Buddhist Parents: Expectations and Finding a Purpose in Life 

Nice to know, thanks!

@Whizper2me He seemed terrified and depressed to you because that's how you perceived his reality. Also, it's not evading reality, it's seeing reality as is. Evading reality is what we do with our 9-5 jobs and the chase behind materialistic things.

It's almost like we're all just people.

Buddha teaches that specific circumstances repeat themselves with different incarnations too. Each time you reincarnate, you have the same kind of friends, same weaknesses, same strengths, etc. Everything keeps coming back around.

Basic layman. Outsiders. NPCs. Civilians. Call them what you want but everyone looks and acts the same to me lol

I wish I was more of a doer than a over thinker.

It happened a lot in Tibetan Buddhism where they do allow Lama to be married. It’s the structure of power and opportunity for people to corrupt, some do and some don’t.

Yeah, a serious wtf moment.

how so?

Right?? A bird needs to fly to find out what the sky is like, a fish needs to swim to find out what the ocean is like. Here, I cooked you bird and fish, did I get it right dad?

@@FunwithCFS lol 😂

Thanks, I missed that; if I played the last second I'd had realized it wasn't an ad 😌

A parent that is a buddhist is a buddhist parent. What's the issue? A buddhist will instill buddhist principles whereas a non-buddhist parent may have different principles. For example, a protestant Christian parent (allow me a generalisation), may try to indoctrinate an ambitious work ethic. As you saw in the video, the father seems to have no interest in "forcing" anything, he rather just let the kid flourish in whatever direction he finds. The son even stated he wished his father pushed him more. His equanimity and not acting from a place of desire is very "buddhist". This added label is a convention, and just adds information to reality as I described. I don't think it undervalues any other non-buddhist parents. Its just a nuanced view and that's what the documentary was about. Nobody is saying any type of parents are better or worse. But no doubt that they are different. Also, I don't think the son was a case of Hikikomori, this is different, it's about buddhist parenting, fundamentally based on love and non-attachment, the non-attachment part is what makes buddhist parent different I think. It's an alien idea to non-buddhists. Anyway, he's thriving now! A flower takes time to blossom, and rushing it won't help, maybe the Zen master is onto something.

Attachment is suffering; and Hikikomori is a perfectly valid life experience.

@@TeddehSpaghetti disagree

@JimboParadox Not really.

@@TeddehSpaghetti Sorry, your sentence structure confused me. I think specifically, your use of a semi-colon with, "and." Are you saying Hikikomori isn't attachment? Every life experience is valid, yet not without context. Leeching off your parent(s) in such a way, invalidates their life. Maybe it's semantics so please expand (if it's not bothersome) on what you mean by, "perfectly valid."

@@CloudVirtue Hikikomori is certainly attachment www.japantimes.co.jp/life/2019/06/01/lifestyle/prison-inside-japans-hikikomori-lack-relationships-not-physical-spaces/

I am almost 75, and I continue to discover. No longer, I think, do we make a decision and spend a lifetime stuck in that decision. I have had many mini-careers and hope to have a few more before I pass on the fire.

Care to share your understanding?

No buddy. There's a lot of truly shitty people out there, and it's not because they weren't hugged enough.

@@aluisious we can either go towards the darkness or towards the light i have been where you are now it will take time and a desire for true love all the best my friend

Ugh, I'm roleplaying a wage slave, and I even know it.

There's nothing wrong with practicing rituals. Rituals provide structure and order and there's freedom in that. It's when you let rituals (whatever it is -- be it religion or work) enslave you is when it's no longer a good thing for you.

Stop trying to do this here. It's irrelevant, shallow and frankly just annoying.

A shallow understanding of both Jesus and Buddha. Perhaps you should actually do some practice yourself.

@@StimParavane Please share how you are doing it daily?

In another video he said he worked part time 3 or 4 days a week in a factory and was a monk on the other days. He said he broke his body in his 20s doing this work so not sure what happened in his 30s

In this regard Japan may be different from other Asian countries. Confucianism had much less effect in J. than for example in China or South Korea.

@@changgyong He has a special exception, though. He is the child of a Buddhist monk. That doesn't apply to most Japanese people, haha.

@@Liuhuayue The way Japanese monks are trained is very similar to other kind of training in Japan. In Japan being a priest is similar to other kind of jobs. Monks and priests are also people just like anyone else, I think. Respect your point of view though.

@@changgyong If they were just like everyone else, then what would be the point of making this documentary focused on someone descended from a monk? It's unusual.

@@Liuhuayue None is just like everyone else, everyone is unique and unusual. In Japan Buddhist monks were told to get married around the Meiji era. Since that time all monks (perhaps better to use the word priest) have kids. Those kids also become socialized the same way as other Japanese children, same educational system and so on. The social phenomena called Hikokomori, or being socially withdrawn is not unusual in Japan, but it is more unusual for Western people. Also it does not exist in other Asian countries. There was a good documentary on Aljazira TV about it: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-h1uhyM7gN50.html You could also just search Hikokomori on youtube, and there are loads of results... You are right though, but if you like check out the Aljazira documentary. I have to admit that I have not seen the whole documentary about the priests family only most of it. I live in Japan now, and otherwise in South Korea, so this environment is not completely unknown to me. Have a nice day!

@@DM-ks1pj Not all millennials are socially inept snowflakes. Some actually live on their own.

Except of course that he didn't come to home to live with his parents for ever after training as a chef. How embarrassing that you got so much wrong.

Everything okay Lee from L.A.?

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