Don't worry about crying on camera,..you are going trough a very hard time in your life! All of your subscribers are soooo happy too see you,...we ALL LOVE you and are here for you!!! 💖👏
my wife has left breast cancer. went to the hosp for the ump teen time. my wife is very docile she looks for me to guide her which i do the doc wants to do a mas and gave us 3 choices in her case and age he suggested a prostetic boob. we discussed it and i told her at her age, it is serious what the doc suggested. on the other hand, he asked me what i thought if my wife has only one boob ?? after55 yrs doc, i still love her. besides, she is a great fkng cook,
You have every right to be angering and upset we all are going through something please pray and we will pray for you and want you to come back to your usual smiling and thrifting as usual and healthy as ever God Bless you and your Family
Because of your courage that allows you to share your experience,fear, thoughts of triumph, many women will now be able to face this same trial with the same. Thank you.
Thank you for being a Champion and sharing your story! I am a Stage 4 Breast Cancer Patient in Remission for 10 years now! I had the same surgery. I really appreciate that you are sharing ALL the DETAILS of Going thru This Cruel disease. Your story is inspirational, informative & so important for any future patients and their CAREGIVERS! Many prayers will be said for you and your husband. He too is a HERO! 🏆Much Love from our family in Old Las Palmas, Palm Springs, CA to your entire family!!!!!!!! P.S.You look amazingly gorgeous for just having such an intense surgery! Will definitely buy the magazine. I can't wait for it to hit the shelves🎀🎸🎼🎀!
Selena, You are 100% normal, my dear. You are allowed to cry and be angry, and frustrated and anything else that you feel. You are a joy and an inspiration to so many people. You will never meet the majority of us in person, but we are standing strong right beside you, and cheering you on. If the load seems to heavy sometimes, please lean on us. Prayers for a complete healing, and that cancer can suck it. Much love, Carolyn
God love you baby , been in prayers , you have sooo many ppl out here that love you . You are so dear & sweet . I must say even on this post after surgery you still look SO BEAUTIFUL without any makeup on !!!! You go lil hot Mama !!!! Praying for speedy recovery & strength & emotionally that God just wraps his arms around you & comforts you
I know I’m not seeing this when it really happened but I’m just in awe of how strong you are...you’re such a beautiful person, inside and out! Hope you are doing well.
My Prayers are with you . I am a Bi-lateral Mastectomy graduate as well. Each day will get better and you will be stronger than you ever thought was possible. You are amazing ! Thankyou for sharing your journey and know that God is with you every step of the way.
I have not had cancer . But I did have diverticulitis ,which required surgery . So they removed a lot of my colon ,like over three feet . I went through divorce at the same time . So he wasn’t there for me . You are a special beloved child of God . I thank you for your testimony . It will serve all women all over the world present and future who need strength and faith . Thank you ,for reminding women how incredible they are . God Bless you .
You are so strong. And have such a good attitude. I feel for you. I also had breast cancer and I’m a survivor going on 14 years. Hope and love 💗 to you.
I. had stage four cancer at age 76. Now at 77 so damn sick. Hate my old Dr.'s. He told other Doc. I was Maling . I am praying hard your recovery ! Love sweet young Lady.
Please start meditating Selena. It is a great way to see yourself well in your minds eye. Remember to be mindful of the words you choose to say to yourself and others when speaking of your recovery. Believe that you're getting better everyday, no matter what, even if it is a challenge. Selena-you-can-do-it! Plant seeds of wellness into your subconscious mind. An example would be to light a candle (symbolizing your good health) and let it burn throughout the day, everyday or something of your choosing (make it routine) to speak symbolically to your subconscious mind that you are being healed minute by minute. Believe it in your soul, and you can have it. It is through the subconscious mind that you will heal. Sending good thoughts to you Selena and your sweet husband. I believe in you 100% XO :-)
junksmyfashion everything you just said to me is what I aspire to become. I have been reading many lessons on self healing and inner spiritual strength. I believe it's the core to true wellness. I just need to get grounded again and find peace within myself to find that place right now. Love and light , my friend
I had my single mastectomy on February 13/24. They gave me a pain blocker pre surgery. They kept me in only a day. And also had a really hard time waking up. Should have left about five hours prior. Finally got on our way home. I honestly didn’t have pain until 4 days later. I opted not to have reconstructive surgery. Only because I heard too many horror stories. My staples stayed in for 2.5 weeks. I just finished my 4th treatment of chemotherapy. Still 4 to go. Wish you all the best on your reconstructive surgery. My friend had it done almost a year ago and she is now ok. 🙏 ❤
I’m meeting with a surgeon today at 2 in Baton Rouge about my double mastectomy. I’m absolutely TERRIFIED. I still don’t know what stage mine is, I can’t even hardly say the word cancer. The only thing I know right now is mine is ductal and I haven’t had the pet scans or mri to know yet if it’s spread. I’m sitting here in tears not knowing what my future holds or even IF I will have.a future. This is so shitty to have to go through. I feel like a little child, so scared. I’m not going to have reconstruction. I’m 54 and I’m just over it! Boobs are overrated to me right now! I’ll be watching all of your videos on your journey. I hate that you had to go through this. I hate that I’m having to go through this. I wish so badly a cure for this could be found so no woman ever has to go through this. Please pray for me I’m so scared.
I’m 51 and my double mastectomy is booked for this Friday! Friday the 13th, and I like you Milli, I have chosen not to do reconstruction. I’m terrified here too! Mine was diagnosed invasive mammary carcinoma, stage 1 but I guess that can change once they open me up. Omg making me nauseated just thinking about this all. So thankful for this video with her saying it like it is! Thank god for RU-vid! It helps me somewhat knowing what’s going to happen from other ladies in the same boat as me. How are you doing Milli? I so hope you’re doing well!
@@vanessablack6187 Hi Vanessa. I’m actually doing really well. It’s been two months since I had my surgery. My recovery went really well. I’m still dealing with the mental part. I feel like that will just be my new normal. My Onco type # was 22 so I got really lucky and didn’t have to do any chemo. You’re going to make it through this and there is support out there for us! I’ll be thinking of you and sending prayers and positive thoughts your way! Take care of yourself!
You gave a good description of the experience. I just had my bilateral mastectomy two weeks ago. My right breast only showed some kind of scar on biopsy, but I opted to have both removed. When they got in, it was cancer. This stuff is tricky. Read alot, go with your gut and stay strong. Love from another woman who knows.
Yiur feed just popped up for me. Thank you for sharing. I am waiting for surgery date for a double mastectomy and tissue expanders... then chemo and reconstruction after. It's exhausting pretending you're fine. I think I am fine until someone asks how I'm doing or I've have to talk about what's happening to me. I hope your treatment is over. Congrats on the magazine feature! I'm sending love and healing energy to you, beautiful lady.
So glad you have the "big" surgery behind you and can now focus on your recovery. Sending prayers and positive energy your way, Selena. So glad you lost the drains and the pain pump early on, and that your mobility is improving. Those little victories mean a lot! So happy to hear about the photo layout of your home in the magazine. Keep on shining your vintage light on the world!
My goodness, you've been missed! You inspired me to get a mammogram after not having one for 10 years. Thank you for what turned out to be saving my life. xo
May He continue to heal and strengthen you. Thank you for your braveness and your sharing. You are normal, don't think any different! This is just a little wrinkle in time. Thank you for your sharing. You are an inspiration to us all! Looking forward to updates and thrifting and garage sale videos when you are able. Can't wait to buy Romantic Country!
You are doing amazing for 10 days post op. I was down and out for about 2 weeks. Couldn't even pull my own panties up and down lol. I felt like an elephant was sitting on my chest and I couldn't breathe. I'm 10 years out and still numb. I have pain sometimes, but (and this won't make sense) I can't exactly tell where the pain is located. I think the implant has something to do with that. I couldn't raise my arms until I hit about week 3. Took forever it seemed to be able dress myself. I'm so glad you have your husband there to take care of you. I did it all alone. I'm so very happy that you are doing so well. I think I could have filled a rain barrel with all the tears I shed. You are in my continued prayers. God Bless you and your husband as you make this journey.
I am praying,for a complete healing,and believing the cancer is all gone.God is so kind,loving and good.Lean on him for strength.Cry as much as you need to.It's so wonderful to see you,and know the surgery is over.You are amazing and have so many people who love you.We are in your corner,fighting this battle with you.❤️❤️
Thank you for taking the time to update us, you are on my mind and in my prayers Selena. You look amazing for what you have endured, still able to chuckle and smile that's so awesome! Sending you a soft/gentle hug today :)
You are braver than you think. It is normal to get emotional because you only know how you feel. We can share your sadness but not your pain. I will continue praying for you for a quick recovery but must important For God to heal your heart of your pain...You are beautiful and that will never stop. I hope to continue watching your videos......HUGS AND BLESSINGS......MINDY
Thank you so much for sharing this. I am praying for you💖 They say "when its hardest to pray you should pray the hardest". I am sending you lots of love 💖💖💖
You're amAzing! I've been watching you in the current videos for a couple months and never had any idea of your journey down this road. Today is 12/16/2023. You're so brave and transparent and beautiful. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. You are so loved... Continued Blessings and HEALTH.
I felt every ounce of your emotion with every inflection of your voice. It brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry you had to go through this, especially so young, but I'm so happy you are doing well today and have recovered.
Your an amazing strong young woman and we can only try to understand what your going through but we are here when you need to talk or vent xxx sending much love and wishes for a speedy and non eventful recovery xxx
you'll be in my prayers Selena just know that everything's going to be alright thank you for for sharing your life with us and I'm looking forward to your house coming out in the Romantic magazine I'm going to go out and buy one tons of love from Corpus Christi Texas
I've just discovered your story..5years out of the loop here. But what a gem you are ! So candid and honest and beautiful. You have helped many many I'm sure. Best to you on your journey!
Hi I am the annoying person that had been looking for me ring to Australia finally arrive d and this video came up on my feed I mastectomy 9 years ago Chemo and hormone blocking Meds I have recovered really well. wishing you the best Xxxx
This is from hindsight,year 2022. You made it! And now,I watch your videos,where you LAUGH!!! You laugh from the soul. Your videos are positively impregnated with the sound of joy,alongside your cute little mom! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Sweet sweet Selena, I know you’re hurting but you’re alive! The pain will pass and you’ll put it behind you and be happy and alive and cancer-free! Upwards from here on. Be happy sweetheart. You’re so loved by us.❤️❤️❤️
I'm a new subscriber, but already feel such a connection because of your love for everything vintage. Know that I'll be saying healing prayers for you - you know what they say - if He bring you to it, He'll get you through it! Hugs, sweet lady!
I’m sorry you had so much discomfort. I’m four weeks out and other than an annoying hematoma, I haven’t had any pain from surgery or discomfort from my tissue expander. The whole thing hasn’t been that traumatic. I don’t know why. I stopped taking the pain meds after 3 days. I don’t have a high pain threshhold. It’s just like I accepted it as part of getting better.
Oh my friend. You are a WARRIOR. I'm so proud and thankful for your STRENGTH! I'm so sorry that you went through all of that trauma...you are a GEM and you are a LIGHT! Love you girl! xoxo
Selena! So good to see you! I have been praying diligently for you and my heart has been impressed many times to stop everything and pray. I would run up to you, shout your name, and give you a hug if I was there!( OK maybe a gentle hug!)😘
So grateful you shated how you felt. A dear friend is 5 years out from stage 3 Ovarian cancer. It is so important for people to be informed. Love you Selena
I just think you are the best! I started admiring your decorating style and panache. Thanks for putting yourself out there to keep all of us updated. This shit storm will pass and you will look back at these days as a distant memory. we are all pulling for you
I'm so sorry your going thru this! It's ok to cry and feel whatever your feeling. Praying for a speedy recovery, I think your awesome! It's a good thing I don't live closer, we could really have some fun! Take care of yourself.
Dear Selena, I have just watched your video and am so thankful to you for telling your story. My daughter was diagnosed with breast cancer last year and has also been through all the pain and discomfort that you have mentioned, the breathlessness, fatigue and anxiety. After just over 15 months she's slowly starting to get her energy back and is feeling a lot more positive, there's still a few operations necessary but she's a lot better now. For a mum this has been so hard to witness but I've learnt so much about breast cancer and I thank you once again for telling us all about your journey. You're a strong and lovely lady ❤️
I’m so happy you are in a better place now❣️I had to check your channel to make sure you were ok, even before I finished this video ❣️ I’m subscribing, I love thrifting🥰
I got breast cancer when I was 42. I discovered the lump when I was 41 and my doctor blew me off b/c I'd had a normal mammogram. He said come back in a year. I trusted him. A year later he was going to do nothing, but I pressed him, so he ordered a biopsy. It was malignant. Infiltrating ductal carcinoma. I had no family history so it was a total shock. I had a double mastectomy. That was 26 years ago. Stay positive and remember this: nothing has changed. You destiny is set in eternity. What will be will be. Accepting this helps with the fear that will 'visit'. I say visit b/c it's an unwelcome guest that you don't want to stay long. When it comes knocking, visit with it a bit, then tell it, see ya later. It will return, but the day will come when it won't visit anymore. "A merry heart doeth good like a medicine". And try to watch or read funny things, that make you laugh out loud. I also did visualization. I saw my cancer as innocuous flotsam and jetsam in my body. And a pack of ravening wolves ran through every part of my body, devouring the cancer. I did this 2-3 times a day. And then one day the wolves found nothing. And I stopped the visualization. All the best to you. I know how scary it is.
You are so brave, I look up to you. I will keep lifting you up to God. I know he will bring you out of this victorious! Sending big hugs and love your way! Xoxoxo
My dear , I realize this was 4 years ago , but I’m so proud of you for sharing your journey. Your video just came up . So I started watching. 😍 & God Bless you . Blessings to you and your family. 😍❤️😍
Selena Hi I just want to say. Thank you for sharing everything in your life. I pray you sharing this helps someone else going through this exact thing. Prayers for you that you continue to be healthy again ❤️ Your a Beautiful woman inside and out.
You are so strong! Stronger than you think I kinda know what you are going thru as my mother had the same surgery, you look beautiful for all you have gone their God will take care of you and I pray where you are weak he will strengthen you! Blessing baby doll.
Thank you for being a Great Champion 🏆 & sharing all the DETAILS of this cruel disease. I am a stage 3 & 4 breast cancer patient who had a single mastectomy with implant. I have been in full remission for 10 years +. Your story is so important, informative and inspiring for all people who are going thru something similar or might have to get blind sided by Cancer in the future. My family will be saying many, many prayers for you and your Hero husband (the caregiver of a loved one that sometimes gets overlooked.) Can't wait to purchase the magazine as soon as it hits the shelves. You look unbelievably stunning for just having had such a big surgery! Best Regards, from our family here in Old Las Palmas, Palm Springs, CA to your entire family! 🎀🎼🎀🎸🎀
I have been hoping that you would update us. You are so wonderful to share your life. Wishing you quick healing and many days ahead full of joy and happiness.
You have those tears for a reason. Cry all you need to cry, get mad and let it all out. Been thinking about you, and will keep you in prayer. You're looking so pretty; can't wait to see you back to full on fabulousness! Lean on Jesus darling.
Selina you are seriously a bad ass, my son had a tube out his rear end for a month to help heal an abcess from his 1st surgery to remove his cancer. You are so real and will help so many people thru the same journey.
Selena, you are a force of nature, you are such a wonderful woman, and a goddess. You teaching us that being human is good and very powerful. Thank you so much for being you and for being so strong. We love you dearest sister, we love your strenght and your weakness. Your lack of breath is a bit of anxiety as well as the pain. Your body is responding to this trauma. Do yoga and meditation, it will help in the healing over time. It may take years, but believe me, you body will remember the nerves and the goodness in time. We love you Selena, and just keep on being your beautiful, wonderful self.
This video has got me in tears of joy that the got the cancer cells, tears with you through your pain, tears on how brave, frank and honest you are with us and sharing your journey to full health. Tears of laughter as you still find the joy in the small things. Please give your brave husband a hug from us as I'm sure he is your rock but sending him positive thoughts through this too. You prob don't feel it but you look amazing post surgery you have all of us sending cancer busting thoughts and prayers your way. Xxx from me and baby Finn.
I’ve been a subscriber for a couple years (vintage/thrifter) and this video just came up in my search…I was just diagnosed and I’m meeting with the surgeon in a few days. Anyway thank you for sharing this journey, I had no idea you had breast cancer and seeing you so happy and healthy now gives me hope 💛💛💛
Double mastectomy/no reconstruction at all, about two weeks ago. No clue I was losing both breasts or that I was having the surgery even. I woke up with no breasts, two drains coming from under my arms and raw pain. I am not happy with how I look, but I’m 68, had large breasts and I guess there can be some corrective surgery done to smooth out surgical incisions. This was nothing that could’ve prepared me for how ugly the incisions are. I’ve had major surgical procedures before on belly when I was 30 for a kidney stone. Much more painful than mastectomies, but yes, the breast areas are numb and just under my arms almost to elbows. I opted to go flat, but I thought flat and smooth, my like what I’m left with. I’m feeling a little butchered up and ready for stitches to go. Sure am looking fwd to getting drains removed. Will need chemo eventually. Dreading it more than surgery. I am praying for you. Please pray for me. My name is Cathy Lee and I’m 68 yrs old, scared, looking for comparisons to what I’m doing/having. I’m having awful nightmares are pain narcotics so only taking Tylenol extra strength, which may or may not work. My friends are a great comfort to me. My husband is caring for me. He’s here. That’s about it. He’s very angry for being down. No home nursing care. I have to go to hospital and feel unsafe around sicknesses, Covid, etc. way too much to worry about, which slows my healing, I’m sure. Need that positive energy and assurance around me. Your videos are a huge help to me. I realize these are old videos, but there’s very little out there for us and I’m finding no photos of stages of healing anywhere. My incisions are lumpy, still stitched up and healing. Every move pulls something. I’m not vain enough to want to keep breasts. I’m looking forward to wearing clothing without bras, bandages, foam forms. Everything has darts, but I’ll keep searching for something that is comfortable and Feminine that makes me feel good about my going flat decision. Still trying to figure out why my surgeon didn’t believe me when I said I was going flat. He left me lumpy and rather unfinished-looking. I wanted to look like I did at 14! I liked being flat and oh so comfortable in my clothing! Guess that’s not an option where I live. Bless you as you walk through your story/your life. You’ve been a great inspiration and comfort to me! I guess it’s normal to have all these emotions, right? Ok to cry, to mourn, to fear, to dread, to wonder what’s next. Love to you!!! Thank you for being brave enough to video and show us your strength and/or weakness. You’re a real inspiration! So brave!!!
Hi Cathy, I’m so sorry you are going through this. It’s an incredibly tough road both physic and mentally. My chest looked like Frankenstein after the initial surgery. My scar lines looks crooked and lumpy , and what was left of boobs looked misshapen and wrinkly. Trust me, things get much better. It takes months , but your skin will adjust and heal. My scar lines are like hairline thin now and have settled. Feel free to email me on my website if you need to talk or have more questions. I’m here for you ❤️ Selena
Glad you made it through your surgery ok been in my thoughts a lot hope you get good news from your doctor. You've been through a lot just take it easy. Wishing you the best
Selena, this is Karen from New York State, who sent you a black fringe shawl with embroidery on it a long time ago. You have been in my thoughts and prayers especially lately every day. I almost jumped up and down when I saw you had uploaded a video. But I didn't actually because I'm such a klutz and probably would've slipped and fallen and would have had to tell my doc why I was there with a swollen ankle or other injury. You can laugh; that's ok, but my doc has heard all kinds of crazy stories from me - cat bites from my volunteer work at the shelter (not the kittie's fault - she was sick and I didn't know and was trying to play and she just needed to rest), wearing sandals in December and tripping (it was a warm December day; my toes love to be free!), and other crazy klutzy shenanigans. I hope you're smiling now! Anyway, all of us are your fairy godmothers and we are all waving our magic wands to bring you healing, peace, happiness (yes! happiness will return!!!!) and comfort. Snuggly blankie and warm cocoa kind of comfort. Loving hugs kind of comfort. The comfort of knowing that all will be well and you just need to keep your eyes on the prize. That kind of comfort. So I'm here thinking of you, sending you prayers and pink sparkly healing energy. I'm now going to PetSmart to do volunteer work - we have a momma Manx cat and her kittens to adopt out and I'm gonna get them the best furever home ever in your honor. So kiss your hubby, scratch your cute puppy in her favorite spot but mostly be kind and gentle with yourself as you await wonderful things. PS I can't wait to grab that magazine! Does that make me an official Selena stalker? ;) Blessings to you and yours, sweet girl. XO
Viewing this long after recovery..late to find your channel. I am still so impressed by your recovery and your willingess to share your experiences. Brave, brave Girl! Love you!
I can understand what you’re going through beautiful lady. I’m 61yrs and a cancer survivor of 26 years. All this will come to pass especially pain. Its natural to cry so cry until you can’t shed any more tears. I Refocused my mind quick smart from the “I’” and self pity to keep busy to save my sanity and went with the motto “life begins after diagnosis”, I started to appreciate my many blessings, and took the time to really focus on other senses like smell, taste etc, I look at images of homeless people and see them having a worse card dealt to them as I began to feel empathy rather than turning a blind eye, worst was actually listening and having a belly laugh at jokes I once thought was stupid and childish😊 Guess what..I was an “l” successful business woman at 36yrs with no time for kids unless they were my siblings offspring...after that dreadful day I’ve since had a very handsome 25yr son and a 24 yr beautiful daughter. Our pathway in life is variedMy prayers with you my girl. Stay blessed 😊
I am so glad that the surgery is behind you and that you can now move forward. My left armpit area was totally numb for over ten years following my mastectomy, due to all of the lymph nodes that were taken. The numbness makes it difficult when shaving, so take special care when doing that. Something else that I recall was a 'zinging' feeling inside my chest following surgery that lasted for quite some time. When I asked, it was explained to me that this was the nerves healing, so it's a good thing. Surgery puts a heavy strain on your body, so give yourself time to heal. You'll be tired, have low energy and will be on an emotional rollercoaster. Hopefully, knowing that your 'sisters' out in You Tube land have also been through this process and came out on the other side, will be of some comfort to you. Please share more when and if you are up to it. Congrats on the magazine and Happy Holidays to you and yours. TFS.
It is so hard to hear what you are going through - your pain and discomfort and am amazed that you can share it with others. I listened to your account and wondered what I would do. I hope that I would have your courage and your will to live to get me through it. I just want you to be well again.
You are so brave. Other women going through this are going to appreciate the information. My heart goes out to you. Love your channel. Love your attitude about life. Connie
