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i have ‘Quiet’ BPD, but I’m an introvert. So I am super empathic around people and don’t want to be mean. I usually internalize stuff and it’s pretty emotionally painful
@@nealkelly9757No buddy, a lot of those people are emotional unstable narcissists that slip through the cracks of psychiatry. If everyone's intentions and inner feelings were made obvious at once, you'd be surprised as to how many people just absolutely do not resemble the more apparent symptoms of BPD but behind closed doors and alone cry and torment themselves for hours. A lot of the people we call spineless people pleasers and overly agreeable conformists with no personality are most definitely within the realm of borderline personality disorder. A ton of them are diagnosed as well and just keep it to themselves all day because opening up about it just makes the whole thing worse as people think that it's some sort of sociopathy or something. Your personal experiences don't hold a flame to the relentless effort the psychiatric community is making to understand the entirety of the Cluster B spectrum. If a psychiatrist is pretty damn sure that someone has 'quiet' BPD after a career of dealing with liars and finger pointers, they're probably 100% right.
I have such trouble with empathy sometimes I don’t feel empathetic at all. Like you said you could watch someone die in front of you not feel or do a thing about it. I don’t understand why I feel this way more than my empathetic guilty side
I hope people don’t automatically relate having BPD to being abusive/manipulative. Many of us want the people around us to be happy. I spend a lot of time thinking about how to make another person’s life easier, and I don’t think I am the only one. It’s bad enough that we have to deal with our thoughts and feelings, the last thing we want to do is put them onto someone else.
Same, I do everything I can so my family can relax when they get home. And have everything ready for them in the morning, so it will go smoothly. Why? bc I feel bad all the time that they put up with my crazy arse emotions.
Thanks right, my girl-friend has BPD & she also has a very beautiful heart, she always thinks about how she can make things better for another, she cares about others' happiness all while ignoring her own the majority of the time.
I have been clinically diagnosed with BPD since I was 20. And I'd like to say my personal experiences dealing with this disorder that didn't seem to get touched. One, after having your diagnosis and trying to talk to your family about it. Be prepared to now always feel like people look at you like you're psychotic. Two, no matter how much you can mask your emotional unstability people will find it unfair to eventually have to change their words to not hurt your feelings or trigger you. Three, your life will be constantly trying to explain to people that BPD in the movies is not what it's like to have BPD in real life. People with BPD are not psychotic monsters. Someone with bpd is likely to constantly put their partner through little "tests" to show that their partner still cares about them while they're at their lowest. I'm not saying all of us, but most of us constantly beat ourselves up for making mistakes. Constantly reminding someone with BPD about their mess up will eventually just make them fall apart even more. Most people with BPD don't even know who were are anymore because we've spent so long mirroring everyone's behaviours to keep ourselves love and safe. I have two relatives with confirmed BPD and they have both killed themselves before I was even born. Please check in on your loved ones with bpd try to be empathetic even if they're upset about ridiculous things. Emotional validation is key for loving someone with BPD. And I reiterate again, we are not monsters
Thank you for this comment. My partner is undiagnosed but we are almost certain he has BPD and everything you touched on resonated. I felt that a couple of things were missing from the video (even though the video was well done) so it is super validating to see someone with lived experiences give such a well-articulated and honest take on the disorder. It’s people like you that help people like me support and properly understand the ones we love most.
yeah i try my best but i just want to die ig not telling anyone isn't really trying my best but i'm not gonna do it because i don't wanna cause trouble so i just stuck in a loop of unhappiness getting told by everyone around me that i'm doing amazing or doing shit, either way i cry most nights and hate my life nothing ever changes.
The DSM's list is so unhelpful in conveying the hell that is BPD. "Fear of abandonment" - more like absolute primal terror, like you are dying, just from saying goodbye after a normal day out with friends. "Feelings of emptiness" - more like you are an infinite black hole, totally untethered, ungrounded, you don't exist. I had BPD, unknowingly, most of my life and suffered terribly, begging psychologists for help since my teens, who all missed it. It's hard to put into words the pain of BPD. Diagnosed at 39, never heard of it before that. I'm now 45, 3yrs in remission. Fought very hard for my recovery, but it is possible.
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I’m so sorry you went through so much pain. Having BPD and overcoming it is feeling like your skin is being burned off and learning how to not “feel it” anymore. So incredibly painful. I’m glad you’re still here. Your comment gives me hope to keep trying
I’ve never been properly diagnosed with anything but I’m more than certain I have BPD. My whole life I’ve struggled with anger issues. They’re brought out by you’d never guess it… kindness from those around me. When a loved one is there for me and sympathizes with me I go on full guard mode and push them away with my anger. But my true desire inside is just to trust and to love others and be loved. All I want is love! Once I have a anger outburst I feel guilt and shame. But I know it’ll happen again. So I resort to isolation and limited talking with others. I feel so alone but I’m surrounded by loved ones. I truly feel like a monster… and idk if I’ll ever be the person I want to be. Sometimes I really think not being here would be a blessing for everyone, then I can’t hurt anyone anymore or disappoint them again. But I’m too much of a coward to do anything. So I’ll continue to be alone.
I hope you can fight and pull through it all. I have no advice or anything to say just stay safe and hopefully you'll find happiness and love in your life.
With the right people around you,I’m sure you can very much live a life of happiness and purpose, I dated someone who happens to tick 6/9 of the symptoms, sad that I had to discover this when the relationship had ended, I always wondered why she acted some certain ways and now I only wish she had opened up to me, probably I would have supported her better. For anyone out there who may be going through this please there are people who would love and support you regardless, do not keep it all to yourself, the right people will never use it against you.
I'm feeling the same bro...i've already proven that i have bpd but no one around me knows about bpd they even never heard the name bpd before...i'm struggling with BPD literally alone.
Omg! Me too and i can’t believe im still here! Mental hospital s traumatized me even more. I’m afraid to attempt because its not working for me 10 attempts somehow i get saved its weird!
@@Elegance263mental hospitals are a strange place. The staff and the setup of the places are what make them weird. Not the patients. Even the food, showers and toilets are bizarre. That kind of environment will make you twice as crazy so fast. I went once and made it my mission to never return.
I had NO IDEA until this moment, that people with BPD were even associated with these “angry” traits, because I assumed that all BPD patients were like me: When I’m with other people, I INTERNALIZE EVERYTHING. The more upset I feel, the QUIETER I get… while my pulse rate goes up to as-high-as 150. But since I’m apparently quite empathetic, it also means that other people in pain/having problems are always drawn to me, to talk to/lean on. After many years of this type of situation, I’ve reached a point where any episodes of extreme emotion - inc helping others when they’re leaning on me - causes me to become physically ill/have chronic fatigue for days afterwards.
This isn’t victim mentality, or anything. This is the truth. People with BPD are treated horribly nowadays and toyed with by their partners, they know what hurts you and play games with your mind because it entertains them, there are some sick people out here… you will have your heart broken and ripped apart many many times.
Yeah BPD ppl tend to have harder times recognizing abusive partners or leaving them when the partner does start to act abusive or more abusive We bear the brunt of abusive relationships, we get stuck in them the most… it’s god awful…
The woman I love who has quiet BPD told me that her people are what narcissists attract because quiet BPD people are so easy to abuse by them. I will probably never feel how deep she feels without developing quiet BPD myself first, but it broke my heart hearing the things he did. And yet, eventhough he's out of her life, she still defends him. I think that will take a long time.
@@Leto85it’s a struggle man, my girl had bpd and various other disorders. It’s just a matter of supporting them in every way possible/being as knowledgeable as you can be. I wish you/you guys the best.
I’m struggling to live everyday it gets harder nobody wants to be around me I keep hurting those I love I can’t express my feelings I just get quiet and shut down or frustrated & angry I’m trying my hardest to be a good person but the longer I fight the more tired I become
BPD is intense, and its horrible. I'm so glad to report that through medication, support, therapy, and spirituality I've made a drastic recovery over the course of this year. My life is blessed even where other people might see difficulty. If anyone is out there struggling with BPD or any mental health issue I just want you to know that recovery is possible and that you should stay healthy and alive no matter what
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a lot of people in the comments who have had negative experiences with ppl with bpd seem to think everyone with bpd is the same. when i got diagnosed my therapist told me that there are over 200 different ways to have BPD. please don't generalize and assume every individual with bpd is abusive. this is extremely harmful. my heart goes out to everyone who has had to deal with a abusive friend/or partner. but please don't think people with bpd can't be trusted due to this one in 200+ individuals.
THIS. Thank you. PwBPD have a number (at least five) of the (nine) symptoms as general behavioral patterns, but humans are so incredibly diverse, and our lives look so different, that making such lazy, generalized judgments on so many people based off so very little isn't just logically fallacious: it's dangerous and harmful. Adding to people's complicated burdens, anguish, and unseen life stories with casual, black-and-white comments in the RU-vid comments sections doesn't help cure BPD or the pain it causes: it actually just makes things unnecessarily worse. When one has been hurt by a pwBPD, I urge them to SEEK A THERAPIST. They help with pain more than prowling RU-vid for mentally ill strangers to....uh...I'm not sure what to do exactly. Seek an apology from? Or just bully into feeling their pain. Idk. It's unhealthy for all parties involved.
I don’t really care what harms you. We generalize to keep ourselves safe because many of us have had the same encounters with you freaks of society. People with BPD are always the victim. That’s how you lure us in. Lots of us who went through therapy to recover from abuse those with BPD caused us learn how you psychotic animals work. You won’t fool us with your “it hurts my heart” BS
@@kzbernabeu3674 i think that this part is very overlooked which causes people with and without bpd to have a very negative image of the disorder. for us with bpd this is extremely harmful and "proves" our negative and dangerous thoughts about ourselves. which ultimately can lead to self harm/self destructive behavior and even death. i also wholeheartedly agree that people who have been harmed by individuals with bpd should seek therapy instead of commenting on these types of videos for "reassurance"., which cause both harm to themselves, but especially to individuals with bpd who read these comments and get their suicidal thoughts reaffirmed. also excuse my grammar im pretty tired rn haha
@archiveschannel8818 As someone who has been told they most likely have bpd, this comment and replies is something I hope everyone reads. Just because some people with bpd are abusive doesn't mean that everyone with bpd is like that. I struggle reading replies of people who have dealt with abusive people who have bpd, because it makes me worry extra hard that I may be abusive or manipulative without knowing (even though nothing indicates that in my relationships), and when I split on people I tend to isolate myself and let them know that I'm having what I call a "bpd moment" or a "bpd situation" and that if I'm not talking, it's because I am doing self care and will talk more when I am in a better state to do so.
I understand though, especially if a person grew up with a parent with BPD and for them it was emotionally traumatizing. That's trauma from a very young age and it's hard to see it as anything but a situation they want to avoid later in life due to how that made them feel as a child. I agree with you though, no two people with BPD are the same. My ex showed alot of signs of BPD, bipolar disorder and was a malignant narcissist (I'm not a therapist, just waa desperate to look into and understand what things he struggled with. All of it, I could accept ...except the NPD). I've had several friends and close people to me that struggled with their own battles with BPD and they were some of the most deeply caring, empathic, most beautiful souls I've ever known. Everyone with kindness in their hearts deserves a chance
Keeping a job is difficult man.. I tend to cycle jobs. Couple months here then there. Lowest paying trash jobs and then just keel to myself. But sooner or later I start seeing ghosts everywhere and make a fool out of myself and leave after calling in sick more and more and then one day I stop showing up. Honestly being homeless has been a more calm experience dor me then normal life.
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I was hospitalized for six days at a psych ward. I now am being diagnosed BPD, very happy to be aware and get help. I check off all the boxes in the video I see lol guess the doctors aren’t wrong …
@@mannysilver211 depends what you are there for. I was on lock down, held on a formal 30, which means i could be kept for at least two weeks, if needed. I had 20 minutes outside time, either than that, I was in my cell. Bed. toilet, and that’s it. People are held there for murder, rape, violent crimes. Others, just there too volunteer them selves so they can get better. It all depends
@@tysheppard3979 Sounds relatively tame compared to what my mother told me when I was younger, but I highly doubt she's ever actually been to one.I think you can guess what she said about it, the stereotypical injections and strap jackets.It's good to know that none of that is actually true, not that I'd want to end up there myself mind you but still I find this to be insightful.(sorry I tend to ramble sometimes.)Thanks for sharing.
@@mannysilver211 no worries man. There still is straight jackets, restraints, and injections. I barely remember my stay because I was SO medicated, hallucinating at some points. So it’s still pretty rough, I wouldn’t really consider it tame, murders happen, assaults, it can be tough.
@@mannysilver211 been hospitalized multiple times in different hospitals. There were special rooms set up for patients that became violent or hysterical. In one of the hospitals the other patients could see into the room, in it was nothing but a gurney with restraints. Saw a guy get tackled after throwing a fit, they dragged him off to that room, strapped him to the bed and shot him up with some kind of tranquilizer. Patient rooms were like motel rooms with hospital beds, cordless window blinds, no tvs, special shower curtains that hung from the ceiling so a person can't hang themselves.
I have been diagnosed and treated for BPD. It’s one of many diagnoses I have been given. No idea if it was necessarily the “right” one, but the DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) treatment I was able to get was very helpful. If you get a chance to try DBT, take it. (BPD or not) It’s basic behavioral skills that ought to be taught in schools. My bottom line issue is evidently “treatment resistant clinical depression with anxiety disorder”- which sucks but is not hopeless. I have tried many different therapies, all targeted at different symptoms, and sometimes something helps. Yeah, maybe only for a little while but that’s damn well better than nothing. Keep trying. Don’t let yourself isolate- aside from that being a bad thing if you need help, you need to remember that as humans, we are obligatorily social animals- it’s an evolutionary fact that we need to interact with other humans in some way to function properly. (This is also why solitary confinement in prisons qualifies as cruel and unusual punishment). If I had managed to isolate myself from everyone I would not be here now. Keep going. They are coming out with new treatments constantly and fine-tuning older treatments. Please keep trying.
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I have borderlone personality disorder but dont relate to the anger and manipulation. Its definitely harmful when people generalise Some Psychologists have tried to put forward the idea of BPD subtypes, and i relate a lot to 'Quiet BPD' While i dont abuse or have intense anger externally, i've been incredibly angry and abusive towards myself and directed it inwards. Im doing much better now thanks to therapy, but wanted to share this for the people who like to paint everyone with the same brush.
I'm the same. The violence and anger is directed towards myself. I'm in therapy now but it's difficult to change the perception I have of myself after being abused and bullied.
@@msanna4we learn and copy behaviour from our family. Anger is something we got served from someone. Then we serve it to ourselves. Find a way to release anger and give yourself better life. You deserve it.
My brother died from suicide. I believe he had BPD, because the symptoms described in the video are similar to his. He had unstable relationships, he used to view people as extremely good or bad. He had uncontrollable anger, emotional dysregulation and maybe fear of abandonment. He was also too violent towards my mother and seemed like he really hated her, while he used to admire and love my father. He also found it really hard to keep a job and changed his mood too easily. He sometimes took some kind of pills, but never wanted to go to a psychotherapist. I think that's what made the matters even worse....
😢I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing…your story really helped me understand some aspects about a family member of mine who has previously attempted suicide & I do believe he suffers from BPD as well❤
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I got diagnosed when I turned 18 due to my parents and trauma. It can be tough and it’s definitely so deadly. All of a sudden everyone thinks they have mental health issues and want therapy for EVERYTHING when we need it the most. My psychiatrist forgets I exist and I’ve been on the therapy waiting list since 2011. It can be tough, but it can have good sides too! When you really love a song or movie, you realllllyyyyy love it and get to experience positive things more intensely.
I've been diagnosed with EUPD recently after 7 years of my GP saying it was depression and an anxiety disorder. They put me on so many weird medication that did not suit me at all, and the medication actually made Me worse. My new doctor weened me off the medication, reassessed me and explained to me I have EUPD and CPTSD m- she has put me in new medication, and offered some local community theroy sessions and NHS theroy sessions (and yes I do go to all of them) amd this has helped me so much and I feel I can manage my EUPD and CPTSD much better :)
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my mother passed away in 2021 and always thought she was narcisstic, I ended up not speaking to her for 10 years. I scanned her diary which contained her thoughts and feelings into chatGPT and it told me my mother more likely had BPD not narcissism, I had never heard of BPD before and I would guess my mother never did either. but it really explains so much about her now.
i hate having being told i have bpd but i cant be diagnosed because of my age. i hate being seen as a psycho because i cant control the way my brain works. i hate having a personality disorder untreated and pushed to the side because of my age.
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I used to have a friend with BPD. She was very caring and loving towards everyone and especially attached to me. She even told me that she was in no rush to get a boyfriend because she had me by her side as a friend. I guess she became a bit too dependent on me, as one day, she got really mad at me out of the blue and dumped me. I assume that she's still close with a couple of her childhood friends and her two sisters. Sure, she's wonderful and caring towards most people. She just reserved all the BS for me. I guess I was that 'special' person who got the best and the worst of her.
I have been told I was borderline...often want a good explination. Now I know that I am not. Changing my mind or leaving folks I love when they behave badly is what I do. I see nothing bad about this. I just dont stick around folks that are not nice or do terrible things. I do not see why anyone would.
Careful there, "behave badly" can be an objective thing or a subjective view. A lot of people with BPD will split and demonise someone and leave them and perfectly rationalise it for themselves. It doesn't mean the people are objectively behaving that bad.
you are splitting - all or nothing thinking. someone makes a mistake and you throw them out with the garbage. remember you're not perfect and others may view YOU as the toxic problem.
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I have bpd and struggle to find short yet very informal videos to show people and this is definitely my go to now thank you so much and good luck to all who struggle I promise your not alone ♥️
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I grew out of my BPD around 35 years old. and I never thought it would of happened. Bpd is the worse. It was the worse thing ever. Im so happy i grew out it.
How old are you now? BPD cannot be outgrown, it occurs when your brain matures differently than with other people. It gets much better with age, but you cannot "outgrow it", naivity always leads to harder relapses. Then again, I do wish that it never shows symptoms again for you.
@@simonkendra3079 well, I dont feel anything or have any symptoms I did all the years I had bpd. I'm 41 now and I can't even imagine let alone believe I will ever again. Actually I didn't even notice when the bpd left as I just realised one-day I'm not suffering anymore or anything that I used to do when I had pbd few years ago.. I never seeked treatment for it either though I was requested to always.. never seeked help for it because I hated that stuff.. I think what helped me was changing my lifestyle and how I viewed life..and I was the worse of the worse bpd but hid it well mostly.
I believe I am BPD. This is since I started noticing there is something wrong with me as a teenager. I’ve never had problem making friends or getting romantic attention, but I can never maintain a healthy relationship. At some point my anger/inability to control my anger, makes me lash out verbally or I will completely burn the bridge without a word. For a long time I figured this was me just being choosy about who I let in, until I realized it’s a pattern. With every single person in my life. Now the only people I have is my blood family who accepts me how I am and sees past the BPD. I am committed to therapy now and hoping one day I will have the ability to control my anger so I can have healthy conflict resolution. I really do value the people I’m blessed to meet and I wish I could show them that even when there is hardships. Having BPD is like, fighting yourself every fucking day. You can’t trust your own emotions half the time.
I have BPD and my fiancé left me. I wanted to kill myself. I always knew she was gonna leave and would repeat it every day before I met her “everyone leaves” now I’m “better” but my better is just accepting I’ll never meet anyone in life and coming to terms with that I’ll always be alone. I fill my time with friends now and just spending money to buy all the material things I want (I have a good job). My friends ask “when are you gonna start dating again” but they don’t know I’ll never date again.
I understand your pain. I will stay alone also. I can’t bear the pain of losing someone I love ever again. Unfortunately, we have been through things that cause the symptoms of BPD and I don’t think it will ever change,we just get better at coping with the symptoms with time and experience. People who were supposed to provide us with a sense of safety in this world have deeply broken our ability to trust ourselves and others. So sad but true. Best wishes.
Agree - self preservation is the ultimate self love. ❤ I am happy we are all in this together. Reading these comments validate my perspective on never dating again. And bonus! Being emotionally mature means we are not supposed to wrap up our identity in others ANYWAY so we're doing ourselves a favor. People think dating and family life is the end goal, but I think knowing how to be alone and thriving is.
From my experience with a BPD mother, imagine someone who constantly preaches about "teaching you to fish, rather than giving you the fish," but flips out when they see that you're a damn good fisherman.
Wow! I just heard a psychiatrist mention that he thought I may have this, and from everything that you just said, it sounded to me like you were reading straight out of my history!! I’m known for the past 30 years, to have bipolar disorder, seasonal affective disorder, PTSD from childhood abuse of every type, a huge fear of abandonment, overwhelming sense of loss (because we did lose 80% of our home to Hurricane Ida, jobs, 3 immediate family members, our income stability, etc), and I have been the victim of 2 very long-term abuse situations, especially, because I stayed due to my overwhelming need to feel needed, and I stayed in horrible relationships within 3 lifelong narcissists’ as an abuse victim, and I have GAD & PTSD, a low feeling of my self worth, agoraphobia, and body dysmorphic disorder, and wow!! Need I say more ?! I’m only excited, because I’m hoping that since I know what my problem is, then perhaps I can find a free/very low cost cure, because I’ve always been turned down for Medicaid based upon my disability income alone!! So how does recovery begin? What medication fixes it? I do know that I have always felt very deeply concerned about the people around me, and I’ve always been told that I’m overly polite and/or apologetic. Could my bipolar medicines help with this, if they are tweaked a bit? I spent the past 10 years caring for a younger brother in my home who was a paramedic who fell in his home, hit his head, and became a quadriplegic. He is 6’4”/300 lbs, and he had to be turned over in bed every 2 hours and gotten up and placed in his wheelchair and driven to Dr appointments by me constantly, because after my neck and back pain became so severe that I couldn’t bear physically moving any longer after knowing in my mind that both of them were seriously injured and being unable to function hardly, I have spent the past 2.5 years having spine repair surgeries, such as an L4/5 fusion and an L5/S1 laminectomy and then, a C 4/5,5/6,&6/7 fusion, and on November 29, 2023, I’m having that triple fusion removed and having a quadruple fusion done on C 3/4,4/5,5/6,& 6/7 all fused!! They say that it’s all my fault, because I had a previous gastric bypass and hysterectomy, which is causing my crumbling bones and joints, but all of that sounded like me!! Can anyone tell me how to fix this? Thanks in advance! ❤️ I really want to heal from this!
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I mean this could just be trauma which seems to not really be considered when talking about personality disorders. I mean which is annoying because PTSD is literally all of these things. What's also annoying is the BPD is not a billable diagnosis, its more of just a warning to other therapist this person is hard to work with. I think it should be removed from the DSM cause its disregards a persons trauma when in reality working on past trauma has shown to reduce symptoms related to this persons world view or how they may interact with others.
Been diagnosed with BPD and after a year of meds, they said: 'nah, we diagnosed you wrong' and now i have lost my job and friends due to this "mistake"
I am feeling the Domino disorder. Starting from Schizotypal then Borderline. And then right now I'm feeling numbness in my emotions like it's turning me into an anti social person. The only thing that's keeping me on my good side is my superego which is 2 fingers away from falling down.
I dont know if i have it. But yes there are times i feel happy to talk and be around people and the other i become grumpy, angry, sad and silent on my own. I feel like not talking coming out of my bed, seeing people around me, get irritated with every small things. I dont hate anyone it just happens on its own. I am trying to control it cause i know how it feels to be around someone like me. Even tho i try it feels heavy. I just internalise everything sometime its so severe that i feel like I have already spoken with them but in fact its just me talking on my head. I am trying ways to cope with it i really do. My mood just goes so low and so high that i cannot control it. I cannot react when people are sad, i dont it feels like I dont have any emotion and the other time it just comes out but only when I am alone. I really dont vibe with people even when i try to. I shut myself down. I am just close with two three people and other than that i cannot. Its like a never ending empty road. But i want my loved ones to be happy in their lives and i am thankful to few of them that is with me bearing me. All of these feelings are really burdening and you know cant explain it. But yes, we will learn and lets be good to ourselves❤
I was hoping this video would say more about how to deal with somebody who has this. My mom is diagnosed with this and my life is the equivalent of a horror movie. I also have a dad but he thinks its just her being a "women", he even told me ill never have a wife if i cant realize that. Also everytime it happens they both act like nothing just happened, like i didnt just get my daily trauma that they give me. Im an only child so nobody but me is a witness to it and im going to post this because i dont have anybody to talk to about it.
You are in a tough situation. Your dad is an enabler so you have no one to protect you from your mother induced trauma. I hope you can find a support group. Stay strong.
I randomly clicked on this video because it was on my recommend but seeing this made me question if I have bpd myself. I hope not but there were alot of things that I related to which is really concerning.
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I know someone who has at least 6 symptoms but won’t get help or even admit needing help …… I don’t know what to do because being around someone enduring this condition can be hard but also I want to help too, but you can’t help nobody that doesn’t want to help themselves
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I was diagnosed with bpd and bipolar along with a few things like ptsd. I have been married 21 years and I have 2 children who became emotionally stable well rounded adults. I have quiet bpd maybe that helps not destroy those around me. My husband helps me manage my symptoms. There is a light in the darkness you can do it.
my ex girlfriend admitted to my sister that she has BPD; initially, when my sister told me this, I hadn't thought much of it -- but, when my ex cheated on me, and then continuously told me to "seek help" once I broke up with her, it sorta came alarming to me. not sure how that works -- you get caught cheating, and then try to gaslight me for not wanting parts of it. lol. it's weird.
Yeah it sucks , no family left , none of them tried to understand BPD just washed there hands ,, well I'm happier due to this as hard as it was I learnt they just was not worth me stressing trying to be NORMAL so I must don't any more I'm on my meds and happy by myself then I don't have to worry about how I think affecting others
Some of these are C-ptsd symptoms. Severe burnout can seem like something else. Personally, I don't have BPD. I do have autism and cptsd, which people who don't know me, and did not interact with me prior to actual torture, don't understand. I'm normally calm and even-tempered, when I'm not being constantly harassed. No suicidal ideation, no depression. It's mostly psychological and emotional trauma, as well as somatic symptoms from what happened to me.
I'm a doctor, literally spend my whole life so far in studying and treating pt, recently I have so missed of myself being emotionally unavailable all the time n being highly empathetic sometimes , being impulse, seeing things black n white n not as they truly are that is the grey side , I have been through break ups n so many hurtful things , but today I have realised I have bpd , it was very shocking as I think I was dealing simply with anxiety issues . Now , realising this at this stage , I don't know how to deal with it . Though I know I'm strong enough to not to give up easily , let's see
I can't find a source anywhere for any good psychedelics in my area, I suffer some pretty bad depression and i got a chance to try K and man it was a miracle substance, I felt free,the only high or euphoria was from the relief of my vices being released, that's exactly what it did
Mushroom completely turned my life around and my anxiety and panic attack disappeared and my personality changed into a much more generous loving person
I know a person very dear to me who has this. Do you feel ten times as much due to BPD, but your face shows no emotion due to autism? I see that with her.
@@Leto85YUP I have ADHD, Autism OCD, Borderline. It all stems from constant mood changes since being a toddler, & was given adult duties while being abused, if any emotion was shown it was the gateway to excuses to inflict pain... yeah everybody got annoyed with me once I had nothing to really offer physically... & I would've never even thought about doing these things to them... the biggest one yet tho is loneliness. .. but noone deserves me even when I do give doesn't mean much In a couple hours....
I AM 56 AND I HAVE NEVER HAD ANY OF THESE SYMPTOMS, I FEEL SORRY 4 THOSE THAT DO, IT SOUNDS QUITE SERIOUS. ALL THE BEST 4 THOSE WHO HAVE THIS DISORDER.
To mám taky :D Líbí se mi, jak mi Mulač sedm let cpe do života tu bezcennou slapku bez důstojnosti a myslí, že ji konečně udá... Sám má jednu doma a tak si myslí, že je to skvělej nápad :D Je nápaditej pán...
I was diagnosed with bpd the fear of abandonment is real for me it gets so bad to where I would think my therapist will leave because im that unbearable.
I definitely hate my life with this diagnosis. Nobody will ever understand. It’s all good. I won’t be here forever. May his be with us dysfunctional humans.
I have a family member with BPD. I love her but I can't handle her so-called crisis's every single day. She will do impulsive dangerous behaviors like hopping a plane to a far away state and telling no one. She has no money for a room so she calls a family member to pay for a room or she'll sleep at the airport. She thinks every neighbor she has does meth. Our parents have moved her 8 times. Part of it is medication psychosis. So she will sleep in her car all through the winter because she thinks the neighbors are purposely blowing fumes into her apartment. She has been stuck in the snow, countless times we've called Triple AAA. She can't handle loud normal noises like sirens I'm so sad and feel helpless. I can't help her anymore. It's killing me😩🙏💛
Im always wishing I could just be myself. But I feel like I don’t even know who I am. Im struggling to keep going and get better. Ive never had suicidal thoughts before but recently Ive been having episodes of paranoia that make me dread being alive.
So this is why my ex was so damn crazy she had 8 of these in alot of circumstances, an unsafe and unstable home life, im sure it was hereditary, and was emotionally abused, had eating disorders and put me through hell
I don’t have 5 of these yet I was diagnosed with BPD… I kept telling my doctor I doubted it was BPD and was probably DID but he didn’t listen. He just shoved me on some meds that made me ill and never responded again.
im pretty sure i have BPD but my therapist says she doesnt want to diagnose me since the fiagnosis of BPD is normally given to adults and im a minor and im still developing
Is it really fair or ethical to label survinors of abuse who have responded to the abuse in such a way with a "disorder?" Aren't these behaviors really cPTSD?
No, it is not even though the 2 disorders can be co-occurring. The driving force/core content of BPD is different to CPTSD, which is fear of abandonment and severe rejection sensitivity. However, a lot of other symptoms overlap. You are also incorrectly assuming all people with BPD have a chronic abusive or traumatic childhood background but that is incorrect, as research shows it can occur in those without abuse/trauma. The genetic factor is considered to be between 50% and 60%. I, personally, don't relate to a lot of C-PTSD but most definitely to BPD after extensive reading over many years.
I was diagnosed with slight bipolar disorder as a teen but I felt it was bogus because my grandma was always in the room talking to the doctor about our behavior making as if we had problems but she was abusive so we couldn’t really talk to the doctor but he gave me medicine but never took it because I didn’t feel like I needed it and she used that as a way to get money from the state for my siblings by making them take medicine for apparent adhd and they were like zombies and they hated taking it but she forced them a lot of those factors actually were on point with me but I don’t wanna self diagnose I really wanna get help but don’t know how to I literally am typing this whirl not goin to sleep because my mind has been racing about all the negative things I’ve been through and constantly being in toxic relationships romantic or friendly and constantly think about ending my life because I feel so misunderstood and no one cares about me I think I might be on the spectrum as well but again not self diagnosing but my bf called me autistic because I said I was tired of dealing wit narcissistic ppl but sorry for the rant but mental health is a big thing for me because my mother was bipolar and she passed when I was 17 and ever since then I have had multiple unsafe sexual encounters and ended up getting a sti not thinking about my safety because I never thought to protect myself I just wanted to have fun but I’ve come to a realization that my body is more than just a sex toy it’s my temple and should treat it as such I hate that I make realizations like this way to late and I always regret my decisions I always doubt myself and rely on other’s decisions in order to make my own instead of being my own person it’s hard admitting all of this to myself but ik I need help if I want to be a better mother to my son pls ppl if u have the opportunity to get help pls do it can save u in the long run
I got borderline personality disorders in 2022 at age 23 thx my parents give me this disease my life have very mentality breakdown even time at bedtime
Have neighbour diagnosed with bpd. Though I believe she has npd. If only bpd was fear of abandonment. It’s actually close, on the borderline of psychopathy.
oh wow, 10% suicide rate. i’m going to a psycho therapist p, diagnosed with aspergers, s. and “normal” anxiety. i’m still going there though and it’s very difficult to figure things out for me. the main ones i relate to are ADHD, atypical/major depression, BPD and OCD, although the fear of abandonment doesn’t seem too bad for me. even the slightest negative comment just ruins my mood inside, it’s a mix of being upset and mad.
"Deviates strongly from societal expectations" I'm not an idiot. Society has collapsed in the west. If I'm to comply with societal expectations I'd be wearing a dress and taking estrogen pills.
@Hank Moody hope you are joking. Otherwise, you are showing black/white thinking with no massive grey area overlap. That a small minority is what makes up societal norms. All I need to do is step outside to see that is not true, and that there is no 'collapse'.
@@teaburg Society and the west have become a bit of a joke. Some collapse but definitely not in the way Hank is implying... the judgemental, intolerant, hatefulness in society is where the collapse is occurring.
@@teaburg I think they are probably talking about the US with the collapsing economy, marriage rates, nuclear family, birth rates, population, dollar, workforce participation, standing in the world marketplace & stage, education standards, etc, etc, etc... We have whole cities & states failing here.... By every metric the US is not doing well & getting worse & the speed with which it is being accomplished is something I really did not think possible.
This is not a doctors diagnosed. Remember guys these be symptoms of other things. I have some of these symptoms and I don’t have borderline disorder actually, I suffer from PTSD and depression because of my bartered past and jerks I ran into who cheated, physically beat, mentally abused and emotionally manipulated, and was rapped. Sadly most people like me always attract the same kinda person and then leave, but they always somehow make it out to be the other person fault when they have the real problem. Seek, professional opinion.
Kiss my "wrong or not normal" butt. I'm fully aware I don't act like everyone else, but NORMAL people tend to be shallow, idiotic, narcissists who resent you if you don't act like them, or the way they would like you too. It's as if making them slightly uncomfortable just by existing around them gives them the right to make my life unbearable on purpose. I tend to have a little too much empathy from time 2 time, but the real problem seems to be that most people have none at all. ... Cough cough so the answer to your question would be "yes". In my case at least. And you get the rant for free. Sorry about that.
Yes. Very much. I feel like I'm suffocating under my regret, guilt, and shame everyday. Sometimes I pretend that those things never I did never happened or justify them to numb this feeling. I've heard a similar experience from other pwBPD, we tend to avoid accountability be the emotions associated with it are so incredibly intense and painful.
I knew a girl like this and she kinda knew she was having some issue but was incredibly disrespectful and avoidant and I think she only woke up after I got fed up with her treatment after a year and bluntly insulted her. Then all of a sudden she tried to be a sweetheart to someone else and claimed to find a soulmate yet I was the one who was there and figured it out for her
@@humanbeing2519 pretty much :/ It's a horrible cycle of making the same mistake, feeling awful, trying to control ourselves, failing, and the cycle repeats.
Other than extremely rare Steven's Johnson syndrome. I have good luck with Lamictal and they just upped the dose. I will let you know. I have been on the drug along time . The real work is in the therapy and I still have much to do . All the best to all of you.
