"You don't study to get a job, you study to expand your knowledge ,insight and understanding". This is my take home. Thank you Vee for that insight and Mum for hosting Vee. God bless you!
Great content.... I like that vee was open enough to talk to a fellow woman. And mom allowing her to express herself, I am her age, all is happening at the same time as well, i have more kids and it can drive one crazy! But again, we have to create balance.
This was such a much needed conversation. Women do so much yet they feel they’ve not done much. Motherhood is a gift but a lot of work. What I’ve learnt is: 1. Do what works for you, your kids and family. 2. Be practical about what you can and cannot do from one day to the next our schedules are too busy. 3. Fed is best. Breast feeding doesn’t work out for everyone. Bottle fed works as well. 4. C-section is not an easy option. I’ve had one as well as natural but I can tell you from experience c-section is the hardest. And yes you are a fully fledged woman even if you have a c-section. If natural birth and c-section children were lined up you couldn’t tell them apart. Neither are their life chances of success better or worse because of the way they were birthed into this world. 5. Your hubby should play a significant role in the rearing of the child not just a check. 6. Give yourself permission to leave the house. I stopped saying to hubby I’ll by meeting up with friends in such and such date are you available to look after the kids Now I let him know respectfully of course I’ll be gone on such and such date. I felt like I was asking permission to go out so he can look after the kids. They are his kids too. 7. A psychologist told me mum guilt is greedy…………it just never stops until you put a stop to it otherwise it will forever consume you. 8. Contrary to culture you come first. For your family to get the best of you put yourself first otherwise you are serving them left overs, what is left of you. Take that nap if you are overworked, look after your health physically and mentally. 9. Don’t compare you motherhood with someone else’s. Yours is dynamic and beautiful. Just as you have challenges, they too have challenges.
