COMING OUT STORY | BEING OUTED 

I confided in my mother about my sexuality. By the morning she outed me to everyone after she said I could trust her. Now she has rewritten history and made herself the victim. Plus after my mom outed me they took me to the cemetery to purchase a gravesite because I was going to die. Then the family called me some homophobic words. To this day she at times says some really hateful things. That's is why I dont associate with my family and moved far away. She does call time to time she wants me to take care of her because she has a illness. Hell no I won't help her out. I've given my family a second chance amd they destroyed that to. She has money and is giving it all to my sister and wrote me out of the will. So let my sister take care of her. I feel nothing for my family. Ive made my own money and I am independent .

Thank you for your story. I am 76 and have been with my husband for 58 years! Never officially came out and fortunately was able to live a happy and normal life. I wish you all the best for your future happiness.

Well done Jacob. It takes guts to come out and you made it look easy. As an out gay senior, I am proud of you. I wish you a lifetime of happiness. 🏳️‍🌈 ♥️

Life is so much better out of the closet. I came out pretty young at 16 and it is the best thing I've ever done for myself! Now I'm in my 30s and wouldn't change a thing. Congrats man!

You're awkwardly cute and cool. I love that. ♡

We haven’t talked in forever, but I remember us being best friends when we were younger. And all I want to say is you’re so strong and I’m so frikken proud of you Jacob. Keep being you❤️ miss you!

I’m so pleased to see such mature, eloquent young gay guys being so beautifully honest. Jacob, you have helped so many come to terms with their own hidden feelings. Thank you

Jacob, thank you for your story. I came out as bi to my parents when I was 31 years old. What I remember is dead silence. Several months later I wanted to talk to my Mother about it and she said that she doesn't want to talk. My close friends are not bothered about my orientation. Most of my colleagues at work knew. Several years later all of them have moved on to other jobs so my present colleagues don't know except for my supervisors. I came out to one of my current colleagues a few weeks ago and to her it was blip on the screen. No big deal. High school was not fun for me. Nobody knew my orientation. I suspect some of my classmates knew. I did not anticipate that my comment would be so lengthy. Thank you Jacob.

Hey Jacob congrats, Bill here, i am 62 now and was married to my x wife for 30 yrs and came out at 50. I too was worried about what ppl thought but nobody really cares now a days. I like who i am and my life. I wish u all the best that life has to offer, you deserve it.

Two things: 1. If you find out someone's gay it is NOT OK to out them. 2. The fact that your friend spent an entire hour in therapy talking about you and not about his relationship is a great indicative of how much he cares about you!

I am gay and proud my family already knew that I was gay. When I told my sister I cried she says that I love you I don't care what you are. I hope that you have a good life you are so sweet to tell everyone about you story ❤️

Listening to your coming out story- when you shared that 22 people texted, you and your dad's friends started talking about you. I started to tear up. It brings me back to overcoming the "shame" I felt and the loneliness I experienced as I navigated my sexuality. I came out when I was 19 years old, and although people could guess that I was gay, I never came out and said it until I was 19. It was a bittersweet experience for me. My mother cried when I came out to her.

I guarantee that in High School you weren’t the only one. Glad you are free from the shackles secrecy and fear place on people like us. Now you can live, love, laugh and be the man you were always meant to be.

My attitude has always been that I don’t need anyone’s acceptance for who I decide to sleep with.I’ve had some members of my family suddenly change negatively towards me and I was like ‘Tough.Deal with it and get on with your own lives.Hate shouldn’t be hobby so get another one’.I’m happy.

When I came out 40 years ago I couldn't even dream that there would be a time where people could come out to the world the way you have. When I see and hear stories like yours it helps me see how much the world has changed since my time of coming out. Have the life that I could only dream about, be happy (your kind of happy, no-one elses) and thanks for making an old queen happy for a moment.

I'm so pleased you've come out. Your realizing that true friends don't care if your gay or not. I'm 62 and came out at 57. I grew up in a different time in rural Kansas. Coming out was the best thing I ever did. Only wish I could of come out at your age.

Everyone at my High School decided for me. They judged me and treated me accordingly. So I never got to become a social animal and hang out with friends because I didn't have any. Nearly 30 years after graduating and I'm still haunted by the experience. I know only to well the mental health aspects you talk about. Be grateful and appreciate that you are braver and stronger than you give yourself credit for.

Keeping the secret sucks the life out of you. Congratulations on being your authentic self.

Most handseome thing I've seen in a while...

Thanks for sharing your story. I'm 58, and I remember just how difficult my own self-realization and coming out was...during a very different time in our world. Hearing you share your story is in itself a gift to others who come after you that "it's ok" and that there is an authentic life ahead. Aloha! Be Safe and Be Well! Alan

I'm out to my mum, little brother, big sister, 2 cousins, my aunt, and a few friends who were all accepting. I was also outed so this video resonated with me. Despite the fact that I am out to the persons who matter to me, and I'm at my most comfortable state in my life, I never stopped watching these videos because I love to hear different coming out stories. Thank you for sharing your story Jacob. You're incredible and I am looking forward to what's to come ❤❤❤

Similar story coming out it’s tougher growing up mixed race Islander & German(White) it’s tough my whole family & few friends disowned me and distanced themselves. I didn’t care much, as longs as I was happy and moved overseas for a better life and it’s been good so far!

Your story brought back my own memories from 30 years ago. Seems like yesterday. Thanks for sharing. Enjoy your youth.

Jacob you are truly a terrific guy and someone your parents should be very proud of.

This video just appeared in my timeline. I'm glad that it did. As an elder gay who has been out for over 23 years, I am so happy that you are happy. We all come to that place in our own time, but when we get there, it is truly amazing. Keep shining your light and blazing a trail for those that will follow you!

Anyone who doesn’t like you for you, is not the right person for you anyway. BOOM💥

sounds like you have the greatest best friend...the kind of guy that was so impacted by you coming out to him that he needed to process it for an hour but then (I'm guessing) still loved and cared for you afterwards

My mother found out before I was ready to tell her and when she confronted me with it I remember feeling terrified. Things got really ugly between us for a while but in hind sight it was the best thing to happen to me because I no longer had to carry the weight of my secret and I felt free. Even though she was angry. Even though she kicked me out of the house. Even though our relationship was strained, I felt so free and happy that none of that mattered. So happy you’re in a healthy place in life. Thanks for sharing your story. :)

Good for you. It sucks that so many people live their lives trying to please others. Or trying to hide who they really are just to cater to people's judgment. I wish you lots of happiness and love in your life 😄🌈

It’s gonna be fine buddy. You’ll be fine. God bless.

Never heard of this kid in my life but omg that video was so sweet and he's adorable.

Today I've learned that being unpopular in high school has its advantages! No one gives a shit about my sexuality 🤣

I was outed to my entire family by a football player (who I thought was a friend) who was upset because I did not want to “make out” with him (at the time I was dating his friend) This was my freshman year in HS back in 1999. It was my first betrayal experience .. it was heartbreaking.

I remember you from my Ohall experience and you were always such a nice guy! I am so happy you can live happier and in your truth :)

It doesn't get more real and honest than this guy! I hope the happiest life for you!

I'm so happy for you. I came out of the closet to my parents a month ago. Every time I think about it gives me a form of peace that I hadn't felt in 13 years.

From one Western grad to another, thank you for sharing this. It is a tough realization, no matter what. All the best. x

Hey Jacob! I love how you were able to be so insightful and sensitive in telling your story. You listened to your inner feelings and saved yourself a lifetime of self-loathing and depression. Be thankful you live at this point in history; the future is on your side ... and vice-versa.

Im really happy for you.... total side note but you’re really cute 😅🤣❤️

9:51 I completely get this. I've barely come out personally to most of the people in my school but bc i find the actual process of coming out to be very anxiety inducing and awkward. So after a few weeks of being out to my closest friends I told some of them that I trusted them to make a good judgement on who they thought would take my sexuality well and tell them. When I did this I said that it was ok for the people my friends told that they could also tell other people. I like this because it made it so that my coming out would spread relatively slowly in the beginning and then when I was a lot more comfortable and supported that I could let it go a lot more quickly and out of my control. Now i'm pretty sure all of my school year knows, but have know idea how many do or who they are. Because of this assumption that everyone knows i'm a lot more confident than I was. :)

I feel like I am one of the only people here who does not actually know you. I found this video by googling "coming out" videos on youtube. I'm bisexual but definitely lean more to girls. I have a pretty conservative family but I'm trying to find courage in others, like you. I'm glad you were able to rise up out of being outed, someone in my past tried to out me (actually multiple times) but it's still with me. Wish you well my friend 🤟

It's entertaining to hear positive coming out stories. It's also really important to hear them. Best to you Jacob.

One thing I've learned in life is that when you are young, mostly during your high school and college years, you want to be liked and you worry about what people think about you. Then when you get to middle age.....your forties and fifties you don't care what they think......When you get to your seventies and eighties you discover they weren't thinking of you at all.

Jacob your story is so inspiring for so many guys including me, I wish I had someone like you when I was questioning my curiosity. You are a handsome dude with a strong personality I am sure you will succeed in anything you put your mind to it since you have passed this biggest hurdle. be happy and have great career dude much ❤️

Jacob, Thanks for sharing your story of coming out. I am so glad for you to have come so far and especially to share with others. Very well said. Thanks again and best wishes going forward.

Good story. And most especially good that you decided to simply live - and not fight living, your truth and to live IN your truth, g. All the best to you! 👍🏾

You be proud of you. You are a gift to the world. Thank you!!!

I went through that period of anger too. Your story with your mom and the way you shared it was so … funny because I can only imagine how you felt in that moment and how relieved you must have been when she texted you the second time. Also, your ability to tell a story was so amazing, that I felt like you were sharing it with me. I hope your life is all it can be! Thanks for posting!

Moms always seem to know, so did mine. Love her. Thanks for sharing your story with us. You teared me up twice, first with the story of you leaving your mom at the station, second the story of your friends supporting you. I‘m happy for you being out now. Take care (especially these times) and have fun.

Good for you, Jacob! I hope you have a long, happy, and PROUD life! Congratulations!

Jacob, I hope that you continued to have this bravery and comfort these past three years. Your attitude is/was contagious. Keep being positive and trusting of what you feel and know from within. Best wishes.

Thank you my little Canadian brother. You did a great job on your story and I'm so happy for you. You seem like a wonderful person and you'll make someone a very happy man. You'll be in my prayers.

I’m so proud of you! I’m incredibly sorry your were outed, but I’m happy to see you living your life as your authentic self ♥️

I am happy for you. It is never easy to come out since we have to first come to terms with it ourselves. Keep being you and loving yourself.

I must be at least 15-20 years older than you, and the thing that struck me the most about your story is how it was almost precisely the same for me back in my university days. Some details were different of course, but I remember every single feeling you described like it was yesterday. On the one hand, it's always great to hear someone making this important journey. But on the other hand, it makes me a little sad to think things still haven't changed in all this time. I would've hoped by now people didn't have to go through the same crushing self doubt and fear of losing friends and family just because of who they are. Glad it's worked out well for you, you should be proud of yourself! :)

It's never easy to express for who you really are in this world because people will judge you, but at the end of the day it's you who know who you are. As long as you won't hurt anybody then feel free to be true to yourself and most important thing is ACCEPTANCE. So proud of you Jacob. Raise our flag 🌈 ☺️

I cant tell you on how proud of you on coming out!!! You are young but yet you are on the right path and direction.....I came out when I was 14 and it was tough for me. My parents took me to a shrink because she thought that it just was just a phase.....but it wasn't. She's has been happy for me ever since! Be yourself, be honest to everyone including your family, and first and foremost be HAPPY and PROUD!!! There is a saying that goes......I dont care what you look on the outside, it is what is on the inside that counts. I AM proud of you on coming out and I salute you :)

So proud of you! ❤️ Thanks for sharing your story.

I watch Canadian “ coming out” videos just to hear them say “ out”. Lol

good for you, glad that you were able to reach a point of acceptance of yourself. now you get to take the time learning heartache and crushes and so on that your straight buds have had since HS. don't sweat it, enjoy it! life is a nice ride, learning and exploring!

You appeared in my recommended feed. I said to myself let me watch. Dang! That was a story. Out of something bad something good came from it too. You have courage. You have strength. I still do not like how you outed, but I am glad you are out and living your best life. You stay happy and healthy. I will subscribe.

Your an amazing young man Jacob & I wish you the very best life has to offer you!😄

Super handsome. Love this story. Stay strong friend. Sending all the Positivity and love your way!

Thank you for your message for those who haven't come out yet. I'm happy for you.

Thanks for sharing your life’s journey so far! Hope all the best for you and encouraging you to share what you want here. Lots of love 💕

I'm so fucking proud of you Dude! I've been out fo 2 years this month now. My best friend becomes more closer to me when I told him. He understood me. He is straight, has kid and family. He is so fucking supportive. It feels like heaven. I don't have any gay freinds. And my coming was the best gift I've ever given to myself. But listen, no matter what you do, people has always something to say. So just do what you think makes you happy disregarding the approval of others. Just do it for yourself and fuck society! Be stronger and stronger. The world is squeezing us.

So happy for you random stranger who appeared in my recommended! Being out has it's perks, even if you live in a small hick town

Amazing story. So proud of your courage and vulnerability. You’re a smart mature young man. I was exactly like you but ended up getting married and had kids and came out at 40. I don’t have any regrets because of my three amazing kids but no debate. Being out and authentic is the only Way to go. Congrats!

So amazing Jacob, thank you for sharing this, Love you xox

Proud of you! Take what’s rightfully yours. Your life, love and identity. I‘m one of those „typical“ mummies who knows her children better than they know themselves... just like i knew my son was gay wayyyy earlier then he outed himself to me. That was at the age of 18... now he‘s 27... i‘m proud of him like i‘m proud of all you guys living and loving your life because you only have this one life and because nobody should ever be afraid or ashamed of loving the person you want to love, no matter what! Make your life extraordinary, Jacob! I‘ll be cheering for ya... Greetings from Germany 🍀

Thank you for sharing your story. The world opens up when you are true to who you are.

Thanks for telling your story; and also for developing an early understanding of it’s not just about sex; claiming your authenticity is not an easy journey; take your own pace. Glad you’re finding being out positive. Hope you have a wonderful life.

Very engaging story, well related - thanks for posting. I found tears in my eyes at one point!

I can't even imagine how overwhelming that could be you really are strong

Own your peace brother! Thank you for sharing. My mother passed when I was sixteen and I came out a year later. Not sure I could have come out to her, a super religious woman. However, she was the one human in my life to teach me to be true to myself. Thank you for sharing your story. Be strong!

Great video. Coming out is different for everyone, but we are all liberated when we do it. My coming out was no surprise to my Mom either .... they do always know somehow! Be happy and live life to its fullest.

I was the same way man, great story. It really hit home. 👌🏼

it took some time for me to come out. I came out when I was 26 only because my family thought my little brother was gay and I heard my mom say if one of my kids is gay I will kill myself. I know what it is like to be outed out by people who actually think they are important part of your life. They ruined that moment for me and that was suppose to my courage to come out to people that I loved but it wasn't, I will never get it back. I just defended my sexuality after that and moved to the city where people were accepting. didn't come back to my home town until 10 years time and came back stronger and didn't have to hide who I was and two of my nephews came out because they saw that I came out to my family. I look forward to seeing more posts. good job

Love this video and how you have shared your coming out. It’s so beautiful! Thank you for sharing !!! Loads of love from two fellow RU-vidrs from London

i watched your coming out a couple times already and feel refreshed again about it. thanks for being so inspirational to me. it's securing to see that other folks found the strength to live fully like you did. i'm heading that way but i know large steps would have to be taken in the near future. cheers my friend. 🎖☀

The hardest time we have in our life can become our biggest strength

Thank you for sharing your story, it was touching. I'm excited that you now get to write a new life journey that you want. Best Wishes.

Hi Jacob, definitely tough to be outed, can't get over how fast it traveled. Glad you were able to believe in yourself, and sounds like you are feeling better from what you described at the beginning.

Thanks for sharing, dude. I'm sure you are helping a lot of people struggling with this issue. You are very articulate, handsome, and sincere. You deserve your happiness and I am happy for you. Stay strong, be you (as you say), remain kind, understanding, and loving!

Your Canadian accent is thick. I love it and I love your content bro. Keep them coming man and you're cute

I'm a straight female but I'm watching coming out videos lol instead of studying. Good for you for coming out and being your true self. Hi from Ontario and damn, your Alberta accent is strong.

You are an absolute legend and thank you for inspiring others to share their stories on the basis of your courage.

So many parts of your story resonated with me. I too had a hard time accepting myself at first and tried to bury and tried to go as bi, but after a while, I couldn't ignore the fact that I'm a lesbian. I have been coming out to friends for almost 2 years now, but I didn't want to tell my family. But, like your mom, my mom knew and told my dad to get ready for it. She confronted me, and while the situation has been rocky for a while, they are finally starting to be more accepting. You are so brave for sharing your story online, thank you! ❤️

There is a universal saying; "Your Mother is the first to know, last to find out"!

Jacob, this is such a great video. "You do YOU!" is the most important message that anyone can hear. Just found you and will sub........thanks, bro...........Ray

Great story Jacob, thanks for sharing it! Glad it is all working out.

Jacob, thanks for your story. It is true, if we can't live as we are, or tell the people who love us who we are, it can easily cause pressure and disappointed that would eventually eat us away. I can feel that, sometimes I become very easily to get angry and really unhappy.

Good for you Jake for staying true to yourself & living in your own truth 👌. It doesn't hurt that you're easy on the eyes xD ;)!!!! Look forward to seeing more content on your channel hearing about your adventure in life 😎.

Congratulations Jacob. I’m glad you can finally be your authentic self! 🤗

Jacob I went to a very small high school years back. Did the same thing when I went to UBC. Don't be surprised when you go to a school reunion to find out you were not the only one. What brings a smile to my face is the girls that told me they liked dating me as I was different than the rest of the guys as I was not always trying cop a feel.

I am super proud of you😍😍😍😍 I've been in that situation and I feel you. It feels great to be free out of tha closet and be yourself. Lot's of love

Be brave & be strong, but above all, be who you believe you are. Each one has his/her Life Journey with its own battles & obstacles. If we cannot help each other out, we should respect each other & keep quiet. I wish you all the best. Remain Blessed!

Good for you! I wish you every happiness.

Just be you Jacob ❤️ you seem like a lovely man. Life is way too short for being unhappy 🙁 and afraid of what others think of you. I know this from harsh reality. Shine and be you. Thank you for sharing ❤❤❤

I always said "I have to live my normal, not everyone else's". Thanks for the story.