Comparing Memories with Aphantasia (blind mind's eye) 

You and your husband are so cute! Yes, this was very interesting to hear the two of you discuss your different experiences. Also, yes I totally pictured a guy as your husband before this when you would talk about him, but I didn't have a very clear image of him. Now that I've seen him, his actual image would replace that made up one in my mind.

When I "picture" someone I've never seen I just have to work with facts: skin tone, eye color, hair color, facial hair, etc. It's a strange feeling having someone not look like what you weren't imagining and still being surprised that you were wrong lmao

You can clearly see in his face with his eye movements and looking up and sideways, he’s using his imagination and recalling things images lol or trying to using images

I always thought my "lock and key" didn't work on my brain, retrieving faces to names. I was so frustrated. But eventually just accepted it. So relieved I have an idea why it didn't work. When I discovered I have aphantasia, so many emotions good and bad. Like it's so unfair etc etc. But I had an epifany, when I go to sleep, I rest in my "black", I look into it and find peace. I never ever thought to do that. I feel better about it now, been two weeks since I found out. Crazy right.

So I have just realized about 4 hours ago that Aphantasia is a thing and I have been fervently researching it ever since. I think I have some different coping mechanisms than you do, but I identify with so much of what you have been talking about in your videos. I just wanted to say that I really appreciate your talks. you are giving me a lot of things to thing about in both the similarities and the contrasts. I'm sure I will have questions in the future but for now I'm still just processing this discovery. keep making videos, it seems that others appreciate them as much as I do.

Your husband looks so freaked out by the camera bless him 😂📸

I'm loving this channel. I think the MSDos analogy was really good for me to visualise (ha) what your memories are like. And I think there's a clear advantage to that, when you say that you can clearly recall any memory information you want, since it's all data. With me, it's definitely not like that. Absolutely all my memories are in the form of moving images and sounds, and once they fade away, it's really hard to recover them consciously. I have a handful of very vivid old memories, but most things just end up fading away, unless someone else talks about them to me, and sometimes not even then. Also about imagining things while someone else is talking, oh my god, how I wish I could turn that off. It's impossible, and sometimes I have to make such an effort to concentrate on what the person is saying, otherwise I just get lost in the movie being created in my mind.

What a lovely couple with great communication!

Apart from his Aussie accent, as soon as he said "so I don't look like a Muppet" it confirmed to me where he was from 🤣

On a bit of a binge, and so it's nice to see you able to laugh and have fun with your differences after seeing your distress in the first video. I know this was over a year ago, but I'm intrigued by your questions. Unless someone has been described, I usually form a kind of amorphous image of a person, but for some reason I am much more specific about places. For instance, if I'm going to a new city or other destination, as I do my travel research, I form a very specific image of what I think it is like. Then after I've been there, I have to almost consciously replace the made-up image with reality. It's kind of weird and not altogether pleasant to be completely off sometimes ❤️.

I could listen to you guys discuss your experiences and thoughts related to this endlessly. Seriously, you guys could do a podcast. Just turn the camera or mic on and talk about the smallest things. It is fascinating!

I am pretty much the same, I see absolutely nothing in my minds eye, I always thought people just used the words "visualise" or "Imagine" as synonyms for think about hahaha. But I do have a really good memory and it sounds similar to yours. The way I explain it to my friends is like a filing cabinet. If you ask for a memory I just go to that part of the cabinet and retrieve the information, and yeah my memories from primary school, high school are just as strong as what I did yesterday.

Oh and people have always told me I’m such a good listener. My mind, in the past, has wandered off and there was a constant chatter in my head but with diet change and supplements, the chatter has stopped and my mind is 100% quiet. I can often hear the blood flowing in my head it’s so quiet.

When you mentioned that one of you have aphantasia and another has bad memory I was just thinking about how... I have both, so trying to remember when and what happened is just impossible sometimes. And also what your husband said about literally telling himself in his head to "pay attention" is way too relatable, my inner monologue kind of just never stops so it keeps on going even when I'm listening to someone and I have to really work hard sometimes on.. turning down the volume I guess to really focus on what the other person is saying. But I've been called a good listener in the past and people do often come to me with their problems so I guess I'm doing a good job of not making people feel ignored :D Also! When you talked about how weird it was to read that someone was imagining how your husband looked before they saw him, that reminded me of how when I started asking people about their visual imagination I found out when I used to write fiction more often people who read my writing had actual images in their heads. And it kind of blew my mind, because I just never even thought about how the characters really look, I may have thrown in some short comment about it here and there, but to me when I read it's more like... just additional information to make the world seem more realistic I guess, it never crossed my mind before that people actually picture it when reading

Really enjoyed this conversation would love to see more, you two are a very cute couple. Yes the picture of your husband I created would automatically be replaced with the real person. I find this subject fascinating, I'm glad you started this channel. 😊

Interesting thing is that those of us with normal mind's eyes will have memories in the third person. I have several memories, usually stressful or painful ones, where for whatever reason I remember it from another perspective. Sometimes top down, sometimes from a random outside observer. Never occurred to me until now how much processing my brain is doing to achieve that and how strange that must seem to someone without it.

I recently discovered that I have aphantasia and now everything makes sense. For example when going into a forest or just traveling I can't remember how the places look like but they have a sense of familiarity that's why I know I've been there or that was the path we took.

Question: How would you rate your emotions on your memories of the past

You're good on camera. That's the musician in you!

What’s interesting to me is how much you speak with your hands and physically act out narratives and images and how it differs from your husband. Do you have kinestheic memory? Can you easily remember dance routines? I’ve done some acting and singing and I have a strong bias to audio information. But since I have aphantasia and am clumsy, I’m hopeless with dancing and I can’t remember blocking movements. I have to draw pictures of where I have to move on stage. I’m even worse learning dance routines and it’s a huge problem for me at auditions for musicals, because they have you learn and walk through routines.

This relationship you have with your mind and memories reminds me of how i experienced my mind on the psychedelic iboga. There was this black cloudy space that my mind existed and it could access my memories and thoughts like they were 'indexed'.....but then occasionally an 'image' would arise from the smoke, perhaps with iboga you would see your mind's eye

I went on vacation at the in-laws, 18 years ago. I went into their yard at night, figuring I could remember where everything was. Oh! What a surprise! Stairs leading down to the root cellar! Ow.

Very interesting. Thanks!

Yep. Oh my god. Same same same. My techniques for remember are the same.thisbis hilarious. Good work 😀

Is having problems with names part of aphantasia? I've had problems with names for my entire life. I guess it makes sense since we can picture a face to go with name.

I found your videos great. Im also mind blind and listening you your experience helps me compare it to mine

Does your husband have a South African background? I'm picking up accent details that feel familiar. Although, I'm picking up Aussie as well. 5:25 - Oh, shit! He just said you went for the rugby! BOOM! HAHAHAHA

yeah, for me, if i imagined (which wouldn't be as clear as seeing him, mostly just possible characteristics) what your husband looked like before i saw him, actually seeing him would replace that.

I have a question that came to mind when you said you were unable to dwell on something. Does this mean too that you hever been depressed or rather you cant get depression? Because a lot of that is dwelling on old memories or the things that have happened to us. I feel that you have an advantage in this area. How awesome! That is if its the case?

I have Hyperphantasia, but I’m terrible at names and recognizing people because I don’t concern myself with others nearly as much as the average person. I’ll meet someone, and I’m like: “I literally do not have even a morsel of concern for whether or not I’ll ever see you again, so I’m discarding your name and face to make room for things I actually care about.” I can remember intricate details about the ideas discussed and the interior design at a restaurant, but not even remember the name of the place. I was watching a murder documentary, and the culprit was considered to be “playing games with the investigators” because he could give the colour and shape of individual parts of the grass and a metal thing (?) at the spot where he buried the bodies, but he couldn’t remember what state he buried them in. Meanwhile, I found the situation a little extreme but entirely plausible.

I actually didnt imagine what your husband looked like before seeing him. So I guess with some things I dont have to bring up a image. I can choose if I want to put more energy into the thought or not. But this is only when I dont have a image to bring to mind. When I dont know what the image looks like. But if I want to think more about it that is when I would use my imagination. Now that I have seen him if you mention your husband again a picture of him will come up if I want it to or not.

Fellow quiet mind here... Notice how your husband is looking upwards and searching his thoughts while you are talking? He is distracted by the images...whereas you are constantly checking his facial reactions and body language instead of "looking" through your memories. You are more aware of how he is feeling because you don't have all the distractions going on. Although we are missing out on visuals and sounds we are making up for it on feelings and awareness.

When you remember things that happen in your trip how thise thoughts come.to you. Because seems you remember more that your husband. So you have a picture come to you even with your eyes open? I am confuse.

Interesting that you used the computer DOS analogy as I’d thought exactly that whilst watching one of your previous videos, ie you ‘perceive’ and recall data as DOS whilst the majority of us ‘see’ and ‘hear’ WYSIWYG!

Interesting subject! You really talk and process out stuff. Good thing you don’t have pictures in your brain. It would be too crowded 😀ha ha I’m not criticizing, I’m the same but mine drives my husband crazy. You are interesting and expressive ☀️

Hmm, the husband was sorta looking up when he was trying to remember stuff... As if he's trying to (literally) find the memories with his eyes. I've read that that's pretty common, I wonder if it is less common among people with aphantasia?

The fact that your husband is NOT imagining people behind the camera is 100% perfectly normal. That is a technique taught to people to help them present better over video. IF he was a vlogger and thought about it for a while, he might probably come up with it on his own because to be natural on camera, you don't want to come across like you're talking to yourself. You want to be perceived as if you are talking to your audience. So it comes to people naturally after they see how bad their first attempt came out. But yeah there is no reason for him to instinctively imagine people behind the camera and not doing so does not say anything about him.

Have you and your husband taken the VVIQ test? I scored a 16 ( no imagery) and my wife my wife scored 80 ( hyperphantasia) it is a great insight for both of us.

Yes. That inner dialog is crazy loud sometimes. Lolz

Your husband is very cute

another question. have you never gotten depressed? since you said you can't dwell on anything.

I know we’ve already covered inner-dialogue, mind’s eye, inner taste and smell... But how about ‘feeling’? It seems from this video you don’t feel either. When you asked how he knew some memories were wayyy older than others, that confused me a little. For me it’s mostly because the images are less clear, but I can also FEEL them. I know how different places feel, without images. You said all memories feel the same... I don’t understand. How about the birth of your kids? Your wedding? Do you also not feel any pull towards those?

I have SDAM as well. My memories are in third person and are few and far between.

Listening to this, a thought came to mind: sexual fantasy must be completely different between neurotypicals and aphantasiacs. Not to be too graphic, but for a NT, during, let's call it "onanism", the entire process is envisioning something that may or may not have ever happened. It is creating a movie, with audio and video, in your head. I can't imagine the experience is similar for aphantasiacs. I have no idea how it would work.

data and meta data

Hello Courtney! You speak incredibly much with your hands. Almost continually. What happens to your speech if you leave your hands flat on your lap. Any effect?

So you're not able to ruminate?

Ok... Here's the best question yet. If someone asks you to draw a picture of a cat, how can you do it if you don't mentally visualize a cat? I'm going down this rabbit hole lol 😃

Please sit in a room where you can’t see the kitchen. Ok have paper and pen. Please no talking. Separate answers. Ok, where in the refrigerator is the ketchup? Does the paper towels drape over the top to you, or over the top toward the wall. How about the toilet paper. Last time you accidentally hurt yourself, burn,cut,pinch walked into something. Was it because of not thinking ahead. Like helping a building project and someone is moving a plank, your watching but don’t picture ahead that you need to move or get whacked. When you call on the phone to your spouse . I don’t picture my wife. If I choose to my brain will show me her looks, that is separate choice. If she now says she is walking from a room to another... say to check if there is an item needed while I’m on errands, then I can,or choose to put the image as walking in my minds eye. When you guys are comparing in the video perhaps husbands or your spouse is discerning the choice of the visual and or the progression of the visual. I love your channel. Also a great puzzle to test the mind for how it is available. I had no idea that this condition existed till I saw your first video. To meditate I used to think about thinking about nothing. Now I have a non sensical taught that doesn’t evoke any thoughts. After your first video I’ve been using it 24/7. I was jealous that you had this gift already, it is stuff choice to control how busy we want our mind. It looks like you guys are full of bliss,joy,and love. Glad you are curious!

wait so...if your memories don't degrade through less use of them, that means you never forget. so, when you were having breakfast 20 years ago, 10 minutes after you ate that breakfast, i bet you remembered it. but you don't remember what was eaten now, do you?

Dude your married to an NPC Y our soul is actual hers is fabricated " SORRY '

this isn't a real thing. you're just seeking attention. if you have eyes, you have a minds eye.

i just wanna say youre so vibrant and lovely i hope youll make other types of youtube videos after this topic. not that ill ever be tired of this topic,its amazing to me...😁 your husband is also lovely ,you suit and compliment eachother:)

My husband hates when I ask him questions about his visualization skills lol When I was asking him what he sees when he closes his eyes, he said static like tv static … so in the process of discovering my rare brain disorder, I discovered his even rarer brain disorder called visual snow syndrome. 👀 😂 we are all so unique.

Nice to see you both :)! I would like to tell you how I imagined him before - but I can't :D Once, I've seen someone I can't tell what I imagined before. The brain is so strange. I have a question: When you sing along to a song you like, do you just know the text? Or is it possible for you to fullfill the sentence of a catchy rhyme?

Do you ever experience deja vu?

This sounds so alien, I am sorry to say this but I remember things by emotional connection. This is what makes me remember things from a kid to now like they just happened, don't ask me what meals I had in last 3 days cos I could not tell you. Must be strange to remember every moment as the same "just data". Hope that's a wrong notion only cos as I stated before: Alien to me. Loving this subject and how fascinating people like you are though. By the way I can't remember peoples names at all.

Can you spell and do math in your head. I can’t 😞

It never occurred to me that people would have trouble differentiating similar memories. I just automatically know which memory is which. Probably because I see everything playing out in my mind. And yes, when you talked about your husband I did picture someone, but I had no specific details, although I was very aware that he doesn’t look the way I imagined. Yet another great video!!

You then dont control your selfe .. you have memory but when somone points someting to you ..so you can go to France go back And have no memory in 1 months odd i can see smel even see me picking rock And how it felt ..I can even add someting from last trip to second if i wanna And conecct them in one ..hmm this is facinating

Thank you both! Such a cute couple. ❤️ My older memories definitely degrade over time; takes longer to fall apart if it's one I pull up often. I did imagine your husband, but now that I see him, I can't remember how I had thought he looked. His reality replaced my assumptions. Fun thing I can do: I can tell you exactly where stuff is. My kid can't find the ketchup in the fridge. I can tell him from the living room, "It's in the fridge, in the door, to the left of the Mayo on the second shelf, near the middle." Unless my husband has been in there moving stuff around, I'll be spot on.

I love your videos and your voice. Love watching you! Your husband is a hunk! I found your channel a couple of weeks after you posted your first video. Right after I had first learned about aphantasia. I really enjoy your explanations. Like others, I really enjoy this topic. It's so interesting. But I would welcome videos on other things from you as well. You are so real and I love how your content seems very unrehearsed yet you speak so well off the cuff. I feel like I have used the word love way too many times in this comment. Ha! Thank you for sharing!

I have aphantasia. I do have an inner voice though which can be very overactive but I think I'd drive myself mad if I didn't have that

11:05 all data, yes, I would agree with that. There's no image, it's just abstract information. Like for example if I think of KITT from Knight Rider, I know it was run by Strong AI program, it was indestructible, it was long and black, it was a 1982 Pontiac Trans Am. But these are just abstract points of information. I don't see images of the car in my head. I just know things about it. If that makes sense to anyone. :)

I think my manager has Aphantasia, and also OCPD and narcissism. I might have Hyperphantasia and ADHD. I get into flow states where I can plan entirely inside my head and solve problems before they happen, and he seems to only be able to start working in order to find out what the obstacles are. He thinks my problem solving ability is "luck", and my planning is lazy, and I feel like he is chaotic and an energy vampire. It wouldn't be a big deal if there was some autonomy to do my job the way I used to before he became manager, but he INSISTS on dragging us into his mental state of constantly redoing thing until he or our clients give up on trying to get it right. He seems like he can't relate to others other than superficially. He can repeat words back to people as if he understands, but ultimately it is clear that he doesn't really know what anyone is actually meaning with their words. He can't go any deeper than the words he is repeating, there is no insight into anything, and asking him simple questions makes him very upset.

I kind of envy you guys living so much in the present, I'm struggling with mental disorders, neurological ADHD and such 😖

Husband, are you seeing images of these houses in your mind's eye? Do your eyes have to be closed to do it? Like I said, I am like Quiet Mind, literally if my eyes are open I literally see just what I'm looking at, and if they are closed I see darkness. That's crazy if you actually see images of the house. Is it a vivid image, like high resolution?

Cor, your husbands bloody lovely looking, is he South African? You are very beautiful so I can see how you bagged him 😂

I think this video was more helpful than any I've seen until now, where they just plan the whole video and speak generally about aphantasia, for example, at 15:42 the fact that you don't get memories when seeing places/things in my opinion is probably related to the fact that people with aphantasia tend to get over things more easily (which is what they said in another video). Also, I can only process one thing at a time too, so I can't listen to someone while doing something unrelated, or stuff like that.

The guy suffers from vagueness. He doesn't seem to understand any question which is asked. People who don't understand things never say that they don't understand because they don't know what understanding is.

You personal memories seem to be similar to recollection of data and facts gleaned from studying historical events which also have no personal images associated with them. I am terrible at recalling such things; maybe if I made an effort to find images to associate with historical data I would have done better on history tests.

When I read a book which says, just imagine of you won a oscar and how do you feel.... My answer blank

Oh so do you feel as if there is no time between events? I noticed when I catch up with someone after a year or more has passed, it's like no time has passed and I just continue as if I had been talking to them the day before. Which also means I don't miss people when they are away.

When you go to a place you’ve been before, but maybe only once or twice.. do you remember that place? Like I’m wondering.. when you remember the house you went on vacation to.. do you remember the color of the house?

If you can't see your memories they just disappear? Always living in the moment? Can you draw things you've seen before? Like look at something, analyze it closely, and then put it aside and try to draw it on paper from memory. Would be a great video. What does you mind retain. You and your husband could both try and see the differences

Someone I know has the same ‘random access’ to conversations, rather than actions.

What about like the day he met you or your kids births does he remeber those clear?

It’s really difficult for me to remember names.

For me, if someone said a name of a person I had not seen before, my brain creates a picture of what they might look like based on the limited information given. For example, when you spoke about your husband in your videos I had a picture of what he may look like. Of course he doesn't look like how I had pictured, how can he as you did not give any descriptive features but I think its something the brain does to build some kind of connection to the person being spoken about. I suppose you don't ever picture what a person you have not seen before may look like. If you are speaking to someone on the phone e.g an operater, do you ever get a picture of what they look like based on their voice

Any1 else thinks he looks like michael scofield?

"Our son wasn't alive yet" lol

You guys are so cute! I hope you do more videos discussing with your husband, it’s super interesting hearing how you compare memories. I have so many questions!!

I'm glad you keep making these videos! Just recommending you some things to have more views in your videos! Maybe read a little bit about RU-vid SEO? But you're super nice and your husband too.

I can relate to your husband 😂. I often hear something that a person says and my mind will go off on a whole tangent, and then I'll realize that I have been ignoring the person I'm listening to and didn't hear the last few things that they said.

Teach us how to not dwell 😭

Thank you for all these videos! On the first video of yours that I saw, you were sad that you don't have the "normal" experience but I'm not sure you're worse off. For all I can tell your existence is at a higher level, where we're down in the gears of the machine manipulating it. You on the other hand seem that you don't have to worry about that. Also you asked what the point of word problems were with math. They are to get students to identify the relationships and order of operations, so that they can apply math in situations outside of a textbook. I wanted to ask about how you tell lie. I know you've said you can, but how do you decide to lie? Do you observe yourself lying and figure out that you are lying because of the words coming out aren't true, or do you commit to the lie before the thought words come out? I always have to choose the words most likely to create my desired outcome. I think the bigger thing I'm touching on is planning. How do you plan without an inner monologue?

Does it help if you work on it with memory tricks. It's interesting to see your husband looking up into his mind's eye to remember. Are you aware of the Mandela Effect? And have you ever seen the movie 'Rashomon'? There was an episode of The Simpsons where Marge says to Homer, "You liked the movie 'Rashomon'." to which Homer replies, "That's not how I remember it." en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rashomon_effect

How do your children remember/think? Did it get passed down to them?

Are you able to do voice interpretations?

Hi, Randy again, I'm kind of going backwards on your videos, so forgive the question about visualizing yourself, husband, kids, cause you answered it in the next video I watched. Sorry. For me, my mind deals more with concepts instead of visuals. Here's a situation from 30 years ago that I COULD DO THEN, but very hard or impossible now. It goes, I did a memory speech where I had 10 positions visualized while walking into my college dorm - (outside next to the door, in the middle of the hallway, in front of my room door, in the middle of the room, on my bed, under my bed, on the desk, like that. Each position had a number from 1 to 10. I asked somebody to make a list from 1 to 10 on paper and asked random people to pick an unused number and an animal or easily recognizable object (say, number 6, lion - number 3-bear, number 9-a stuffed giraffe, and so on until I had all 10 numbers with objects or animals assigned to them. After each person said a number, I would say, 'wait' until I brought that number position in my head(under the bed) then I asked them to name an object or an animal (a stuffed giraffe) then I would close my eyes and visualize or 'put' a giraffe under my bed. So every number was random, but I put each item into its place, and when they were all done, I took a second and recited 'there is a bear outside the dorm by the door, and there is a lion in the hallway, and a triangle by the door, a fan in the middle of the room, a hippo on my bed, and a clown is looking at me through the window. Now, mind you, all of these are merely examples of what I did(not my actual memories of the animals or positions,that was 30 years ago) but I CORRECTLY NAMED EVERY NUMBER WITH EVERY OBJECT/ANIMAL THAT THE CLASS CHOSE. If you want a fun game with your husband or kids to play, try the memory position/object game with them and see how you and all of them do. This technique can be used to remember like shopping lists too(milk on your doorstep, eggs on your bed, pancakes on your couch, peanut butter in your tub, try it, I think it will really help and if not right away, then maybe over time. I'm so glad you have opened my eyes to what I can and cannot do(or could do), and best of all I hope you and your family can make use of this memory technique that I learned in college. Bye, for now.

I don't know about other people, but any time I bring up a memory, there isn't a 'movie' that starts playing. I think that there are more similarities to how you and other people think/remember things, than you realize. There are times when there might be a sequence but it usually is more fragmented. Someone could mention 'Paris' and I might have a few flashes of memories from there. I went there is 1972 when I was 13. I can't remember all of the places I saw or all the people I met. It's a little like taking a book and instead of reading every word, you read a couple of words on each page. You can get to the end and have an idea of what the book was about. To me, that's more of how memories are. Little snippets of things. Not a whole movie with a beginning, a middle and an end.

Hee! A question, how do you remember these facts? I struggle when I'm talking to friends of family about holidays or other things that happened. I feel I can't always talk with them because I can't image things in the past like other people do.

I have sdam and aphantasia but I have an internal monolog in always talking to myself and trying to figure it out in my head. Having sdam bothers me the most not really remembering my kids births and stuff. My husband remembers past life like a timeline too and I remeber it like a bunch of random files that got dropped and I'm trying to put them back in order. It's kinda like GPS directions, my husband can get there by looking at the list from a to z and following it, I get there by landmarks and distinguished things like the pink house on the corner the mcdonalds with the playplace the splash park, the big horse statue.. I think that's a good way to describe the difference also. I think its why I have always been obsessed with photos and video but especially am now I have 5 kids and atleat 500k photos on diff hard drives. Just on my 1 yr old phone I have 55k photos

I discovered I have aphantasia about 2 years ago. I'm just now discovering your channel and am sad to see that you only did a handful of videos. Thanks for those...much appreciated.

Heh, pretty cool you started off talking about a comment I left. But you misunderstood. When I stream, I do not imagine the audience behind the camera. Instead, I imagine what the audience sees. So, it's more like I'm watching myself while I stream. I see my facial expressions, and all that, while also watching the game/chat.

You say memories feel the same strength because it is all just data to you. I am wondering if, like, you could remember the actions you have done in a current day, like what you ate for breakfast, etc, and a LOT of "data", but if you think about a week ago, like oh remember we went to the movies last week. And you could say, yeah I remember the action of us going to the movies. My question would be, do you have as much "data" from that day as you do from today? Like, can you feel how far away some memories are based on how much "data" you have around that action. I guess, how much context of that event you can remember?

No one person can speak for humanity. Doesn't mean you can't speak! In fact, that's why we all should to speak. P.S.: I had no picture of your husband, but now I think he looks like some actor I can't remember the name! lol

I struggle to have a timeline too but my memories seem to pop out of a black hole! If there's a very specific date I may remember it. I think my computer is broken lol. I also give a 100% to a conversation and now I understand the men in my family a bit more, that maybe they don't have to. I hate "to do" lists as well as I guess I can't think of things I don't know might need doing ... I know I'm a year late but this is so fascinating!

11:41 this happens to me as well, also, does it ever happen to you that when multiple people talk at the same time, or they just talk very fast, you don't remember who said what, like, sometimes you think X said something, when in reality it was someone else who was talking in that moment?

as someone with hyperphantasia, all of my memories are just as vivid. The only way I can distinguish timelines is based on the image of myself within them. So when i look back at memories of when i was 3, they feel just as strong as memories from yesterday, but I understand the context, because I'm looking up at my parents, chairs were like climbing mountains, and numerous other things... but yeah, there's no memory degradation.