The more Cole goes on these shows and talks, the better he looks. Love the depth of this interview. Don't give the producers too much credit though, they didn't feel bad - they aired the cuties scene because it was great tv.
They aired it because Zenab implicated them in her claims. It would have looked really bad on them if they had not aired something that would have proved that Cole was an abuser.
I agree and he keeps getting more comfortable in interviews as well! The first one I saw he was still holding back a bit and seemed afraid to say the wrong thing, but now he’s just keeping it real and is showing himself to be more mature than we thought on the show
@@by_ednafelicitathink she’s saying the opposite. Zanab kept saying the producers gave Cole a good edit as if they kept abusive behavior out the show on purpose. So they aired it to let the audience decide and they also had to know the clip was not as bad as Zanab claimed it was.
@@susannahammond2033 She’s the type of girl that would claim assault. If they thought the cutie incident was him body shaming her. She spoke more about Colleen looks more than cole, she asked cole who’s his type.
Lol he’s not that mature. I don’t hate him, but he made numerous comments in the show that don’t exactly paint him as a mature individual. The remarks he made about not dating nurses, a bad butt being a deal breaker and Zanab’s breasts being something he announced right away. From episode one I caught a weird vibe. With that being said Zanab has some major issues. Both of them are fucked tbh.
@@maddyG7414 you also have to consider there was someone asking him a series of questions and then they cut and air certain parts of his answers where ever they want to… so of coarse he said it.. but imagine being asked what’s the best physical attraction to Z? And then he says the boob answer in fun.. and then they just air that part wherever… it tv y’all!!! Most of the solo interview parts are answering questions the producers ask..
@@maddyG7414 when did the butt and boob comments happen? I don't remember that and the butt thing sounds like something he would have half heartedly said.
he is so incredibly insightful and intentional in what he says. he didn’t bash her, he said what happened and flipped it to what he could learn from it. not why people should hate her or pick his side. i love him !!!
In my opinion, Zanab was trying to have a "Deepti" moment with saying no at the wedding. I remember when I watched Deepti and Shake's wedding I cried and clapped for her standing up for herself! The problem is that Zanab is not anywhere as likable as Deepti and Cole was not even remotely close to how awful Shake was!
Cole needs a free-spirited girl who is fun but also religious. His problem is that type of girl may be hard to find as a lot free-spirited people are more hippie like and not very religious at all, as he was mentioning in the beginning. I noticed that was a core problem in their relationship he was very fun and playful and Zanab was not at all. He needs someone that can be fun and playful but also share his deep love for God. Just my opinion in observing the few clips we saw of them.
Shame that Coles “flaw” is that he is so open and vulnerable. Basically people have been asking him to not be honest or be himself, which kills most relationships anyways
Yes! I hate that ppl keep saying he should have lied about finding others attractive when feeling the need to lie about small insignificant things is actually really bad. Besides Cole is authentically an honest and open person. I can't see how going against his own nature would be better when there isn't anything wrong to begin with and would only hurt him long term.
You guys have asked him the BEST questions!! THIS is actually the best Cole interview I’ve seen this far 👏🏼 I definitely relate to Cole and a lot of what he said at the end hit deep because I feel like people have said that I’m “too much” and I’ve been treated like a burden. It really does make you question whether it’s truly worth being yourself & it makes you want to dim the light that you are, but at the end of the day… being yourself always wins. It’s hard being yourself in this world, but it’s truly worth it
Yes queen! Continue to be you! If you're too bright for them, you need to find some new friends and sometimes family haha! much love please subscribe if you haven't already!
The irony of all this, is that Cole and Colleen would have made a great match. They are both playful and lighthearted. Instead, both chose partners who sucked the life out of them! Colleen is with a husband who is toxic for her. It's really too bad that Cole and Colleen didn't choose each other in the end.
Cole seems to have a pure heart. I never understood what he saw in Zenab- she was bitter, insecure, cynical, and constantly annoyed by him during the lead up to the wedding and ultimately, delusional, cruel, and vindictive after. To this day she is doubling and tripling down, she hasn’t stopped coming for him, to the point it’s getting weirdly harass-ey. Her seeking out the ex wife just to stir up trouble - this girl is TOXIC. Run!🏃💨
I feel so bad for Cole. He really seems like a sweet person that just couldn't see that person in front of him was the wrong person and tried to make it right. And got hurt. Like a lot of us. I could definitely empathize.
I'm 36, I have a baby, I am mature when it comes to serious things but I'm still like a child when I'm having fun 😁 There's nothing wrong with being childlike sometimes 😊
Laughing and having fun is good for your health…and face. Zanab is angry at the world and she’ll age horribly with her permanent scowl. I thought she was pretty until episode 3, when the scowl appeared. Bleh.
This episode was extremely refreshing. You guys were such good hosts, asking the right questions that we viewers want to ask but delivered it tastefully. Really loved the entire dynamic between host and guest here. Thank you for giving Cole a safe platform to be himself.
This guy is a keeper. Cole was one of the most natural ' relatable man on the show. He was my favorite. One day he will find the right women who matches his fun character.
He seemed to be the most genuine on the show. Zanab is a liar and did a whole theatrical performance up to the wedding and all her attendees was on code..
I love this interview. Cole seems soooo down to earth & genuine. I pray he finds the woman he's looking for & that relationship provides them both with the authentucity, transparency, strength, endurance, peace, love & understanding it takes to go the distance. It's challenging dating in general, but dating with purpose is even more challenging. I'm really rooting for him. Team Cole over here 🙌🏽
This was awesome! Thanks for asking the good questions and making it comfortable for Cole to be open and candid. He's going to be a wonderful husband someday.
Big hug to you Cole! You are so loved by everybody. I was so disgusted by Zeynab's abuse of you, when you were just a young uncomplicated guy, who actually had a very strong discernment when it came to her irrational behavior. She really triggered my Mama Bear, believe me. I wish the cast had been more supportive and less mentally lazy. 😊 God bless you honey!
Let me tell you Cole won! Even though Zenab did him dirty, (yow i was so mad i wanted to fight her for how vile she was to him!) I am glad her nasty behavior showed him exactly what he needed to see. Going and dating her in private would have also been a disaster. So he won! Good luck on your growth journey Cole!!!!
Thank you for having Cole on. It's awful how the crew treated him, except for a couple of the guys trying to chime in. I'm glad he is getting a lot is support from fans too
I just watched the season because I went back to Netflix. I was very confused why he stayed with her. He seemed like he was really trying and I felt so bad for him. Listening to him talk about it now is a pretty accurate description of what I thought about him when I watched the show.
Cole needs somebody like Charmine, someone who is confident, take things with a grain of salt, bubbly, and just straight fun…..cause her husband was saying some things during their sidetrack of talking about their relationship that I can guarantee Zanab would flip out about! I hope Cole took notes from this couple to see what a healthy and happy relationship can look like for him if he choose wisely! I love this couple 😊
@@shristisilwal492 I also got the feeling that he is not physically attracted to black women, but we won’t know for sure until it is said out of his mouth; with that being said, my comment was not referring to race only personality traits!
Cole said that Raven was a 10 when Zaynab asked him to rate the other girls. She just decided to focus on Colleen being a 10 and nothing Cole said after that was right
@@shristisilwal492 So? I’ve never dated or been attracted to white men. He never put her down about her looks or culture or looks because Indian isn’t a race. We would all react the same way being engaged to someone they would never date on site. LOVE is not BLIND . Definitely not for me.
Loved this interview. it was so relaxed and you can tell Cole felt very comfortable talking to you guys. I hardly ever watch these things in full and I watched this whole thing!
Y'all are workinggggg! Getting all the good interviews! Y'all are both so funny and Charmaine is so beautiful! I can't wait to see this podcast go off and blow up
I think Cole misunderstood Zanab’s “vulnerability” of telling her childhood story. I think she weaponized it as a sob story which Cole’s empathetic nature was attracted to. She might have seemed healed and resilient but that was because nothing was actually at stake in the pods. She wasn’t actually being vulnerable which made Cole drop his guard for red flags or incompatibilities and ultimately made it easier to excuse her behavior because she’s had a rough past. I think she’s a covert narcissist and psychologically abused him.
This experience literally changed him. I still feel of what kind of hell has been through. He's eye's d don't spark as before. We can observed how that was very painful, this girl killed the his soul. All the best for you Cole.
Brilliant interview, thank you Bey’s for doing this. So so good. Cole so glad you cleared everything with such clarity. You’re a good man dude. That said, Netflix are horrendous, rubbish. The producers/owners of the show should be thrown in prison for manipulating and destroying people like this. They lie in their editing. But this is what Netflix is about most of the time. I do hope they either grow a moral compass or are shut down. Only slight redemption in the fact they played the cutie scene to bring some truth.
One is clear, that he identifies what he wants and needs in his life , and he pretty much very early realized he needed zanab in his life but he was too fast and that is why he got broken so badly , because just no matter how mature you get , you never know what the other person feels about all this. The prize is if the other person appreciates all that maturity of his, and that diets happen so that’s why it just landed so badly.
Zanab was delusional, a liar, very pessimistic… I’m so glad he didn’t end up with her… that would have been the biggest mistake of his life! He is soooo awesome! Team Cole!
Cole is such a great guy and this interview was so insightful. Zanab is honestly a bad person for what she did to Cole. He deserves an amazing woman who can appreciate him!
I just watched Season 3 of Love Is Blind & happened to run across this interview with Cole. This was such a great interview. Definitely a new subscriber.
I love his energy even though Zay painted him a bad guy, immured . Zay, she was very insecurity for her look n he blamed him out of no where . Col he is actually good at articulating his thoughts, a good communicator, n he care about others people’s feelings so much. He doesn’t deserve all this drama
In the pods Zay claimed to be a "carefree adventurous traveler". So I knew she was FOS when she didn't even want to get in a pool. 🤣 Plus what "adventure seeker" looks that out of sorts being outside during the game segment as well? She had high maintenance diva written all over her. Nothing about Zay was go with the flow or carefree whatsoever because of how uptight and insecurity ridden she was. I can't imagine what being married to a woman like that would be like. She's literally afraid of her own shadow. 🙈
One of the worst mistake zanab made was being passive aggressive when something bothers her. If you need reassurance, why not straight up ask for it. If you felt like he was controlling your eating habit, why not just address it? Like everything she complained about could have been resolved. People can’t read your mind 🙄.I think Cole can do so much better because he’s willing to adjust. Another thing I think people should look into is the 16 personality type. There are some people you’ll never be compatible with nobody how much you fight.
49:00 just please, don't call what Zanab did a "feminism" thing. Feminism is not about putting man down, it's about equality and lifting us up. Just because Zanab is a woman (and maybe she even defines herself as a feminist, i dont know) but doesn't mean, that everything she does is about feminism or comes from it. Im a feminist and I would never act the way she did at the altar amd i dont agree with what she did. It wasn't empowering, it was horrible and hurtful.
Omg you are so refreshing. I nearly gave up feminism because of the support for Zay. But it's nice to see an honest feminist that can be objective to her behavior. Not saying Cole is completely innocent but its disgusting that people just saw him as this villain instead of Zay's vile behavior I continue to still see
@@bobococo89 thank you :) it wasn't very nice to realize that not everything I do is "feminitsic" but it is true. It would be impossible, since we don't live in a bubble and a lot of our choices are defined by our environment, upbringing or culture. So yeah, feminists do a lot of stuff that have nothing to do with feminism, but its ok. Thats life. Its sad that some women would take being supportive too far and just support an action without thinking, just because it was done by a woman.
I was just listening to Taylor's Swift song Tolerate it and it really seems to fit Cole and Zainab's relationship from his point of view to a T . The lyrics " I wait by the door like I'm just a kid Use my best colors for your portrait Lay the table with the fancy shit And watch you tolerate it If it's all in my head, tell me now Tell me I've got it wrong somehow I know my love should be celebrated But you tolerate it I greet you with a battle hero's welcome take your indiscretions all in good fun You're so much older and wiser. " pretty much say it all.
I mean yes that song is very much so for an unhealthy relationship that's very unequally balanced where the person makes you out to be the bad guy and you're constantly walking on egg shells.
There is nothing immature about Cole reminiscing about his relationships! In fact I think it's really healthy that he recognizes the good that he went through during the show! He's so damn charming and sweet 🥰🥰🥰
What an amazing interview!!! Great job hosts !! You guys are amazing! 💚🧡💛 man this made me love Cole even more. I pray he does heal and that he sees God has a good women for him. He just need to be patience. God takes his time to give you the right person because he is looking at all things of the person. So it’s worth waiting for. Be patience Cole !!! Your proverbs 31 is in the making. Trust God.
Seems like Coles has reflected and learned a lot from this experience. His main fault is that he needs to filter what he says more when he is on tv and when he talks to people that he doesn't know too well. When he finds a girl and both are of the same fun goofy say whatever comes in their head without taking it seriously vibe , i believe it will be ideal for him .
He gives me Bradley Cooper vibes (maybe is his voice) but I really like his energy. Zanab really lost out but Cole dodged a major bullet. I’m sure he’s going to find the right girl. I loved all the questions you asked especially the dating service questions at the end because I’m sure all the ladies want to know 😄
zenab and cole's trainwreck of a relationship aside, he's actually super likeable and good at articulating his thoughts. a good communicator definitely.
My theory is that she never loved him but just wanted to be on tv. Or maybe she started out caring about him and then held on to the first slight she perceived and built a case for humiliating him!
I love Cole! Yes he made mistakes but as humans we make mistakes and learn from it. And he is. Wish i was i could connect with him. Cole is a good guy. Much love Cole.
This was an excellent interview and your questions were so awesome! Great job guys! I'm about to explore more of your videos. I really enjoyed what I just watched :)
First time viewer here. RU-vid watcher from London England. I enjoyed this meandering, relaxed and revealing conversation because I was intrigued by the relationship between Zanab and Cole. Well done guys. I didn't watch Ink Black but if you were in reality TV for 7 years, you have a lot of knowledge and insights into how things work behind the scenes. Editing, frankenbites etc... Cole seems like a nice, down to earth guy. He's articulate and introspective. I like his optimistic outlook. I also think Zanab has many positive traits, can't think of many at the moment... unfortunately they were an ATROCIOUS match for each other once the physical attraction wore off and they were living together as an engaged couple. They didn't bring out the best in each other. #Very classy of Cole to just narrate his experience on Love Is Blind and AVOID trashing Zanab. For balance, interview Zanab too. Please and thanks!
Zanab went really far to slander him even though she claimed she could’ve “dragged” him. The cuties scene he was literally just talking about their future and it seems like he wanted to treat her girl to a big dinner which is why he made that comment. I think she was really insecure and took everything the wrong way, and she did want to make him look bad on tv no matter how much she said she didn’t 😂😂😂 she looked so smug on the last few episodes
hi, new subscriber here that would like to put her application in for Cole. Born in the midwest, went to college in SC and now living in GA! 😅He's very attractive, intelligent, has a sense of humor and knows what he wants or at least has an idea. He won't have any problem finding the lady of his dreams, I sense he's a great guy. Love you all's channel!
Cole is my MOST Favorite Love is Blind guy of all seasons. He’s very funny, handsome, and a great catch. My husband is very smart and totally goofy & he’s 56!! A person has to be able to laugh at themselves for crying out loud!!!Zanzibar was too serious (in what they showed), she was very mean in saying what she did and honestly has no sense of humor; she just wasn’t a good fit for Cole. Cole, keep on being funny, say goofy things and remember God has the perfect girl for you; He already has it figured out!! Cathy, in Dallas
Cole, PLEASE don't let people do this to you. I am a female,"Love is Blind" uber fan from Canada. I was shocked at how Zanab treated YOU on the show AND at the alter. First of all, she needs to lighten up. I think her adoptive family coddled her too much after the death of her parents. She has no sense of humour, and is incapable of understanding little fun jibes. And I am sorry to say she - IS slightly overweight, so you're not wrong. There are TONS of guys that feel the same way about being attracted to someone who is slim or fit. So, to me it seems like she was insulted and publicly embarrassed and that's why she was so cruel to you. She wanted to get back at you! What she did was calculated gaslighting. And I could see that even though initially you may have done some stuff that was wrong, I could tell, even as a viewer, that as time went on, you really regretted what you did (with what you said to Coleen) at the Malibu pool party, and had developed genuine deep feelings for Zay. I also thought she displayed-if not bipolar-then surely some type of narcissistic, self centered attitude toward you! And the reason Brennan attacked you is because he thinks just because he's okay being with an overweight woman, you should be too. That-to me, is effed up and immature. And don't even get me started on them coming down on you for using the word "insane" at the reunion. I say that word all the time. IT'S A COLLOQUIALIZM for crying out loud. Can people not see that? Anyway I could continue but this is already too long..... Sorry about that, but please- I beg you, as someone who has been around the block several times, don't-I repeat-DON'T let them gaslight you like this. They are all just "Insanely " jealous of you cause you're bold enough to speak your mind (the truth) and you're the best looking of the lot.
