Bridesmaid Cult Documentary - SNL 

But it's funny because it's true.

😭 I'm still scarred from the last 2 weddings I was in. They were in the same summer, 10 years ago. Which is why I love my cousin's response when I'd asked her if I could help with anything. She'd said No, because she still wanted me to like her afterwards 😅

One of my best friends asked me to be a bridesmaid. Our friendship ended immediately after the wedding. She was a monster for an entire year. I have refused 2 other friends asking. I heard from mutual friend she was getting a divorce 2 years later. I got engaged and sent her a text Message asking her to be a bridesmaid so I could pay her back for the h*** she put me and the other women through. She has not responded yet 😂

@Janet Mainor I had a friend stop talking to me after I missed her wedding. My grandmother had passed. I would have missed the funeral (also, her wedding was 4 hrs away from me). Eventually, she apologized for yelling at me, but the damage was done. I did have one wedding as a BM where everything went smoothly. It was beautiful. And one of the weddings I mentioned before would have been ok, the bride was fine but it was her crazy sister I had to contend with 😅😭

Including the clipboard beating?

"Adam Ruins Everything" … Season 1 episode 15, "Adam Ruins Wedding" .

Wild how materialistic everything is about a ceremony that's supposed to celebrate the immaterial

Completely agree.

Yeah, Big Wed is terrifying

​@Call me Shaggy These traditions are being 'imported' to Europe as well. And more and more people combine it with European traditions and they expect you to attend twice (and more importantly: bring presents twice). So you're expected to attend the engagement party and a bridal shower/bachelor party. An American style baby shower and the traditional maternity visit. At this rate we might even become more materialistic than you Americans...

Not my family. I asked them to come as they were and we did it at the courthouse. No bridal party needed. The we had a kick-ass party at my cousin's house, the one who always throws the best parties. 😅🎉

@@Gumbier_Than so you are part of the solution… yes, together we can make this stop.

Group hug!

I had to decorate a bra. Bride-to-be is my former roommate. She is very evangelical, innocent and prudish. I'm very lesbian. I decorated my bra with rainbows. Her even more evangelical friends interpreted it as the rainbow of Noah's covenant... I've been to my fair share of weird bridal parties, but for me this was the weirdest experience. Like an alternate universe. They spoke a completely different language.

Do we want to tho😅

That was my FAVORITE LINE LOL

It seemed extra ✨✨

That needs to be a shirt🤣

She went from “oooh he got money!” to “oooh she got money!”

​@@supb1437 that was great! 😂

Yes! She's a delight!

She fit in so well with the cast too.

@@cbpd89 she writes and performs in a black lady sketch show so she’s a pro

High school prom cults are on the rise too. 🤣😂

😂😂😂 I’m already planning a wedding and I’m not even in a relationship. That’s how obsessed I am with weddings. That way when I find the one I’m all ready to go.

@@atlsongbyrd6084😅😅😅

​@@atlsongbyrd6084if you're not joking, that's sad

Nashville actually is the bachelorette party capital of America.

As a Nashvillian I cried.

There's an Air BnB full of them up the street from me right now.

I saw 6-8 bachelorette parties in Old Town Scottsdale yesterday….we are quickly approaching Nashville levels…sooo many pink cowboy hats! Like, no one wears cowboy hats here unless you are here for a horse show

Top bachelorette destination!!!

@Aimee Lynn 💯 Back in the day, when I was a bridesmaid, we just had to buy the dress and show up for the bridal shower, dress rehearsal, and wedding. But for my wedding, I paid for the bridesmaid dresses, so they just had to show up for the rehearsal and wedding. My sisters and 2 close friends were the bridesmaids. They were young and not yet working, so I don't think any bought me a bridal shower gift, and that was ok with me because I was in the same financial boat. I was just happy that they shared my special day.

No bridesmaids? A true hero. 🥲

I had no bridesmaids and only immediate family (~25 people). Best decisions ever.

My wife had bridesmaids but didn’t do all ‘the extra stuff’ she had a casual shower and then the wedding. I feel like it should be about what you want it to be, not what everyone expects it to be.

@@feurigerStern U were a great bride for how u handled ur end! Congratulations to you!!!🙏💐💝🎉👰🤗

11 times. You must be a great friend.

Since it's a commercial for the documentary and not a full-on doc, I'm guessing you have to watch it in full to see it.

AH HELL NO, after the wedding brunch? Holy shit.

My cousin just got married. 25 people she paid for and invited didn't show up or even tell her. She was heartbroken, but tried not to show it.

@@digby_dooright about 1/3 of all guest lists will not show even at high profile parties and events such as weddings. Things do just happen such as emergencies, social anxieties, forgetting the date, sick children, other issues such as transportation. I used to own a catering business. This should always be planned into an agreement with catering. Please tell your cousin she is not alone, it wasn't about HER specifically and it doesn't mean she has terrible friends. I'm really sorry she was upset and can understand!

See, that actually makes me want to get married. But I’m difficult and cheap if I don’t want the stress and the experience of being ripped off by an organizer, caterer, and anyone else sticking their hands in my pocket.😅

The more to spend on a wedding, the shorter the marriage lasts.

@@apok1980 I wouldve liked a mid size wedding but it didnt make financial sense to us. I used the money we had for the downpayment of our home. Much better use of our money. If I had loaded parents, I wouldn't mind a nice wedding.

​@@Greeneggsandham123 yeah, also like the more you spend on the wedding, the less money you have for the honeymoon, and I'd much rather have an outstanding vacation than ostentatious wedding.

@@apok1980 Is eloping still a thing...? You could do that

This is because weddings and all of the displays involved were something only wealthy people did to show off their wealth. Now it has been sold to us that EVERYONE should have this extravagant wedding outside of their means, and we drag our friends down with us. It’s sad honestly

This is such a pessimistic view. Like you can have a get away bachelor trip with friends as that is what life is for.

@@treystaton282 hey everyone! I think I found the guy who inspired this sketch!

@Maniac536 If you are making it about yourself 24/7, then sure, it can be awful. My bachelor party was doing 70% of what my friends wanted, and they made new friends they are close with after. Escape room, projector playing games, etc.. To let someone know you care about them and are close to them can be a great thing. Like with most things, just don't be an ass

@@Maniac536 like c'mon

Godspeed, Lynda 🙏

Thoughts and prayers!

@@juliasmith960 🤣🤣🤣

@@its_that_serious hahaha thanks!

@@juliasmith960OMG I was about to type that haha.

Or a mockumentary, a la Best in Show or This is Spinal Tap or really any of Christopher Guest's mockumentaries, though those are the ones that are considered the best. I know there's one more...

​@@canaisyoung3601You're thinking of A Mighty Wind, and it's fantastic!!

😢 yasssss it do

Or any of Christopher Guest's mockumentaries. And Christopher Guest actually was a Saturday Night Live cast member (season 10, 1984-1985).

oh Best in Show was hysterical

Have you seen Bridesmaids? With Kristen Wiig and Maya Rudolph? similar but not exactly the same

Sameee

Definitely.

It would be interesting to see more on Brittany’s change of attitude after her chat with the maid of honor.

Three hours. Better yet, a miniseries. (Cue Quinta Brunson looking savage [if that's even remotely possible!])

A bunch of SNL alumnae already did a movie called Bridesmaids.

@@gregoryeatroff8608 Yes, though this version is a thousand times better....although, admittedly, Wiig would be stellar in this.

​@@gregoryeatroff8608 Yeah, but it wasn't a harrowing documentary on how it's no different than a cult.

Also movies like bridesmaids and all the other wedding/bachelor bachelorette party movies all depict it like is oh so great... There needs to be a movie that shows regular people with regular lives, (not rich and that hoity toity picture perfect life vibe). A comedy that doesn't rely on typical dumb jokes and stereotypes and all that stuff...

Yes!

The middle class girl in me loves this more than you know!

@@lranieri1 after enduring bridezilla sisters and having to shell out a butt-ton of money for what is essentially a party, I didn't want to burden my friend with that. She has 2 kids, a husband, a mortgage, etc., so why ruin that with a bunch of nonsense? Let's have fun, drink and dance to Barry Manillow, which we did! And she bought her dress at Ross, which still delights me! It's held up well.

@@SuburbanSavage I feel the same way! I don't want my guests to suffer because of some ridiculous social norm. I'm so basic and easy going. I told my boyfriend that were not putting anyone out financially. I don't even want gifts! I'm like you, let's make the best of what we have and love and be content with it!

@@lranieri1 exactly! I told everyone, "I'm here for the marriage and not the party!" I found my photographer on Craigslist for $275 + an additional $25 for gas, because he had to drive up from Delaware. Still, I got ALL of the pictures, uploaded them to Shutterfly and had a wedding album + mini albums for our parents for $50. Friends of ours, who got married a year before we did, spent $5000 for just the photographer and another $5000 for the album, and our book is way better!

I'm more glad you gave a solid no. Lots of people allow themselves to be pressured into a bad situation.

Insane. I’ve never been in that situation before, I’ve only ever been a bridesmaid for my sisters’ weddings and they were all awesome brides that didn’t have crazy/lavish weddings, My wedding was planned only a few weeks beforehand so it was very casual and I didn’t have a bridal shower or anything. I had a quick shopping trip to David’s bridal with my mom and sisters and got a $100 dress. Awesome memories.

The 6 month silent treatment wasn’t NEARLY long enough. And it should’ve been coming from YOU, not the bride.

Good on you for putting your foot down

Nothing is more evil than making someone buy a $300 dress she could only wear once that she didn't pick out.

I am proud of you! Honestly I've never understood all these weird customs like rehearsal dinners and stuff, it does seem very cult-like. Well done for sticking up for yourself 👏

The Cults: uses MK Ultra Mind Control! Wich means a girl is going to be a bridesmaid for life, never the bride 🎉 😢😢😢

A lot of the cast members and writers I feel watch Netflix a lot, because they did that spoof of Wild Wild Country (where Kenan plays a black guy who joined because the cult was filled with horny white women) and that also was frighteningly accurate.

I really feel you! Just sent it to the only unmarried friend (apart from me) in our friendship group - because she knows the pain!!

Yep, I definitely can't post this on social media. 😆

She has history of sketch comedy. She’s amazing.

Perfect girl-next-door, best friend, adorable sister all rolled into one.

A natural in all sketches.

I hope she hosts again

Absolutely. Instagram and Pinterest are really to blame for setting unrealistic expectations and making everyone feel like that have to do more and bigger things for the gram.

Twice BEFORE the wedding?! Girl, you should’ve had a little chat with your friend about that. That’s inconsiderate. I can see you flying over for the bachelorette or bridal shower but not both. Plus you still had to fly somewhere for the actual wedding? So that’s 3 trips for someone else’s wedding. Why don’t people do the math before asking folks to commit to unrealistic expectations.

Saaaaame I took vacation days time in the first month of my 1st brand new job after grad school to drive cross-country for a former (lol) friend's big wedding, stayed late to help her parents clean up the day of the wedding, had to drive back at 6am the next day (10 hour drive, on 6 hours of sleep) to be back at work by Monday. Was told by the bride I didn't do enough to contribute to the wedding, and that I also didn't care because I didn't attend the bachelorette party which was a week before beginning aforementioned brand new job. Was also 26 and broke having just finished grad school btw...Let's just say my parents told me not to be friends with her anymore because of the unbelievable entitlement and selfishness...

No literally the amount of EVENTS that brides expect their bridal party to participate in/pay for now is insane. Engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette, rehearsal dinner, etc etc etc. and half of those will be destination events too on top of the wedding itself. I refuse lol.

@@anneotherday lol i refuse too which is why my one bridesmaid doesnt have to do anything but show up the day before the wedding for rehearsal and have a good time! 😅

So, you are a poor quality individual with shitty friends. If you already know your friends won't last two years in any marriage, you know they are bad people. Shitty people make shitty friends and shitty partners. Weddings are beautiful, so long as the people are.

Has anyone asked?

Are you a bridezilla/crazy bridesmaid? 🤨

If you think that's bad, try being the mother of the groom. 😔

Oddly specific

Well the bride would have been gutted and there would have been terrible drama if any of us refused. The day wasn’t about me and I didn’t want to ruin it for her, because she had been a good friend for a time. So I chose the option that sucked for me, yes, but my point is that I shouldn’t have had to sacrifice all that just for a good friend to turn on me.

Whew--choreography? That's rough 😢

omg im so sorry

@@aimeelynn6365 coercion, peer pressure, withholding affection-those are all real, really!

Omg you poor thing. What an awful person

Is it now?! 🤔😏

She got years of great practice on Buzzfeed, she can do SNL in her sleep and not miss a beat

That's why I'd just say wear black and formally, I don't even have to wear high heels, shoes as long as they are clean black LOL I don't think wedding planning would be my thing. I think it's better to save my money, for life stuff, and a honeymoon. As long as I have good food, honestly good food. And good time now that's my wedding but looks like just marry my self 🤣

This must be an American thing, in my country we don't really have bridesmaids, you pick one person as a bridesmaid but it's more like a witness, and they usually organize some games to be played at the wedding together with the other friends who were invited. That's all. They can wear what they want and there is nothing else expected.

@@surlespasdondine What country do you live in? That sounds lovely.

Philadelphia, too? This is worse than I thought.

I'm neurotypical (possibly) and all my friends just disappeared after high school and college and Job Corps.

Same!!

SNL should do another Netflix documentary parody about the run up to the wedding and the bridezilla.

In some ways, yes; but who says we have to compete?

Less people are getting married, and the people who do are burned out from three to four years of covid and laws that shift on a dime and are equally likely to have a huge reception and not file the certificate as they are to run away and get legally bound without telling anyone as they are to just do it the normal way and then dissolve it in exactly 8 months, because you and I both have been around long enough to know that is how long it takes and then they will do it again next year I would not worry about it too much. I would worry about living as authentically as you can and know that this whole thing was once pretty standard, but the lines are made up and the rules don't matter anymore

​@@June26Brown True

Weddings like the ones the industry portrays are extremely overrated and huge waste of money. Consider yourself lucky in that sense.

You luck

It really is 😭😭🤣🤣🤣

Unpaid internship

Or get married at the courthouse and have a nice dinner afterwards. I don't have many friends, so that's probably what's going to happen with me.

Agree! Make it easier

Exactly… they are literally ALL. THE. SAME…I can’t understand why people still spend such an obscene amount of money on something no one is going to remember

My parents dont want us to elope. My brother did that and i guess everyone was bummed they couldnt be at the ceremony. Trust me, i wish my fiance and i could elope 😓 But all my friends are broke/busy and i am disabled so i absolutely will not be doing all this dumb pre-wedding shit.

@@kellylyons1038 Well hey, since it's your parents pushing for the ceremony, you'd be perfectly justified informing Mom and Dad that all the arrangements are up to them.

You have to watch Abbott Elementary if you haven’t already! She created and stars in it!

Look up her early Buzzfeed sketches she wrote and starred in, it's what made me a lifelong fan

Omg I thought she looked familiar. She’s loving on up, good for her. Seem buzzfeed lost all the good ones. Sofia try guys minus Ned of course amoung others

Black Lady Sketch Show!!!

I thought it was gonna be the 61 year old guy.

Yep…same…I think my dress was $60…and a courthouse ceremony later we were seated in our favorite restaurant on the ocean eating surf and turf…It was so much fun

We all would. Over 90% of American women have fallen prey to this cult.