My son forgets habits. I have watched it happen. He will have completely lost the habit from one day to the next. He's 26. Late diagnosed ADHD. He checked off so many of the internal ADHD symptoms as a child. But they weren't talked about when he was young. And he wasn't externally hyperactive. So I had no idea.
@@jadadallas5891 this is such an important thing you bring up!! There are different types of ADHD, inattentive type doesn’t manifest as hyperactive so it’s easy to miss in a lot of people who’re still massively struggling day to day!
Hello from Sweden!🇸🇪 I was 55 when I was Diagnosed with ADHD (inattentive, or type 2) People having type 2 are not hyperactive on the outside but way more on the inside.. I really struggle to quiet my mind whenfor example, going to bed and My energy is very low all day long ( if I do something "boring", on the other hand I have loads of energy when it comes to do something that I am very passionate about....) I still forget thing from one day to another or even after 10 min if someone interrupts me😉😄 I am not perfect but I do as good as I can and that is enough..💖🤗
I was teary eyed when you said you can’t change how the outside world would treat your children, but you can be their comfort.. plus the hugging and the kissing… 🥹 bless your heart! Thank you for uploading this beautiful video ❤
I'm a 48 yr old mom of 3 boys. They are all grown and out of the house now. I wish I had you back when I was struggling with all this. I just adore listening to you
So glad to see Part 3, Remi! Your gorgeous accent. Just sat down after my chores, and then, OH! It's Remi! Yay. 🎉 and went to get my huge pile of laundry to fold as I spent time with you.🧡🤍🤎
I’m literally tearing up hearing you talk about this. I have adhd and I think my oldest son has it too and I have really been struggling with things like this, especially recently. I want to help him, but it’s very hard to do. Hearing you talk about this has really helped me today. Thank you.
I have followed you for some time now and I´m so impressed with you being so young and yet so very wise. I´m more than dubble your age and I wish I had been this wise when my child was young. Your children are indeed blessed with you as their mother. Greetings from Sweden.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, you are wise beyond your years. I wish that there would’ve been someone like you that would’ve explained my kids world in this way to me. So I could understand what was happening. And WHY! I think I was probably a parent who did more harm than good when it came to this. And I regret it so much!
Anytime I watch or just listen to your videos, it feels like giving my childhood self a big hug and telling her it's going to be ok. Thank you for that Remi, you are a blessing to see many. Your kind voice soothes me when I'm beating myself up for the state of my home and how I'm raising my kids. I can't thank you enough. I hope your little family had a lovely Halloween!
I am so glad you posted. 🎉🎉🎉 You have been my body double for a weeks now. But I am that point where I have been though your Facebook shorts and your RU-vid channel. Now I can fold the laundry while listening to you.
I'm mostly neurotypical (As far as I know) but I grew up in a VERY dirty house and I'm still struggling to find routines that work for me at 40. But I have gotten much better over the years and I am able to keep a generally tidy house, which I'm grateful for for sure. Thank you for sharing with us!
My father was an army drill Sergeant. Our house had to be spotless and be able to eat off the bathroom floor! So like you my house always looks like a tornado went through it. Love your videos!
Another fab motivational and honest video, thank you for keeping me going, I have 3 adhd and asd kids and your videos make me feel so less rubbish about my home thank you ❤
I would take all of those pens out of those cases and have them all in one big box so they are far easier for the kids to put away themselves and if they can't get in to the routine just now, or ever, it'll make it easier for you as well. I struggle to clean my teeth as well. It takes so much effort to motivate myaelf and remember. I do it every night without fail but the first clean of the day is where I trip up. Largely because I have chronic illness with crippling fatigue and throw in autism executive disfunction and it's not as easy for people like us. You are such a bloody incredible mum! I've said it many times! I see it so much in your videos! There is no such thing as perfection and all the skills you do have and all that you give to your boys gives them some skills that a lot of kids of our generation didn't have. You're doing so much good and deserve to be so proud! I'm currently studying my 2nd undergraduate degree, this one is Psychology, because I'm also fascinated by the way brains work! I spotted the "My Body" books in the boys' room and it made me smile because I loved those books growing up!
@@remiclogright guys, what helped me was hearing a dentist say this, don't wait for the right time to brush your teeth, so don't wait to do it after breakfast or after your evening meal because knowing people like us, it won't happen, just do it at random when it pops in your head, so I've just done mine at 4pm cause I thought about it, will I do them before bed, no. But at least I did them today. 😊
Mi biggest problem is I’m so slow…I have to mentally program every action and try to do things in a certain order and end up loosing time and getting very tired. I started noticing this things about myself thanks to your videos, you’re an endless source of insight about neurodivergence, thanks a lot for what you do ❤
Ooh, interesting insight. Me too. I've spent most of my life wondering why I can't keep up with everyone else. I think for me I loose a lot of time transitioning from one thing to the next. I can't just switch from one thing to another like so many other people seem to be able to. I've decided this winter to try to do less. Embrace my inner cave-person!! 😄 Instead of pushing through, and getting exhausted, I'm going to try to pair down my commitments and have more cosy evenings in. That's the plan anyway - so far I've not managed very well and am still shattered!! 😅
Two happy thing s I saw...the not water bottle. I have one too! I saw how great Rudy can fold clothes.Please tell him how good of a job he is doing! You are a great mom and little step can be made each day. Allow grace, and forgiveness to enter your home. Can't wait for the next episode. Thanks again.
Admitting responsibility and feeling like you failed is very much a huge step. You will continue to improve! I know because I, too, have had to learn to do the same. You have come so far... remember until you die you are still growing and improving.
i appreciate you being vulnerable with your dental hygiene habits. That is something that I have also been struggling with for a long time and I feel really shameful about it but it feels comforting to know Im not alone.
Love it!!! 💪💕 Thank you Remi. I'm struggling more than usual at the moment (wonder if I have SAD? 🤔). It's been a tough few weeks and my housework feels overwhelming. But when I saw this video I decided to potter and tidy up what I could while listening to your reassuring, insightful, warming thoughts. 💕 Only halfway through and my home is already looking much better, and I'm feeling calmer and more in control. And reading through the comments, I know I'm not alone! 🥰🧹🪴💕🍁🎃🍂💕💪✨
Not all families are the same; your children are great with donation and my children will go to battle to keep a ripped sticker from the bottom of a soccer shoe. You're leading magnificently ❤
I think everyone is different and hats off to you for prioritizing your children's childhood above everything else. There will always be chores but they won't always be little ❤
Starting therapy next week, thanks to you. In a good way! 😂 Struggled so long to explain what I need help with, until I found you and you explained executive dysfunction. Lifesaver! I don't have ADHD nor ASD, so most therapists assume I am depressed or traumatized. I did have a burnout, and survived cancer, but that was two years ago and I never lost my smile and the capacity to enjoy things. I could also get stuff done if I really had to. 😅 But with every day stuff I just got.. stuck. Hopefully therapy can support me while I build up new routines, develop triggers to get off my ass, rewards to keep it fun, and a goal to work forwards to. Your videos got me started, hopefully therapy gets me the rest of the way! ❤ So thank you, Remi.
Wow you’ve been through so much!!! I’m so excited for you to start your therapy journey! It sounds like you’ve got a brilliant, positive attitude. Sending you all the luck and love in the world ❤️
just starting the video now but just wanted to say how thoroughly appreciative i am to see your upload!! i’ve been in a really bad spot yesterday and today - i took one bad interaction way out of proportion and have been frozen and spiraling because of it. i’m going to take this video as a sign to get up and make some small progress wherever i can. ❤ cannot say enough how much your videos help me, i watch them over and over and over again to get through my daily tasks. sending love to you ❤
also just want to say - hearing you speak about your struggles with dental hygiene is soo relatable. you are NOT the only one who has a tough time remembering. i set alarms for AM and PM to brush and floss and tbh, some days i still forget to brush, and it’s even rarer that i actually do floss. it’s hard. it’s still worth making the effort. it doesn’t mean that you or I or anyone else is unworthy of love and care and respect. we will keep trying!!
one last comment - i am a single woman in my mid-twenties with no kids, living alone in an apartment and i find it incredibly difficult just to maintain my own living space and daily habits. i can’t even make more than one meal a day. ANY person who sends you hate is off their fucking nut, you are working incredibly hard and are doing a great job raising two sweet young boys to be confident, kind, and happy. just making it through a day of parenting is an accomplishment in my mind, and i give you so much credit for battling all these negative comments while clearly putting so much love and thought into your parenting and childcare. i love these videos, and would happily watch you clean the same room every day just to have the company and chatter from a likeminded soul. while watching your video, i cleaned up some of my kitchen table, stacked up my dirty dishes, got dressed, made coffee, and fed my pet shrimps ❤ thank you for the company and motivation and i hope you’re having a happy halloween!! sending love ❤
Im serious when I say you are my mini me. I’m very fond of you and enjoy your content. I’m a mom of 2 boys. I sure miss them being small. I love your tips. THANK YOU. 🤍🤗
Quickly came to see your video Remi great job on the room. I just love your videos keep them coming. ❤❤small town Butler,MO USA love listening to your calming voice. Have great rest of your day
I love your videos, I’m expecting my 2nd child and lost my job 1 month ago so I am feeling very hormonal and overwhelmed, your video brought tears to my eyes 🥹💜 you are a gift! Keep staying strong and loving your children! Someday your children will be able to watch these videos and see how much they are truly loved! Now, onto the cleaning 🙌🏼 kitchen first!
You are not failing...you are learning, adapting and doing ! You are the best person I have seen on this internet and I love your video's and family and I get inspired every time I see you. Thank you.
Remi I cried listening to you talk about Rudi. What a fantastic mother he has with you by his side. I'm sitting in my 14 year old daughters room giving it a clean while she's out with her friends. I tell my kids every day of their lives how much I love them as I didn't have that growing up. My parents fed and clothed us but I never felt truly loved by my mother. You are AMAZING. You have two very lucky children X😊
Remi, you are a wonderful Mom and don't Ever let anybody tell you otherwise. You are the mom your boys are meant to have because you understand what they are going through and can help them. I loved you and your son hugging when you got through folding the clothes.
Yes!! Totally agree with all the positive self-talk in this video! Being emotionally available and supportive of your children is the most important job anyone can have! And you’re doing that. ❤
You're a great mum, nice to see you and Rudi working together on the laundry 😊 I have 3 grown sons and 2 grandchildren now, I relate to the struggles but when I was a young mum I had to muddle through. I find your chats so relatable and comforting ❤
Your boys are going to remember you and Charlie always being there, always being loved and always standing up for them. Those (things to me anyway) are the most important things. I think you both are doing a wonderful job!! Much love from Kentucky, United States 😘
Your insight is making me think my wicked smart sister may have had undiagnosed ADHD, but she passed 8 years ago so I guess it doesn't matter anymore, but I found it so difficult to see her living in a TOTALLY unkept home and no matter how many times I helped her clean it always reverted back to a mess.
All so articulatedly explained Remi regarding your family dynamics. Your house is full of love and you have learnt your own techniques for coping which you are now passing on to others 💕
Hi Remi, I deeply admire your mindset, your patience, your wisdom and your resilience. For me and so many others you are really an amazing and inspiring person. Greets and hugs from an older lady 😊❤
My son, now 22, has ADHD but I always feel that is just the label given to him. His anxiety can be through the roof and so can his abundance of kindness! As parents all we want for our children is for them to be accepted. Thank you Remi for putting words to what so many parents struggle with while trying to raise happy, healthy productive humans!
Anyone thinking of leaving a nasty comment just remember this woman and her children and her house affect you in NO WAY, you DO NOT HAVE TO WATCH, and she is not asking for your criticism. Please extend grace and kindness or peace out ✌🏻
I found this video on my recommended and will be sticking around! It is so heartening to hear about your parenting, avoiding shame and working to find strategies that work for you and your kids. I have a very similar problem with toothbrushing, sensory issues, and daily habits, and I know just how hard it gets to convince yourself. Lots of love to you on this journey!
Remi you're doing great. I never was good at training my kids in cleaning. I always struggled to stay on top of anything in life .😂 My adult children turned out great. Their apartments are clean and tidy, granted they don't have children yet. I think there are only a few rare people out there that are perfect in parenting and house keeping, yet the rest beat themselves up because they are not. Keep smiling 😊
Remi, thank you for your videos. It reminds me of when my boys were little. Working and so many things to do in a day and only 24 hrs. Something is always left out. Better the house than your little ones🥰
I can only suggest: BINS 😂❤ It changes my life! No, it's not perfectly organized. But it takes away the barriers! It's super easy to throw stuff into them and: • the floors are free • you find what you're looking for So just bought Ikea Kalax boxes and put them on the floor against a wall. NO NOT A KALAX! Only the boxes, next to each other ❤😊
I totally agree. Lids and drawers are my nemesis. My mother used to get so frustrated with me that I didn't "just clean". But even at 40+ I still struggle with anything that has a lid or a drawer. 😢
@remiclog I did. I think I find you talking through things so comforting so I always appreciate the chats and it helps to learn things from different perspectives.
Hello from Sweden!🇸🇪🇸🇪 Great to se you Remi! You are so sweet sharing your home with all that there is. All the mess!!!😉 I have the same piles like you and your family, but me I live alone, and until I was 55 I always felt the guilt and even shame for not being able to have a tidy home. But then, back In September 2020 I got diagnosed with ADHD type 2 and then "all the pieces landed in the right place in the Jigsaw Puzzle". I still forget my to do habits, but today I am kind to myself and do what I have energy for... Some days it's a lot of energy, others not so much!!! Ans it's OK! Lots ov love from Sweden!💖🤗🇸🇪
Kids are kids and need to explore the world their way. My daughter is ADHD she hates a clean space but has at the age of 24 is trying to keep everything clean and tidy. I'm not diagnosed ADHD but I'm obsessive about the cleaning. It's the shame that people forget that kids need to do things their way and people need to look at how everyone is different every child is different. You are amazing and Ur family are as well. Your doing what's right for your family and that is amazing.
Once again, you nailed it. I'm 45 and just understanding my malfunction within the last couple years and my kid's. I've got 4 kid's and every one of them are different and yet check off many of those ADHD boxes. I also think we have a touch of aspergers. My husband and kid's are ALWAYS asking me for something when I'm in the middle of doing something like making dinner, then i feel obligated to do what they ask, even though they don't need it in that very moment. It still feels like pressure and it makes my head get all out of whack and my chest heavy. I am trying hard to get my husband to understand that when he asks me for something when I'm already busy, it feels like pressure and overload, please stop. Please either figure it out on your own, or wait for a better time. The older i get, with everything already on my plate, I just can't handle being overwhelmed anymore. It's a horrible trigger that hurts and then i eventually lose my shit and start crying.
I can’t wait until you release your book❤ I could listen to you talk for hours lol!! You sound just like me as a child (and an adult now lol!!) we are doing our best😊
I love that you are working on making sure your babies have good self-talk. I am coming up on 53 and still struggle with negative self-talk. Though not officially diagnosed yet, I am, without a doubt, ADHD and grew up being criticized for messiness, fidgeting and inattention. My older sister called me space case if that says anything. I too struggle with things like consistently brushing my teeth, sensitive gums along with not being able to form habits, so definitely don't feel bad about that. You are amazing and are doing fantastic. I did notice that your son's pens are in a box with multiple trays. I was thinking, it might be easier for him, and you, to just get rid of the trays and put the pens in the box. I have some pens that I have in their original packaging, and it's driving me crazy not having them at easy access. I'm looking into stackable drawers for mine, but I have a full adult desk. So, just thought maybe it would help keep putting the pens away easier if they were just stored in the box without the trays. Looking forward to the next video.
I watch clutter bug. She has some very good solutions for folks with attention deficit disorder. She also says most people don’t put things away because their organizing solution are too difficult. Things like hooks over hangers etc. She places everyone in 4 categories Ladybugs, cricket, butterfly, and bee. Check her out she maybe able to help you with staying tidy and your kiddos also. She also says let your mess dictate where you put things. Love watching you. Love how you keep it real. We all have issues in one way or another.
I have found that I cannot keep up with all the inventory in my house. When I have too much stuff to deal with, I feel like giving up. As I’ve begun to seriously get rid of the bits and bobs that are everywhere, tidying and cleaning are becoming easier. My brain really gets rattled with all the 1000s of pieces of inventory that I/we have to manage. It’s exhausting!
@@remiclogI am so thankful for this channel. It has showed me that I'm not the only one that has these issues. There are so many of us. We just need to learn how to adapt, where to get the best advice, how to manage and so much more. Your videos and these comments help us understand so much more about ourselves. Thank you. ❤
Beautiful lady I think you are doing a great job on your home and boys. I do think you for this and yes I did enjoy this God bless all of you 🙏❤️🌹. Please don't let people say bad things to you love you
Girl I have no sensory issues or executive dysfunction really at all: but I relate very hard to the toothbrushing situation. Since I was a child I have had to *decide* to brush my teeth every day and psyche myself up to do it. It’s just like…so boring? I cannot explain it. I really want healthy teeth. But it’s a daily issue! No shame! 😂
You are such a breath of fresh air. I identify with the tooth brushing, habits that come and go, heck - I forget to eat most of the time. You prove over and over that we can get reset. So what if it goes to chaos, a lot if life happened and fun. One thought, the costumes might do better in a storage solution where they don't all have to be pulled out to find the one wanted. I'm not sure what would work. Just a consideration. 🌻🍄
Put somewhere one big 🧺 basket for all clean clothes.👍🏻 is on one spot so not everywhere is better not extra mess overwhelmed. About kids, what they see they do if is hard for them to clean toys make inventory less so less is to clean later🤗
