42 year old Latina here, I hear you . I just ended a 16 year relationship where from the beginning I was honest about my decision. I wanted to enjoy my life loving him , traveling and being spontaneous. We did that and then the time came where he was at the point in his life where he wanted to be a father . It hurt and still does but I’m proud of myself for not giving in to pressure from family /friends or him just to “ Keep him “.
@@JonathanGillies There is no guarantee your children will , that is a comment I hear all the time and holds no ground for me . I have 2 friends that work in the healthcare field . They both say there are a lot of elderly who are put in nursing homes with barely any visitors. I have nieces and nephews and who knows if they will either. I don’t expect that of them either , everyone has their own life to live.
Hi there YG, I just want you to know we are on the same boat, I am so happy you didn't give into the pressures. This is really tough indeed, people can really change their minds when it comes to kids...to have them or not. You will find someone who will be there for you! I was in a very loving relationship with my partner, but she wanted kids and I was confused (but I feel like a child-free life might be what I want to do). I really want to live life to the fullest, and I do not want any worries and responsibility. I was almost about to give in, and compromise. But after talking to so many people. YOU CANNOT COMPROMISE WITH KIDS! Do not! You both have to be in the same wavelength. Sending you strength, you will overcome this
@@antonietapintorebelo5020 It’s such a relief to have this kind of platform where you get to express yourself with like minded people. It’s comforting to know you are not the only one going through these situations and there are many people who feel the same . MY LIFE MY CHOICE which not a lot of people understand when they live the “ Typical Life” . There is nothing wrong with either choice , it’s just a personal choice . You know how much I got the finger pointed at me by his family ??? “ oh SHE doesn’t want kids??? Like I was an Alien for choosing not to. When I was a teen and in my 20’s I would always hear of how much friends/family couldn’t wait to have kids ..I never thought that way . I just wanted to work and make money and live my life . I still love doing the same . I too almost gave in when I was in a relationship but for him not for me. You are right , you both have to feel it and I still have no regrets about my decision.
@@Europa1749 STOP. You've done enough. If your kids are over 18 you don't have to do anything. Mine made me sick when they were younger and got on my nerves. They were rotten brats the whole time.. I'm not budging because they're grown and I'm running from any grandkids I might have. They're gonna expect me to babysit when I'd rather have a drink
@@s.b.decompressionchamber9688 17 years and never bored. When you find Mr. Right or Ms. Right, you just seam to know. It works and I know many couples that are like that. Hopefully you’ll find the right person.
We women generally get saddled with them. We are made vulnerable with pregnancy, we could risk our lives with childbirth. We will do the constant nappy changing and other horrible things if the kid has medical issues. I have low energy for any of all that. It is extremely important that I have my freedom to do what I want and financial freedom. I am 57 and don't regret not having kids and I don't mix with people who have kids which makes it a lot easier for me. I have lots of hobbies and volunteer work, I wouldn't be able to do many of these if I have kids. I don't want to be a single parent and I don't want my kid to be a murderer or a victim. The freedom being childfree by choice is amazing. I am lucky enough to have a childfree partner but if I didn't it is important for me to have some kind of social life.
I am 38,happily married , child free. My life is indeed a blessing, I can devote all my time in rescuing and helping animals in need, currently I have 6 rescue cats and I help in rehoming other street cats. I travel , eat good and the happiest person on earth ❤
This is awesome and relatable, glad you shared your point of view because it's normal to have all sorts of people in this world, what doesn't make sense is seeing people like robots and each one of them talks the same, dresses the same, eats the same and does the same that's hellish and strange but what's normal is each person is different and to each their own. Someone who knows what they want and acts upon that is what's actually normal and empowering and sends out positive to this world.
If you want have them, if you don't then don't. I don't think you will regret your decision. I didn't, and if you ever do, their are lots of kids who need adopting. They come from parents who thought they wanted kids. Cats make the best kids lol. Here's the saddest truth, there are lots of parents who have kids, but now live neglected in nursing homes or alone. You're a beautiful girl, live your best life.
In her 20s? Check. Still decorates her room with stuffed animals? Check. Blue hair? Check? Don't want kids? Check. It is okay Bunny, your dad loved you. You can grow up now.
Women don't owe men shit!!! We're not on this planet just to be incubators for a man's sperm and pop out babies like a motherfucking vending machine for your benefit!!! I'm a single childfree Black woman and my life is full, content and living life on MY terms, not society's!!!
Meanwhile my 45-year-old friend who's the lead welder at her job, the main provider with a stay-at-home husband AND has a child and she has all of this too. Color of your hair and stuffed toys don't mean you haven't grown up. It's a taste. I'm 40, married 22 years and I'm having my husband buy me a stuffed pig for my birthday.
Good choice ladies. I have kids and I love them and I would protect them with the strength of a lioness. But if I had my time over. I would make a different choice. I often say... 'I have kids, not a life. Live life ladies, it goes so fast. Oh, and your body NEVER recovers from childbirth.
Thanks for sharing Lucy…usually people who have kids just want to pressurize us to want to have them as if like we won’t have purpose if we don’t have kids… I also related a lot to the whole issue around the body changes. I recently gained weight and had some belly fat and I struggled so much with that fact.it’s a bit easier to lose that weight and get back to my initial size but with pregnancy I have seen it’s harder and I know I would also struggle with that. Also is it selfish to say I don’t want to be responsible over someone’s life? Of which having a kid makes me have to?
My husband and I are also child free. Honestly I have never heard a non-selfish reason to have kids. The fact that people say not having kids is selfish, it’s definitely the opposite
@@JonathanGillies take it from someone who worked with the elderly it will likely b a carer. If you kids are successful they cannot break off from their career/life to take care of you they haven’t the time. The people who took care of their parents were generally jobless and on the dole. What sort of a parent would you be if you prayed for your kids failure at life so you have a carer! I’m not evenly super successful but my parents will have to go in ‘shady pines’ when the time comes coz I need to earn a wage for all that fun stuff like 3 meals a day!
Don't live vacariously through them. You'll wind up being the free babysitter and they will take advantage of it. Don't take responsibility for a child isn't yours.
If you want to avoid any more pregnancy scares, you should get your husband to have a vasectomy. They are safe, non-invasive, and very effective. Then you wouldn't have to be on birth control pills if you didn't want to be. I'm childfree and got snipped at 25, and it was the best decision I've ever made. Birth control isn't just a woman's responsibility. Being able to relax and enjoy sex without worrying about pregnancy is great.
I'm a generally nice person but I have very little patience. Especially for pointless bullshit. I can control my temper but I would rather not explode on a small child. Hell, I'm more concerned about having an adult child who's a complete jackass.
I am 36 and childfree. Looking at some of these kids today I am not missing out on parenthood. It take $300,000 and more to raise a kid so I will keep my money
It's very expensive and then there's the pollution it creates. There's a lot of stuff to buy for kids, some are needs and some are wants, and most of it ends up in a landfill.
I almost 60 and happy to be child free. I'm not changing my.mind and every day I'm reminded of why I don't want them. I'm very indifferent to child. I hate to see a child hurt or suffering. But they don't give me the warm fuzziies..animals do. I like my life with just my husband and I and our dog. We have a comfortable life. We have a beach home. We have time to enjoy each other. We have the ability to live the life we want. I get free tickets to events through my job. Called up today and asked if he wanted to go to a ball game next week because they had free tickets. We're going. I just found out today about yoga at the zoo. I'm going. I don't have to worry about finding a babysitter. A child just doesn't fit into my life.
@@JonathanGillies There are a ton of kids that ditch their elderly parents in a nursing home/treat them horrifically, and never visit them again. I see your point of view, but I promise you, having kids does not guarantee they are going to take care of you when you’re older. :)
Also thank you for sharing that you're married and of course both of you sharing the same childfree point of view since that adds to hope of finding a partner.
40's and no kids and I am happy. Pets, flowers and nature and silence in nature is more than enough for me. :) Earth is full enough we are giving it a break.
31 and my husband and I are childfree by choice. I gotta say this whole video was basically my thoughts exactly. Its great to see more and more that we're not alone in this lifestyle choice.
@@JonathanGillies Does that really matter? Id argue having kids just to have someone to look after you when you're old is a terrible reason to have them. There are already plenty of elders who live alone as it is and they're doing fine.
Im the same girl Ifeel happy doin the things I love to do. I also help my fam especially my parents and kids are just too much and the world is goin crazier by the day kids are gonna have it rough
Great video. Fellow ChildFree here. My partner and I love being childfree as we have peace and quiet and autonomy. We love our hobbies and personal time. We have our own rooms for whatever we want! I have two small rooms for my bedroom and art/study room and he has a massive room for his music and study and bed. And we have a massive garage and workshop that we share. I would never change any of it. If we had kids all that space would be filled with their mess and the house would be loud and we would have no peace and quiet. We’ve witnessed what parenting is and it looks/sounds miserable. I’ll take ChildFree all the way to the grave, thanks.
I never wanted kids and didn't have them. My husband felt the same way and still does. We have been happily married for over 27 years and we have no regrets! We do have nephews and a niece and they're great! But motherhood isn't for everyone and there is no shame in that.
It is interesting to see that you are interested in your friends having children. Aren't you afraid your friends won't be available as much as they used to? I only had couple among my friends who had a child and it was so annoying. I never want to have friends with children ever again.
Thank you for sharing! Btw, there are several way more effective, "set and forget" options besides the Pill. I am not a doctor, but have used contraception to manage severe period problems since my teens. I personally found the implanon device fitted in the arm to be very good. Done properly, you never notice it. There is also a 3 monthly injection which effectively shuts down the reproductive system, but I found that weird.
Looking at the stuffed animals on your bureau and the decorations in the room, I would say "You don't need children, because you ARE a child". That's a compliment, by the way!
I don’t trust people who bash kids who even compare humans to animals . I’m childfree and don’t want them because life is to expensive and can’t handle them but the way you said things sound more narcissistic you can just say you don’t wanna take care of anyone it’s fine no need to bring the animal lover card many love to pull mostly Americans. Animals mostly dogs are worst they never grow up, expensive, damaging also damage the environment and nasty. I enjoy peace, clean and quiet.
Everything you are saying about yourself is exactly about me! Ones I met a woman ( married, children) who believed in reincarnation and I told her that I don't want kids. She said, maybe the reason why I don't want kinds in this life is because I had already a lot of them in former lifes. That was so funny and cute! (-And maybe even true...) She is the only female person I know, who accepted me the way I am.
@@renek2913 people can get r@ped and have no choice of aborting. Condoms can break, contraceptives can fail. These are all possible too. Be a little more open minded please.
37-year-old male here. I was 20 when I realized that I don't wanna have kids and I'm so glad that I made this choice. Me and my wife have a wonderful life and when I look at fiends and family who have kids, man they live sad lives :D
