I respect that she was interested in reaching out to help those in prison. Or should I say an actual physical prison bc in some way we can all be prisoners of our minds.
I'll be honest, at first it's hard to understand what she is actually talking about, except for two points stated hyperbolically which are obvious to everyone, and all of us share. Very few people are full of compassion except for brief moments or short periods of time. To turn growth into a formula for dialogue seems to me a reduction that is not particularly useful. But then watching her dialogue with each person gives a pattern to follow for self exploration and growing. Nice exercise. Seriously.
Wray Rae Mooji was cool until his sexual misconduct came out. Mooji still has a lot of human things to process. Very few mature and clean teachers out there.
@@MegaHealer indeed true. Be your own teacher, all others are mere reflections and never the real one. For the only real one can only be found in the most quiet, empty space that abides in you....
@@waiataaroha 1. Is that true? 2. Can you absolutely know it's true? 3. How do react when you think that thought? 4. Who would you be without that thought? Turn it around...😊
I first met Byron Katie while in school to become a Certified Hypnotherapist. One of our instructors Diane Bradshaw had us all go see her to learn "The Work". It is such a simple but powerful technique. I utilized this in my hypnotherapy practice with amazing results. Thank you Byron, much love.
For her, I would imagine for myself that she would have seen it so many time that it isn't new. She's grieved for these things already. There are plenty of videos where the whole audience and her cry. It's a true experience and has changed my life.
Nearly 20 years since the video was made. The Work still valid.. makes me ponder how no matter the diatance, or time lapsed or personal circumstances, we experience the same pain and same solution works its magic.
I like this video because she provides examples based on her experience. The work was flushed out really well, which I think is very helpful for people new to the work. Thanks for posting this!
I love how simple Byron puts this. And I am in aw of the work that she is doing these beautiful human beings. 🙏🏻🥰. These four questions bring me out of my darkness and in to peace ✌️
Going to sound corny but when I see these prisoners share their personal stories.. I just fall in love with all of them!!! I just want to lift them up and heal their wounds and show them that they are so capable of love and being the love they are. Humans are so amazing and heartbreaking and adorable. Watching them taste just a little drop of what truly matters and how how starving they are to know love, just makes we want to do what she does. If only there was a place for humans to get a quick and through dose of self-understanding and love... That technology may come someday? Self destruction is such a painful path especially if we have been taught it from the beginning.. Yet each of them has their unique path... I could see how it might be difficult for some of them to hit this work when the cycle of victimhood has been such a part of every day existence. Yet the beautiful thing about Katie is she knows exactly how far she can take each one of them towards meeting their personal truth. Her work is embedded into my daily existence and watching these beautiful men tell their stories quickly opens my heart wide open. Give her work a chance if you are a hardcore resistant-to-life person... like I often can be... Wanting the world to be different than it is.. I would likely have left the planet years ago if it were not for finding her and her work, and so glad to be here. The beauty and depth of "the work" discovered ***her*** and she now shares this unconditional tough-love with the world selflessly. I will forever cherish all the ways this process has touched my life and always fascinated by how beautiful people are at their core. 1000% responsibility is never easy and takes willingness, courage and strength, but the payoff is priceless beyond words. I can't help but fall in love with all of them such beautiful humans.. Her work is way ahead of it's time, yet needed more than ever these days. : ) Perhaps someday humans will finally get it? PEACE on earth, goodwill be done... towards all life, someday, somehow, someway...amen
I think people abused more and past the abuse on when they don't question their own thoughts. This is a lesson in taking responsibility for our own thoughts. It doesn't mean that we were not abused, it just means we are looking at how we make thoughts up that Hold Us in a prison. When we begin to do the turn around and find reasons to not be stuck in the prison then we can find reasons to make our own life better and not pass that abuse on.
Our Own Negative Energy Created Our Own World / Mind Of Hell. Our Own Negative Beliefs Created Dark Relationships, Troubles Everywhere In Our Own World. This Is The Ego Which ALWAYS Blames/ Projects/ Looks "Outside" When The Only Way Out Is The Way In. 💜 Deeply Watch Our Beliefs, Thoughts and If We Look Deep Enough... We Will See How It Manifests In Our World. We Must Forgive As Christ Did... For They Know Not... We Must Also Know That The Story Of Christ Is About Us. We Are All The Light Of God. ☀ God Awaken All and Keep All In Our Open Heart. 💜🙏💛
Profound exercise and Work. Just beautiful.. jaw dropoing wisdom... and on a lighter note, I love that the one guy's problem being in prison is that his family home is painted blue and he doesn't like it.
4 questions Belief- eg people are not compassionate 1. Is it true?YES! 2. Can you absolutely know its true? No... 3. How do you feel about that thought? 4. Who would you be without that thought? The turnaround: I am not compassionate at the moment that I'm judging others People Are compassionate
This is one of my favorite earlier videos and I am grateful to Guy Madison for uploading it, for the guys who volunteered to share their worksheets, and obviously for Katie! I wonder how many of the gentlemen were long-term well-affected by Katie's visit? So great!
this video has let me know how many resentments in my life i have. how it is me and my thinking that has made me fucked up, amazing!!! turn it all around!!
This is d first tym I am hearing her. She has an inner light "We are Stuck in a concept we never question" Yes we imagine things, both positiveor negative, n we believe it like robots 'Loving father, not the judging father'
Thanks Byron Katie. I just saw a story on the news about a prison system that had a book club that inspired men to donate funds to a young student whose parents had lost their jobs do to illness. I don't know if my phone is trolling me or not but I think that is an example of how people like you are giving hope.
Perhaps the qualifier "adequately " should be used. We can attempt description of things that we know lie beyond language. Anyone who has had a NDE, a lucid or vivid dream, or a trip will experience things that they just can't English. But we try. It's a shame to condemn a person for their (necessarily inadequate) efforts.
at around 17:22 this is a massive paradigm shift - that in this particular case the subject seems to agree with. and in this case alot of insights and revelations come forth. can anyone who has a good grasp of her techniques please comment on a different scenario? say the person who was traumatized by an older person who had authority over them, such as someone held captive and then abused by their mean-spirited captives. is there any value in this type of therapy for a situation such as that? where the victim truly had no influence one way or another as to what horrible things that were inflicted to them... or is there a better, or different, paradigm that a victim can use here to help heal from such a wound. if the victims statement was 'i resent my abusive tormentors for the pain they inflicted to me', how could that ever be turned around to any other type of a statement that could ever give such a victim a different more healthy perspective on such a traumatic situation? Any insights would be very welcome, as I am trying to learn more about how to help heal the pains of victims. Not professionally but in the role of being a good friend.
Byron Katie is not saying that abuse didn't happen. The questions just help us to explore our beliefs and judgements so that we can find peace. It is a way to think about more than our fixed beliefs as we become aware that 1) we only see our one-sided perspective, 2) our imaginations mostly don't reflect reality, 3) abusers are dealing with their own problems and beliefs, and 4) mentally we often are our own tormentors.
After watching the Dahmer series, I wonder what it would be like to watch Katie doing the work with Jeffrey. I'm sure he would've be fascinated to meet someone like her, and doing the inquiry in order to understand his mind.
Bt the end, we see her become severe and defensive rather than to acknowledge the limitations of her method. Her supposed compassion goes away when as she tries to avoid getting exposed.
The answer to question 2 is always "no", as the only thing that we can absolutely be certain of is that we exist (Descartes' cogito). Every belief can be turned around, even the positive ones.
@@Theodolphe If the answer to question 2 is "yes", that is the answer. the work is not about forcing yourself to get the right answer, but to find what is absolutely true *for you*. there were times ppl were answering "yes" to the second question, and nothing wrong with that.
O.k. so the second guy's father wasn't abusive once....Which makes his initial statement "untrue" or "a lie"...but isn't that nitpicking? Does he not have a good reason to feel resentful for the other 99.999999%?....for having lived his entire childhood in fear? Don't get me wrong...I think this process can be very helpful... but in situations that involve abuse of power toward a child who literally depends on you for love and protection...I can see why he's confused. This "work" is ADULT work....and you're dealing with his inner child who was NOT responsible for not knowing how to deal appropriately with his father's abuse. Of course he acted out! This is what people do when they've exhausted all saner options. And children do not WANT to hurt their parents. They only do so when they've tried to solve their problems with all other tools available to them... Of course I see the value in learning to recognize that even abusive parents may love their children...and that they, themselves, only abuse when they "can see no other way"...and understanding this can be very helpful for our own healing and growth toward taking responsibility for our lives and our choices....but let's not bypass the NON-CHOICE and the very real pain and trauma of a child in constant fear in his own home during the most critical developmental period of his life. I doubt that BK "intends" to bypass in this way..(as evidenced in her later comment with another participant "we expect our children to do it, but we can't even do it!").but I sure wish she would have said as much while speaking with the guy who grew up in fear of his father...who might have interpreted what she's saying here as "you are and always have been equally responsible in every painful situation as the so-called "culprit". This is not true for a child. I'm a believer in "grieving first" what was lost....and THEN taking responsibility for one's life moving forward as an adult.
this work is very personal, and as such, everyone needs to do it as far as it true for them in each of the questions. if a certain one isnt true for u - it's not, and there's no reason to force yourself to fake it in order to please the process, katie, or whatever. for example, if u do the work on an abusive parent, u can find yourself dealing with a question such as "your father abused you" - and go to the second question "can you absolutely know that its true?" - you can answer "yes" equally as "no". what u recognize as the truth, is what really makes sense.. not the answer, but what you find in your inner world to be true. this doesnt mean that you give up your values, you just learn to identify the stressful thoughts and feelings u have upon any situation, and give it the peace it needs. that's basically what this process is about.
I wonder what she would say about people who exhibit dark triad traits\ psychopathy and the pure hell they inflict on others. I personally struggle with this one.