Dare to Dream was recently featured in the CNA Insider "Kids in Rental Flats", And as the chairman Mr. Stanley puts it, a prototype towards the "gold standard" of what some people consider to be a controversial social experiment. But imagine this, the situations of where these kids come from, Jovia who comes from a single parent household, whose mother can't cope with her child's schooling expenses as she is saving up for a house. Or like Rayyan who has social awkwardness and self esteem issues. As much as their parents try to be supportive of him, they seem to brush off his concerns as "nervousness". It is not the kids fault to begin with when it is their living environment has made them this way, Therefore I see the remarkable approach taken by the team at Dare to Dream, especially Ms Kheng Leng & Mr Mohammad. They talked to the kids straight up in a neutral manner and without sugarcoating the facts. Most importantly, they LISTENED and don't brush them aside.
The lady and the dance choreographer might have the right intentions but just have no idea how ridiculous they sound: "You all have to dance because the sponsor will be there and he paid for everything" What are you trying to tell the kids? That some rich guy paid to save them from poverty and they should do something against their wishes just to show gratitude? That's demeaning. And I'm sure the generous donor wouldn't have explicitly stated that all kids must dance as a condition for his donation. She's probably just a staff trying to meet her KPI to please her boss or show face to the donor. "I initially didn't want to take the job until I heard your stories" Again, this is just making the kids feel like they have to please some guy with a savior mentality which they never asked for. It's emotional ransom at the subtle level. If you want to help, just help. Don't go in with some saviour mentality and feel like the kids owe you.
Diam lah you not helping or volunteering, dont need to step emotional ransom all typical SJW bs. These kids literally need a tough real talk to know where their food etc comes from so that they'll wake up. They are a result of too much pampering by ppl like you.
The donor may stop funding the SSA if they find that their funds are not used effectively. However, the way the choreographer and the lady communicated with the kids will make them develop a inferiority complex, it's terrible. If they really want to convey funding issues to the kids, they should do it more tactfully. But then, as mentioned in the next episode, she's an external stakeholder. What's the point of having the boarding school if all the students developed low self-esteem and/or left the institution.
My only suggestion is that students from other socio-classes of the same age grp can be invited as volunteers for peer study, play sports together etc. It is like networking. You want to break the cycle, you have to make sure they also mingle with ppl of other social class. I was in the worst class because teachers taught it'll be better. But to me it reinforces our bad habits because we're stuck in a circle of similar ppl. Pros n cons.
the man at 14:00 is a jem, he thinks deeply and analyses the whole system, SG needs people like him to question the norm because the norm could be something bad for society. always remember "Privilege is invisible to those who have it". American sociologist, Prof Michael Kimmel.
He is right. But the alternative is worse. You're either in a developed world with majority doing fine, or you're in a developing world with majority doing EQUALLY bad. The concept of equality is subjective.
I am soooo happy that we have this program. A good test program. Thank you for the team behind this program. I hope "experiment" produce achievers in their own ways! Fighting!
It was very hard on him too.. glad the kids get to see he is a human too.. thank you for ur sacrifice sir. Aint easy leaving ur children to care for other children 😢
As a teacher for more than a decade, there are moments when I really have to raise my voice, on very rare occasions, for kids to listen. If adult males in military training get screamed at to fall in line, what more with kids?!😅
@kNatureFarm oh so you're saying kids attend army yea you're not a teacher. also everyday as a teacher you say the pledge, you pledge for justice and equality, what equality are you getting from shouting at kids dont compare to army personnel they are not teachers, you as a teacher, you treat students like humans
@@yusyaidah you, i, the teachers and everyone was a kid too, i know how it feels like, i think its wrong personally, there may be reasons but i think we're all humans and like our pledge "justice and equality", no one is equal if you shout at them
Let's just be kind to each other. Which person/parent can proudly say that they have never make mistake in parenting? I'm a dad with two kids. And I'm increasingly looking out for the way I interact with my P1 daughter. My girl and I have really close bond but i can sometimes find it hard to communicate to her when she's being what she is supposed to be at this age - a bit defiant, a bit stubborn, a bit seeking for independence from parents. We have to acknowledge that our kids might not listen to us even half of the time. And we often may make mistakes in our communication to them. Most importantly is how we repair the miscommunication /relationship. Hence if most, if not all, parents might make this mistake of miscommunicating to our children, let's not forget other adults who work with children can also make the mistake too.
I shed tears as i watch this video. So many touching moments. This social enterprise is really amazing! The staff are amazing and may god bless them and their families! Can our govt support them more? Why must the govt only help out when they see deliverable? It's apparent that they need more funding to hire more people to support the programme. I think i already know what to do when i retire. @30:00 to the little girl who said you want to help disabled kid, talk to your school teachers and see if they can help you connect to special needs school so that you have the chance to volunteer there and start your exposure to kids with disabilities.
Please. Education is not just academics. Its social skills, EQ, everything else. some people use entire lives to heal from childhood. some have good parents.
SDP also proposes to abolish the PSLE, and this should be complemented by broadening the curricula and reducing the workload. He added: “Such an approach will enrich our students’ educational experience and prepare them for a future that will require them to be well-rounded, intelligent individuals.”
a video that touched many of my heart points... example i feel for 31:30 not everyone has sufficient power over environment or leave environment... slam, parents criticise and dont listen. dont slam, parents also criticise and dont listen. former... at least i express myself and i left the interaction feeling not as bad about myself
They need someone to talk to or a parent figure that's actually mature and love them. They really just need love not some bullshit aspiration plans and curfews etc. Children are not miniature adults they need love.
On using education to reduce inequality, Prof Tambyah pointed out that school- and class-ranking be scrapped. Schools will not segregate pupils according to their examination results.
And what's the purpose? That's like paying all employees the same regardless of performance. We need to accept that INEQUALITY has to exist, or the alternative is that we'll all be EQUALLY poor. Your suggestion doesnt solve the problem. It simply takes away what the top gets and makes them poorer. It also doesn't solve the micro issues which causes the poverty cycle.
Dont think a few days can change their mindset..is a very good program but not easy to really care for so many rental flat kids in sg .. if is effective gov sure support from behind ...have different young volunteers definitely wont do a good job as they are inexperienced and of different mindsets ....not having proper course to be guiding position....but overall is a good try
I am very touched by the people behind Dare To Dream. We need more such people in Singapore. Thank you. Thank you. I hope eventually Dare To Dream will get govt funding.
The first mom in the documentary. From the way she starts sentences with "Why", nagging, blaming, and shaming. She is not helpful at all. Typical of a lot of moms. Don't realize she IS the reason why her son is like this. Her tone is horrible. She is the one with needs counselling. Please counsell the parents ❤
That's a good point you made but which parent can proudly say that they have never make mistake in parenting? I'm a dad with two kids. And I'm increasingly looking out for the way I interact with my P1 daughter. My girl and I have really close bond but i can sometimes find it hard to communicate to her when she's being what she is supposed to be at this age - a bit defiant, a bit stubborn, a bit seeking for independence from parents. We have to acknowledge that our kids might not listen to us even half of the time. And we often may make mistakes in our communication to them. Most importantly is how we repair the miscommunication /relationship. Hence if most, if not all, parents might make this mistake of miscommunicating to our children, shouldn't we not be exaggerating a mistake that this mom makes for you and I also do the same?
I think Rayyan made a point about his Form teacher damaging his self-esteem. One major flaw about the education system in Singapore is that the teachers are not trained on how to handle the emotional aspects of teaching. Teaching is not just about what is in a textbook and getting good results. Something needs to be done.
he doesn't feel ashamed, he's actually very empathetic and doesn't want to trouble people, a behavior that develops and enforced on himself subconsciously because he grew up poor, he doesn't know how to ask for help because he grew up seeing his most loved ones needing more help than him. He tries to be useful with his supreme lack of resources because that is poor mentality that they are stuck in. they don't know how to ask for help
I really enjoyed watching this. It’s really a good project. I can make use of this chance to show my kids that not everyone is as privileged. Treasure what they have wisely.
Rayyan's dad, please do not invalidate his feelings. If he's feeling a sense of low self esteem, then try to work that out. Not brush it off and tell him he nervous.
With proper guidance from entities like Dare to Dream, those disadvantaged can transform themselves. Self-pity can be changed to self-help for a better life. Self-reliance is something to strive for.
who is he to upper cut a teacher? if =Dreams only promote and motivate them to set a goal and attain their dreams instead of working on their behavior, that guy might just end up abusing his ex teacher.
I lived in boarding school for four years and that has been dark for me. They care whether you break the curfew or forget to fingerprint every day before leaving the school but nobody cares how you feel or if you're lonely or developed depression because of the anxiety of not having private space or a trusted mature adult you can open up and solve the problems with. It's cruel to see children this young being lured away from home with a false impression that this is their new 'home' only to find out it's a cold place out there. And they blame themselves for not doing well or not feeling happy because it's supposed to work. It's sad to see adults putting their own ego or success at the price of bringing trauma to real human kids.
Be happy your living expenses and education is being taken care of. Many countries, this kind of childrens are left on the street suffering of everything living on the street
I see modern version of claude frollo and hunchback here..... Lol. Don't put what's the high level peeps mentality to low level peeps like us lah 🙄 hypocrites afterall.
Sending lots of 💙 over, I came from a low-income family. I lost my dad since young. Mom had to bring all of us (4) up by herself. Long story short I am now 35 working full time and pursuing my masters. I was from Em3, ite, poly & uni dc what ppl wanna say. Keep pushing guys. Never give up.
Meritocracy = got money got good future. No money = forget about opportunities or connection 😂😂😂😂 I guess that's how high level people talk to low level people. 😁😂
In my country, a lot of kids have to work for other people as "working students" doing unpaid housekeeping work in exchange for shelter and school fees just to finish their studies. These kids are lucky.
Is bound to be like the staff are behaving like claude frollo 😂😂😂😂😂. Sorry if I were to the clock back for 18 year at 13. I won't want to join as well. 🙄.
We will need more of many many things: land, schools, infrastructure, teachers, supporting staff such as general office staff, and cleaners. To fund all these, can SDP be honest to Singaporeans that taxes have to be raised?
Wow! It's so obvious that PAP is the only responsible and caring party in s'pore, taking every possible measure to address wage difference among the people.❤❤