The first time I ever watched Carla cook was the BA Victoria Granof Stuffing video. And I instantly dug her cooking style, candor, and humor. This channel is a JOY!
💔 It's so bizarre that, as I clicked the video, I was literally thinking about my friend breakup that happened last fall. I really needed this. It's my first real breakup, so I don't have much wisdom to share, but in the end I know that I'm better off taking care of my own needs--as well as the needs of friends who won't abuse my love. Thank you, Carla! I'll be giving this dish a try and creating new memories with loved ones.
💔been there, done that, shortly after my wedding too. hard to parse out the happy memories with those who ended up being not-so-loving people. thx for being vulnerable and talking about it. we love you CLM!❤️
💔No one ever really talks about food memories around friend breakups so this was refreshing for me. The breakups for me always center around feeling used or the other person realizes I'm of no use to them anymore. The worst one was when I routinely would train in order to lift my friend out of her wheelchair (she's about 200 lbs.) in order to go on trips together and do her health/daily care. Once I had a hysterectomy which blew out my abs, I could no longer lift her and in a fit of pique, arguing over my need to feel respected, she ended our relationship because she probably thought, "I can't use her anymore." Luckily, there wasn't any kind of recipe around it. This sounds like it should be called Mean Girls' Eggplant Avenged. Thank you, Carla.
💔 This might be my favorite video of yours ever, and I'm a long time fan. Glad you're reclaiming this dish and making happy new memories with it. More sweetness all around!
Your thing about memories reminded me of a line from David Lynch's Lost Highway: Fred Madison: I like to remember things my own way. Ed: What do you mean by that? Fred Madison: How I remembered them. Not necessarily the way they happened.
I had a friendship break-up when I was in high school and was going through a difficult time at home. My best friend saw that something was wrong with me and decided to leave me and took some other friends with her (we had a group). Only one friend stayed with me. Our mothers worked in the same government department so we went on to become good family friends. Then I met some new friends and togather we made a huge group and I have made a life time of memories with them.
💔 oh carla this therapy session/delish recipe was everything I needed! may we persevere thru breakups of all kinds and strive for healing via creamy, tangy, oniony eggplants!
I love this authenticity that lacks with many people. This is how life is and we can all relate. Even if we know this it still is comforting to hear someone share their experience and feelings. It is also powerful and empowering to see the importance of how food, memory and life interact and we can grow from experiences and bring the memorable food moments with us into our new eras.
some people are just naturally friendly, and while it's possible to have true and deep work friendships, i think the best advice i give myself is that the work place is not the friend place, and most especially not the fuck place.
Hi Carla - love you! I wonder if this was a BA-related friend break up. Sorry it's hard. You are one of the best of those folks. Hope all is well, and so cool that one of your sons will likely become a chef like you!
💔Eggplant is forever😋 I absolutely love your channel. Unfortunately, I have to eat a plant based diet (my stomach hates me) BUT...fortunately, I have been able to tweek your glorious recipes with vegan ingredients. They are delicious, flavorful, unctuous, rich and glorious. Thank you for your recipes, your stories from the heart, and your crazy dry whit❤🩹
💔 Carla, thanks for always being my friend. You put me on Mama Teav's, the pressy downy, and show me how to make tons of veggie yummies while throwing the perfect amount of shade 😌
This looks great! I'd love to see some more videos with your trainer(?), like the one where you had him on FT and he was weighing in on the healthiness of the ingredients (and being shook at the amount of oil, lol)
Great Episode, great eggplant and greater message. Been there, done that. I feel they missed out and I have lots of new and improved friends and now a great eggplant dish to make too!
💔Been there, and got over it over time. But, I agree! It is painful, but it wasn't meant to be. This dish looks fabulous. I will be making it this weekend.
Well somehow this made me feel better. I now realize everyone has friend breakups. Also, Carla, you're looking gorgeous girl. If that's the eggplant's doing I'm goign to be making it every day.
💔 But also, what's the deal with only partially peeling the eggplant? Is it to retain *some* structural integrity but allow for *some* freedom of movement? #confused Edit: note to self: watch until at least 3:32 before asking the question above. D'oh!
My husband and I love your channel and recipes, Carla! And I'm so sorry in advanced for the lengthy message... I went through a friend breakup with the person I thought was going to be my best friend for life. She and I (a gay guy) kinda had a "Will and Grace" friendship and it happened around the time I become serious with my husband (then my boyfriend who I had just moved in with). For some context, she and I were best friends since high school and had been through a lot. I did my best to help her through so many things (most involving her major family issues) and I always turned to her whenever I needed to confide in someone. The friendship lasted from ages 14 to 33. It honestly was my fault; I made us late to the wedding ceremony of her best friend before me and I was truly remorseful. I apologized to her and her friend, the bride and we stayed at the wedding reception even very late. The bride insisted I did nothing wrong and to this day, I'm quite tight with her and her family online (they live in a different city from me and our mutual friend). Afterwards, the friend in question wouldn't have contact with me for almost a month and when she finally responded, she stated my efforts to apologize and make amends were insensitive and "showed that didn't realize how badly I hurt " and that she needed time to be angry at me. I gave her that space for 2 years during which her few texts to me were limited to 3-word sentences. She even refused to acknowledge my mother who loved her as a daughter (my whole family considered her a member). By that point, I became upset that after all we had been through together, she somehow decided that I didn't deserve one get-out-of-jail-free card. It's been almost 7 years and we still haven't seen or spoken each other since that day. And honestly, even the friend group she and I shared have basically phased me out of their lives also. It felt as through since I met my husband, they all felt that I was no longer their problem and didn't have to deal with me (or there were no more favours they could get out of me). Upon reflection, I honestly felt that I put in much more into these friendships than most of them did. Whenever they needed help, I did everything I could to support them. Yet in my darkest hours, such as burying family members, they were nowhere to be found. To this day, my husband is my true love and my only real best friend in life...and we enjoy your content together. Thanks so much for everything and sorry again for the long message!
As someone who has discovered that onions are my verboten vegetable for digestion, and my wife's 3-day-gut-bomb, I'd love for you to explore your own onion intolerance that you have mentioned in other videos. We exist! We like food! We can't eat onions!
💔i actually still think abt it occasionally; and like u said: many questions; maybe we r the same kind: too invested in giving our to better & maintain the friendship, so now we felt hurt and questioned more! Let’s make Chinese dumplings, I give u my mom’s oyster & radish recipe❤
11:28 Lemons have been not as good these year, have no idea what's going on, all the ones I've been getting have thick rinds and are borderline dry inside.
