women just LOVE scrubbing their man's piss off the toilet bowl rim. yall act like you're the only ones having to do things you don't wanna do, but never consider that women also have to do things for men that the women don't wanna do 🤷♀️
Everyone’s pissed at Khalyla, but Bobby is being very transparent that it was a 2 way thing. He wasn’t giving her what she needed for a very long time, she needed more. There should be no hatred towards either of them. I hope they figure things out and can eventually actually separate and get their own places. They have no resentment, so fans shouldn’t either.
Dude it is CLEARLY obvious that he only says that because she manipulated him into thinking it's his fault. That's what women do. That is the whole game.
Brutally honest interview. Respect to Bobby for being so open and honest about it! It’s a shame when two people genuinely love each other but are no longer in love with a sexual attraction.
i personally think they should have stayed together....majority of relationships stop fucking after years of being together....the bond that they had and the love they shared was unmatched in my opinion....it wasn’t one of those love stories where the people grew apart and hated eachother....i’m sure they had their moments and their resentments, but all relationships do...to me it’s a crime that they aren’t still together
@@lavs8696 he's honest about what he thinks happened. whether that is actually what happened, or is influenced by his low self esteem / misguided blame issues, only close friends can say.
@@govegan562 nah, that shouldn’t be happening in relationships. Relationships take effort, and if he wasn’t putting in the effort to at least sleep with her even once a month, then the relationship is dead. Sometimes we all don’t feel like it, but you get yourself in the mood and know you’ll feel better after. It’s like motivating yourself to go to the gym - it’s good for you. Constant porn and self flagellation is not attractive nor healthy for either an individual or a relationship. They made the right choice if he’s not willing to actually give her what she needs.
Dude this talk literally changed my life. I feel bobby 100% man. This conversation really made me think about my own life and my own previous relationships. I just came out of a two year relationship and before that I was in a 12 year relationship with my baby momma. It's tough man.
I think ppl. Are getting tired of each other too quik in this high dopamine era we live in. Were in a tap of a button i can see pretty girls or guys and something im attracted too.
People think I’m too picky or introverted but until I was 43 I had been in three long term relationships and each one we rushed into them and resentful of not liking the same things . 6 years living alone and I get it. Young people are codependent they would rather be in a horrible relationship than have no relationship
@@palmbalm you are 22? Get out now you’ll thank me years later, you are 22 prime of your life, leave that porn addict and find yourself a guy who gives you the attention you want, you’re young and probably beautiful, you’ll have no trouble finding someone else
It's interesting but sad because it sounds like making a move like this fully would be to put himself through a sort of penance by removing what he cares about. So maybe in a year he will get to a point in the cycle of self fulfillment that he will start remembering what he had. Waking up remembering dreams of what he used to have, getting flashes of it from moments in TV. That sort of penance is probably what he actually needs to change. And in the end, he would be better off whether or not things came back together. It sounds like he's doing the right thing
Say what you want about Bobby, but I gotta say I really respect how honest he’s being about his part in things while at the same time knowing who he is and being straight up about it.
You could understand this relationship wasn’t a true relationship of intimacy just by periodically watching then interact on their show. But if that still didn’t do it then listening to the first few min of this podcast made it quite clear. In his effort to say all the great things about her and their relationship, he described his great fullness being 100% about how she resurrected his career. Not one thing about her as a person. That ain’t ever gonna do it brah.
Bro you literally just heard him say she "resurrected his career", just ignored everything he said. Like he literally said "she's love of his life" and bunch of other shit about the relationship
What career? This guy is a nobody. Had one mildly funny bit on Madtv. Then you find about how much of an unfunny, gross pig he is in real life by watching his weak ass podcast. I imagine the only reason this video is in my feed is because I've watched someone actually funny on his dumb show, who he kept interrupting to same something disgusting or racist.
It’s interesting how everyone took what they wanted from Bobby Lee’s response. But no one recognize how he said he hasn’t had sex with his ex girlfriend for years. There’s nothing add mirable about someone having a dead bedroom and thinking that’s OK.
I went through the same situation that Bobby has, and nobody could understand me. I'm still living with my wife, but the relationship is just good friendship and we live together, but this is the difference: I live with my wife just for the fact that I feel bad for her, she couldn't financially support herself. She's an amazing person but doesn't have a very lucrative job, and I'm consciously cancelling my romantic life just to keep her happy. The truth is that we're 80% happy, but that 20% that doesn't work is a big deal and stops me from knowing other people.
Everyone keeps commenting about how they feel for Bobby, when I just keep thinking about how lonely and and how damaged kalyla’s self esteem must be. To have a partner constantly pick things iver you is awful. Hopefully both of them are happier now
It’s obvious that the target demo is males here for Bobby. The only people worried about Khalyla are pretty obviously women. We all know what it’s like to deal with such a major disappointment... What gets me the most is how matter of factly he states that “she helped make him who he is” and yet he has no interest in sacrificing or changing anything about himself to even reassure her she’s worth the effort. He’s admitting she’s not worth the effort. We’ve all been with a man child like this! Once she’s gone for good & happy alone/with someone else, he’s going to regret all of this. 🥲👺🤌
@@Keepgoing42 He spends all day watching porn and playing video games, that's a college kid, not a 50 year old man. And wanting to have sex with your boyfriend and hang out with him is not "high maintenance."
@@Keepgoing42 🤣 too high maintenance to you is wanting to have sex with your partner rather than them constantly watching porn, and spending time together once in a while. Rotfl what must you think of actual high maintenance people?
What he's describing sounds like text book intimacy avoidance. I was in a similar situation with my wife and I needed to have a rude awakening to see what I was doing to her. It leaves your partner feeling like they're the problem no matter how you try to explain it. I needed to stop the porn and jerking off but most importantly I needed to learn how to be intimate with my wife, more than just physically.
It's hard to take that leap. Many of us (in my experience, far more often in men) have a hard time reconciling "be strong" and "be vulnerable" within the context of a relationship with our partner. It makes sense. It's a tough line to walk. But if she's a real catch, she'll be fine with your intimate side. Good luck out there to all who struggle with it. My advice is to just show up completely vulnerable. The women I admire the most have all cherished vulnerability in a partner. I've also known many who were turned off by it - but they were categorically lower quality people!
Dude I've been with my wife for 15 years now and yeah there was that little "mystery" part at the beginning, but the part where you know someone almost as well as you know yourself, and you know you can trust them 100% with everything - not just being there in an emergency, but your feelings, your private thoughts, your everything - that's the sweetest part of a relationship I've ever been in and I wouldn't trade it for anything. It really does sound like he's not comfortable with himself (a lot of comedians aren't) and has low self-esteem (a lot of comedians do) and has never been forced to mature. He started making money at a young age, landed some great gigs with his talent, and is now just sortof coasting through life as a grown-up adolescent. As he said, he's not a loser, he's just stuck emotionally like a lot of successful men are.
You're reading too much into this because its you. So you think youre deeper than you are. Its a porn and video game addiction along with being selfish. Lets not make this what its not.
"I have no interest. Women don't like that". Bobby: PEOPLE IN GENERAL don't like that! 😂 You're basically saying that you're entirely selfish, unwilling to compromise on anything you don't want to do, you don't care about the other person's desires, dreams, or needs. Dude, no wonder you're still seeing the same therapist. They're making a ton of money by not telling you how to be a better person.
" they break apart and i want to meet somebody where it just doesnt" so he wants a relationship but he doesnt want to do any of the things that come with a relationship. he wants someone to just be content with him doing whatever he wants and not caring about them or maintaining the relationship/ connection. he basically wants exactly what caused his relationship to end. i wish him the best but damn hes going to be single forever with that mindset
That's why he kept saying he thinks he's just going to remain single. He understands that most people want some effort. His perfect relationship would probably just be a good friend he can have sex with from time to time. I know a few ladies that game all day and like to eat meat. It isnt impossible, but it's hard to get that combo.
I'm a woman and I'm exactly like Bobby. I don't want to go to the park...I don't want to eat at some weird restaurant because that's what my partner wants. I hate compromise and think couples should do their own thing largely and come together over the mutual pleasures they share.
The problem is where is the line between being a married couple wanted to share in other's interests and 2 roomates that 'do their own thing' and have extra beenfits?
I appreciate Bobby for always being one of the few that will open up about his life struggles. I think he helps to open these convos and break down these barriers we have as men. Appreciate you Bobby the world needs more of you brother.
Who put up those barriers?? Cause women have been calling this out for a while but i don't think people could get past the jargon enough to actually understand these "barriers" and what constructed them.
@@lifetops6569 men have barriers because they need to shield women from the pain of reality. This "calling out" bullshit is just an effort to feminize men and it has been wholly destructive to society.
When he says : it’s mostly my fault. That’s just putting yourself down, it takes two to tango and trying to claim responsibility for something the other person did is self defeating.
This man ended a long term relationship in preparation for Starfield... a true legend Jesus thanks for all the likes guys I too will be getting Starfield when it comes out. Callisto protocol as well can't wait.
I'm an addict, alcoholic and a gamer. It's all about dopamine and throwing your time away for that escape and dopamine rush. The way bobby talks about gaming reminded me my past self. Coincidently it was Skyrim... around 2-3000 hours of playing, modding and reading ingame books for lore. I loved it. And I will come back after years but.... no more 2 weeks without shower barely eating not taking calls from anyone. As an addict I will forever be very careful how much I love something. Be careful out there.
I’m not a drugg addict, per se, but I too have those tendencies …. Very dangerous for me too. I will spend hours on my phone and just keep scrolling even if I’m tired or there’s nothing of interest … Im addicted to food and sugar - that’s my dopamine hit. It’s hard to avoid food because it’s necessary for survival.
I’m an addict and a gamer. Drugs&games every day for 2 years straight. This is the realest and easily the most relatable comment I’ve ever read in my life
