Body shaming. Acne shaming. Work shaming. Filipino culture is all about shaming! Even when I was riding on a jeepney, I heard a middle aged woman made a remark "tabi anlaki laki ng dadahan hahahaha!" yes you heard it right. Someone who should be more well behaved and a model to the young ones about good manners said that to a stranger.
@@hesdam4935 For real, Filipinos are some of the most jealous people. My family are so competitive and always have to be better than the other, I can't stand it why can't we just be happy for each others successes?
One time, my mom was face timing my cousins in the Philippines. She handed me the phone to say hi to them and the first thing they said to me was "you're too fat". I tried to pass it off jokingly but it did get to me. Another one is with my little brother. He was big kid growing up so at parties my older cousins would always joke about his weight every time he gets food. Couple years ago I noticed he doesn't eat food during our family parties, I asked him about it and he said "it's because they used to make fun of me". Smh.
The first time I talked to my long lost sister when I opened the camera she said "anong nangyari sa mukha mo? Bakit ganyan? Para kang si ante choochoo noon anlalaki ng pimples nya antaba pa, alam mo sa ating magkakapatid ikaw lang ganyan". How do you like that? 🙄 She seems more excited to meet my pimples. Even more annoying is some pabida relative, especially an old one, suddenly gives an unsolicited half cooked advice "don't eat fatty foods you will get fatter", like wow, what a new discovery! Lol
Sorry i’m late but i hate how some filipinos family including mine always talk and make fun about weight and skin color or generally face features and body types.
As a guy growing up my Mom always compared me and made fun of me saying “if only your white you will look more handsome” if only you had a high bridge nose you will look more handsome” and that started my insecurities
@@paoloarnibal2303 Same palaging kami kincompare ng kapatid ko because magkaiba kmi ng skin color. One time, pumunta kami sa mga relatives ko (in my mother's side) at inapproach kami ng babae . Sinabihan niya ako na "Ang puti mo at maganda ka talaga" pero sinabi niya sa brother ko ay "Gwapo mo talaga pero maitim ka." It just make my blood boil😤.
When you see a family member, they never ask how you're doing; instead, they always start a discussion by saying, "You've gained some weight."And as a result, I constantly check myself in the mirror after eating because I'm terrified of gaining weight.
this video reminds me of something Lizzo said: that these comments that are critical of our physical appearance are like 1 mosquito bite. it's just a sting, something small. but over time they do add up and can really hurt us. thanks again One Down for another insightful video!!
Nope! When a person says "You gain weight" that doesn't mean they are humiliating you... it can also mean a positive thing... it's just now that people get so over sensitive that they react on this things 🤣 and when someone said "you should lose weight" that doesn't also mean they want you to look beautiful it means that you don't look healthy and we all know that obesity is not healthy.
Yes, this video is crucial for us to understand that not everyone is fine if we make comments about how their bodies look, and that body shaming is unacceptable. I hope this video serves as a wake-up call for people who consistently shaming people even when they didn't mean to.
Good for you that you’re independent, but unfortunately not everyone can be like you. Some people really want to be part of something, unfortunately they’re joining with the toxic folks.
I'm sharing this with Everyone! I'm loving the videos, please keep them coming! Thank you for shining a light on Filipino issues and sharing knowledge about our culture. I feel seen and I feel heard. 📣🙌🇵🇭❤
Thank you for sharing this. I was so anxious to go to our family reunion today because I know my relatives will make fun of the weight I gained this holiday. Huhuhu.
Criticizing someone and expecting them to appreciate it as a form of love is very unsympathetic. A true caring person would think first and assess the effects of his/her words before saying it out hence, I definitely agree with this video. Furthermore, “normalized” action does not equate to being ethically appropriate. Being done by the majority of the society does not mean that it is the good thing. It is so easy to be just swayed by what is common, but it is our moral responsibility to stand up for what is right. We should be aware on what words are appropriate to tell other people considering their current situation and personal circumstances. Also, criticizing other people and being judgmental are projections of your own insecurities and lack of fulfillment in life. Hence, always be mindful of your thoughts and to always show respect to anyone. “Is losing weight key to acceptance?” ,“Do I not deserve to be complimented?”, “Am I not doing enough?”, these are questions that arise when someone receives a lot of comments about her body shape or weight. He/she would question his/her self-worth because those words are hurtful in nature no matter how good the intentions may be. Imagine being forced to wear layers of clothing where each garment corresponds to a single comment. The more layers it become, the more suffocated you’ll be. This is just like how cumulative opinions affect an individual. It makes the person feel suffocated on the things he/she needs to qualify or fix. As a result, he/she would feel mentally exhausted and could even acquire psychological health problems. It is a fact that we can’t change other people’s perspective to us, but it doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t do anything. If we just let them do it continuously, the cycle wouldn’t stop and most probably they would also do it to other person hence more victims of body shaming. Thus, in order to minimize the victims at the same time eliminate the toxic body shaming trait, we must have the courage to tell them the truth about body shaming and how it negatively affects a person. Instead of giving out our personal thoughts on other people about their weight or body shape, we should opt to giving out compliments. Telling them their strengths, good personality and other positive things. In this way, we do not just avoid body shaming, but we also spread good vibes and help them build their self-confidence. #BodyShamingEndsWithUs
Very well said. The Psychological, emotional trauma that victims of Body Shaming is like a deep wound that never heals! We need to draw a boundaries, respect to one another.
This is so true and I hate it. I used to struggle with an eating disorder and would binge eat every night until I got to my heaviest weight. And one day my mom's friend who we haven't seen for a month came to visit, and the first thing she said after seeing me was "tumaba ka" then she would constantly question my mom on why/how I got fat, I felt like crying... that is the WORST thing you could ever say to someone with an eating disorder, and it just triggers them into binging and starving themselves more. But luckily I got out of that mindset and am now binge free for who knows how long, I'm now fueling myself right and slowly losing the extra weight without restricting.
Well body shaming ,just like what we heart from this video, its the action or practice or humiliating someone by making mocking or critical comments about thier body shape or size Pilipino often perpetuate this idea that to be beautiful is to be the size too, they dont think that not all lightweight is good cause sometimes they force thier self not to eat just to maintain lightweight, ,but stil reinforces this idea that skinnier is beautiful Iwhat can i also say is that please people around the world , let's stop body shaming cause we dont know how those words hurts someone , ,stop saying "you become more fat ,you not goodlooking anymore" "you become more thicker" "hey pig" please stop saying those words as a joke cause jokes suppose tobe funny not offensive and cant cause anypain, stop toxic attitude , stop body shamming, start to love and appreciate. Each other.❤️
Good content. The fact that this form of body shaming has persisted for so long around the world is heartbreaking. I'm hoping that talking about this subject will be widely spread.
I have been told I was too thin because of cheekbones. Sometimes I’ve been told I’ve been gaining weight. I experience this usually in family gatherings. Sometimes I let it pass and sometimes I answer back. I remind myself that some people are not worth draining your energy for.
Omg I didn’t know others were also body shamed when they were younger, I’m half Filipino and was born and raised in America so I just thought my was mean and had a horrible sense of humor. I always took it to heart, I want to seek therapy, in fact I’ve asked for therapy but no one‘s gonna believe their 13-year-old daughter when they say “you’ve been body shaming me for years you think that wouldn’t have any affect” I also have other reasons that also have to do with my childhood but again no one’s gonna trust 13-year-old do you know how they feel
The fact that you can recognize that this is wrong behavior shows a lot of calm and maturity. I am sorry to hear that your family can't understand. Are there others from whom you can get support and understanding on this issue? A trusted counselor, etc.?
That is true. Unfortunately, it had become normal in our culture. I am one who'd been body shamed by my relatives for being dark and short then when I became fat, for being fat.
my parents are always bodyshaming me, and it hurts. one time one of my sisters said “you eat everything you see” which was supposed to be a joke but wasn’t funny. i’m always hearing” you’re eating again?” “you’re the size of an elephant” “go on a diet” my dad compared me to a 7 year old before, and said that i couldn’t swim because i was too big & the 7 year old is learning faster than me because she’s skinny. but he didn’t say things like that to my older sister who can’t swim either? (by the way, i eat healthy and drink plenty of water. i run and exercise when i can.)
My co workmate today body shamed me saying "You are too thin, terrible and you need to eat a lot to gain weight or s*x or get married to do so". Those are some vulgar words that almost makes me had a heart attack. If only he knew that it hurts so much that it shatters my heart and that I cried all the way home.
Thank you for sharing! I am glad that your channel is open to addressing this topic. It is saddening that most people take body shaming as a joke, and it’s not a big deal to be sensitive about. Unknowingly, it affects others more than the “joke” had meant to. How it greatly impacts one’s emotional and mental health is crucial. It is unavoidable for society to take our sizes as “too thin” or “too thick”. On the brighter side, we can support loving our bodies by encouraging a positive outlook on our own, and understanding that there is an existing variation of body types. For me, as long as you are feeling healthy, proud of your shape, and kind, that’s what is “sexy”!
Good content. The fact that this form of body shaming has persisted for so long around the world is heartbreaking. I'm hoping that talking about this subject will be widely spread.
Body shamming is an issue that is very controversial. Giving a comment about a person's body weight or size is humiliating. It is a big pressure on their end and it can make them feel bad about themselves. It can lower a persons self-esteem. Body shaming is also considered discrimination it can lead to stress especially among teenagers.
people often give comments on my body size and whenever I feel kinda offended by their brutal words they would easily tell how sensitive I am. Also, during gatherings I could sense my relatives looking at me while silently criticizing my physical appearance in their minds🙃 and some "titas" would make jokes that aren't really funny but are actually offensive most of the times. Really this kind of toxicity in our "culture" must put into end. and by saying this, I'll let these "titas" watch this vid by sharing this in fb😆
I absolutely love this video. When I would to come home for the holidays in college I would be greeted by my aunties some years as “oh hi Valerie you lost weight, now eat. You can leave the dining table when you can’t fit out the door” and other years as “oh Hi Valerie.... *long pause*. “ I 100000% agree that it must stop with our generation and not to body shame our younger generations Thank you for this video
I still struggle with the concept of self-acceptance generally, and not just about weight. It sometimes feels like giving up on self-improvement. And if people tell me I'm fine the way I am, it feels like an insult to my ability to change/improve. But your point that we can make the chain of hurt stop, also for future generations, is well-taken. Love doesn't have to be about carving ourselves or others into a cookie-cutter shape.
In the past, it was a compliment, “Tumaba ka,” said with a loving smile, followed by a hug. Now, when over 50% of Filipinos are overweight ( easy and affordable access to fast foods in cities and towns in the Philippines) and how most Filipino Americans are overweight, and I am one of them, it’s a health issue for the Fil Am communities in the US and in the Philippines. We need to increase this awareness. My family is eating more vegetables and fruits, less meat, and drink plain water - back to my old way of eating in the Philippines.
Thank you so much for bringing out content that provides value ! Hopefully the fixed mindset and the toxicity in our culture vanishes in the future, also im living in Germany being a lil white washed is difficult for me to understand both worlds and also I always wanted to find a channel like this about my country and finally succeed ! ✧ more power !
I read some book, Verbal Aikido... applied it and I def remember I answered my tita when she told me "uy tumataba ka na naman" with "Oo,naman, basta't may love life na okay, tumataba ka talaga sa pagmamahal"... well, I knew, things were rough with her and my tito then... Mean but NEVER did she comment about my weight or smoking ever again LOL!
i can see this trait in like immediate family sometimes, but in my extended family it's never like that at least. whenever everyone would come around, especially as us kids in the family got older.. none of my aunt's, uncle's or cousins said anything about our appearance, if anything, we were all encouraged to put more pancit and lechon on our plates! but I've definitely heard hints of body commentary attitudes from back in the day and how it was more normal to joke about. But since everyone on my dad's side came to the US I feel like they changed on this topic.
Very interesting and informative video! I totally agree we can change our reaction when our family body shaming us. And we need to break the cycle and body shaming ends with us!!
It’s not just Filipinos. I’m Cuban and my family thinks it’s “just part of the culture too”. The commonality in all of these cultures that do this is that they’ve been colonized and brainwashed into Eurocentric beauty standards. It’s very sad. 😢
Everyone should 'say No to Body Shaming, some people can relate to this video, and I know that many of us experienced it. Be nice to everyone and don't judge them by their appearance. you can’t judge people by their looks because you don’t know what people going through. Why don't we just support each other and be the reason for other people's confidence
Sometimes it becomes bullying because they do the shaming as a group.. and you cannot throw the question back at them because then they will say that you are disrespectful.. shaming applies to the person only.. not to the person/s who are shaming the fat one..
pag napunta ung mga tito saka tita ko sa bahay.. lagi nila sinasabi na "tumataba ako" o "ang laki-laki mo na".. ganun din sa mga pinsan ko.. medyo may kalakihan kasi kami dito sa pamilya namin.. madaming malalakas kumain eh.. pero pag ako sinabihan ng ganun.. ewan ko.. di naman ako na-ooffend o kahit ung mga pinsan ko.. para saken pag nagtatanong sila ng ganun parang sign yun na nag-aalala sila sa kalusugan ko.. na hinay-hinay lang sa pagkain.. na dahan-dahan lang sa kanin.. ganun din kami sa mga tito o tita namin.. magsasabi rin kami ng ganun.. usually pag sinabihan ako ng "tumataba" ako.. sasabihin ko na.. "eh masarap kumain tita eh" na may kasamang tawa.. hindi ako o kahit sino naman ung na-ooffend.. para saken hindi siya pagpapahiya dito.. kadalasan nag-aalala lang sila.. hindi ibig sabihin ni-nonormalize nito ang body shaming.. kasi hindi naman ganun ka aware ang mga Pinoy dito kung ano ung salitang "body shaming" madalas kasi biro lang yun.. saka mataba naman kasi talaga ako eh.. :)
Mga issue lang ito ng mga FILAMs masyado silang influensa sa lugar nila, kaya nagkakaron ng topak. Pinapalaki nila ang isang issue isa pa dito ang paggamit ng FILIPNX which is bulls*t
I went to a family gathering and my lola said “im worried about you because you’re kinda chubby and you might be like your mom” i quickly ran to another room and cried no one knew except my sister who actually doesn’t know why i was crying. Can someone give me advice on how i should respond to situations like this??
Me too! My relatives here would call out for me being thin and my face being too shallow, my eyes being dark, my hair being too long that I look to old like what can you just mind your own businesses. lmao sigh.
I’m not really in the overweight nor the underweight category, but I still have body image issues because I feel like there is an imbalance in my proportions and have worked hard for it despite having the average weight. And whenever someone in my relatives tell me that I gained weight, I feel like my hardwork is not enough to improve myself and thus, make me feel crappier than I already am. So my response to this is that I just don’t say anything and give them the unpleasant look that says “hey, I am not comfortable at anyone commenting about my weight” without coming across as arrogant but rather upset
talk to yourself and find out why it bothers you when it shouldn't. Yung lola mo kasi iba yung standards ng health and beauty nila sa time nila so you should consider where the mentality comes from. A lot of hardships in life is still on your way and these things you should be able to deal with. Remember, problems like these will never go away, we just need to toughen up sometimes
Im experiencing this now :((( my mom wont stop bringing up my weight to the point she shared it to my aunties and lola, i hate it, but my friends say i look ok, it hurts so bad
because they trying to help u and build better eating habits, be active and diet while you still can before its harder at older ages. lol cut the rice in half every meal or so and get moving baby
ooof, the toxicity is still very much there. The older generation are so outdated and refuse to change even to their detriment, the younger generation tend to be too much of a strawberry at times who need to toughen up as well. A good balance is needed. Funny how the 'ikaw din, taba taba mo na' reply was actually in my head the entire time. And I would still say it back, I'm petty like that.
I'm a white guy married to a Filipina. Whenever I meet Filipino friends or family that I haven't seen in a while, they always tell me how fat I've gotten. White people often say some false pleasantries, like that I look 'healthy', and I hate that. Me being fat is the elephant in the room, I know I'm fat. I respect the brutal honesty of Filipinos.
Thank you. Oh my God. I am a Filipino and watching this video makes me feel judged as a true blue Filipino. We sometimes say things as it is. When we see a friend who has been to the beach/vacation, we say his/her complexion darkened. We are not saying it to destroy his/her self. We are simply referring from an observation in the past vs the current. It hurts me when "Filipinos" who grew up in other countries label us "FILIPINOS" so many things just because we don't align with their foreign Filipino culture.
When i was younger, i was often being called fat in our family. But older me looking back at younger me pictures i would say "Omg she is soo gorgeous yet has low self esteem, she is not actually fat, just a natural medium sized body." I wished i had the confidence then of what I have now, and just enjoy life more not being ashamed of who i am.
Having a sexy and beautiful body is the standard that Filipinos set but nowadays the phrase or sayings “Chubby is the new sexy” is widely used right now in every social media platform. These days we should empower everyone no matter what our body type, we should be an example to each and every one.
It's a great trait. We use to have it in America and stopped. Now we are the most overweight nation in the world and there is nothing good to look at anymore.
i dont know what to feel rn. ganitong-ganito pamilya ko, lagi nila sinasabing mataba ako so nagstruggle ako to lose weight dumating pa sa point na hindi na talaga ako kumakain. nasanay na ako na hindi kumain like sumasakit ang tiyan sa gutom. pumayat naman ako and hoping na hindi na ulit nila ako mapupuna pero mukha ko naman ang pinansin. kesyo andami ko raw pimples haha ang sakit lang kasi sa kanila kopa naririnig yung mga ganung bagay. hindi tumigil ang pamilya ko sa ganong habit, ang lagi akong husgahan kaya kalaunan nasanay narin ako. pero masakit parin talaga no? ngayong quarantine tumaba na naman ako, ito yung dahilan kaya ako walang confidence. kung sino pa yung taong malapit sayo siya pa talaga yung nagagawa kang saktan ng sobra. nagpapasalamat nalang ako dahil nagagawa kong pigilan madepress.
same mataba ako dati noong walang pang quarantine at lagi sinasabi sakin “taba taba mo” pero hindi naman ako mataba masyado then when quarantine came sobrang tumaba ako and that’s when i felt like “tinawag ako ng mataba dati but i was not” and i look back at my old photos and realize i wasn’t even that fat and i remember being so insecure at that time.. pag lagi narinig mo na ang taba mo o ang panget mo the more so you will think of it 😢
To address question about body shaming being a toxic trait amongst the Filipino community or if other cultures do it too, unfortunately….other cultures do it too and just as bad if not worse. Case in point…the Caribbean community. Where do I start…there’s not one name my Dad hasn’t called me over the years to insult my weight. In front of family, my friends, my parent’s friends, strangers….no occasion was off limits. One time at a dinner party my parents had at our house, one of their friends was asking me why I didn’t have a bf yet as I was 19 at the time, in university and, according to her, very pretty. My Dad, overhearing our convo, pipes up and says, “Who told u she wants a bf? U think any man in his right mind would want her looking like that?!?!??” I’ll never forget the deafening silence that fell across the room of 15 guests only to be broken by my father’s incessant chuckling. Immediately their friends began to scold my Dad for what he said and though I appreciated their efforts my embarrassment was palpable. I left the room under the rouse of getting my mother a serving spoon and spent the remainder of the evening by myself in the kitchen watching tv. And though I don’t agree with embarrassing, shaming or hurting someone’s feelings, I do feel that obesity is a problem in North America that has rapidly gotten out of control due to society constantly praising obese individuals and criticizing people who try to bring awareness to the issue and myriad of health problems obesity causes not to mention the billions of dollars it costs the government and insurance companies each year to care for these individuals. Something definitely needs to be done to address this problem but what exactly it is/they are that needs to be done and how to do it/them in the least offensive way possible is a slippery slope.
We were at a Filipino family gathering and my wife was body shamed twice. We decided to never be around them again. We don’t need to subject ourselves to any abuse from anyone, not even family.
I can’t stan this kind of toxicity,a lot of filipino have a high standards even if its about educational background and body. Here in Philippines if you’re fat they keep saying “ang taba mo!buntis kaba?” And also if you’re thin “ang payat mo,may sakit kaba” that’s are some examples of their lines everytime they’re trying to shame the body of other people.Living in this toxic environment is not easy for me they keep mocking about the appearance of others while they don’t even know what is the reason why that person is fat or thin. If you’re plus size here in Philippines you don’t have the rights to wear croptops,shorts and swimsuit they keep saying “you’re too fat to wear that kind of clothes”. Shout out to those Filipino Citizens that keep shamming other people. Can you please wake up!! It’s already 2022.. Being plus size and thin size is normal, you don’t need to listen to those people dragging you down! No matter how your body type is speak yourself!!
I'm really one of those who experienced body shaming. Every time people saw me they always say "Ang payat payat mo, parang hindi kana kumakain". That makes me shyer and lack of confidence because of my shape. This kind of culture must stop. Because every word that comes out of our mouths can ruin or benefit one persons life. It depends on what you say.
Lalo na yung mga tita at yung mga lola diyan. Kada may family gathering, sinasabihan akong mataba. Pero bakit kung Pasko wala daw diet diet at kain lang daw? Hay nako naman.
Is Chinese culture too. I like it in some way and hated it in another way. I like it when my mom or family commented on my weight, I see it as an alarm to lose weight but if it is about my skin color or my face features, that hurts because there’s nothing I can do about it. 😢
All the Filipino girls in school used to make fun of me for being too skinny in school, even their Moms would make rude comments about it. Now they all have weight problems. You would think with all the nasty rude shit they said to me growing up that being fat is beautiful in their country.
Just sharing, I used to be really skinny,, like stick skinny and got called out being skinny then i really work my way to gain weight i did everything to gain weight until i really gained weight...I was so happy at first being called fat or "tumaba ka na ah" but as time goes by, it kinda hurts me now,, being called fat... I'm 70kg,5'9, 19y/o male...seems fairly an average weight based on BMI right? Now I'm struggling to lose weight 😣 and shit affecting my mental health
I just don’t get why they like chubby kids because they’re cute and “healthy” but when they grow up and still have on weight now we’re fat 🤦🏽♀️ like you made me this way
the reason why filipinos are known to be the most kindest and hospitable people is because they’re truthful. sometimes the truth hurts , so don’t be soft about it. everyone should understand that. personally i think that this video is an exaggeration. when it comes to family, it’s fine because you know that they’ll love you no matter what, so i don’t understand how it could be ‘hurtful’. however, a stranger body shaming is completely different and is definitively wrong. this is just my opinion . i have always grown up not taking things too seriously and will always respond optimistically.
Love this perspective, and there is a lot of truth to it - not all of our family members are actually trying to hurt us! The way we look at it is - Intention VS Impact. The intention wasn't bad, but how did it impact the person receiving the comment? By the comments on this video, a lot of people are actually bothered by some of the comments family members make on their bodies. So while you don't take these seriously - and we're really happy to hear so - for others, that may not be the case. And their experience is equally valid.
That's True, There's many Filipino Experiencing the body shaming that they can interfere with self image and make feel extremely self conscious. It can cause depression, eating disorders, reduced self-esteem, and an increased risk of various other mental and physical problems. And Yes, I am one of those who experienced it but somehow I guess I can handle my mental health not to listening to them. filipino culture is somewhat quite toxicity. Sometimes the joke is not funny for other people and they take it seriously.
I believe body shaming is an Asian thing. I've lived in Indonesia, Malaysia,Singapore and Philippines and currently married to a Malaysian-Indian. I gained weight after my wedding and people are commenting about it everywhere.
The fact that Filipinos care mostly about being “handsome” or “beautiful and sexy” instead of changing the mindset shows how our country is so superficial. As somebody who’s from Europe we have a different mindset. We know the boundaries we need to have in order to respect others. They expect you to respect them because they’re older than you but they don’t know how to respect you lol
I will say that there definitely are some very judgmental Filipinos. However, as someone who grew up in the Philippines, it is considered rude to confront someone on their looks in a derogatory way if you do not know the person and most won’t stand for it. However, I feel like this issue is much more centered on the family dynamic. From my experience and many of my colleagues, “shaming” or “teasing” someone in your family and group of friends is natural. I think the general mentality of Filipinos is that there is no space to be vain and insecure when your around people you love. So generally we do roast each other because we are comfortable with each other. I’ve even commented on my Titos and titas just as they do to me. But it’s all in good spirits. Now that I’ve lived in the United States, I see this problem to be much more prevalent in my Fil-Am friends. Despite this so called “Filipino beauty standard”, I find that Americans in general are much more vain and take these types of comments much more personally. I find it interesting that America generally are much more progressive yet they are much more particular with political correctness which is a bizarre combination. I don’t know, maybe it’s just my experience, but roasting each other is part of the Filipino group dynamic.
noodlehoppa not saying it’s okay to be judgemental but what I think it ultimately comes down to is the type of relationship you have with your family. I just happen to be real close to my family and have no insecurities with each other. That’s not to say that you should just take crap from anybody. You could confront them if you feel like you’re being attacked on a personal level. Sometimes I feel like there are definitely some titos and titas that think they closer to you than they actually are that they could have that kind of banter with, but that’s something you could confront them with.
Found your videos everywhere on my recommend page while my dad recently name-calling me "Lechon" and it not funny because he didn't know what does 'bodyshame' is and for a while he kept judging me and my brother's looks. If i was older than my father, i could just bodyshame him although he does that to me. Speaking of my looks and my body shape, All he wanted was just attention and he thought that it was funny and it's NOT. As an filipino, it's not normal.
Body shaming has been destroying many people's way of life In the Philippines for more than a decade or longer. It's already at its worst and It needs to be stopped before many more people continue to use it on fellow citizens and become victims of it.
best friends of mine used to call me fat... I didn't know how to react so I just kept silent. I let it be, simply because they are just comfortable in saying things like that because we are like a family, like we all got each other's back however it's affecting me when I'm in my lows. Their jokes or passive aggressive remarks kept on repeating in my head. What should I do? Should I tell them? But they might say that I'm oversensitive which they actually do whenever I try to open up about it.
I view this differently. I grew up in a tough environment. A healthy dose of hardship is good. As the saying goes, diamonds are made under pressure. Without challenges, one becomes weak. Like the newer generation that has been handed all the comforts and convenience, they unknowingly play the victim card. Don't get me wrong, body shaming is awful. But in other occasions it's just a joke. Counter some witty sarcastic remarks and you may become the light of the party. I've had a chubby classmate in college where he is quite popular. Witty and funny were his tools to sweep girls off their feet. 😂
