Same! I think my height has something to do with it. In the mirror I'm looking down at by body but I'm tall so in photos the camera is angled up at me 🤷♀️
Yes, me too! Spot on with the height thing. And I always tend to get positioned on the outside in group photos making me look twice the size I am, no joke! And that was confirmed for me by a pro photographer friend. I just had it happen yesterday and I told myself "I refuse to be gaslit by that camera!!"
I hate how I look in the mirror. I feel cute. The mirror me looks fat and I don't really recognize me. I don't do mirrors. Edit: I also hate taking pictures, I always have.
I mean, ninety-bazillion messages a day from advertising and shit, telling us everything including the atoms of our inner pupils need to be changed or else we're unworthy/hideous...I dunno how _anyone_ has any self-esteem these days! 😅🤷🏾♀️
@@aundreanaphiffer3572 Girl, don't you know it! 😂 The atoms of our inner pupils, the hue of our nostrils' shadow, the shape of the air around our wrists -- they are _out of control_ with all these endless, arbitrary characteristics and measurements that only waste the time that we should be spending loving and nurturing ourselves and our loved ones, replacing it with despair and self-consciousness over **nothing** !! I wanna tell 'em go sell a cream to them wearing swastikas and iron crosses; and leave me and my cute, innocent, harmless knees alone! Whatever my imperfections are, _someone_ gonna like them, they not hurting nobody, and in the end they're not anybody else's business but mine!
literally me today: "I think... I think that is some ribcage. I probably should not be seeing bone. I have been trying to lose weight though but I probably should not be seeing bone."
A friend of mine of mine was dealing with body dysmorphia for a while and me being the social klutz that I am, unironically said "if you don't stop and start loving yourself I will slap you in friendship"
Okay but like.. me. Especially since having my fourth child last year, it's gotten worse than it's ever been in my life and nearly constant, so back to therapy for me!
Currently 31 weeks pregnant with twins. Getting out of the shower and looking in the mirror is literally the worst part of the pregnancy because I have struggled with my weight and body image since I was in elementary school. Very rarely do I have a "wow I look cute" moment. It's worth it to have my kids, but I do have lottle breakdowns about how I look sometimes. You look great, Nicque. :)
I have gender dysphoria, and sometimes i just want to cry when I look at myself in the mirror, and other times, especially when i tuck my hair under a beanie or a hood I'm like "I GIVE GENDER ! WOOOOO !" and than my mother comes in and ruins everything.
Mood. Summer was always weird for me cuz I loved my cute summer clothes, but they were much more femme so I'd get misgendered a lot and I couldn’t ways bind in the heat. It's my first summer post op this year and I'm so psyched to wear a crop top without thinking about it
@@jamiedodger2361 I'm cutting my hair this summer to help with my gender dysphoria ! I'm going to confuse a lot of people, and I'm so ready for it >:) Confuse people with gender.
As someone who struggled with body dysmorphic disorder since childhood, I am fed up with people using the term body dysmorphia to describe a bad hair day or a bad mirror day. BDD patients spend every day fighting to lead a normal life and not be overwhelmed by depression, obsessive behaviours, and the urge to withdraw completely from every day life. Please stop using terms based on real diseases to describe your moods.
ikr, this was kind of insulting to put it lightly. i get she's trying to make light of a bad situation. but thats not how it is. i'd guess for most it would really go like: "ugh, disgusting" stares and looks at every inch of body to see if theres any miracoulous improvement. "disgusting, i look like a waterbuffallo or other animal associated with uglyness"
It’s the other way around for me 😢 I feel amazing and then SOMEONE decides to take photos and I look like a deranged, stocky elephant crashing into everything and everyone 😭
Oh my god, same, everyday. I'll be frustrated, in tears, not liking the way anything looks at me, and my husband is like "but you're so cute" and I'll still put on my jeans and sleeveless shirts. It's a curse
Girl! I had this in the work place mirror one day. Was like “yo that’s my face, why do I look like that” and then in the elevator mirror was like “damn I’m cute” 😅😂 probably something wrong with the lighting
I have the opposite reaction. Pictures bother me far more than mirrors. I hate having my pic taken because I hate seeing my second chin so prominent in so many photos taken of me. Makes me feel like crying and never leaving the house knowing that I look like that.
Feel you. I had a lucky experience where someone picked out one of my least favorite photos as their favorite, completely unprompted. It made something click in my head that no matter how fat or weird I look in a photo, I always look like me, the person people have gotten to know. That's really helped me over the years. (Now that insecurity has been replaced by gender issues and always looking the wrong gender. Cause life is like that.) Sorry if that ramble was completely unhelpful, but here's a virtual hug. 🫂
I kind of have the opposite. I don't think about what I look like most of the time but I look horrible in photos even when I try to look nice. I have people comment that I look like I am grimacing when I was actually happy and smiling.
@@fearreavers same thing. and it also strange that if people film a video i look nice, but when they take a photo i look horribly sick or like a gremlin 🙃
@@heh.wantsomewine It's the way modern digital cameras work, ESPECIALLY phone cameras. I had a pro photographer friend tell me this and it has literally saved my sanity. On the mend from BD and feel decent, usually, looking in the mirror but then I would see a pic of myself and spiral, not realizing often these phone camera lenses are like fun house mirrors!!
I was trying on a skating dress at my ice skating competition and the second one I tried on made me feel so bad about myself that I went into the tent and silently cried
I only like pictures of myself from at least a year ago, pictures I absolutely hated. Next year I’ll like the current ones and the cycle will continue.
Yep, if I catch my reflection anywhere im like “bitch u ugly” in my mind but this Monday I had some fun with makeup and accessories and when I caught it for a second I was like “who’s that cutie” and remembered it was me and I was so fucking happy I told my partner and they were very happy for me, since they know my struggles, and we had a very cute moment picking up my medication XD ✨
i’m the same way but i’m also the opposite at the same time. sometimes i’ll look in the mirror, think “damn i look kinda good today” and try taking a picture that ends up making me look like gollum (that’s my own mental issues thinking that ofc) and feel bad about myself again. other times i feel gross about my body then i find pictures from times like prom and even some casual outings and think “damn i look good” again. the brain is such a puzzling thing 😂😭
Honestly I have it both the opposite and the same exact way. Every time I think I’m too fat or just not appealing, then look at myself in another medium I suddenly go, “Damn I look good.”
As someone who struggles with BD and and ED I just look at certain parts of my body like thighs and torso and am like”ew” and then I look at different areas of my body like eyes and hair and am like “Ok girl slay pop off”
Literally just got old timey photos taken with my fiance for that very reason. Don't feel handsome today? Boom. A professional photo of me dressed as a cowboy. Take that.
I don't even know what that word Means but I experience this nearly all the freaking time I look at myself in the mirror But then see some rocking photos of me😭
I have PCOS and sometimes when I was little I look in the mirror and see all the things I hate about my body ( flat chest, hairy chin, hairy chest, broad shoulders, my fat). I'm at a pretty good space where I see those and I'm like I don't like how I look I treat myself to a self care session... do my hair and makeup and shave and wear clothes that make me feel more like me. And I look at myself afterwards and feel more like myself. I know some body features I can't change and even if I can there will always be something else that my eyes will draw towards so I try to use the features I love and been exercising and losing weight and that's DEFINITELY been helping with my self confidence. I will still occasionally see the stranger in the mirror and I can look at that person and not feel disgusted ( uncomfortable at times yes, but not disgusted like I severely did)
i think i have body dysmorphia like. people say im a little thick, and everyone has always been okay about it (except elementary school) but when i see myself at all i just. shut down. sometimes i have bad thoughts etc etc yeah idk
It's like watching my sister. She both assumes everyone wants her (her own words) and has the worst most fucked up body image of anyone you've ever met. I wish I knew how to help aside from the obvious of just being there.
And the reasons I think I’m ugly are always so random it’ll be like “uuggghhhhh my arms are so skinny and my knees are so wrinkly and my eyes don’t match my chin” like calm down maybe
Literly me but i look away then back at the mirror and im like wait but like im kinda slaying this look and then next week i be lokking in the mirror wandering what went wrong
For me it's more like "I look like shit, guess I'm not posting my face today." Sometimes I don't even feel bad about myself until after I see a picture. Then I feel like holy shit that's what I look like? That's what people are seeing. The feeling is a sense of disgust and vitriol. When I experience that I absolutely hate the way I look. There is no changing it and nothing I try ever helps.
Some days I think I'm GORGEOUS, could literally be a model, flawless skin, beautiful hair... The next day I will be staring at myself for hours thinking I'm disgusting, picking at my skin, constantly adjusting my hair because I think it's doing something weird, telling myself I'm obese... (Realistically I'm a little overweight but it isn't noticeable or anything.) Then I ask my friends and they're like "Dude you look the exact same as you did yesterday and every other day lol. Which is to say, fine and normal." 😭
