Yeh I'm really bad at both , I just want to be a better person . I just don't who I am right now . I used to be proud of who I was . I was not anyone special but I was real I loved and I had a good heart . I was a good person . 😢 I'm so upset with myself and I just want to show I'm better instead of feel immensely sorry
"someone asked me the other day, if i've ever figured out why i was depressed when i was younger. as much as i would've hated to admit at the time, all i wanted was to make my parents proud. and every time i failed or let them down, it was easier to say that it was some fundamental part of me that i couldn't change than acknowledge the mountain of change i was going to have to overcome to be happy."
I’m watching this video to find some kind of enlightenment on my lack of self accountability. I’m 19 struggling with baggage & trauma from my past & it’s effecting my relationships with family & the man who to be life partners with. I wish everyone growth who’s struggling as well
Progress is slow. Ask for help. Focus on one thing at a time. Give yourself grace without lowering you expectations. Be honest, write down what you want, write down when you fail. Failure is supposed to hurt, that's why we try so hard to avoid it. Appreciate progress and success, its supposed to feel good.
I never asked for help. Started at 15. Hit rock bottom at 20. Instead of finding a shovel I started climbing. 👍🏽. Progress is slow but as long as you do one thing a day to improve you will
It is called evolving. How do you grow if don't conquer your flaws? Being selfless and liberating yourself from opinions and learning how to be vulnerable is how you get there.
Accountability is the ultimate grown up move that many never make. To acknowledge the role you played in a situation good or bad is to show empathy for yourself and others. It means to realize that the facade of always being right is just that - a facade. To so many Americans,being accountable for the way their actions effect others is a lesson never learned!!
@@user356x84c bro, hearing you say what you just said hits home harder than Aaron Judge hits home after hitting a home run. It didn’t just hit my home, but like a door to door salesman, it hit every home in my neighborhood. I’ve gotta hit it homie, but I’ll hit you up when I get home.
I'm 35, and I recently realised that I've been blaming a lot of people, situations and external factors for where I am in life. My determination is to combine self care with personal accountability to reach my goal and improve my personal outlook.
A great message. Holding yourself accountable and taking responsibility is one of the major keys in life. Thanks for this video. It's helping me think about some things I need to work on.
I broke down during this video because I realize how changes I have to makes as person I don’t know how but I’m willing to make the changes and sacrifices to become a better person even though it will take adversity and many challenges
5:18 "and if you were to ask him is there a goal in your life that you're working towards right now, he would say yes. But, you look at where he is now vs where he was six month ago, he's in worse place now. And if you look a year ago, the change is even more drastic. The hardest part about change is acknowledging that we have to do it. Admitting to ourselves that the actions were doing are not gonna lead us to where we want to go"
"It was easier to say that it was some fundamental part of me that I couldn't change than acknowledge the mountain of change I was gonna have to overcome to be happy"
Didn’t take long to hear this to know you’re talking about Alldredge Academy! Was there myself back in a cold winter in January 07.A time that will never be forgotten. That drum beat down to the village is something you never forget.
People who feel they have no accountability for what they do and say are crazymakers. They try to talk you into thinking they haven't done or said anything wrong!!! Foools......
Thank you so much for this video it helped me a lot to understand myself more deeply take love from Bangladesh 🇧🇩 I really appreciate this kind of initiative keep it up!
You’re talking about internal and external locus of control. Those with internal locus of control can change and improve because they hold themselves accountable. However, people with external locus of control don’t change, and get worse over time, because everyone & everything else is accountable except themselves.
Please share more information about the facility in West Virginia. How do families afford this type of help? So many of them are so expensive only the rich can afford them.
Schedule time each day to reflect on whether you achieved your goals THAT DAY. Setting an alarm on your phone to go off daily is a good place to start.
Writing down whether you did or did not each day, so you can track your success. And you can reflect back on times when you're more effective and try to figure out why.
My idea is regarding delayed gratification. You dont get to do any of the fun or relaxing stuff until you have checked off all the tasks you wanted to get done each day. Set a goal, reverse engineer it into daily tasks and then don’t watch tv/netflix, play a video game, drink a beer or whatever until you did that daily task.
This was given in a program. The funny thing is that the very ones who suggested this are the very ones who accually never done this and participate in Gangstalking.
I remember that feeling of anxiousness before starting my healing journey. it felt impossible. 1 year later though i can say i am a completely different person, still unlearning and changing mindsets but happier
Yo estudié una carrera relacionada con la contabilidad. Aunque no me acuerdo de nada. XD. Sin embargo, aún así, le envié una carta al presidente de mi país, en la cual le aconsejaba que subiera el impuesto al alcohol extranjero, dejándole claro que aquello traería varios beneficios. Estoy practicamente seguro que nunca tomó en serio nada de lo que le dije. XD.
This video randomly popped up and I clicked on it. It was like going to church after a week of having something on your mind and the pastor was talking about you. Nice.
@@charlesjohnson4210 You can never be happy all the time, it comes and goes. What lasts is contentment. It shapes how we view the world. The goal is contentment, not happiness.
@@TheTruth-fully You did not acknowledge my point at all, happiness and contentment are not mutually exclusive. So let me pose the question to you, what is the definition of happiness, and what is the definition of contentment?
@@charlesjohnson4210 Happiness is an emotion. Contentment is a state of mind. The goal is to be content whether you are happy or sad. It's to find your inner peace.
@@TheTruth-fully Those aren't really definitions, so I'll probe a bit deeper, what's the difference between a state of mind and an emotion? Or more specifically, define what an emotion is and define what a state of mind is. Try to be as specific as possible, please.
We have evolved into an unaccountable, dare I say soft, society. I notice a lack of accountability varies across a broad spectrum of ages from Baby Boomers to Gen Zs. It is found in various socio economic backgrounds. It’s fascinating to identify and observe these people in the workplace.
Consequently even though we are able to view the faults of others, it is the greatest epiphany to realize our own faults and acknowledge our own idiosyncrasies. If we all walked around with a mirror would we only glance into it or would we look at it closely and acknowledge all of our imperfections? Sometimes people are afraid to even pick up a mirror and look at themselves that deeply, much easier to correct others. I would say that comes with maturity but I have friends that are 70-80 who still fail to ever acknowledge where they went wrong in their own lives, and the longer we live the more you have to face the reality of self accountability. Quite sobering.
After inflicting hardship and adversity upon myself in a business that I had used to hate, and in conditions that were brutally cold outdoors, alone, covered in dirt and mud, I started to change. Made an effort to, every time I wanted to quit and run, when anxiety attacks started to overcome me, and self hate would plague me, begin to thank the Lord for this struggle, and ask the Holy Spirit to guide me in the ways of humility and help me combat my ego. Though I am not free of insecurities completely, I have come far and I get very little anxiety now. All by doing the work.
Sadly, if you call someone out on something they say or do, you're now "canceling" them, because for some reason, we've reached an era where people aren't able to handle criticism and instead want to hold onto their archaic ideals and ideology, where they don't want to be told those views are no longer acceptable.
