There's a lot of recent research that supports a lot of this. Any stress the mother experiences will go directly to the baby so not even exposing a mother to bad vibes is actually great advice
Parental stress demethylation levels shows up in dna tests and kicks in in 40s... so babies born to stressed mothers have lots of issues like cancer in later life
@@DonnaChamberson if you are not in the right mental space and know the kid would suffer, it's better not to continue it. There is no point in bringing in a kid to the world to subject them through suffering or abu$e
It's nice to know where are still cultures out there that underst how difficult it actually is to walk around with a whole ass person inside you, let alone, to be doing stuff like bending over to mop or pull laundry out of the machine. ❤
It’s just them. 90% of Chinese girls nowadays still receive unfair treatments during daily life and pregnancy. She’s ok because she’s a foreigner and got a supportive husband which most girls in China can’t find or don’t have. This misinformation is affecting a lot of people in the comments. Don’t think China is some great place to live. It’s not.
@kraannddaall at least in the States you can qualify for temporary disability! I had a somewhat complicated pregnancy and was always in and out of the hospital for exhaustion and put on bed rest in my third trimester. It sure felt like a disability. Every person is different and some women have wonderful, less cumbersome pregnancies but other people really struggle start to finish. Even after birth it took about 6 weeks to be able to walk without severe pain and another year with physical therapy to get rid of pain in other parts of my body. It's been 3 years and I'm still not 100%. It does nothing to diminish other people's experiences and as a whole women are expected to do so much so quickly after growing an entire human and organ! I hope you have a smooth rest of your pregnancy! 😊
@@kraannddaall I'm really happy to hear your pregnancy is going going well and I wish you a happy, healthy birth. Pregnancy can definitely be debilitating for some people though. People with protruding disc's (and sometimes people don't even know they have one until they are pregnant) for example can find the baby presses on their injured disc, which presses on their spinal cord and causes pain so debilitating it does in fact prevent them from functioning, some women even end up completely bed bound in the final months of their pregnancy as the pain is *_that_* debilitating. There's also a condition where the baby presses on nerves that run down your legs and cause complete leg numbness which can make walking a difficult endeavor, especially when you're trying to walk on legs you can't feel with the new, weird weight distribution that comes with pregnancy. There are all sorts of things pregnancy can cause that are debilitating or otherwise exhausting and pregnant women shouldn't be infantilised but their partners should be putting in a little extra effort during the pregnancy, even if it's just so they get used to it once the baby arrives because newborns are exhausting and there's no acceptable reason for a spouse to not be chipping in a little extra once a child comes along.
@@ImARealCatI was told pregnancy wasn't covered under Aflac when I was had a difficult pregnancy and had to go on bedrest at around 30 weeks. 😢 Had to be off work with no pay until after I delivered... That was tough
I think I read somewhere in a Chinese Novel that when a woman is pregnant it should not be announced to others until 3 months old in case of miscarriages and to not attract bad luck. Like Near Success Syndrome, if something you wanted to happen unless it's not certain you shouldn't say anything about it. Cause you know sometimes when good things happen bad things will follow.
Oh my fucking god. You go based on one video….. shut up. Some states offer Doulas for expecting mothers and the US is home to some of the world’s best hospitals. While some jobs don’t offer leave for both parents, there are jobs that do. We need to stop comparing the bad of the U.S. to the good of the rest of the world because it’s an unfair comparison. And she’s a white woman in China. Do the average Chinese woman have that luxury?
That doesn't work. You just have better genetics. I have stretch marks all over and they did literally nothing to me and I used it daily for a really long time and nothing helped. Stretch marks are too deep for that to actually help
@@Maplebear1203 it doesn't do anything to prevent them or minimize them. Stretch marks occur on the dermis which is collagen and elastin fibers that give skin its strength/elasticity. When the skin stretches too quickly, it tears, and deeper layers of skin show through. That's a stretch mark. Everything you're saying is wrong and I'm so sick of people trying to just say oh it prevents them, oh it minimizes them. It doesn't. That's your genetics if anything the movement of you applying some lotion increased blood supply and MIGHT have helped.
@danielleh5804 I'm just curious, have you tried mederma? The trick is to apply a scar cream to a fresh stretch mark. It may not get rid of all of them, but it will help minimize the scarring. Stretch marks are usually genetic. I agree, no creams or oils will prevent them. The issue with minimization is people tend to try to do so when it's too late. Just like any scar, the newer and fresher it is, the easier it is to "get rid of". The older it is the more permanent.
@@Natashasha2319 did nothing for me. The only thing that helped was time and they faded but are still there. And I used Shae butters and vitamin e before I even really had stretch marks and still got them. I used products religiously but that doesn't help if you don't have skin elasticity
@woodenhandle Don't believe them it is entirely false. New York does allow abortions after 24 weeks but only if the mothers health/life is at risk. It does not include "and hour after being born", because after a baby is born it is officially considered a person and at that point it is considered homicide.
Latin america has the cultural thing of pregnancies. I wasn't allowed to go to my favorite grandmas funeral. We used to spend hours talking in the porch, saying hi to strangers, buying food from vendors who would pass by. As she was getting sick and I was almost due, I couldn't help her as much. In my last conversation, I asked her to wait just a little longer. She said she'd try. She sadly passed 6 days prior to my first daughter's birth. It would've been her first great granddaughter.
What! No funerals? doc: “I’m sorry you can’t mourn the loss of your mother. It is too much stress on baby” most of these are the most unrealistic customs.
@@pocoyosz5103so your telling me that you don’t think it’s weird that someone’s not expected to go to the funeral of a loved relation and grieve just because they are pregnant 🤨
@@nightowl3218 do you not understand? It's said that it's better to avoid but doesn't mean absolutely! Do you think if she doesn't go to the funeral, she will not be sad? Use some common sense here . She do not have to go if they are not really close, but if it's someone so close then we can't do anything about it ,she will have to go except if she herself don't want to go .
If its close direct family they will go but if not they wont. Since its a cultural thing so everyone understands, so no drama. For example, if a friend’s close family member died, they r advice not to attend any form of celebrations for 3 months during mourning period( bdays weddings etc). There r alot of traditions in this world ppl might not understand, the key is to respect different cultures. If u r pregnant with chinese MIL, u r well taken care of, they wont let u lift a finger and they will provide the best food and care for u.
Can agree to the sweeping and mopping. First kid, whenever I vacuumed or swept the whole house in a day I would be paralyzed or hobbling to the chiropractor needing my hips and lower back fixed by that evening or by the next day. I finally got it to a schedule where I swept or vacuumed only one room a day and even then I was feeling the strain. My chiropractor told me rather than the back and forth motion just walk. Walk forward and walk backwards. Find the longest stretches and just do it that way. My husband always ended up taking over the mopping part.
I honestly think the chiropractor is the problem. I have scoliosis too. The only time I had really bad back pain was after standing for 9 hours at work after 32 weeks and I was the laziest person before having a baby.
rubbing the belly has nothing to do with umbilical cord issues as it typically occurs during the labour/birthing process when they’re the most active in the womb. it’s actually recommended to do belly massages(past 3 months)! nuchal cords can also be from poorly constructed cords, common in multiples. nothing to do with outside stimuli ☺️❤️
All 3 of my girls had nucal cords wrapped in the end of pregnancy. I think it's bc I'm on the small side and any baby over 7 lbs is a bit too much. My first delivery my daughter almost died from being so wrapped up on neck and stomach but I caught the signs in my 2nd pregnancy with how many times she was getting hiccups a day. Hiccups are common but if it's constant; demand a ultrasound! bc it's a sign of distress. My 3rd was tangled abit but not dangerous levels. We just kept a eye on it with my history. Wishing all the baby's & mamas out there health and happiness.❤
In Japan they think you need to keep the belly warm (even in summer lmfao) like it’s a fucking incubating egg so … for as modern as East Asia supposedly is, they believe some pretty stupid stuff lol (Gave birth in Japan twice in the early 2010s)
@@ryanjuguilon213 which can be dispelled by citing the scientific or medical facts and replaced with what actually does and does not occur; educating anyone who wants to know the truth behind the superstition/belief ☺️
I had three kids, never even got the six weeks, went back to work within 2 weeks. Poor folks don’t always have the option. Good to see men helping their wives. My husband did help when he could but he was working 12-14 hours a day.
@@dawnb4864 In Croatia mom get fully payed maternity leave, for 1 year. If you've got 3 or more kids, then it lasts 3 years. Also, a father gets 2 or 3 months, not really sure. And there are options how you wanna use it, like you use 6 months, and than go to work. Other 6 months you can use whenever, before the child is 8 y. old. I thought USA is much better country. (Oh, and maternity leave starts 40 days before the due date)
My partner made me do everything up until the end, and was not opposed to yelling at me and fighting very often. I had a premature baby. 😢 he's fine now.
As a Mother who just had my 6th..... take every advantage of taking it easy, hubby can clean. I finally learned that on my last pregnancy. Every other time I kept saying "pregnancy doesn't make me handicapped, I can do everything I could before" and nothing in my life changed while pregnant. But rub that belly! Enjoy it!
In the Caribbean (well the island I live on) they advise pregnant not to be at funerals too and if it’s a newborn girl a female that’s on her period can’t hold a baby girl it’ll hurt her belly too 😭 Edit ***And if your craving something don’t scratch yah belly are the baby will be born with a birth mark the size of yah scratch or something like that ***And they like to keep red on the new born or anywhere around it, it is said to keep bad spirits away
@LorelleJustice yeah I had a woman tell me I could hold her baby but only if I wasn't on my cycle.... and I was like we'll I don't wanna hold her now since you think the miracle of the human body that allowed your baby to be born at all is somehow evil😅 sorry, didn't sit right with me
@@heehoopeanut420 I kind of agree. I truly try to make it a point to respect other beliefs, but that one is a little too strange for me. Only because it sounds like something rooted in some serious misogyny and not rooted in motherhood at all. I don't think that was a woman's idea, let's just put it that way. Sounds more like someone believes just touching a person on their period can have ill effects on a vulnerable body. What a strange thing to believe... So much self-hatred in that belief.
That’s smart! Takes away physical and mental stress. Number one makes total sense. My best friend’s husband didn’t do anything. She still had to clean and even had to do the laundry with a big belly. I helped her when I was there for a week and I could hardly use that washing machine myself. It was large and deep. I had to go on my tip toes to barely reach the bottom to get the last of the clothes. How she did it I’ll never know. Point is though, she shouldn’t have had to!!!
My Indiam Mom Who worked 9-5 while managing all the chpres, my school, my grandpqrents, cleaning, mopping and almost everything. N was only ALLPWED to go visit her mother before 1 month of delivery. For like 8 months my Mom worked like a servant at her house before she was sent to rest at her home!
I was studying in England and I had a Chinese friend. She got pregnant while on vacation (with her Chinese husband) but still had to finish the year. Well let me tell you we had a LOT of gossips 😂😂😂 But her son was born 2 weeks ago and is healthy 😁
No funerals would be the worst rule. I couldn't be ok with not being allowed to attend the funeral of someone I deeply cared for, just because I was pregnant. I've lost my best friend, while I absolutely hated that her funeral happened because of entirely preventable circumstance. Not being able to attend, would have made my grieving progress so much harder.
I live in America and have definitely been told the funeral one! A lot of people around where I live truly believe that funerals are a no go while pregnant. I’m pregnant with my third baby now and have missed two funerals of family members.
@@DorothyAdelinethat’s so wrong of you no offence, nothing bad is gonna happen to your baby just cause you pay respect to someone you knew and were related to
Physical inactivity can make the process worse If you're losing strength in your body you're gonna be under more stress People i know who stayed active and worked out through their pregnancy had the smoothest pregnancy and easiest births
This is almost identical to pregnancy in Black American culture with the exception of rubbing the belly. I love that humans are fundamentally more alike than different. Wishing you a happy and safe delivery 😊
Here in Australia they told me to stop mopping and vacuuming in the second trimester as well. But at that point I was starting to get a back pain so I was going to stop anyway lol
Wondering if the rubbing belly could be because they didn't want to draw attention to the pregnancy, especially if it violated the one child policy. Just a thought ...but Congratulations on your baby. I hope it grows to be healthy and strong❤
I doubt that would be a traditional or ancient superstition for that reason. Iirc, the law was only passed in 1979, and discouraging multiple children wasn't really a thing until after WWII.
Nope most definitely isn't :) China has alot of rich folklore and history. They try to keep they're history vibrant and alive to this day, most products you can buy you can find vendors that still make that product by hand. The baby superstition is just part of Social history and tradition :) and from what I know that rule dosent really even apply in modern age now
Thats definetly not the case, that policy is no longer active for around a decade now. Btw, even during the one child policy families could still have multiple kids especially in rural areas
In some cultures, it is believed best not to draw attention to pregnant moms because of evil eye. We wouldn't know of other people's thoughts and intentions, therefore it is highly advisable not to announce the pregnancy especially during the early stages.
This was what happened with me at my house. My mom did all of this for me and of course I snuck and helped 😂. She told me not to talk so much to my 2nd baby because he was going to be super attached and I didn’t listen and she was right 😂😂😂😂. I had to hold him while I cooked 😂
To think people made it their job to make all 4 of my pregnancies as stressful as possible and when I was put on bed rest forced me to clean anyway. You are just around good people. I am glad. People deserve good support and love especially when pregnant. ❤
Meanwhile here in the US my coworker at my old job was pregnant and our boss still didn't put someone on her shift with her so she had to go out and dip the tanks every morning, smelling gasoline, kerosene, ect.
I agree with most of these if not all guidelines. Especially number 2. The higher the rate of stress on mother and baby the results can be harsh. My pregnancies could be used as evidence
Its literally the same from where i came from ! We also have some other do’s and dont’s like avoid liking or hating something or a person too much, your child might ended up looked like them. I don’t believe this at first, but when i was pregnant with my second child, i really despised my MIL so much, my son ended up like the exact copy of her ! Lol 😂
Actually in India(some parts of India) people do put beautiful healthy looking baby pictures or anything that's beautiful around the wall Or in case one is spiritual then they always go for their favorite god/goddess pictures in their most beautiful avatar 😊 Women are advised to stay happy as much as possible & not allowed to take any stress or do any heavy-duty house chores...Negative thoughts might invite negative energy hence its a big No No during pregnancy.
So true .. I experienced lot of stress and mental abuse through my in laws during pregnancy with my oldest child, she is completely different than my second born She is always concerned, negative, don’t want to be touched while being sad and she hates my in laws since being baby .. keep care on yourself and your unborn child and don’t let anything negative in their environment
My mom couldn’t drive during her pregnancy with me due to a condition that made her pass out when she ate so she relied on other people to help get her out of the house and she got invited to accompany a lot of people to funerals (and my dad’s dad died 5 weeks before I was born so another funeral). She always says it made me a very serious person. 😅
Bro pregnant women in the US are treated like cattle and it’s ridiculous 💀🙏 the most they get is a seat at a bench and maybe they get to move ahead in the grocery store line but that’s IT 😭
America is obsessed with being adverse to women receiving any preferential treatment. Children can have it, men but the idea that we should be respected is almost blasphemous. When did it begin? Was it always this way? I don't know. And other women are the worst with reinforcing it. I was told I wasn't special as a young girl with periods that would legit make me pass out. The school tried to force my parents to make me come to school those days under the "I put up with it too, so should you" theory.
The husband doing the chores shirtless is part of the tradition? I mean it makes sense, keep the mana free of worry and stress and increases the chances of a second baby coming the way
I am from the south of India. we also do all these customs while pregnant after delivery also There are certain rules like baby and mother cont take bath for few days , mother cont do any house hold work cont lift heavy things and should bath with cold water and there more But this are basic rules
A lot of this is actually very true! Especially avoiding stress snd strong chemicals (if you can taste it when you smell it, get away) except the rubbing. Singing snd talking and loving on unborn baby is a great way for both of you to bond and thr simulation can help baby. And some movements can prevent breach and move baby back where they should be. Like circling your hips and using s yoga ball
Honestly, the cleaning thing should be an American thing too. Because men really need to start thinking more. That person's carrying your child. And shouldn't be expected to have the house spotless or almost spotless, while pregnant
Girl I carried 25+ pound buckets of ice at work until I was over eight months pregnant and I walked to and from work which was usually 3 am going home and my baby was fine he is now a 6'5 1/2 warrior🤷
😲Seriously? Pregnant woman in America, Shampooing carpet when husband walks in Husband "Don't forget to take the trash out after..." Woman in China shampooing carpet, husband walks in Husband: "Are you suicidal!? Go sit down!"
My mom actually felt my first kick at my great grandma’s funeral when my mom was seven months pregnant with me felt my first kick and she knew that was my great grandma saying she was OK❤
So many similarities with the Latino culture. I was told not to sweep and mop too much because I could put too much strain on my body and could lose the baby. Also the stress thing is similar. When my mom passed away when I was 4 1/2 pregnant, my aunts were so worried about me. They would constantly ask me if I was ok, to relax because it wasn’t food for the baby to stress and make sure I ate.
As someone studying to be a midwife, the cleaning one is actually quite true. If you try moving something heavy or putting strain on your back you are more likely to have a premature birth. Obviously not all the time but it’s good to be cautious
Some are ok but there's lots of superstitious too. But overall Chinese tradition take care and give attentions to the mother to be. BTW wait till you get to the confinement period. But it's mostly positive and it's where the husband behaved the best ❤
I live in Australia and my physio also told me not to sweep or mop anymore (since the second trimester) because of the back pain but honestly even I felt I had to stop cleaning the bathtub because of the pain at one point. I wondered about the chemicals too but I can’t leave my partner do everything for 9 months 🥲🥲
Im from the Caribbean with Chinese heritage, absolutely 100% avoid graveyards while pregnant. I had a complete panic attack that landed me in the hospital when I was pregnant with my first son.
I’m a fan of these especially the first 2 I won’t let my wife who pregnant do the dishes the toilet or the laundry or vacuum/sweep or dust she’s not allowed to any choirs good thing I already did most of them and she just helped 🎉
