When Nat's mom took her shopping for clothes, that brought out tears of joy for Nat. I didn't come out until I was 35. I 'm from Western NY and I sold my house and moved to LA and began my transition at 36. My mom did finally accept me, but my father considered me dead, sadly my mom passed in 1996 Fast forward to 2012 and I moved back to Western NY after my husband of 21 yrs passed and when my father saw me for the first time and Jennel, I asked him if I could give him a hug and he said yes. From that time o he finally accepted me as his daughter and we had 5 wonderful father-daughter years until he left to be with my mom once again. ♥♥
It is difficult for most parents to accept their children when they come out as lesbian or gay. Trans is a whole other level. Change is a difficult thing for most. Time will be Natalie's best friend and for the mother also. She is supportive but it is a big change.
@@Jobsgalore if its hard for parents, imagine how much more difficult it is for kids. i don't have to imagine because i know. parents need to accept that it isn't about them. they can have their difficulties accepting it, but those struggles should be kept private, and should absolutely not be taken out on the kid. taking out your own struggles on your children is just abuse.
Natalie is such a great and awesome girl. i wish i could say more but my English is very limited. All i can say is : You are Vaild , you are loved and you are the Queen of your own life ! 🏳️⚧️♥️🏳️🌈
Natalie my beautiful beloved little sister, I left my fearful & ignorant family when I was 17, and that's when my life finally began! Be free and enjoy your beautiful life sweet one. Your real family are the ones you choose. Always choose happiness! Thank you for sharing part of your journey with us. I love you. Bless you. 🙏💐💖
I'm 32 and still haven't come out as trans to my parents, I'm still pre-hrt, this made me cry the whole way through, I wish you all the best Nat, bless your beautiful soul
I cringe so hard at the things coming out of this mother's mouth. When my daughter came out I told her I love her as is, no need to change or hide a thing. I hope Nat finds the love and acceptance she longs for. If not from her mother, I hope she finds it in the people she surrounds herself with.
I'm doing better now, this was all filmed in 2011. My relationship with my mum fell apart after filming and I was homeless for a few years. I am now engaged and expecting a baby with my partner. My relationship with my mother is better than it was but there will always be pain from what happend
@@nataliepearson7074 You're an amazing person. I'm sorry that your mother didn't accept you when you came out. Please keep us updated on your life, oh by the way, did you have a girl or boy? What is your partner like and how did you meet?
First of all, my heart bleeds for Natalie... I know how hard it is, because I have gone through many of the same things that she has (In terms of people coming to me saying "You are not trans", people being held to certain standards that don't apply , complete denial, etc) but, hang in there, Nat. Your mom will one day wake up, and not only accept you as her daughter, but she will EMBRACE you as her DAUGHTER. You know EXACTLY what you want, you know how to get it, and you are definitely very confident. Best of luck!
My 22 year old daughter came out trans at 21 between April and May, 2021. I will be supportive of her because I support LGBTQIA rights. I came out bi at 22.
these people make it look like being considerate, empathetic, decent and nice is really hard. 🤔 also always love the claim that "the kids are gonna be so confused". never had that issue. they go "ah okay, so, what booger is your favorite?" and run of, eating sand. but i think natalie also has to understand that this process is hard on people, especially parents. it takes time, but you either get along, or cut them out of your life. thats how it always goes. i know of people who cut ties with their families because of corona debates. thats just how it is i guess.
I was Natalie at age 17 knowing I was female inside but didnt have the courage that She had to come out 22yrs later I dealt with me and now live fulltime. I love how strong willed and awesome She is to do this at such a venerable time in life 😊❤🌸🧘♀️
i feel so sorry for natalie. i understand that the mom wants the best for her child but in this case, her daughter is very much struggling and needs her support. i hope natalie is safe and well
I remember when my cousin and i were children (8-9), we were playing and found a suitcase of old dresses and we put them on to play. We ran into the living room where the adults were. His father saw him and went nuts. Screaming and beating him. It was really frightening. I hate to think what his father would do in this situation. I mean, we were only kids playing.
She just dismissed the internalised feelings of her own child and that’s disgusting. He probably has been trying to tell her for a long time but she refuses to listen.
I feel that there is hope for their relationship. Her mother needs some time to educate herself and accept that this is not a choice or a phase, that she has a daughter now. It's tough, and although the misgendering and deadnaming hurts an awful lot, it takes time for parents to come around. Their shopping spree made me really happy, her mom will be fine with it in the future.
I found this through tiktok. Natalie's mum kicked her out and she was homeless for several years. Apparently her mum is a bit better and they message each other a couple times a year but they don't see each other
Is it really THAT big of a deal to misgender or deadname? Like I mean she still is a dude. No hate or transphobia. She can be Natalie. It’s just why does it hurt so bad to be deadnamed or misgendered. Could someone explain?
Im gonna assume that you are genuine in your question. "She is still a dude" is however not good to write (yes Assigned male at birth, not a dude). At least one part of it comes down to respect. The respect one needs when one has a bruse (or anything that does hurt or not quite fit) and have told people to not poke it (or force one to wear it) but they still do. The 2nd part is that this particular bruce is attached to a lot of pain (efforts to suite societal expectations to ones own detriment, or inability to suite them and being told off/ bullied for it). Hope it helps.
This is so sad, i am a 62 year old trans woman and to see a person begging for acceptance from a person such as her mom is sad, i left home in the 12th grade, but life was so different than
Nat, I hope your transitioning is progressing well. You’re going through a tough time and congratulations for sticking to your guns and being you! I think you’re wonderful
That mother will regret the way she acted later on. My mom is a conservative raised baptist and 75 and she was majorly confused at first but she is just so sweet and has been so incredibly supportive. She’s robbing herself and her child of the magical bond a mother and daughter can have and all the memories you can make.
So sad and tough for each in their own way. Nobody writes a book on how a parent deals with this and the child that needs to be loved and accepted for the decision they are making.
No, never give in to that. There are plenty of good accepting people in the world. Find them, plan, build your life. Never give in to the fools who don't understand. You are valid, seek help please!
The mother will end up losing her "son", and a daughter because of her stubbornness and lack of compassion. Where's the unconditional love? Natalie will just grow up and leave the nest, never looking back. I do hope though that the mother has a change of heart. Bless you all ❤
I feel for Natalie but I also feel for her mum. You can't force your views, feelings or anything else on others. I would let my children choose their own path & gender if that makes them happy. But what I won't do is change my view of them no matter what.
The mother is scared of all the hormones and surgery damaging Nat’s health. Sounds as if ‘Christian’ is an issue too. The mother needs to be more sympathetic
The mother deeply confused. Don’t worry, Mama. Trans folks must go through tons of counseling and living as their preferred/actual gender before anything surgical ever happens. You’ll have more time to adjust, and for Nat to realize any mistake, than you think. Natalie exudes femininity; I’m a cis female n she’s way more of a woman than me😘
Why did you pull my comments, RU-vid? The 2nd one, maybe, but if you’re going to pull mine, you need to pull hers. Whose side are you on? Oh, wait, I know
@@reginalannister2262 You’re a narrow minded individual and no one needs to hear from you. This video was not made for ppl like you. Can you stay in your lane? I don’t go to right wing sites or vids and bother ppl like u
You are lovely young people. Be strong be true to yourself and sent with love xxx I suggest that the parents reach out to a support group eg Manchester parents group speak to parents who have been through this.
Poor Natalie is getting the Mean Girls treatment from her own mother. Trying to manipulate her and threatening her to kick her out. Theist supremest and just miserable attitude. I hate seeing this kid being scapegoated like this and having a mother play mind games with you like that. Just an abusive narcissist. Poor girl. My mom was a little like this at first but luckily she realized there was no other option you can accept your child or you can neglect them.
...I think your mother needs to take a good look at the world especially in the LGBTQ community and accept you for who you want to be, more importantly so now as you're almost 18. As a trans/ crossdresser myself I had to face the world alone sad maybe but am so glad and happy knowing that I've definitely done the right thing. My very best wishes to you I hope you find true happiness. 💜🏳️🌈🌹
Very sad. Her mother may have a choice to make- a dead son or a living daughter. You might think that a mother would always want what is best for Natalie. But it takes time. If they respect each other and try hard it might just work out
He needs to leave and go his own way as an adult. He can’t expect his mom to start calling him a Girl after she knows he is a male and brought him up as such. He needs to grow up. His mother has already expressed herself. I repeat, he needs to leave and live his own lifestyle…❤️
Wow, that mother is the worst! That was so heartwrenching to see Nat be spoken to like that. I hope she is now well away from her Mother and thriving. That is if her mother hasn't come around. But I haven't watched till the end yet.
I definitely know how hard this is. I'm really glad that nats mom did make an effort with buying the clothes and not calling her he to any of the shop employees but ngl low key shocked me. I was like dang. 😂i swear my mom when she takes me anywhere has to be like "actually he's a she" like biishh who 😅
interesting videos but I think some parents don't even deserve to have children why should anyone's child be unhappy for most of their life pretending to be someone that they're not just let people be trans for once and respects them
He's the one pretending to be something he's not. He thinks dressing up makes him a girl even though he said somewhere in the comments that he got someone pregnant. He's in a world of make believe.
I am glad Nats mother was slowly coming around. I understand how Nat must feel as my mother is a certified conservative Christian who does not like the changes I am making, and doesn't hesitate to tell me so.
@@monicadaniels784 I won't accept putting my kid through a Dr Mengale kind of experiment, with life altering cross sex hormones and mutilation. if that makes me a bigot, so be it.
doing research is hard though. but checking out facebook groups which spoonfeed ill-informed but easily digestible 2 sentence pictures is easy and seems to be enough for some idiots to form an opinion. or, you are an idiot like me and check out transphobic content on youtube, which basically function in the same way as these facebook posts, but in a 5 to 20 minute video format. while being rooted in internalized transphobia, i am glad i got over that phase. current step are black folks, next step will be muslims. its not easy, ridding oneself from biases, but i think it makes life much more enjoyable to see things from a wider perspective. it makes you not only kinder, but smarter too. the mother definately needs both of that.
@@chrissyweikoop7931 actually I don't check out transphobic content, however I do have a little insight considering I have had relationships with three transitioned post op females..and so I have taken the time to do research and learn what it's actually about from people who are living as transitioned people.
@@chrissyweikoop7931 to do what you're doing takes great courage and willpower. Especially when it's so easy and comfortable to wallow in upur prejudices....good for you. I'm on a similar journey. It's fuckin hard
Natalie, hun, if you are able at all, PLEASE get out and get away from your mom! For your own safety and well being. If she ever decides to accept you, then you can let her back into your life. Until then, please distance yourself from her and all other family members who choose to deny you. Hugs and love! 🤗🤗🤗
Praying to who? A god that made a mistake or a god that hates queer people in general? Pray doesn't work but if it did, pray that Nate appreciates have a full functional body and stop playing pretend.
I really related to this I have the same situation and reaction with my mother when i came out as a guy a couple years ago things have progressed much my mom feels the same but you know things might turn around one day
I absolutely understand the mother. She gave birth to a boy, raised a boy, and now all of a sudden, she has to pretend, it all never happened. This is gaslighting on a new level!
@@TheFinisher669 the evidence evaluated by experts and professionals in the field say that you are wrong. Being transgender is real and not a delusion - see the DSM. Only people deriving their views from ignorance and bigotry say otherwise.
Ahhh mom nailed it !!!a mother who CARES AND A SON WHO ONLY CARES ABOUT HIMSELF!!! Dress how you want just don’t BLACKMAIL YOUR FAMILY FFS…all this over a pronoun…
For anyone who didn't come from Tiktok: Natalie was made homeless by her mum in the years following this doc, and was without a home for a couple of years until she moved in with a friend. She's now happily engaged, lives with two cats and her partner, and has minimal contact with her mum. Her mum does now call her Natalie. It does get better. Eventually. ❤️🩹
Both of them are experiencing understandable, valid feelings. At the end of the day, you can’t let your self worth rely on validation from others, even your parents. And if you are the parent, it’s important to realize that your kid is going to make their own decisions when they become an adult. You can disagree with those decisions, but if you have no respect for their autonomy, your adult kids may choose to separate themselves from you. A little understanding from both sides can go a long way.
most of the comments the mum is saying are vile. it’s not a big ask to refer to natalie by her pronouns, yet she’s acting like it’s a burden to the entire family. fucking ridiculous.
I have a trans cousin FTM he had similar issues with his dad his dad disowned him and there relationship is not their anymore it’s so sad I hope he his happy me and my mum and my dad support him because he has known one else.
Natalie's mother is a disgrace, and I am someone who does not agree with any surgery before the age of 21. She needs to think of how her son is feeling.
@@monicadaniels784 I have sympathy but I do not believe a man can become a woman, or a woman can become a man. Surgery may change the way they look, and they may feel like a woman or a man, but they aren't.
She’s mean and she’s going to loose her child when they move out they won’t want any relationship with there mom cuz of her bad attitude and not willing to accept her child for who they are
Such an unsympathetic mother and the way she talked to her had me cringing. Is it any wonder a lot of young people with gender dysphoria end up committing suicide, if this is the reaction they get from their nearest and dearest. Of course I have empathy with her but your child must come first, if they are to have any chance of a half decent future.
Kids in this position need mental health help. This new fad of in the wrong body needs to be talked out. Why does he feel sexually pleasurable in women's clothes. He is a boy who feels feminine, or is he gay? No one should undergo surgery or damaging drugs at this age. A recently changed boy is openly saying he misses his penis. Once you are castrated there is no going back. The drugs are also life limiting and body damaging. There are only two sexes or LGB all the rest is gender dysphoria or autogynephilia. His mother is trying to make him see in her way that he hasn't always felt like this, after all teenagers know everything and teenagers are like two year old.
Good luck and try to understand Your Mom's difficulties accepting You. This has probablly been part of You as far back as You can remember and You've had time to accept but Your Mom has'nt . ! Try and give her time as She obviously loves You .
his mum is being a bit over the top Christian's think they are rite my friend is a church gower and her other freind is gay and she stopped seeing her girlfriend and my friend said the church has cured her bollox its not an illness
Writing as a MtF now aged 79, having had SRS nearly 20 years ago, I totally see where Nat is coming from. I would diagnose Nat as being in level 6 in the Harry Benjamin scale of gender dysphoria & my advise to her would be to get onto a TS programme ASAP either in Scotland or possibly in London where Nat will find a large TS community. I would also advise Nat to think about what future jobs would be suitable & apply for a place at college or uni to that end which will lead to a professional qualification. That might sound boring to someone of 19, but there is nothing better than being gainfully employed so you can get to afford your own flat!!
Its nice to dress up as a girl. The trouble is if you do it all your life, you will end alone. This is what has happend to me and I am just a every day crossdresser.
Honestly, I'm with mum all the way. She is refusing to cower down to lunacy. This boy i has been captured by the woke cult and hopefully he will turn around soon enough. I would also rather disown my child for this nonsense. Never! This is very good parenting. I sincerely applaud her. ❤
We raised our child "genderless", bio boy. he loved glitter, baby dolls AND rough play/trucks etc. As an adult, prefers girls, is an elite athlete but dresses like Mick Jaeger circa 1968. I wonder how much of WHO you feel like you are is cultural? I mean, 1600s men dressed in tights & earrings
Let Natalie live with you. Not one of you would do that. Be proud of her and change all of the rules, character, and values that you have ever embraced. And if ANYONE does anything except praise and honor Natalie, you must disown, condemn, and denounce them for being the evil animals that they are.
Independente do que for nat você é muito incrível, forte, rainha, linda, maravilhosa, batalhadora, guerreira, vencedora, simpática, carismática, fofa, meiga, humilde, honesta, amável, adorável, legal, engraçada, gentil, educada, amiga, feliz,e muito especial pode contar comigo sempre vou te apoiar te dá muito suporte mesmo eu morando muito longe de você as escolhas são suas não dá sua mãe desrespeitosa,dura e muda quero que você fique bem sempre te adoro e amo te tanto demais mesmo.❤❤
As a parent you should always support your kids future no matter what. No one should require or force beliefs down anyones throat. It’s a shocking discovery for all involved. So being more sensitive around your parents and remember the stages. Denial is a huge one. She clearly is going through that. It’s your job being trans too convince your parents that you are being real about it. So the mom does have very valid points.
@@TararyzeMcg actually I am lol I'm a realistic parent that cares about my child. Not a pacafistic one who let's a child follow a herd of toxic people like yourself
