They clean together, talking about it like its nothing... This is goals for me. I don't want a man that'll fight me about household duties. Lord hear my prayer lol
The way that I felt this comment on the highest level I absolutely understand what you mean because I have been through this already in my life and it really is frustrating
I was paralyzed in bed last year and I heard Jesus say out loud to me - If you believe in me get up and walk💜🕊💜 I got up and not only walked but went for a walk outside. Praise God!!!!! GOD IS ALWAYS WORKING!!!! ✌💜🕊🙏
Righttt!!!! I was kinda shocked but then I remembered they have 4 children 😂😂😂I love how modest they are with their affection its so cute to me and shows the depths of their love being beyond the flesh 🤍
I just felt sorry for him when she didn't reciprocate the same feelings toward him . When he asked her what was her favorite moment and she said that she couldn't think of anything, she said she didn't have one! He said "You can't find Nothing"? 😔
Wow. Wow, wow, wow. After 10 years of marriage I finally know what my issue is as it relates to conflict. I’m similar to Preston here (wanting to deal with issues immediately/lacking patience) and my Husband is similar to Jackie (shutting down). Both tie into our upbringing. Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom. Listening to this again. Team 60minutes with the Perry’s!! Let’s go!!
The same with me and my husband of 11 years. The communication is there but it’s not good arguing. I shut down and he’s confronting and be strong and wrong.
Yes! Same here. When he said he once thought that desiring to confront things right away was about unity and then recognizing it wasn't....... that hit me. I am pausing at different sections and reflecting because i am very much like Preston and I thought the same thing but I am realising impatience is really at the root.
This conversation encouraged me to sit down and have a conversation with someone who I avoided for two years. Jackie described me like she knew me since childhood. It's hard to look at yourself and admit that you have unpleasant qualities. But it really takes getting out of your comfort zone, out of your pride, and face what God is trying to fix.
To everyone that is involved in worship...musicians, production, camera ops...don't ever think that you are simply doing a job. You are creating an atmosphere for GOD to move...for him to reveal himself in the hearts of those who are truly open and need him the most. GOD is doing the rest...he just wants US to roll out the red carpet for him...to exalt him....to be a conduit for him to work. Great job to all!
"The primary insecurity we have is a lack of intimacy with God" "If I'm secure in the Lord, that frees me to love without fear" Thank you for this, it is such a helpful prayer point!
Heavy on the " I don't want to tolerate the people i love , I want to love them well" 😪 patience is truly a virtue & I'm grateful for the grace , love& patience God has extended to me while working through this .
That intro question...😂 he really had one true thought. And Jackie was so calm in response to the revelation (small smile then "anything else") that THAT Was his happy moment. Lol i love their love
I literally tell everybody i know about Jackie and Preston, as someone who grew up in a legalistic church, fell out of the church and now navigating my way back, y'all have been a great great help. Keep doing the Lord's work! Love from Uganda
By taking my anger to God, He showed me that my communication style, ( disrespectful and or unloving) was something I used to be heard or to protect myself from others. The more I focus on serving my husband as I would serve God the more He could change the way I communicate. I am a mixture of the 2 of you. I start off bold and telling you exactly what the problem is and then I punish with silence. When God showed me myself... I had to ask Him to change me. Now I know that I can express myself and still be submitting. Thank you 2 for all of the "real-life walk" talk.
I’m so Jackie! I grew up in a conflict avoidant family and lacked the know-how to even communicate. Here I am 30yrs old still learning to become more vocal and assertive 😅 GOD is still growing me in this area 🙏🏽
Food for thought😩🙏🏾 pray for me pls.. I am that woman who has a SHARP tongue… more so from learnt behaviour… I grew up around predominantly single, independent, outspoken women, the first out of my parents, uncles, aunts, siblings and cousins to get married. I now have x3 girls and struggle to tame my tongue & KNOW the cycle needs to be broken. My husband has so many overt strongholds although he has come to Christ & I have so much pride to humble myself and be that submissive wife that brings him closer to Christ through my conduct. You guys are definitely one of God’s blessing in my life❤️💯keep doing what you do.
In almost every relationship I know there is one individual who pursues conflict and another who avoids it. And you know what? The balance is healthy and beautiful ❤
1:30 I was watching the basketball game and Autumn came to me, "I love you daddy".. subtext, Autumn is alone and wants to interact with a daddy who is hyper focused on a televised or recorded game. She's a smart baby so she gets his attention by getting up into his lap and starting the interaction with " I love you, daddy". Smart child and a loving family environment is behind that daughter father interaction. ❤
“Be quiet please” ahaha😂 I love this conversation, you two are a blessing. My mother also shuts down in the midst of conflict, avoids it fully. It’s very hard to have patience with her but I pray The Holy Spirit will urge her to change and grow🙏🏼
Wow this is one of the best marriage conversations I've heard in a long time and of late that's the majority of what I've been watching on RU-vid. Pray for my marriage to be reconciled from divorce.
Love that story Preston shared in the beginning of Autumn being super sweet and loving but not as expressive emotionally and him carving out space to sit with her. I was the same way when I was little so I can relate !! 😭 When you are a deeeeep feeler sometimes it’s more vulnerable to share how you feel. So even displaying glimpses into the depth of emotion you feel toward those you love is a vulnerable feeling. As one of 4 girls I can attest to not wanting to compete for attention with my other siblings who are more quick witted I would say. Even though I was more slow placed it’s because I was taking everything in so deeply and richly. Having those big emotions in a little body is quite an experience but knowing your being held creates the space for you to start expressing it ❤️
Whew... this is my daughter, but I didn't see it 😢 I am very emotionally expressive and have raised all of them to share their thoughts and feelings, but I'm rather demanding about it. I don't like conflict, but I don't feel comfortable sitting on and through bad feelings; I HAVE TO confront it. I'm like Preston in this, for sure. But I don't have the patience for my daughter whose face is set like stone and sooo slow to express emotion. Thank you for sharing your perspective. This has changed my outlook and shown me myself. I've got a lot of work to do. Do a work in my heart, Jesus, and create in me a clean heart, indeed. For the sake of those I love, let me show love in dying to self every day, amen.
@@Kimbrasa Ahhh wow thank you for sharing this. I love conversations like this where we get to see how we all process emotions differently and can grow to see and love each other even better. What a blessing 🙌🏾❤
Wow wow wow I’m only 15 minutes in, and I am resonating heavily with Preston. I’m like Preston and my husband is like Jackie. I’ve been feeling stuck on how to change habits I formed from my childhood. This is giving me hope for how we deal with conflict in my marriage. Ok ima listen to the rest now.
Great epidode. I listened on my walk, and man I felt convicted. I'm more like Preston, and I want to address stuff and move on immediately so I can return to my peaceful place without always considering that my peace doesn't mean my spouse, friend, or family has returned to peace, or is ready to talk about it.
Man this right here!! This right here is good teaching! 🔥 Jackie said “Disrespect is natural, love is supernatural” I snapped my fingers like poetry! 😂🫰🏾 All jokes aside, I love this so much this is my second time watching it. So many nuggets and Godly perspectives on communicating. 🙌🏾💯
Jackie looking good. 4 kids!? Okay girl at pre kid weight? That's a feat. You go girl! Lol. Seriously, I love you guys. Love your ministry. Love your love. God bless you both continually❤
You can always tell when spouses value their friendship just as much as their marriage. This was such an insightful pod!! May God replenish the wisdom yal just dropped!!
OMG.....this has really helped me to realize how much I have kept myself away from my parent......and how much I have been trying to dominate my younger which I should not be doing.....Thank God for your words.....God bless you, your marriage and children in Jesus name. Amen.
Lord I just want to thank you for these two. They are making it okay to have tough conversations. This blessed me from a parent perspective… I have a 15 yr old and I’ve been having an issues with communicating my anger and hurt. Now I know how. Thank you guys!
Thank for sharing that part about not waiting until the anger has dispelled before having difficult conversations. I’ve been learning that having emotions like anger is not a sin but to trust God with my all my emotions. This is so great! Just teaching about healthy conflict for reconciliation!
Quick confession is imperative in marriage, yes! This is sooo good. So true. But like Jackie stated, we learn this by watching women we grow up with or around. And too, and especially, fatherless. Communication, letting one another know how we feel. It’s like when we sin and realize it, go directly to the Father and confess. “I’m sorry, I messed up”. Pride aside and confess. Thank you so much, truth.
Wow…this conversation was so enlightening. You guys have really grown so much. Jackie, I’m a communicator also and I can definitely identify with so much of what you said. Preston your perspective as a man truly blessed me. I thank God for your ministry gifts and your willingness to be transparent and vulnerable with us. May God continue to pour into your family, your marriage and your ministry.
"God's command to love our neighbor better than ourselves applies to our spouse."...our closest neighbor. Appreciate your transparency of your own shortcomings...being real. Gives the rest of us hope for change 😆
“These behaviors are effecting my respect and I want to respect you. I want to value you but that is making it hard for me.” Wish i had this years ago 😅❤
@@shesvirtuous the one that i use with males that matter is, “when you do ____ it makes me feel ____.” But even this takes time because i have to sit and fill in the blanks before i go address it with them lol 😅 they always respond well. it’s just aggravating to stop, sit, and find the accurate fill-ins. Most of the time its a repetitive behavior so i have to dig within as to why it makes me feel a kinda way and also decipher is it a me problem that i can fix or is it something thats really that important that it requires their assistance/change. Like are they being offensive or am i just offended kind of thing…
This was so helpful. Can’t wait to watch again with my husband. Thank you for displaying true and Godly marriage. I love how each of you respect and honor God throughout your marriage.
To keep it 100 videos that y’all do like this has really helped me in the process of engagement to marriage. Videos like these definitely makes it easy to see my own issues in my engagement in a very convicting but loving way but what’s different about this content is that you both are giving practical answers and advice to help change the problems in both parties.. I thank God that the Holy Spirit is moving through you both. Much love Perry’s
WoW!! This was truly beneficial to life married, engaged, or single,. How forthright and to the point. This made me realize my mistakes in relationships, and things I put up with in relationships, that should not have been. A lot of who we are as adults is what we been through growing up. That you “Perry’s “ . God bless your marriage continuously.
Dealing with conflict is an area I certainly struggle with and hearing this is super helpful and and very therapeutic. I thank you guys for being super transparent and just leaving out there. Imma watch a few times so to make sure I didn’t miss anything!! Much love and God Bless!!❤❤
So beautiful how Preston shows up supportive and patient in the marriage to model how Christ loves the church. Jackie’s statement about how being secure in the love of God frees a person to fully love their spouse was powerful.
This is soooooooooooooo good! Y’all- this is theee type of conversation we as a nation NEEEED to elevate mentally. Precise and Certain transparency, not surface level conversation. The way they aligned biblical truths with the unspoken truths of our hearts 🤯🔥. This is skillful articulation from artist who have great marital conversation and connection (practiced and learned) as well as meditating on how to express oneself (practiced and learned). Praise God . And these take courage and Intentionality to develop.
Lord....I THANK YOU FOR THIS!!! 💯💯💯 Priceless content for both sides. Thank you Lord!!! Lord help us to acknowledge that which needs to be removed from us and learn how to communicate well so that we can love one another and grow in the right way. (REPLAY!!)
Thank you Jackie for that comment “withholding yourself from somebody you are called to love is some form of punishment and that’s not like Jesus”. I tend to go back into the introvert self when I get hurt and I feel talking at that time will hurt me more cuz I will hurt them if I try to speak. However when I go into my cave I may take long and my fiancé is a wonderful man and he may give me time to process things through and when he does that it would hurt me the most cuz I would now feel like he doesn’t care and he doesn’t want to apologize. So when I listened to you guys and when you made that comment, I stopped the podcast and called him right there and then and we talked things through and I have you to thank cuz I didn’t know how long I was gonna punish him with my silence😂 even though I was missing him. It’s a journey and thank God we have him to help us and people like you too. Amazing talk. God bless you all.
This is good! I definitely can relate to Jackie with my upbringing. Even now at 35 I’m learning how to properly have awkward discussions in a healthy manner.
Oh my goodness, so powerful!!!! I'm a lot like Jackie in not wanting to confront and never realized how it's tied to insecurity and believing that I might be abandoned. That's so on point for me.
I'm not even 8 minutes in and this conversation is blessing my soul. I was actually trying to continue in order binging the previous seasons, however due to the enemy trying to plague my marriage, the Spirit instantly led me to this video. Our foundation within our upbringing can cause so much chaos within our marriages. We definitely have to clear the slate through help from God, therapy, and sitting down with our spouses to define within OUR marriages exactly how we want it to be and what we want our offsprings to see that is within Christ and how He wants us to be within the marriage. MY LORD!!!!🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 OAN: 42:19-42:20: I need that saying on a shirt good sir! Bold Apparel indeed!
This is so good. How we were raised, what we witnessed, has become the norm for most of us. Allowing the Lord to reprogram us in HIS ways is a process but it’s so beautiful and fruitful.
This episode is so personal to me, man. I could totally relate with the "being mean with words" that Preston was talking about. My Ex. and I used to have a lot of issues. I stayed because I deeply loved her and believed it could work. I did. But I experienced the worst form of emotional and verbal abuse ever. I've never been with someone who treated me that way. I didn't feel safe. I didn't even feel like a man around her. Felt so intimidated. I've ended things, but I still feel sad sometimes. I told her "we can have disagreements/issues. That's okay. But how we sort things out is super important." We would have an issue, she'd say some mean things that would stick long after we sorted things."
Thank you so much for this I needed this I have been going to God about this I’ve watched this a few times already and I sent it to my husband. This is going to change my marriage change me.
I love these conversations, for me it’s preparation lowkey… there is a lot to consider with being in a relationship. Definitely can relate to Jackie and 20:00 😮💨 so true
God just used this to bless me and confirm and bring a bit of clarity to the message He was giving me yesterday. Thank you all for continually sharing this with the internet & the world 🙏🏾
