building my actual house in the sims 4 bc my builder GHOSTED ME 

Yea when she said random ppl are knocking on her door I was like bro wtf. I don't think wanting a gate is excessive at all?? It's perfectly normal. I'm also paranoid abt security but I think there's nothing wrong with wanting to be safe, it's only natural - one should do what they think is best to keep their minds at ease

It's honestly a great idea. if you wanted you could always put up a sign about a big dog or something and people will understand :P so proud and excited for ya babes luv ya and your info dumps. stay safe! there are also great indoor portable door locks that you can manually put in at night and its light and easy (and fantastic for travel) definitely recommend. have so so much fun designing your own world irl xoxox

@@yenovefa I think she means delivery people. In the UK we have letterboxes in the doors themselves which fit up to small parcels, but anything bigger being delivered they will knock on your door to deliver them. Its not like in America where the mail box is practically miles away from the door to the house. We don't have big fronts to our houses here, so that would be why it could seem "a bit much" to add in a security gate - it would be maybe two or three steps away from the door. And delivery people here are notoriously shit at bothering to ring intercoms to get let inside (or be told to just place the parcel down). If it makes them feel more comfortable to add one then they should go for it, but that's probably where the thinking came from.

@@yenovefa This is exactly why if I ever became a streamer or something I'd have some sort of avatar and a voice changer lol I'd just make it a character. That and prob just make sure that all my youtube/streaming stuff isn't connect to any personal emails or bank accounts

+100. i love the rambling info dumps

I had to do a double take here, I was sure I hadn't commented!

amen!

Between anxiety(also very likely autism but between the one therapist I spoke to about it having a negative opinion of autism (I quit seeing her) and the fact that having an autism diagnosis could fuck me over in the long run when it comes to transitioning I'm not pursuing a professional diagnosis just going off of symptoms and a child psychologist telling me I should look into it after speaking with me for less than an hour) and chronic pain I don't get out of the house as often as I should or want so I bring my cat out into he backyard he loves it out their and needs to be supervised so he forces me to go out and at least get fresh air and some sun.(he is leash trained so I just have to follow him about the yard as he wanders) we also have a small corner store nearby (I live in a hamlet it's our gas station as well as general store) that I walk to once a week or so exclusively to buy myself treats that I almost never get anywhere else so that I always have something very positive to look forward to when I go there

@@ashrowan2143 I used my cat to get me outside too!

oh fuck yes. i've seldom left the house the past two years (i'm a student) but having a regular appointment, always the same time and day, has been pretty good for me. i've actually gone out with my sister and her friend twice (!!!) this year already

Not a bad tip, but would not work for me. I'd still *feel* the busyness behind me

another way could be something i've seen my mom do - instead of doing the whole wall, do just a strip and paint the rest of the wall a nice corresponding color

@@ps1hagridoufofcharacter i love your username

@@TurangaNibbler thank u, i've actually been pretty conflicted about it but i appreciate it

I get that same feeling. My ex wife would just interrupt me and say, "No one cares," so now I try to keep things to like one sentence or less and seeing someone being unapologetically themselves with info dumping is comforting.

Yeah definitely go lighter than you think if your aiming for a light shade on the walls my parents repainted recently and the lightest shade is meant to be just barely not white and when the first colour my mum picked went up it was key lime green on the swatch it was barely green, went back to the hardware store and picked out a new even lighter shade and it's much better, on the swatch of this one you could barely even tell it was meant to be a shade of extremely light unsaturated green but on the walls you get just enough of a hint of that green for it to be noticeable

When I was a teenager I chose a pastel lime green for my bedroom furniture (the walls were white) and my dad said "are you sure? you'll get stressed out about it" and now that I am in my twenties I can proudly say that instead of stressing me out, that color choice soothed the sh*t out of me (pardon my French)! I do not regret it.

I find warmer tones have that effect on me. Blue is cold and harsh & alienating as a colour to me. Its not at all calming. I hate it hate it hate it with a burning passion. Makes me feel cold & I hate being cold & it makes me uncomfortable and on edge feeling. People put it in bathrooms and I'm like WHY? Now it feels colder which is the exact opposite temperature I want my bathroom to be. Brrrr.... Green is way better, but then its a warmer colour when you go for the shades I like - the more yellow greens. So I do have lots of yellow green furnishings. Purple I used to like in my mid teens until my Mum painted my room purple. Previously it had been a lovely warm apricot/peach colour. Really warm & restful. Like nice warm pillows and duvets to snuggle up in (can not get to sleep with a cold pillow/bedding, its torture!). When it was a sunny day it sort of amplified the warmth from the sun & made it feel bright & relaxing. Plus we didn't have radiators back then so my room got cold & only got any heat if we had the gas fire on in the living room as the flue went up behind the wall I had my bed on. In comparison the purple made the room feel so cold! No matter how much sun it got, it still felt cold & darker. Not at all a pleasant wall colour to have. But then I also have this issue with lighting. Like don't get me wrong I love the energy efficiency of LED bulbs, which is all you can get here now (others have been banned), but most of them come in more of a blue white and its not as nice nor easy to see by as incandescent bulbs were. We had to spend ages finding warm toned white LED bulbs & they're still not perfect. Plus of course LED bulbs flicker (supposed to be slightly too fast for the human eye, but my combination of severe astigmatism plus autism makes it visible so that's "fun").

@@AlexaFaie - It depends on the blue that you use and which colors you use to compliment them. I have a tealy-blue + warmer green combo with white furniture for my bedroom right now and it’s great. Not too cool (I know what you’re talking about) but it’s still colorful and not too warm where I feel like I can’t relax. My bedroom is also my office so I need that blend of “calm yet ready to work.” You can also add things to make it more cozy like little paper lantern lights or little prism bead decorations. I have a whole line of them in a west-facing window and at ~5 pm my whole room is filled with rainbow sparklies. And, during the full moon and at the right place, I get moon-sparklies, too. It’s really nice.

Same here, I had symptoms for a long time, but COVID really kicked me over the edge. I can go outside very rarely, like once a year, but only when my security at home depends on it. It's still a nightmare. Otherwise, you know, can't even step into my own courtyard. I'm starting counseling soon. I hope we can both recover from this! At least for the occasional trip outside ;u;

@@dapper3160 I'll definitely be cheering you on!! 🤗

Hi, life-long agoraphobic here! (diagnosed in childhood, I'm 24 now and still struggle) It’s different for everyone but the biggest thing that has helped me is fresh air and, believe it or not, losing one of my senses. DARK sunglasses outside and a blindfold in the house (one-level home) when I have days I’m too afraid to leave my room. Less to see, less to panic about. Obs only do these if you have the means and safety but it helps me so much. I’ve had days so bad that I was terrified to get out of bed but had no choice but to leave home for whatever reason. I’ve been blindfolded everywhere from theatres to the Drs office and even the grocery stores (I don’t drive bc of anxiety). Also, comfort items! Lots of people have things like worry stones, I have headphones and a beanie horse. On days I can’t be brave for myself, I’m brave for my beanie horse. 98% of the time my headphones aren’t even on, it just makes the world quiet. Blocking out one of my senses makes the world manageable because it’s less input and therefore helps make the world less AAAAAAAAAA. With covid when I was double masking it helped mute sense of smell (no it was not covid 😆 I used thick masks) so it was just another sense to remove and conquer. I also bought a 15lb weighted blanket (and later a weighted vest for when I left the house) right before they got popular and it's helped so much. Hype yourself up and realise it’s okay to have days where you stay home. I am constantly taking moments to breathe when I get the paralysing agora anxiety no matter where I am. Everything is an accomplishment. Mail, stores, even just looking out the window when the agora is bad. At its core, it's just another face of anxiety. It's something that can be conquered even temporarily. It is something that we ARE strong enough to overcome, even just for a day. When the world is bad And the agora hits I always remember I am a bad bitch 🖤

Same here! There are good and bad days, but we should keep trying anyway. Cheering for both of you.

good luck you folks! this sounds very scary, and i bet it is. but y’all will achieve your goals. 🥳

relate so much as a fellow uni student, thank you for sharing 💜

i feel for you and relate to this situation so much, my first year at uni i had to defer & restart again the next year because i got so stuck in my room. right now i still struggle sometimes, but it's improved so much. going outside and seeing sunshine/greenery can change ur mindset so much more than you'd expect, finding some quick meals you know how to do in the kitchen without getting overwhelmed, etc. i might be projecting rn, but i really hope u can find good ways to cope and like, make baby steps back outside again. i believe in u!

❤

She did the wallpaper 😍

I also never answer the door.