BPD Psych Interview | Charlotte & Dr. Diamond 

charlotte!! always rooting for her. love that she is so open to doing these interviews for us to watch.

I find these long-form interviews so helpful. It’s different from an expert describing BPD. Just listening to someone talk about their experience is so relatable.

Really identify with "maintaining my equilibrium by not being in relationships"

Every borderline: you're strong, you're amazing and we do learn new coping skills and we do have success ❤️ Charlotte is paving the way for us

Mad respect, takes a lot of balls to do this! Very admirable.

She is very intense, very self-monitoring, paranoid and full of pain. I am sorry to hear about her struggle. It's very visible how she has this painful self inside that wants to express unexpressed pain, but she (partly) controls that expression. But it constantly spills, even in this interview. It's like, "WTF have I done wrong again??" and then she reacts like she was accused of something and she needs to self-protect again, her adrenaline goes up. I can imagine that she spends about 1000 calories a day on self-monitoring only and adjusting behaviours appropriately, but she doesn't have it fully under control. The "painful self" wants to express itself anytime it can, even in inappropriate situations. It wants others to know about its tremendous pain. Because it was never heard, it never settled. Obviously, even the interviewer here was caught off-guard by some of her reactions, and she had to devise something to save the situation. Please, my comment is not to offend anyone. I've been looking into psychology for over a decade, and I am fascinated by the human brain, so I am just commenting on what I see and perceive. I can be a bit blunt, but in reality, I feel deeply sorry for all people who struggle with mental problems and personality disorders.

The way she is able to foresee an ‘explosion’ and accept the reality of it, is what struck me the most. Having a parent with BPD, I am aware at how that recognition alone speaks volumes about her own progress. It just reaffirms how important therapy is for us all.

Ive seen Charlotte’s past interviews, looking forward to an update on how shes doing ❤

I have BPD, and it’s a hellish way to live. I’ve done DBT and CBT, and I’m better, but relationships are still hard. I see my younger self so much in Charlotte. I hope she can find happiness someday.

Maybe this is my Catholic upbringing talking but if a man starts asking you sex questions without first asking permission, i don't care what qualifications he has, getting up and leaving the room is a perfectly gromulent response.

It may be the BPD in me, but please let Charlotte know that I can see and appreciate the beautiful light that she truly is. ✨️

Charlotte seems so fragile and self aware. What a beautiful soul.

She's so brave and I felt deeply for her, I saw myself in her. I've been alone now 6 years, my last relationship with my daughters father was so bad. don't think I can ever date or trust again. At 51 now I see the patterns and still learning about Personality disorders. Trying to heal my life after a childhood filled with terrible violent abuse. Had to cut contact with my entire family and toxic friends. Not sure who I am and where I'm going in life but I feel more stable alone than in a relationship. They have all been so abusive to me, can't believe that's how my life played out. I need a different ending.

To hear Charlotte describe her experiences is heartbreaking actually. Father passed away, estranged from her mother, and intensely lonely. It’s incredibly brave what she’s doing and I know it’s helping others.

Charlotte, if you are worried you are like your mother, then stop being like her by punishing yourself. The greatest rebellion you can commit against your mother is to learn how to love yourself, and then to do it, unabashedly. When you would dig your nails into your skin when your mother was abusive, that was mirroring behavior. It's hard to learn to love, but I believe in you. Thank you for sharing your story; you're helping people more than you'll ever know. A beautiful act of love for total strangers; you're better than you know, one day I hope you do.

To anyone who feels the same as her; “why would anyone want to be with me,” we want to be with you because you deserve love and we understand you well enough to be patient for you; as long as you always bring this vulnerability and honesty and meet us half way.

Charlotte's greatest strength is her vulnerability, which is probably true for many with BPD/ cPTSD. Charlotte is owning her story and that's where the healing takes place. As Brene Brown states, " You either own your story or it owns you."

Love Charlotte! I'd argue that because she's so sensitive and humble, she'd make a great therapist.

Charlotte, that's not true that no one would want to be with you. You are very self aware and an interesting, lovely, funny person.

I was soooo excited to see another one of these and get an update on Charlotte. I can see so much of me in her. There are a lot of great therapists who have bpd. It can even be an advantage with the amount of empathy a lot of folks with bpd have and that is easily visible from Charlotte. She had me sobbing talking about how she doesn't understand why someone would want to be with her. I feel this about myself too and at the same time realize many reasons someone would want to be with her, she is so kind and self aware. At times, I think being so self aware can feel very daunting but its part of the process of getting better. Charlotte has helped me through these interviews and I know she’s going to help more people in the work she’s getting into.

Charlotte what you’re sharing is helping for other people with BPD and also medical professionals. When you explained your treatment and walking out it’s understandable and I get it. Your reaction was feeling hard on yourself, something I do to but it was reasonable to be upset when you walked out.

Charlotte, you can make a 100% recovery and could make an amazing therapist, deeply help others struggling with the same pathology!

Ive never been able to relate with ANYONE, in person or while I'm obsessively researching this life altering disorder more than i just did with Charlotte. I empathize so much, i felt like it was me sitting in that chair. Thank you Charlotte! I don't feel so alone in the world! We're very much kindred spirits!!❤

I am diagnosed PTSD & can see some of the overlap with BPD. I also had experience with narcissists, resulting in perfectionism & anxiety. Abuse affected me so profoundly, I didn't know what it was at the time, because I thought my life was going so well. That connfusion drove me to getting medical care that harmed me, so I'm disabled and definitely feel like a burden on others. I tend to avoid relationships and prefer groups now until I can feel less of a medical burden. I'm probably more avoidant now because of my disability and how people have exploited that vulnerability in me. I also have no family. They decided I fake or exaggerate my injuries & illness and lie about how disabing it is - and same about the abuse, so it's very hard. I never used to have trust issues until had two abusive relationships & no support from family with my health or medical care or post abuse. I always saw the good in people and myself until all these traumas. My main battle is less with myself than with identifying harmful people & the fear, flashbacks, anxiety, startling, stalking, pain and aversion. It seems PTSD is more an external battle and BPD Is more internal, but there is overlap. PTSD makes you feel so unsafe in the world and question how to cope. Thank you for sharing yourself as a type of case study, it's extremely well done and healing for others with any mental health struggle. I admire your openness to counteract the shame I feel as well with my own circumstances.

A new video from this channel is so appreciated. I run your playlists in my headphones while I clean my house lol. Charlotte is, as usual, my hero. I’d like to thank her for sitting down once more and giving us all another chance to feel so seen through her words and her life.

I have sensory processing sensitivity, and social anxiety. I sense that she has social anxiety as well. I can relate to her anger/rage. Being a kind and empathetic person can cause that rage when the world or people you love don’t see you for who you really are. Growing up or otherwise. There have been times were I thought I had borderline because of my rage. But I don’t align with the other symptoms. From the trauma of my childhood, it make sense that I would have that anger. Especially because you suppress it when you are a empathetic person. I wish her the best ❤

Trying to find a way out of where I've got to and searching out therapy/ BPD stuff to try to find answers/ ideas. I have a long history of mental health problems. Depression, anxiety and BPD. I also have food problems, my main coping strategy is using food. Binge eating disorder. I'm diabetic and have high blood pressure and high cholesterol. Things have been difficult the last year. My dad died in April, after about 10 months of being diagnosed with bowel cancer. my mum had to go into a care home/ hospital as she has dementia and can't look after herself. At the same time I ended a 3 year relationship as my ex is an alcoholic. The relationship had been the first one I've ever been in even though I'm middle aged. She also has BPD and other mental health problems. I knew she was an alcoholic but she'd said she was in recovery. It became clear she wasn't sober, she kept saying her drinking was a one off she wouldn't do it again but it always did As it was my first relationship it was all unknown and quite difficult and I desperately wanted to make it work. We meet in DBT and I was very attracted to her the whole time. With my dad dying and my mum's health getting so bad I couldn't cope any more with my ex's drinking and I ended the relationship. My mum's health is slowly determinating and it's heartbreaking to see her. There's been so much loss and loneliness in my life recently but it's also a long term problem. I've never had many friends and that's still a massive problem. I do q little bit of voluntary work but have been struggling to keep that going. I don't feel safe going out doors and just want to stay in doors all the time. I live in my bedroom most of the time and my two cats sit with me and I wish I could become a cat or they would become human and we could just be here together. My main bad core belief about myself has always been that I'm not good enough for anyone to love me or want to be with me and that seems to have been reinforced through the relationship with my ex. I can't see how anyone would be attracted to me as I'm morbidly obese. I can't stop binge eating. I've got arthritis in my knees and can't move around very well. I seem to have used all the mental health services available on the NHS (I'm in the UK) and can't afford private health care so don't know what to do. I find this channel a while ago and find it so interesting and informative with people's stories. Thank you to the channel and to Charlotte for this video. It's very brave to be so open and allow this to be broadcast. Best wishes Charlotte for your recovery and I hope you and all fellow BPD strugglers find the elusive "life worth living"

I learn so much about BPD from Charlotte, I only found out I had it 2 years ago and it was so eye opening to know why I did so many things over the years! I feel people don't understand how cruel and difficult life is having BPD! Every single morning I have to realign my mind back to reality and its hard but im definitely getting better and understaffing myself more each day

My name is Charlotte, I’ve been diagnosed with borderline and bipolar, they still can’t figure out which one it is. Watching these videos are hard to stomach because I relate a lot to Charlotte. I can hear myself in every single answer she gives, from the easiest of answers, struggling to answer, and feeling frustrated with not knowing how to answer. I hope her and I (and everyone) find peace ❤️

As a fellow Charlotte with Bpd, I am very invested in her journey

CHARLOTTE ,wow ! So brave,so,lovely,so intelligent,great to see her again.

Thank you for creating these videos. One thing that I'm struck by in watching this is the undercurrent of control that seems to permeate the mind of someone with BPD or other personality disorders. Caveat: I was in a long term relationship with someone with either BPD or CPTSD. In order to avoid chaos, charlotte avoids relationships. In order to avoid being triggered, she wants to avoid becoming a therapist herself. In order to avoid anger, she maybe over boundaries her relationships. This need to control surroundings seems like a good short term coping skill, but it seems like it only isolates someone with BPD.

Charlotte I can identify with you so much. If you’re reading this you’re a beautiful, intelligent, deep and empathetic person. You deserve all of the love and I hope you can allow yourself to have it one day. I also have BPD, so I understand how hard it is to see what other people see in us. I hope you’re well, take care of yourself ♥️.

Charlotte, if you read this, you are changing lives for the better through your insight and vulnerability. Your grit and resilience is beyond admirable. You are doing good. Also, you're not alone in your experience. You're different than most but you're not alone. That inner war is something many people don't experience. That intense push and pull when it comes to closer and closer relationships with others is so fucking chaotic and hard. That being said, and please know that I understand this comes off as 'easy for you to say', as much as the rageful parts may explode and do things unaligned with your values in the face of threat from others they are on your side at the deepest level. They are trying to protect you, and i get it, they can hurt others, and you dont like that. But they dont hurt others all the time! Only when you could be in danger! The rest of the time theyre busy scanning for danger without actually doing harm to others. And if they're not ready to trust others getting too close your choice to respect those parts's (i dont know if thats proper english) boundaries and not be with anyone is admirable. Like a mother who's children cannot stand having another step father in the house because all their experiences with dads and step dads were too hard for those kids and they cant trust yet or havent found someone trustworthy. Sometimes it's okay to accept your kids just can't handle the potential of another dangerous person in the house and have it be just you and those kids. And the other side, the the parts that are kind and want to be close to others and to help and be warm to others and are also part of you and have legitmate needs unlike the fears of the protective parts. And their frustrations with the parts that want to keep you safe and away from others is okay too. But you can love them too just like you can love the parts that push others away. As fucking brutal as the parts that push others away to protect you are, they are trying to help. If mom hated you but at the same time you needed mom they will get you to hate yourself to not disappoint mom. To be on her side. Because if your on her side maybe thats your best shot at being safe. Small cuts are safer than abandonment, which is death. Especially if dad in some instances showed concern about your well being when you were hurt. I don't know if any of that makes sense or comes off as hippy bullshit or is actually hippy bullshit. I just resonate with how you describe your experience and have struggled in what seems to me to be in similar ways. Regardless, you are a special human being that is bringing common humanity and empathy to personaility disorders in a world that's dismissive and unempathic towards the struggles of those who experience life like you do. Kudos to you and please keep the world posted on where life takes you next.

So pleased to see this pop-up in my notification. I love hearing about Charlotte’s life I find her fascinating interesting and strong. Wish we had therapists like this in England. I could really have done with one thank you so much for making this and I hope there’s more

I clicked immediately when I saw a new interview with Charlotte!! Love hearing her speak and she provides so much insight. I hope she continues doing these interviews!

As someone with borderline personality disorder, I really appreciate this woman. Showing her full, awkwardly authentic self. It's hard to accept sometimes while still not over identifying with it. I feel seen and I'm rooting for her. 💚

the doctor is so appealing and makes her feel welcome.

Hi Charlotte. Sorry you are struggling with so much stuff. A lot of us out here are and can relate. I think almost all of this emotional turmoil and self-doubt and frustration comes from your childhood. That shit affects us so deeply. I have the same thing. I was diagnosed as borderline a long time ago and kind of gave up on therapy to be honest. I can't find a good therapist and a bad one is worse than nothing as you have touched on here with a couple of examples. Going into the room full of people and being asked about your sex life and other stuff was just abuse. Disgusting. You were totally justified in storming out. If you ever want to chat, I'm here. You've got so much going for you. Trust yourself. Take care.

you don't realize you will can not change your perfect essence-thats what people see in you. You are doing great-rock on Charlotte

Charlotte thank you for sharing parts of yourself

Dr. Diamond is a healing gem. See what I did there?

I was very pleased to see that you had updated a new video on Charlotte's history, which brilliantly and clearly exemplifies the many facets of BPD. What I really appreciate, as a viewer of your videos, is that these narrations of personal feelings and experiences give to the public a deep insight on the "borderline life", much more than some generic videos which talk about the disorder in an often decontextualized way do. You work is the proof that dialoguing on the complexities of our personal histories can bring us to a more comprehensive acknowledgement of the human being, and I really thank you for this.

Charlotte I know you’re reading these comments - you are so beautiful and cute - so sorry this disease has done so much to hurt you. I have it too and everything you said is true - especially about isolation for fear of hurting others - but please PLEASE fight that inner critic! I listen to Daniel Fox - he’s great.

God this is me! I have been single for 14 yrs. Probably will never find anyone to deal with my shit cause I can't even deal with it.

Loved it as a whole. What I would give to have a session with Dr. Diamond.....Charlotte is blessed to have these opportunities!

Both of them - phenomenal women. In a way they help each other and help others to understand how hard it can be living as a human being. I wish them well. Charlotte is truly beautiful at heart. God bless

Frog on an operating table... what a horrible way to feel, and I can certainly imagine why and how she felt that way in her meeting with Kernberg and his grad students. When Charlotte says that she can intentionally pour acid on a loved one's vulnerabilities, that is why people hate borderlines. It's that intentional abuse that is intolerable, and then the pwBPD gets the abandonment they were seeking all along. They created scorched earth scenarios.

it's so wonderful to hear from charlotte - there's absolutely no way our paths would have been able to cross geographically, but now that I've met her via these interviews, I'm so rooting for her. This word gets thrown around so much but charlotte, you're so brave for sharing your journey with us and you have a beautiful soul!

I’m so proud of her♥️she’s come such a long way. She gives me hope✨♥️

Dear Charlotte, thanks a lot for having the courage to be so open about yourself, there is nothing wrong with you, you are a strong human being that is facing her reality with integrity and humbleness (two very rare qualities that you can add to your list and don't forget your courage) 💕. I have identified so much with you. Thank you. And obviously big thanks to Dr. Diamond for her care, compassion and professional approach.

It's very brave of Charlotte to share her story, and great to hear she is looking to help others.

I can't find a source anywhere for any good psychedelics in my area, I suffer some pretty bad depression & Bpd, and i got a chance to try K and man it was a miracle substance, I felt free,the only high or euphoria was from the relief of my vices being released, that's exactly what it did

At some point, these videos should be properly named as "Charlotte interviews Dr. ____"

So happy to see this channel coming back! Great content again ❤

Thank you both for this. It is appreciated. The chairs , the birds (even the annoyed titmouse I hear) is wonderful.

This timing is perfect. I was thinking of Charlotte and how she was doing a few days ago. Thank you for vulnerability! - you’ve helped a lot of people feel understood

You’re doing great work!

i never felt so seen. thank you Charlotte and Dr. Diamond🧡

Love the channel content. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. Thank you to the doc for sharing.

I appreciate Charlotte participating in these interviews so, SO much. My facial expression now looks very similar to hers here; could be what happens when you enter recovery, could be the medication, could be nothing at all.

This is one of the best things I’ve ever seen

7 minutes in, Charlotte comes across as very tense, anxious ( as she claims) and almost as if she's listening to Dr. Diamond only waiting to speak. Instead of listening to hear....interesting....look forward to watching the rest later today. Thank you for adding more content to my favorite BPD info channel. I love all the providers you've shared with us. They're the top tier in working on this mental health challenge. 🙏🏼

I absolutely loved watching this, the therapist’s kindness and thoughtfulness seemed so appreciated by Charlotte. Thank you for boosting my good will levels today!! 🥰

Love this channel so much. Thank you so much for your bravery Charlotte.

very glad to hear you like your therapist!

adding to the chorus but charlotte, thank you for being so incredibly vulnerable to the world. this is no easy feat. i commend you so so much. all the best to you, may you find healing on your journey ❤

This is incredible. I'd love to see more. This is so valuable. Wow. Thank you Charlotte. You're truly beautiful, with a light up a room smile. But more importantly you are doing good work you are living an exquisite, examined life. When you said that you couldn't imagine how anyone could want to be with you I cried. And thank you to Borderliner Notes team of course. Thank you, Rebbie. You are amazing and doing incredibly valuable work. This channel is just.... ahh. There's nothing like it. Thank you thank you.

I love this! Thank you for sharing. Thank you Charlotte for being so open. Dr. Diamond is also amazing.

Thank you for this. It’s like watching myself. This has been so insightful. ❤

These videos really help put me to ease! ❤

Charlotte ❤. I've been watching these videos on a loop these are so interesting and helpful, plus I love hearing from Charlotte everytime

This was a very, very good video. I felt sad when Charlotte started to cry.

Thank you for sharing this. And that is a heartfelt undivided Thank you

I feel her pain,its so hard to be productive when you dont trust yourself,i have destroyed so many great career opportunities this world has given me.I have zero filter and ive lived many years of my life telling myself "im just being honest" but its not honesty its toxic..Good luck Charlotte great to see you getting to see these great people speaking to you, i always watch what is uploaded on this channel

Thank you very much! Charlotte, you seem to be an amazing and kind person. Talking about your struggles is such a brave thing to do and I think you are helping others so much by doing so. I am sending you much love and strength! Keep fighting, you are getting there! There is hope! Things can get better!

I feel like I’m watching myself at times when I watch Charlotte in these videos. I’m sooo glad I found this channel.

What a privilege having therapy with Diana. She seems to be a very gifted psychologist. Really like her lectures and style of communicating things.

Such an amazing person, I do hope she is able to find some peace x

Thank-you Charlotte for participating in these sessions. I love listening to you. I thank-you for your incredible vulnerability. You are so brave. You are helping me and so many others who want to have a deeper understanding of themselves. Thank-you too to the therapists involved. For providing the opportunity for me as an ‘outsider’, through your questions, your intellectual and empathetic understanding, the guidance to navigate my own emotional issues. I come away from these sessions with so much food for thought, so much constructive instruction to work from. I too was super excited to see a new session…❤️

It's so good to see Charlotte. She is brilliant and I wish her the best in her social work career and with her health.

I'm another member of the Charlotte fan club! Always appreciate her interviews.

So glad to see another one of the experts sit with Charlotte, and as always, so grateful to Charlotte for her vulnerability and openness. Also...can *my* therapy please be in this garden oasis with pretty chairs?

Thank you Charlotte for your courage to be vulnerable and share your experience Very helpful

Oh gosh, thank you. You are me to a T! I'm switching from Cybersecurity to social work for my master's cuz I found my calling in Service Coordination. Just everything with this session! Thank you for bringing light Char and aware therapist!

I appreciate the courage it took for Charlotte to be apart of these therapy sessions. They are very interesting.

Thank you Charlotte for doing this. You're very brave.

I don't find Charlotte awkward at all. On the contrary, I find her manner interesting, beautiful and pleasant. Like me, she seems to be temperamental and introverted at the same time. This mixture is often misunderstood and perhaps gives the impression to some that you want to offend. 🥴I would leave that opinion to superficial contemporaries who don't want to take the time to really listen to you. But I could listen to her for hours. Charlotte, you are wonderful. 😄

This is amazing and so helpful for those that cannot find reliable and accurate information about bpd. Thank you for sharing! Charlotte, I love you, your bravery and vulnerability is proof of how far you have come, you are truly inspiring me during my own recovery process, so thank you!

I love that Charlotte is going to school so she can learn to help others . . . she will come from a place of pain herself, and be able to reach some who others may not otherwise.

Congratulations to Charlotte and her social work journey!

Very interesting session....God bless Charlotte...she has a lot of insight about herself but she is very hard on herself. I wish her peace, fulfillment, and recovery. PS I love that they filmed this outside.

So, not to the be dramatic of anything, buuuuut, I would die for Charlotte. Jk jk, but she makes the world a better place. Her honesty and openness is a precious gift of love to the world.

Thanx for sharing your story. I relate to all of this

Thank you for continuing to update us on charlottes journey, I miss rebbie too!

Always so good to hear from Charlotte. She is an incredible mental health advocate. I admire her honesty and integrity. I respect her.

Charlotte, wow, I can hardly describe the effect wàtching this intervew had on me. Your experiences and your feelings, even the way of presenting yourself and phrasing things and the way you react to what is spoken to you. The constant reevaluating of conclusions to be certain you are not deluding yourself or will not be seen as being blind to certain things. I totally relate, even to the harmed bodyparts, and the years of processing what happened, slow slow slow road to true acceptation of what happened. Im 47 and im only now starting to realize I have integrated and accepted many things I thought would shame me for ever. Watching this intervew will help me alot. I needed this to finally realize who I am and start to like myself with my scars on the arms and my track record of embarassing explosions in front of others.

Love Charlotte I'm looking for more of her videos she's so open.

Bravo to you Charlotte! You are the victorious one! keep working on loving yourself. keep your eye on the prize.

Thank you for all the work you put into these interviews. I have watched many and Charlotte's story has been so compelling. She is articulate, incredibly self-aware, thoughtful, kind and very generous to have opened herself up to having these very personal interviews published so that others may learn and perhaps grow from her experiences. May she continue on her road of recovery and be rewarded with love and happiness. May you be well, Charlotte.