My dad and I have watched this movie together so many times and laugh about how it mirrors our own relationship. Ironically he is a retired government servant constantly complaining about his health and I’m a 30 year old architect constantly assuring him there’s nothing wrong with him.
@@ultimatetruth4156 That's not for a child to tell their parent, and in fact, it's not for the parent to tell their child (considering that the child is an adult). What her father is most likely saying in the film is that, "you've decided to have casual sex, and as your father, I accept and support your decision rather than getting angry with you for it."
@@ultimatetruth4156 Do you have anything else other than to spam you wrong ideas ? Maybe get a life? All that you say along with the spamming you have done just shows how stupid you are.
@@ultimatetruth4156 Oh yes? Of course feminism is destroying the families that sell away their daughters like they are objects. Of course feminism is destroying Indian families where women have no control over their own life . Of course feminsim is ruining the Indian families where women are still not allowed proper education and career choices . Of course feminsim is destroying Indian families where women are expected to work like maids day and night and take care of their in laws . Of course feminsim is ruining Indian families where a boy is most likely to be given any type of social , educational , capital preference . And of course feminism, that is trying to solve all of these problems is shit . This was sarcasm , just in case your dumb brain needed it mansplained.
Two things to say : 1. Quite often we hear how a man has to balance between his mom and his wife. It's never that we ever say the same for a woman because women would give up on her family and only thing left would be the husband, which is silly and impractical. 2. I think what piku highlights very well is openness. I like how she can scream at Bhaskor and not once we hear "maa baap se aise baat nahi karte" . We can talk to our parents in the exact way how we feel and not sugarcoat it which is absent in a lot of families and therefore most movies.
@sohitjain_clicks that's just solely your experience, you can't generalize the whole population of india based on it. My grandfather passed away last month but my father already has to take care of us so my aunt took care of him till he took his last breath both financially and physically. So that's my experience as it goes but I can't generalize the whole population.
@sohitjain_clicks I do not mean to say that you almost are demeaning women while stating the whole sentence. Women at times leave their because of pregnancy or family affairs and that's a full day job in itself so I think works for it self.
I think very few people got to realise the correct idea of piku... It's the coexistence of grief irritation with love & affection & tats always the core of every parent child relationship... Only the chairs turn opposite as parents grow old & kids choose to look after them... Some just thought Bhaskar as a selfish person while others thought Piku is stuck with him.... Loved your analysis for portraying the accurate thought 👍
Their dynamic is unique because the father is the epitome of liberal in every way. He doesn’t believe in a woman wasting an ounce of her potential. He expects a high standard. And raised her to b that way. She’s unique because of him. She doesn’t feel guilty for her needs because he raised her with those values. Most of that doesn’t exist in the desi society mainly because people r weak. They’d cave if a single family member pointed a finger at him for his daughter doing what she likes. Even the liberal parents surrender from time to time. And their kids r caged and stifled all their lives. That suffocation is sometimes internalized and the kid becomes a less version of himself/herself but doesn’t know what to do to fix it within the boundaries. Or becomes free after unshackling himself/herself but may feel guilty sooner or later, meaning still pain and suffering down the road. These guys know what they want and have the power and resources to do as they please. Many don’t have that luxury or resources. Even her other family members r fully liberal. Giving her full support, mostly.
@@RojaJaneman totally agree... I wish we evolve to this liberal mindset & accept ourselves with all our needs, choices & desires... Irrespective of what the society presurises us.
@@sandipanachakraborty4897 Liberal mindset also has its own defects. Society pressures aren’t all bad. They do keep a certain very necessary checks and balances. My family is western. And there r many times when I’m glad for keeping my desi roots alive. They’re absolutely loving and fantastic. But every ideology/culture has flaws. The liberal culture has caused much harm as well. We still haven’t figured out exactly how men and women can live and work together equally. Many liberal policies have detrimental effect on nuclear families and mental health of people. So many people have everything they need and want, and they’re still depressed and lonely. Many empowered women r miserable even when they got everything that they ever wanted. It’s a double edged sword. For ex, my western dad doesn’t interfere with my decisions. But that also means he doesn’t give me a direction even when I ask him. Because he thinks if I took that route and failed, I’d blame him. There were times when I asked him for help and he let me fail. Which was unnecessary because he knew the right answer, but was afraid. I still haven’t recovered from its consequences decades later. Still paying for it. It also means, that they kick u out at 18. They expect u to pay for ur own college and work part time to maintain urself. Unlike desi kids, where they’re living with their parents into their 30s to save money. Mom still cooks food and dad still pays for college and stuff. Some kids r moving back in their 30s. Sometimes with their wives and kids after not being able to survive in the real world. Freedom isn’t free or easy. There’s give and take. Desi love the idea of freedom and liberalism. But it’s a beast. Not everyone is able to handle it. Especially in Bharat. It adds a huge layer of additional challenges.
@@ultimatetruth4156 It depends on the context and the way such topics are discussed... See,if the child and parent has a proper,assertive,mature conversation regarding sex or marriage or any other topic where both the parties talk their hearts out without any judgement ,then they are good to go... When it comes to the parent's part,it also needs to be thought about with care and maturity... Suppose the parent feels alone after their spouse's demise or separation or coming out of an abusive relationship,they feel lonely and sad,they might need a companion, then also it's ok... It all depends what exactly they want and discuss with their trusted people The main problem arrives if the parent is making such choices,when you're already having a partner and family,not giving proper love and care to them,respecting them and hiding their secrets which might tear the family apart in a bad way... So yeah,it all depends on the situation and how someone tackle with this situation...
@@ultimatetruth4156 It’s not about encouraging casual sex. It’s abt giving them a choice. And that means that you don’t stop the, from doing what they want WITH THEIR OWN LIVES. It doesn’t mean that they will necessarily have casual sex, but that if they don’t, it’ll be by their own choice.
@@ultimatetruth4156 why father leave his own kid? That's his fault not other people Causal sex she wasn't in a commitment relationship like his dad India family is worse than America when it comes to mental health
@@ultimatetruth4156 Why would I? What will I gain from having such society? It's too complex of a topic... Every country have their own culture,their own plus,minus,their own challenges... Instead of focusing on the minus side of any country,let us learn from the minus, what can we do to avoid any shortcomings?
I felt Piku movie was more relatable than any other movies out there. It has beautiful portrayed about how the society is and what exactly freedom means.
I want to say one thing, making this sex as a big deal and a sin if committed before marriage or even after marriage, or in movies they show it as always sexual Harrasment, women have stopped expressing their desire for sex, even after marriage there are many women who don like sex at all, lost complete intrest even before experiencing it. I feel there are many women who have the same issue, that's why there are many unhappy couples, if one wants it another don't, but nobody come out and talk openly
Agreed. And not just women, many men are also unhappy in their marriage because of their sexual life. The frequency of wanting sex doesn't matches with their wives, when they ask for it they are rejected, so to fulfil their need many men either go to other women or force their wives, both are wrong if we see. They are labelled as selfish if they force their wives, aren't their wives also selfish for denying it? But you see sex is a taboo topic so men have to take all of the blaming for wanting it.
@@ultimatetruth4156 It is not any position for the child and parent to engage in each other's life . Even so , if my father had casual sex , only if he didn't have a wife, I would have had no problem whatsoever with .
@@ultimatetruth4156 I just meant the world has put so much shame on women that even when has the permit to explore she is not willing to do, and she has silenced, it's not at all about casual sex, have you ever speak about sex for women as a need no right, sex is a need only for men, in this scene I have seen they are just showing sex as a need to women as well, which is not at all considered, it's not about right or wrong, I have not seen this movie, but am shocked too the way it's been explained in the movie.
Without going into the merits of this video, I must say that Piku definitely has one of the most mellifluous albums. The songs are so immersive. Edit: I would recommend people to listen to the sarod score of Piku. It will transport you to an ethereal realm for sure.
I care for my aged father now, and I re-watched Piku. I could relate so much with the narrative. I cried my eyes out because I know one day dad wont be here with me, and I think I would really feel purposeless in life. This movie struck a chord with me, and made me realise death is a part of life and that if anything, my father's passing whenever that happens ( may he have a long life), need need not be the end all for me. Also I shout and yell at my father almost on a daily basis when he doesn't listen to me, and doesn't care for himself. This stems from my love and concern for him and also the other irritations of daily life like house work, money, career, identity crisis, love life, etc. Piku is the most genuine and appropriate depiction of this parent child story line.
@@dayadarwazatoddo5921 Wasn't she talking about the Movie *PIKU* ??? 😒 You only read *Love this!* and skipped other 2.5 lines her watching experience in the past.. WOW 🙄
piku was such a fun exploration of a loving yet complex parent-daughter relationship, one that is rarely seen in real life, let alone on screen in india. it also didn't make me feel like shit like typical 'devoted daughter' depictions do (since I feel like I'm not doing enough for my father) so it really is a win in my book.
@@ultimatetruth4156 Looks like you're only educated enough to write a few sentences and paste them everywhere. No wonder you have nothing else to do. Hardly surprising when all you can think of is casual sex. 🙃🤣
@@kalidass0583 if you don't understand the complexity of their relationship, that's on you. but you should at least register that practically no desi kids have the same bond with their parents.
@@moonlitskyes there is no such definition for a parent daughter relationship. They can get freedom only from their parents not from society. Im not talking about toxic parents.
@@ultimatetruth4156 maybe we should more concern about people having their happiness in their own way obviously not harming intentionally and not about Healthy society
Piku and Vidya Balan from Paa would be my two most favourite character in terms of how I want my independent career and family life would look like. You guys should cover Vidya's character from Movie Paa it's really really amazing.
I absolutely loved how Piku made us question the positioning of sex and marriage in a woman's life. In a more liberated setting, marriage would stand in the way of devotion and not be a marker of it.
@@ultimatetruth4156 its ok unless hes not in a current relationship and why do you even need to say OK papa like he need ur permission? We shouldn't interfere in no ones sex life that's annoying And none of your business
@THE ZOLDICS but the present western model was once an Indian model where sex was more liberated then Now and the present indian model is the outdated western model put during the Victorian era. This socio cultural thing is just dynamic.
I remember watching this movie with my father and how he appreciated the writer saying..what a thought and what a time it is that someone has written a movie on constipation and people are liking it is a real subject..I lost him to covid but then I cherish these memories.
All the reasons why this is my favourite movie! No revealing clothes, no obscene language, just pure perspective. Sadly, the people who should really learn from it never learn. They curse the movie or scenes instead :(
Piku has always been one of my favourite films. The way it tried to portrait modern, independent yet a responsible woman makes it worthy. Also, it brings out a practical aspect of a father-daughter relationship.
Honestly, as an only child and on top of that a daughter, I have always been loved like there's no tomorrow. My parents love me to the moon and back. So much so that I can't even express it which made me think society now was better. Oh, was I wrong! After this pandemic, when I started talking and socializing again, I realized that things are still the same... Nothing has changed. It's only my family that loves a daughter and respects her as a human being...
How she dealt with her father absense is something we all need to learn. Absense doesn't mean the love is not there. It was, it is and it will flourish. 😌
I love how we are on our way to becoming the most populous country and yet we are scared to talk about sex. For a country that stigmatizes sex so much, we sure are having much of it.
Isnt that more reason to discourage sex??? Cause statistically speaking the more one has the more the population grows. Why are you questioning such a logical thing for society to do?
I can never really get this analogy. India, as a country, isn't averse to love-making, as the population of the country would attest to this fact, however, this doesn't mean that we have to openly talk about it. Some things are meant to be kept as private.
My father is an exact replica of Amitabh Bachchan here. He is very liberated when comes to openly discussing about my sexuality. He openly said me that, you don’t have to marry someone because your were intimate with him, ‘you can make your choice according to your needs and preference. Sexual relationship is a part of being human’ And I am not making this up. Me and my father are pretty close, I can open up to him more then my mother actually.
@THE ZOLDICS copying the western alt right and thinking you're smart. You're just an incel . Sex = uncivilised , how were you born then ? The sexual frustration is showing.
u know what i genuinely felt like a burden on my family for so long and now tht ive realised and accepted that im also a child of theirs and not just a thing they have to send away in marriage, there are a lot of fights at home but its okay coz they dont expect the devotion from me anymore coz no matter what im always going to put myself first
Piku is a story of our house... And Everyone in our family agrees to it, no one can deny it. It's so damn relatable. That's why it was double fun (for lack of a better word) watching this movie. It felt like a day of our life. Especially, the road trip and table conversations reminded of countless moments in real life.
Such a beautiful video, Piku is a masterpiece in depicting what a healthy parent-child relationship looks like, being a daughter I could relate to so many scenes in the movie. Me and my parents have watched the movie so many times together and everytime it brings a smile on our faces. Here's hoping to more such thoughtful movies that explore relationships beyond girl meets boy, stuff that is routinely being dished out to us in the name of cinema.
It’s relieving to know there are others who resonate the same feeling. My parents had harassed me for dating at the age of 30, and am still recovering of that impact they made. But feels like we women really need to grow a thick skin to survive, because the whole process of change in mindset is so slow and not available to most.
Thank you swaddle team. You are the big eye opener for me. Even though i thought of breaking the stereotypes in many aspects in a woman's life, I feel guilty of doing that . You people made it clear
Please make a video like this on lacchi ( rani mukherjee) from paheli movie, i think she was great, when she choose the ghost who loved and respected her, over her husband, who left her just the next day of her marriage
God knows how many times me and my father have watched this together..!❤️..this is his favourite movie... whenever I say ..baba let's watch a movie..then we argue over which movie should we watch ...then finally we end up watching piku.. literally every single time....this movie is soo wholesome..!❤️ And yeaa also...still me and baba always try to predict at the end..with whom piku is gonna settle down...we are still in in confusion between Jisshu and Irfan...😂❤️
Request : Make these videos in Hindi too. In fact in different languages too. Parents/ others also need to watch these. And thanks for raising such concepts :)
Coming from a conservative yet progressive, educated, and upper-middle class Bengali family, the film "Piku" was really relatable to me, unlike the other Indian films... I'm not an Indian myself but I'm still a South Asian. The country where I come from is similar to India and its culture but even so being born and raised as a girl in such society, my parents or relatives never forced me to do anything against my own will. Sure, they shared their opinions but my happiness means everything to them. All the women in my family are educated and career-focused and it helps me to move forward and do something better in life as well. I have parents who had a healthy, loving relationship with each other. My dad was very loving and respectful towards my mom and he believed in woman empowerment to a great extent. He even encouraged her to do things that she never thought of doing or never thought that she had the capability of doing. And that helped me to become a stronger woman as well. Even though my dad passed away years ago, his love and encouragement are still there with me, inspiring me in my life. My dad was just like Piku's dad in very aspect (except for that "supporting your daughter's casual sex life" part cause he wasn't comfortable with that and let me be honest, even I'm not comfortable with this whole "casual sex life" stuff cause that's not my thing...). But other than that, Piku is super relatable to me in very possible way and I enjoyed the film a lot.
I watched Piku after watching this video and I'm so thankful for the recommendation! It's such a poignantly sweet and funny movie, and the complicated relationship between Piku andher father is portrayed so well, I loved it!
I like the openness of their relationship and how not once was there any comment like this is not the way you should talk to your father/elder. I know she is playing a Bengali character, and while I am not trying to generalise this, but as a Bengali myself, I have always been somewhat given free reign to argue with my parents. And the Bengal friends I know do the same. It's only when I went out of the state due to my career, I was questioned by my fellow colleagues and contemporaries as to why I was not more respectful in my daily phonecalls with my mom, and they wouldn't be able to know the difference whether I was speaking to a friend or my parents. I distinctly remember a senior asking me why I did not greet my parents with 'pranaam ma/papa' and went on to say that it's unbecoming of me. Mind you I have no issue with respecting parents or saying pranaam in reverence, but it's this policing of my dialogues with my mother that I hated. How does a completely irrelevant person get to dictate my relationship with my parents and what kind of dynamic works for us.
Very HAPPY to seee it. Maybe in Bengali child having a liberated household kind of connect me with piku more . Parents r never burden. THANK FUL TO SWADDLE
@@ultimatetruth4156 casual before marriage is okay tho and if parents are staying together just for their child and didn't even get counselling its going to bad for the child i do think that parents should get counselling and should stay together
😂😂😂I asked my father that Ok now find me a groom I will get married now that I am 26 yr old. He strictly told me to focus on my career and build my career so that in future I may not feel deprive in front of anyone.
Piku is one of my favourite Deepika's movie didn't paid much attention to this perspective but I loved the movie initially probably bcoz I am free spirited too
My dad was exact copy of “The Bhaskor Banerjee”. My father passed away in the year of 2013. Whenever I am missing my father a lot,I am watching this movie.
That is the reason I love watching this movie always. I want a relationship like this with my parents which ofcourse cannot happen unless my parents are willing to.
I remember being in my 9th standard when I watched it in cinema with my parents. Funnily enough my father could relate to the character and we laughed about it throughout!
I disagree! Bhaskar didn't wanted piku to get married bcoz then she won't be available to take care of him, he deliberately sabotages her dates and does his best to shoo away her suitors..... How is this any different from ddlj's bauji or sanskari babuji Alok nath's character who decided when and whom his daughter will marry?
But what's wrong if he is expecting his daughter to take care of him in his old age. In indian setup it's impossible for a daughter to take care of her parents after marriage. And he is scared of left on his own after she is gone. If this expectation of him is wrong, then parents' expectation from son to take care of them in his old age is also wrong.
@@swatisaini6447 I think she was also looking for a marriage where she is able to take care of her father, if you remember her conversation with irfan khan. That's shown in this video also.
@@ultimatetruth4156 bhai chimpanzee ko tum follow karlo, hum wo follow karega jo hame thik lagega. Aur ap kisi ko bhi usko man ka karne se rok nahi sakte.....Okay bhaiya??
I totally agree with you. And I hate this term exploring our sexuality or body. Man our body and health is the pillar on which our whole life depends. Before glorifying casual sexual encounters do discuss the consequences... STDs , comparing partners, etc. Sane parents want their child to succeed in both career and personal life with a healthy and balanced approach
We want more movies web series and various other shows to portrait women as the women should be... She has her father and mother to look after ...which should be go hand in hand .... I always have a thought at the back that there should be bhagwan 2 as well.... Where challenges of women should be shown and how she overcome it to take care of both her parents as well as her in laws ... Bhagwan was all about male children there should be another version too....even sometimes i make the script ....just finding yhe right olatform to describe ...how bhagwan 2 and many more portraits of women should be done in this industry
I loved the movie Piku actually its one of those that I can watch anytime again. I also loved the strong and independent charecter that Piku was. But we act little matured while admiring the charecter the Piku is in the movie without ridiculing the other characters that are being referred in this video. Its good that we are moving ahead with more sensibilities towards women's desires and needs resulting into a strong charecter of Piku. But this should not come at the costs of dignity and respects for the previous generation womens. Don't discredit them for what they have been for generations. Thank you🙏
Thank you swaddle for glorifying the identity of the women piku is. You just accentuated a whole new personality of movie effortlessly. Thanks. This feels like a breathe of fresh air.
there are ways to look at it, of course there is the new dimension given to a daughter’s devotion. but there is this fact too that people are selfish in their own ways. bhaskar wanted his daughter to be his caregiver till the very end so he discouraged the marriage. had he been supportive of her choices entirely, he would have respected her space when she was out for dinners/ at work and given her the breather she always needed.
@@ultimatetruth4156 the deposit is used for expenditure on marriage and dahej which is a show to please society and in laws rather than actually for the daughter. The gold jewelry is owned by wife. She doesn't looses ownership if husband remarries
I relate to Piku so much and respect her as well because she does what she wants...my parents are in 70s and they pressurize me to get a job quickly and marry but I'm just 23...don't know what to do as if I live with them they will definitely emotionally pressurize me and if I try to get a job outside they get on defensive mode that I'm abandoning them
