Body Language Analyst Reacts to Tom Holland's AMAZING Communication Skills. 

Hypnotherapy is game-changing. While I don't drink, I can relate to Tom in recognizing when it's time for a life change. I had a debilitating fear of flying for most of my life... to the point where I was losing sleep days before a trip, having full-on panic attacks on airplanes (that involved numbness in my limbs), and vomiting. Yea, not fun for me or anyone around me. It only got worse as I got older. After trying numerous types of anxiety medication, I realized I needed to try something different because what I REALLY wanted was to overcome my phobia of flying. All of my research led me to Spidey. The session wasn't like how it's portrayed in the movies - there's no pocket watch swinging back and forth until you fall into a deep sleep. It was about me visualizing and connecting two different parts of myself with guidance and structure from Spidey. And then replacing those instinctual feelings I had toward flying with feelings of confidence and bravery from other aspects of my life. I was actually able to disassociate from my habit of fear! He literally retrained my brain on a subconscious level. This year, I've flown more than I ever have in my life. And guess what? NO INCIDENTS. No anxiety at all, no crying, no vomiting, no nothing. My husband couldn't believe it... and honestly, it's insane. It's insane how good life can be now. THANK YOU SPIDEY!!!!!!!!

I adore him. He's incredibly talented, kind, bright and self-aware. He has also always been humble and self-deprecating, never too proud or vain to talk about his flaws and insecurities.. All wonderful qualities in a man. In anyone, really.💙

I vote for more content like this. Learning the full spectrum of body language and communication from all kinds of situations is beneficial for everyone. Don't get me wrong, I love the deception detection side of it, but positive, uplifting interactions are really refreshing. I'm not into celebrities, but this was a really great, authentic interview. Thanks, Spidey!

This episode is like a SPA!! You have the three most soothing voices in a single video. I accept I’m totally biased 😂 as Jay Shetty is one of my favorite speakers, Tom Holland is simply adorable and Spidey can actually tell me that the moon is made out of cheese on that calm delivery of his and I’ll believe it 😂 It’s an amazing episode Spidey, thanks for another great one!

Quitting alcohol is a giant step/leap in personal growth and evolution. Alcohol keeps you stagnant and unaware while it poisons your body and hijacks rationale and dignity. I love your show Spidey! ❤

Spidey covering spiderman? Best combo ever!

First let me say, I don’t follow celebrities. The only reason I watched this is because it was on your channel. I was not disappointed. What a positive interview. Thanks, Spidey! As always, I learned something AND discovered (IMHO) another good human. ❤

I just watched the interview and, at the end, had want you to do an analysis of TH behavior. A day later, here it is! Thank you so much for your amazing take on this.

I quit drinking alcohol in February. It’s not easy. I commend him for taking about it and sharing this. Thanks for covering this interview Spidey!

No way Tom watches Chris Ramsay! Im so happy for him! I know hes been having a hard time and posted he was struggling with views so i hope this gives him some validation in knowing hes a great content creator and lifts his spirits ❤

As someone who has been sober over 10 years now ( and needed to be) I know that quitting is something you have to reach your own place of readiness for. Someone pushing you, before you're ready, will just create resistance. A supportive nudge, more like Tom Holland gave, is probably more appropriate. I also really liked how Spidey demonstrated the way there are no absolutes in body language, by showing the way head shaking and nodding ( when contrasting with the verbal statements) does not necessarily indicate deception l. I used to watch crime programmes and some of those led me to think that this always meant deception, until I began watching Spidey. A proper, open minded analysis with clear baseline knowledge is clearly so important, and shows that such as in life, we should not be quick to judge.

As you discuss the lack of eyebrow movement when Tom shows his surprise at Jay attending dance as well, I noticed something else. After I tried many times (as did you, Spidey) to gain control of my eye and eyebrow movements and literally say something without using my eyebrows as punctuation, I realized that I didn’t have success until I changed the inflection in my voice. So I decided to say what Tom was saying just as Tom had said it, and use what body movements I could see just as Tom had used his. And wow! What a difference it made in the ease of control I had over my facial responses. I had forgotten how hard we trained our faces in school in order to say something sincere without giving away our full emotions but also without making ourselves monotone or unapproachable. Tom clearly has been able to take these very hard learned lessons and incorporated them into his real life personality. This is not to say that he is being disingenuous in the least. Rather, it has become a communication skill that allows him to show real interest in what his conversation partner has to say. It actually seems to keep him from making the mistake so many of us do and that is the mistake of taking over the conversation entirely. Rather Tom’s approach let’s him pause in an inviting manner that says “Hey man! This isn’t all about me. I really want to know if you can relate.” I suspect Tom would rephrase himself if he thought he’d lost someone along the way.

I was lucky to work in a building with a group of psychologists and they had lunchtime presentations so we got to learn about and experience biofeedback, hypnotherapy, meditation etc. decades ago where the culture in my location didn't really embrace alternative methods. Maybe being a middle child😮 is how I learned to be nonjudgemental and be the negotiator, which sent me into a career where that made my job easier and more satisfying. My only frustration is that after a brain injury I've noticed that I must be showing quick emotions and reactions on my face, to even the most mundane things like how food tastes, and haven't figured out how to retrain those circuits so it's not so obvious. I am so impressed with Tom Holland who I've just seen in several interviews. I don't watch action movies since I'm now noise sensitive but I can tell he must be a very gifted actor. Thanks for this one Spidey, it was not just informational but I found it uplifting too.

I’d love Tom to watch this as your analysis is so affirming of him. I watched the interview with Jay and appreciated his openness and how he gave so much time, rather than a brief snap shot. I find him to be authentic, humble, and evolving as a lovely young man…I’d be proud to be called his mother! 🐑🐑🇳🇿🇳🇿NZ

Quitting drinking was truly the best thing I ever could have done. Thank you so much for this one!!! You are amazing Spidey!!!

I noticed that Tom gets progressively more comfortable during the interview. By the time he’s talking about Chris Ramsey, he has a leg bent up in front of him which no doubt means his foot is on the chair. He is using both hands to talk still instead of hugging his leg. This, and sitting with one leg under you are generally positions that indicate confidence and comfort with oneself.

LOVE the addition of phycology to this video!

I'm glad I watched this particular video mainly because I have been told that anything I think can show on my face without saying 1 word and that's been since either elementary school or junior high. During the pandemic and we all had to wear masks people kept commenting about "the looks you're giving" to whomever or whatever and judging solely based on my eyes. A lot of times people can interpret my facial expressions in a way that is so off base and of course I don't see my face. I do a lot of the same gestures as Tom has shown and people might think I'm rude or lying or sometimes what I'm actually thinking! I'm 38 and clearly I'll be doing "me" looks forever! Great video; I really did enjoy all of it!

I love your interpretation of Tom's body language, he seems very frank and straight forward, thus believable. I would have linked to do hypnotherapy when I stopped smoking. I kind of stop smoking in a similar way, taking a day at a time, then a week at a time, and so on. However, I caught mayself for many many ... so many years (al least 15!!) dreaming about smoking and feeling so guilty about it. . . I think it would have been great to do that kind of therapy on me, to understand what was happening at a subconcious level. Thank you for this video, I always enjoy listening to your interpretations and conclusions.

You say there isn’t much to analyze with the Chris Ramsey bit, but I think Tom’s body language with the leg bent up toward his chest and the fact that he is talking about ways he relaxes together say a lot.

I LOVED this interview! Tom Holland is so stable in his positions with his body language. I totally agree with you. Also huge shout out to Chris Ramsey. I was jumping all over the place when Tom mentioned he would watch the puzzle videos! I totally get it too. I love watching them. In fact, it was watching Chris Ramsey's youtube channel that I came across you Spidey, long before the Depp trial. I love your videos too! Always looking forward to your videos! Keep up the great work!

Brilliant, thanks for this one. I think it was especially enjoyable because it was one of the rare instances where we're looking at a whole bunch of examples of goodness and honesty. Nice balance ❤

I think something interesting Tom Holland does, though I’ve only seen it in interviews I’ve watched and didn’t study him, but when he’s telling a story, he does the thing you mentioned with the eyebrows, then he kind of looks down and ‘resets’ his face…like he’s getting back into the narrator role. Reminds me of storytellers, who have a narrator voice and during the stories they do voices for characters, and when they switch they have to ‘reset’…

I'm with you on hypnotherapy, Spidey. My uncle, Murray Goldsmith, was a very well known hypnotist, magician, biofeedback and more in Montreal and elsewhere. He made me his apprentice back when I was about 15. It really opened my eyes to the wonders of human behavior, and I haven't looked back since. Cheers.👍😵‍💫 PS, kudos on doing content that focuses on the positive aspects of humans out in the wild, it's very refreshing. Not everyone in Hollywood is Charlie Sheen.

I love watching your videos! I get so much out of your analysis, whether it's learning something new, or confirming something I already instinctively know. I didn't know you were a hypnotherapist; me too! Such an incredible tool for so many different issues! I love that you brought this into today's video.

Some of my patients in psychotherapy will actually test me in the beginning as to how non-judgmental I am by telling me a little bit of e.g. self-harm ideation, then gauge my reaction, then tell me roughly what they've done, watch me again, then go into more detail. Not judging and dealing with publicly often not accepted topics professionally is something that people look out for. And I love it when I notice it because I think of it as a way of self-care. They're not surrendering to the setting of psychotherapy but actively controlling their own contribution to the patient-doctor-relationship.

Man.. how can you not love Tom Holland? 🥰

Your channel is the best thing on the internet, so glad I’ve found you!

I really appreciate these videos. Until you point out these “tells”, these nonverbal communications, I don’t see them at all. I thought I was getting better at reading these but this clearly shows how far I need to go. I only learned I about nonverbal communication when studying to be a teacher and how it impacted my relating to people so these are very helpful to me. I had hoped I could learn to see them, but just understanding that there might be more than the spoken message has been the main benefit so far. Your videos show a level of awareness out of my reach right now, but give me something to aspire to. I have started to feel these physiological changes in my own face at times when I’m talking. Like tension between my eyebrows and that I compress my lips when I’m trying hard not to interrupt people when we are talking.

I adore Tom so much. Thank you for breaking down this interview.

One of the most difficult things about communicating without judgement in your daily life is that you also live there. As a professional, teacher, etc. you can turn that on and off. But at home, using this approach with your kids or spouse or whomever, you also have emotions and opinions that will wriggle out and disrupt this non-judgmental flow. But it is definitely something you have encouraged me to double up my efforts on at home!

Yay! Thanks for sharing the other channel!

Love it. Keep ‘em coming, Spidey. I appreciate ya!!

As a bilingual Montréaler, I totally agree on the hand gestures changing as you switch languages

I love you so much man. Schema therapy anyone!! This is one my favorite videos you have done man. Rapport and nonjudgmental attitude. Love it.

I just want to add about the head nodding as a no and the opposite as yes - i am from Bulgaria and we nod as a no and shake the head as a yes. This is how we do it in some countries. I hope that helps!

Spidey I love anytime you delve more into psychology. Understanding others better is something I love to pursue, but I naturally have a very low “openness” and struggle to have an open mind to things if I don’t understand them. So psychology is fascinating to me as I learn more about how others view and interpret the world. I am trying to learn to be less judgmental in my dealings with others and this interview was such a lovely example of what I can strive for

Wow I didnt know you speak well French! Its fascinating to understand the possible differences between cultures and languages. I speak French and English and I notice that I express myself differently, words and body movements. Love the explanation and your teaching

Thinking of actors expressing emotion without talking - best I’ve ever seen is Bob Hoskins in the final scenes of The Long Good Friday- absolute classic!!!

Good episode! I enjoyed the interview clips as well as your commentary.

I was going to say what @thebehavioralarts said about the 'no' headshake. It really depends on what a person's inner monalogue is and how they process a conversation. I can see w Tom Holland that when someone is speaking he often puts himself in the place of the other person and in this case his 'no' headshake is a dismissal of the idea that one can only find support in a clinical setting.

Spidey analyzing Spidey--I am so here for this!

i just understood why my friends and sometimes even people who i barely know come to me and open up. It's the non judgement.

Great video, thanks

im watching the crowded room!! he is excellent in it! great series!!

I was wondering your thoughts to the scenario you mention right after 30:00 when someone shares something. What if the listener slams the book down and calls the person a creep but does it in a joking manner and then follows it up with a non-judgemental response. Is this just as bad as if they judged the person for real or does does it disarm them more? By showing them their worst case response to something they may not have wanted to share and immediately turning it on it's head to show it really isn't as bad as they think it is.

You are amazing. I looove your videos and this one it’s specially good!

I think his head shake might mean "I can't believe it." So when he's shaking his head for the boxing movie, in his head, he feels he can't believe that it hasn't come already. Or shakes his head talking about alcohol, he's thinking back, "I can't believe how much I've changed."

You are great my guy. Thanks!

🙏 Thankyou, Spidey!

This was such a great episode! Thank you 😊

I love your channel!!! Thank you !!!

theres something about his look, very intriguing, interesting guy

I watch Chris Ramsey to destress too! Now I have to go find his videos with you 😁 I also follow some of his gaming with escape room games. He’s great!

Random Question: just like there's statement analysis where you deliberately ignore someone's behaviour and just look at their words, is there a place for the opposite? Meaning have you ever just analysed someone's behaviour on mute and is it ever helpful or is the context provided by their words always essential?

Thanks so much for your comments on the head shake = No. I thought I was the crazy one.

Love seeing Chris Ramsay getting some recognition lol

Tom Holland wasn't saying "really?" without any expression. Yes, his eyebrows didn't go up, but he was nodding and smiling. That's some kind of approval even if it's not surprising to him.

I have a question. I'm new to the behavioral arts and was wondering if they are genetically inherited or are they learned by observation?

Please do the interview with Anthony Weiner on PBD Podcast!!! He flips out!

You should analyze David Grusch’s testimony…

I've been watching The Crowded Room and I'm loving it! Edit: it's a tough role and I wouldn't doubt he would hold on to something like alcohol to be able to play the role.

Thought, the wide eyes states child like wonder to me. Now he was a child actor, there is a theory that child actors tend to get stuck in the age they were when they got famous or as a child actor they learn to be endearing/charming to please and to get what they want. Not always a conniving away but cute people know that being innocent gets them what they want. Anyway, a though. He’s playful and good at commanding attention.

Spidey, can you do an video about Dr steven greer ? He claims he have been in contact with UFOs and been in their ships ect, would been awseome to here your about that.

Wow, perfect French. I didn't know

@Behavioralarts The Chris Ramsay links doesn't seem to be working 🤷‍♀️ Also, great video as usual.

Tom shows Harry's codependency in men. Women can also be analysed on subject. Nature by design is expansive, flexible and open and not contracted, fixated and closed in its expression. Imposition or exploitation of beliefs is not same as expression of beliefs. So was Harry expressing, exploiting or imposing beliefs in book and documentary against people that he and partner didnt like personally?

You may be my favorite Spidey, but this is my Spiderman, lol.

COLLEEN BALLINGER'S apology video pleaseeeee

Can you do the Colleen Ballinger music apology video?

Also when he was talking about his alcohol past he looked down more than at the interviewed, while when he was talking about the resolution of this problem he started making eye contact again. My idea here is that that’s a part the some of him doesn’t want the I interviewer to see. Am I right?

I'm here to comment for the algorithm because you're doing an amazing job Spidey. (Yes I'm watching the video too)

Thank you for this.

Spidey, love this analysis, love your channel but when you speak French, ohhh la la

hey, I have an Idea for a video I hope that is the right way to give recommendations. The channel "Shawn Ryan Show" has released interviews with the UAP Whistleblowers. The interviews by themselves are in my opinion interesting but especially Part 3 with "Eric Hecker" is interesting I don't know why but I can not really put his behavior into words but it is "odd" (for lack of better words). It would be interesting to see what someone with many years of experience would see in his behavior. I would love to see a video about that.

I just stopped socialising since I needed alcohol to enjoy it.

Hi Spidey! Totally unrelated to this video, but you helped me out this week and I just wanted to say “thank you!”. My supervisor at work asked if she could “have a word with me”. This immediately made me anxious and put me on the defensive because despite being confident that I’d done nothing wrong, she had been making me feel like I wasn’t exactly her favourite co-worker. Following her to her office, I realised I was tense and had my arms crossed. You briefly popped into my head ringing a metaphorical behaviour alarm bell and I uncrossed my arms. It felt kind of unnatural but relaxed me a bit and boosted my confidence. I didn’t want my supervisor to see me as being aggravated, cross or defensive. It was like opening a door and saying “look, I’m at ease, I’m happy, I have nothing to hide, I don’t need to protect myself”. Even if I didn’t exactly feel that way. As it it turned out, she wanted to apologise for being off with me, wipe the slate clean and make sure that I was ok. It’s still a little tense because we’re both over-trying now, being more aware of each other’s feelings, but had I gone into that conversation seeming defensive I don’t think it would have gone anywhere near as smoothly as it did. So, thank you for teaching me about the behavioural arts and drilling these things into my mind. 🙏🏻 After watching your channel for over a year, I’m glad that I’m finally able to start noticing some of these things in real time. Social interactions aren’t always easy for me and the knowledge you impart really helps. Thank you. 🙏🏻🥰

I really love this episode in particular! Normally we only see ‘how to detect lies’ or deception stuffs, improving communication skills from spidey isn’t only refreshing but also educational! Please do these kind of content more!

I simply love everything you put out there. Not being judgemental is something you show in your every video, and come to think of it, I think it's why yours is my favorite youtube channel. You put out so much positivity that it's a pleasure to watch and learn from every single one of your videos, regardless of the topic. You just can't go wrong in choosing a subject!

Tom Holland seems like good folk. I would have never considered practicing these skills on an interview like this but I gotta say, this was so insightful. You’ve some of the best content out there, thank you!

I am a Certified Professional Animal Behaviorist and the author of “the Language of Dogs“ which is a visual encyclopedia of canine body language - as I was watching this video I was struck… Though I shouldn’t be surprised… About how much of the conversation in my seminars sounds exactly like yours just insert human instead of dog! The behaviors like closed mouth and lip licking me similar things in both species for example. The concept of baseline is incredibly important as well as watching for behaviors occurring in clusters not just an individual yawn or head turn for example. It would be fascinating to talk about the comparisons sometime!

My son is a big Tom Holland fan. I'm going to encourage him to watch this video. I think it's good to see the human side of your idols. 😊

as someone trying to stop drinking, it's hard

I didn't think I could like Tom even more than I already do.

Tom strikes me as the type of guy who is always open and receptive and willing to grow and learn and change and be better for himself and for others. I look at him and it makes me feel inspired to do better as well.

I actually don’t think Tom was being judgmental when he said one beer equals trouble, even if his tone was slightly suggestive there. I think he was reminding himself that even one beer can open up a door that is hard to close if you’re suffering from an addiction and it’s better to stay away all together if you’re the type like him to want to keep drinking after saying just one beer.

I loved the positive slant in this analysis! And I absolutely adore Tom Holland. This analysis helped by understand why he seems so authentic and genuine and overall decent guy.

I lost my little brother to alcoholism related issues 5 years ago, so I understand how difficult it is to get free of the influence and accessibility of booze. It's a truly insidious disease, and I'm glad Tom worked on getting free of it before it was too late. A lot of people don't understand how someone so young could struggle so much with alcohol dependence, but believe me, it can happen to anyone of any age, ESPECIALLY if you have a predisposition towards addiction. I really appreciate Tom's willingness to speak out about his struggles, as many people end up suffering in silence.

I think it’s good for society to hear some people don’t drink because they noticed it wasn’t a healthy thing for them. You don’t have to be a raging alcoholic to decide it isn’t for you.

Thank you so much Spidey for your immaculate care in creating the best possible content for us. Since i started watching your videos and learning about body language analysis, i became a lot more aware and focused on understanding body language in all its real life applications . - Now my initial plan going into this interview was to watch it and use it for practice, at first i was focused more on Tom’s facial expression and nervous indicators and noticed the lip compressions but I’ve always seen him do this in interviews so i figured it was just his baseline with variations to how often he does it, he is naturally animated, then I started focusing on watching his body language but interestingly enough very quickly i started to genuinely enjoy listening to the conversation because of how genuine and self aware both Jay and Tom were. - Tom doesn’t seem to be used to using deception as it’s not how he was raised and it doesn’t seem to be a quality he entertains in his human nature, and is a refreshing role model that Hollywood needs to have more off. - I particularly liked the part where he mentioned he likes to look at parts of nature where there’s nothing man made i really relate to this statement as it’s something i myself always like to do to be able to absorb the magnificence of it all in it’s beautiful raw silent form and it’s another indication of how he appreciates peace but also how human interactions and man made objects are not a drive or inspiration for him. Also was interested about him quoting Christian Bale “If you don’t have my number you don’t know me well enough to have a problem with me” this is actually a pretty good lesson to teach others how to create and respect boundaries. As well as an indicator of how anxious he started to become when he’s around the Hollywood scene which probably played a factor in him deciding to stop drinking. i would like to add that this quote generally speaking applies to others and not only to celebrities, it’s just more necessary for individuals with such large following and exposure to create certain boundaries and also Tom pointed out that the version an actor or performer puts out into the world isn’t necessarily who they are in their private lives and so the version people/fans/viewers choose to like or dislike is not the realistic representations of themselves and yet he personally tries to be as authentic as he can be. - Tom is naturally affected by life just like everyone else, he just tries not to let negativity get to him and i think his Self awareness is priority to him which admirable. - Few things that i enjoyed about this interview one of which is that he is proud of choosing projects that helps send a positive energy and message into the world and genuinely believes he can help others with his art so not only choosing based on box office and financial success. - The initially surprising part for me was that he suffered from dyslexia which after a quick thought process makes sense, that dyslexia affected him in more than one way, dare i say even humbled his nature at a younger age and pushed him to think long term and learn from his dad’s experiences. Tom might not have been Clever in school but to me he’s brilliant for choosing to learn the right lessons. - Tom is a family man, related to how he spoke highly of his family i had a very similar childhood and parents who always stuck together no matter what even though they both work in the medical field as doctors and surgeons and even at some point travelled to the depth of the jungle in Zimbabwe and lived there to help people and one another become the best version of themselves and make a future for me their only daughter I was so proud of Tom hearing how much he values family and how he is working to better himself not just for him but for those around him who love and support him. Showed a lot of maturity on his part. - The media outlets help celebs get their fame then fans help keep that fame alive, but this formula can and does get out of hand most the time and ends up creating trauma for those artists and therefore they create distance between them and the public as they grow. Most media outlets use rumors rather than news for their content and again people help fuel it instead of put out those hungry toxic fumes. If people stopped craving celeb gossip and started caring about what’s actually happening in the world those with power will no longer benefit from their exploitations of poorly educated minds and that’s something they can’t allow to happen. - Huge respect for Jay Shetty for creating such safe space for his guests with how genuinely interested he is in what his guests has to say, he also has a humble air about him that i really appreciate as a viewer. Much love Spidey 🙏🏼🌸

Kudos to Tom for speaking freely about his struggles, and great breakdown.

You know, it just feels good. To witness two great guys talk in such an open way and then you appreciate the communication between them, such good vibes all the way. I just appreciate this healthy kind of masculinity, feels so refreshing, beautiful. ❤

For those who haven't seen Infinity War, 10:13 isn't really much of a spoiler. It happens relatively early in the film, and Tony Stark does it so non-chalantly because, in the grand scheme of things, it's really inconsequential.

Spidey on Spidey 🤔

Cutting out alcohol is one of the best changes that you can make in your life! I would drink every day and I felt like I couldn't socialize without alcohol. since I've quit I've noticed a massive improvement in my energy, sleep, mood, & most importantly in my confidence. To anyone that wants to cut back on alcohol I want to tell you that it's easier than you think, you just need to find a reason that aligns with your core values and focus on how it will improve your life.

I'm a therapist and really enjoyed this video. Tom seems like a well adjusted, truly kind person!

This was such a positive, uplifting video while still being incredibly informative. I would love more content like this, although I enjoy everything you do, thank you Spidey! What an incredible young man Tom Holland is and I wish him well for the future.

Im an alcoholic who went from drinking casually in my late teens (i lived in Germany so it was legal) to 2 handles of liquor in a week in my 20s (in america) and now after years of self searching, ive got it down to about 2 drinks with dinner. Idk if i can completely stop

I have so much respect for Tom Holland. He isn't perfect but he is open about his flaws and I've never seen any examples of him being judgmental or mean to anyone ever.

Spidey, you're almost at 1 million subscribers! yayyy 🥳🥳🥳