congrats, your body is trending. 

Hellohi

It’s not good for my mental health.

I feel that normalizing this will her a lot of younger people in the process. Physically people will try everything to become like their idols/influencers. Mentally when they can't accomplish this they will break down for the simple reason of chasing a unicorn. Socially they may find themselves unattractive because they don't meet the new social norms leading to less inaction with others. All theory but possible. 😊

Literally, ew

you're getting annoying girl. not the biggest fan of charli but why is she in the thumbnail? was talking about her in your video not enough? and don't you think it's inappropriate to be talking about a literal child about her body? yes she might be 18, yes she can vote, yes she can get arrested BUT THAT'S STILL A KID and she literally just turned legal this year, we getting insecure over a teenager now? really getting weird vibes from you and the way you talk as if you're any better than the people your discussing just because your body isn't profitabble or the the desired one and how your not like other girls because you don't do this and that like most girls.

PREACH holy crap I wasn't ready for this dose of facts

E X A C T L Y ✨

i wanted to like but the like number is so funny but i love this comment

@@grapewallofchina1896 i ruined it

but bodies can influence one's fashion

Um hello? You’re absolutely correct . I’m worried for my daughter honestly

I always feel ugly when I look at those girls online and then I think about how I've never encountered one of those girls irl. I'm still waiting to be blown away by the lack of ribs!

this is what i always try to say to my ten year old cousin! she's been skipping meals just cause she needs to have a flat stomach and a thin body WHEN LITERALLY she's still so young and her body looks GOOD idek what to do. i guess it's because of the "influencers" she's following on tiktok

Your right. Theres one girl who has a perfect body in my eyes and I always used to be jealous. But she has acne and maybe she is jealous of someone else who doesn't has acne🤷‍♀️. I think one has to keep in mind that when you compare urself to someone who has your dreambody(or anything else) that these people might be comparing themselves too. Nobody is perfect and thats ok. We don't need to compare urselves to other people.

Yea. Thats true. Everyone on insta looks like imvu avatars

kind of the same for me! I deleted tiktok straight out of the pandemic, twitter a few months after that. only instagram posed a problem since I use it to talk to my friends on the daily, have my class gc on it, etc. and usually gets "sucked " into it when I only opened the app to check my messages. fortunately, I'm really clumsy so I broke my phone a little before the summer of 2021, so I installed instagram on my computer to be able to talk with my friends. Instagram on computer is sooo much less 'hypnotising" so I almost immediately stopped staying on it. When I got a new phone I didn't install instagram on it and now I'm almost 1 years off of all kinds of social media (youtube being the exception but I only watch educative videos on it so I don't mind it really). never felt better. a lot of my friends ask me how am I so happy and confident compared to all the people my age (it is to that extent!) and I got 3 of them to delete tiktok :)

Relate to this I’ve been off of everything except RU-vid for like a year and a half. It’s sad to see people always complaining about it but they never end up deleting it and just stay in a constant toxic cycle that messes with their mental health

Omg same! With the deleting stuff haha twinnsss

Me too

YESSSS best decision ive ever done!! cutting off social medias (except for pin and yt).Made me a better version of myself i didnt know id ever be.

I used to work for this company. We had another location in another state. We talked to our team in our chat everyday and we were even Facebook friends. The company flew them in for an annual event. I recognized all but one…she looked nothing like her pics…

After highschool people should grow from that phase!💀

Same with my friend. She’s one of the most popular girls in my city, she has thousands and thousands of followers because in her instagram she literally looks like a goddess, but she doesn’t even look like herself anymore. Not her body, not her face, and it’s not even that she doesn’t look like herself it’s that it has gotten so bad she does not even look human in pictures, she looks like a doll. And you know what’s the saddest part? That she is actually really pretty, like really fucking pretty. But when people see her in person and see what she actually looks like they say she’s ugly just because they were expecting and angel from heaven, which makes her edit her pictures more and the vicious circle goes on and on. She started editing her pictures and even at the beginning people could notice but now it has completely gotten out of hand. Tho she is my friend I had to silence her insta bc it gives me mad dysmorphia, a lot of times I catch myself looking at her photos wondering how I can look like that and then it hits me that she doesn’t look like that either.

One of my friends were like this too and still is

@@MG-fb4yj what's her Instagram?

texas weird asf 😭

@@l0v3lyniaa whole usa😭

@@l0v3lyniaa come up with a new catchphrase

Wait what? So what, if I use filters now I’m breaking the law??

yeah that’s some 1984 shit, personal expression should not be regulated by the govt. I am scared and you should be too.

Thank you for your insight, it's interesting to read an insider's take on it.

Thank you for this! People compliment my looks alot but i never appreciate it cause i dont look like those models. It's interesting to hear that from an insider.

Not all choices are good lol

Yeah, my sister work for a while with the misses of my country and all of them were young, slim and attractive girls, but their coaches would treat them horrible and like they were ugly so those girls would get obsessed with their looks They all had pretty faces and bodies but they all would say they need this and that to be pretty enough.

@Can'tthinkofaname but think about why they find it appealing? the male gaze could be used in the media only but i am quite sure that all women have been affected by it and that's why we all have internalised male gazes or male perspectives. as a women myself, i have had a LOT of moments where i found myself unconciously wanting to dress to attract men, instead of dressing for myself or i find myself alone in my pjs thinking if i look good enough to attract a man. it's so normalised for women to be portrayed and sold as commodities for pleasure that it influences real life, i know many women who had the same problem as i did. trust me when i say that i have seen a lot of people especially men caring how a women looks like and it's not just for higher status

@@user-yc8wt5rn6zTHIS! U said that perfectly. And also ppl tend to say the girl has daddy issues, when really it's deeper than that, It's internalized it will be there whether or not she has a good father figure

@Can'tthinkofaname really. women are oversexualized not because of men but because of women. right. thats why harley quinn became less sexualized when a woman directer her movie as opposed to a man

@Can'tthinkofaname I think you must have been upset by my comment by the way you have written yours. People do get influenced by the media. It is the responsibility of the producers to represent women and any other marginalised groups by having accurate and diverse representations. Without objectifying, fetishising or sexualising them. If they do represent abusive relationships they shouldn't gloss over them either, etc. I will give you an example, for COVID19, many news blamed China for the covid outbreak and many racist people went out to their way to do hatecrimes against east asian people and anyone that looked 'chinese'. Another thing, you are wrong about people not taken media seriously. And surprise, they are in that demographic. Beauty standards have been established and reinforced by media basing on the patriarchy, colonist ideals. For the fictional relathionships, I'm going to give you an example: There was an article about the percentage of Korean men being abuse towards women. In Kdramas, they do represent the guys who are abusive and toxic relathionships as these romantic, sweet things which are not. Many girls and adult women see this and think every korean guys is like this because of lack of exposure to real korean guys. You could argue that their audience is young people especially girls so they are easily influenced but trust me there have been women in 20s and more than 20s thinking korean guys are sweet or once they get in a relationship that is like the ones portrayed they think is sweet because thats how it was depicted. Thinking an entire ethnic group is one trait is obviously fetishisation rooted in racism but the problem is that this was because of lack of exposure to real korean guys. If you saw the immense representation done by male producers of objectifying, sexualising and having inaccurate representation of women OVER DECADES and how it has been cultivated in people's minds, you wouldn't be writing your comment in the first place. The whole men are breadwinners, strong, must not cry and women are vulnerable, commodities, caregivers are elements we see in the media today. Heteronomartive relationships, binary genders. People see this and think 'Oh this must be how it is then'. In conclusion, people do get influenced by the media whether it is passively or actively (more than you think). It would be great if what you said is true but the reality is different. I would suggest looking into sources that show representation and their implications on society, and how it overlaps with history of colonisation, the patriarcy, etc.

@Can'tthinkofaname The fact that you don't understand shows to me you missed the point completely and the mention of you as a young girl surprises but also doesn't surprise me either. It surprises me because I thought you would know that we do get affected by the patriarchy (in different ways depending on your race, sexuality, etc) and the male gaze is a result of it. If you *personally* don't know any guys that are like that then great for you, but the reality is different and trust me it has nothing to do with who I hang out with lmao. My friend group is composed of women, non binary people and non-straight men who are comfortable with their masculinity and are educated on social issues (they don't really specify their sexuality but they were comfortable enough with me to tell me they are not straight). I will really really doubt that THEY are the source of anything I said. 😭 I wouldn't be writing my comment if it wasn't because it is true, and not only my friend group but other women I have met in my life, different women who hang out with different people feel the same. This is a majority, not an individual case as you are implying and I have not only seen this in real life but also people who have talked about this in social media/ the internet. Ask yourself this question, why do you think your mom nags you of those sorts of things? If you never had that feeling of not wanting to appeal to guys then good for you once again, but many women feel different and that is what we should be focusing on, on the core problem, rather than making this an individualistic problem.

East Asian idols and anime bishonen bois are arguably more female gaze than the western muscle chad

@@honkhonk6359 So I enjoy looking at ripped guys it means that I have a male gaze? Even Mulan couldn't stop herself, you know

@@Upioornica obv not all women have the exact same tastes but the trend is there yk plus a lot of pretty boys are also ripped

ikr!!! but sadly insta is kinda of becoming a new tiktok

It isn't just about TikTok. I'm indian, I've never touched TikTok even once in my life, and I'm still insecure. Yes, media does affect people alot, but let's not forget that there are things irl that can make people feel insecure too

Same😂

Aw wtff

Blonde? Tall? Sometimes gets her boyfriend in the videos? And she’s always posing and standing in hourglass effect angles? Yep, she shows up everywhere in my feed and I literally don’t watch anything related to that content.

No offense but she can't even put together good outfits.. and this has nothing to do with her body or anything but she pops up on my feed quite often and as someone who's into fashion her style is definately not fashion influencer worthy she literally puts a blazer on top of literally every outfit and calls it a day so the only way she amassed this big of an audience would be coz of the algorithm favouring her body type

@@mariakiwi1428 i get her in my feed too. British accent right?

Is it Maddie White?

@BearyCity exactly

welp in some cultures the beauty standards rarely ever change. Slim thick has been popular in the black community for TIME i highly doubt that will ever change

I swear people have to take life drawing courses. They will realize that those smooth "perfect" rounded bodies are boring. The most interesting ones are those with folds and folds and folds and distinguished bodyparts. It is beautiful in what shapes we all come in. We are just so interesting cause we all look differently and have parts that make us us. Like how much fun it is to draw a big nose or my bat wings (jello arms) or a thin belly with stretch marks. Those social media girls that show their bodies all look the same when they photoshop themselves...

False. Dudes care about: back, legs shoulders... not abs. Woman care about face and abs

@@milklover3158 I think you misunderstood. The gaze itself has nothing to do with what you like or what you look at. You can look at any part of any body with a male gaze. It means that a body is displayed with the intention to sexualize. The female gaze is not about looking at body parts that women find appealing, instead it's about looking at someone who is not portrayed in a purely objectified or sexualized way. The female gaze is more like representing people as empowered people with agency. You can look at movies for example - Compare the portrayal of Harley Quinn in the Suicide Squad (directed by a man) to her portrayal in Birds if Prez (directed by a woman). There is lots of interesting papers written on this topic and videos where people explain it more in depth if you are interested :)

women also care abt shoulders and backs, kinda more than abt abs

@@Kimiya Not really, both woman and men are sexual beings, they just find diffrent parts of the body apealing. No one cares about anything that's not sexual

@@milklover3158 lmfao lots of people care about lots of things that aren’t sexual. you’re projecting if you really believe otherwise💀💀

Ahhh I feel called out 😌

your agony over people “wrongfully” accusing others of editing strikes me as odd though… most of the time a person’s natural appearance is not the result of effort and hard work. so what’s really the difference between people thinking you were born looking that way or not? the root issue here is attributing praise to appearance at all, fake or not.

@@EC-yw5hg oh, I never thought about it like that, I like your point.

@@Nameless-ny8nk i dunno people always talk abt how you shouldnt judge people by their looks but u wouldnt be saying that walking alone at night if some dude jn a tattered up hoodie and toeless shoes was walking near you. the way you dress can convey a lot. i dont think people should be judged for natural things like acne or just wearing the kind of clothes that make you feel good, but looking unkempt (i e, your hair is visibly dirty and you wore it down instead of maybe putting it into a ponytail) or wearing clothes that are simply not appropriate for the occasion, i think these are things that can be looked at. i dont think people should be judged for having a style thats just different, but whether you like preppy, soft, grunge, goth, whatever all of these things can be done in a way that matches the occasion with a lil creativity. we all judge by looks its a human instinct. a safety mechanism. you cant really turn it off and it wouldnt be smart to.

I understand what you're getting at, a while ago I saw on tumblr someone was saying the hour glass figure doesn't exist, and I'm just over here with that figure (but still not fitting the beauty standard because my waist still exists even if my hips and chest are wider). But I also think it's kinda wishful thinking to say people should just learn to not compare themselves to others. This does not address the fact other people are comparing them. When you're constantly bombarded with "You're not pretty but you can look pretty with these products" from the beauty and fashion industries, it's going to inch its way into your head.

It's all about intentions and reasons, tbh. Many women have bad reasons to expose their bodies on SM yet preach about empowerment when people can see thru that...

what about the men??

@@neanthebean6906 what about them?

@@TheGreenPoncle I mean it seems like person is saying it's only empowerment when men do it, but when women do it, their "exposing" their bodies. It's weird to only point out the issue when women do it

@sirénix ♱ idk why ppl always need to do the whole reverse uno thing whenever someone makes a statement abt something 🙄 Come on now... Men aren't as objectified or sexualized as much as women...you know that. We all know that. Its been like that forever and it'll most likely continue no matter how much ppl fight against that Perhaps maybe within the gay community, men's body are probably more sexualized but that's still a minority compared to women. No idea why you think the op is trying to control women 😵‍💫

What is fyp?

@@zourou319 it means for you page, basically the videos u see on tiktok

Nah dont feel bad. The beauty standards are literally unhuman and no, i dont Say this to make you feel better: having a perfect nose with big eyes, big mouth with good face proportions, small waist, big chest, big hips, long lengs that are thiccer on the thigts and overall good body proportions is almost impossible unless you do plastic surgery Also, beauty Is not the most important thing in the world

You could look like them by excercising

@@wiintxrberry shut up

Just go to da gym.

@Winter윈터 You definitely can CHANGE your body in the gym!

the only thing to do is to detach your view of your body from social media and to not seek validation (subconsciously or consciously) based on the way you look, it's not your fault what people post on social media but you can only control how you think, you can't control how other people think

@Winter윈터 you actually can, I used to have a very „straight“ body type but going to the gym gave me an hourglass body

@BearyCity I disagree. To a certain extent you can change your body, but it doesn’t always give you the same results you see online or with other people. We genetically have different “makes” whereas your genes dictate whether your fittest will be big boobs small tummy bigger ass or just your normal body but more healthier, or with muscles. This is already proven. You can go on you healthiest regimen of exercise and BALANCED diet and still not look like these influencers.

Instagram can be good depending on what you follow. I follow therapy, advice, animal and art Instagrams. Browsing makes me feel good because I can learn a lot and see some pretty art projects. A lot of the videos that show up are animals, food and landscapes because that is what I tend to click. If you like browsing videos, you can click the dots and tell it what you don't like and it will show more of what you do like. You could fill your Instagram with animals, food and art if you wanted.

Too much cope. Hour glass was a standard for the last million years

@@milklover3158 not rlly i mean this is literally the first time in history that an alien like unachievable-without-surgery-or photo manipulation body has ever been 'in' and tbh i think we're going to be making fun of it years down the line

@@lucyhannah12271 it's Not alien if you can't achive it 2 Humans are suposed to evolve and we've been heading in this direction for the past Million years An example :in some 1970's ad about the gym some chuby guy was said to be a "muscleman" in the ad . Today you wouldn't think of him as peak phisique and strenght (even a dumb midleschooler like me is stronger than him)

@@lucyhannah1227 british pathe 1960's male gym

@@milklover3158 not sure what ad youre referring to...But I doubt you were stronger than him. He easily could have been personal pique physique ,but these days society tells men that unless they have bulging muscles and abs then they're not strong. In reality men with those body types are usually extremely dehydrated, weak and unhealthy. The 70s had the right idea.

BS women's features promoted by estrogen never changed "throughout history"..everyone wants / wants to be the busty curve-spined anime character..it's just that men ard good at coming up with new fetishes 😂..bbw? :/

V true, such a toxic mindset. Sort of misogynistic too by that logic.

Well actually I think the beauty standard for men has changed a bit in terms of bodies in recent times. More people are not liking the muscular masculine body type that’s been the beauty standard and there’s more emphasis on looking more feminine i.e. skinny, tall etc. so I wouldn’t say it’s stayed the same.

@@bhavya5735 super attactive women never changed their standards towards men.. women are not visual by nature..they don't have looks standards..and male fertility indicators are not beauty features (big hands, Height? aren't necessary pretty things).. but unattractive women realize at an early age that she doesn't deserve a pretty boy..that makes her become obsessed with pretty boys for the rest of her life..mostly attracted to men who she is jealous from for his looks..she has no lips?..her favorite men are heart shaped lips..she has square jaws?..her favorite man has v shaped jaws and so on..and the media played a huge role in creating this type of women..

@@Omar_P.S9inchhs That’s not how that works.. women don’t just pick men and choose to like men that have features they themselves are insecure of. And to be honest I’m not sure what you’re even trying to say and how it links. All I was saying is that no beauty standard is concrete and it’s changed for men as well slightly. Addressing your comment, conventionally unattractive women (using myself as an example) don’t have to think that way. Personally I’ve had attractive and unattractive exes and never have I thought that ‘oh yea I don’t deserve him cause he’s attractive’- we have other things to think about and our lives don’t revolve around being ‘unattractive’ or men. You honestly sound like you’re mansplaining something that you yourself do not understand.

Materialism. I think anything can become a TREND rn, like ANYTHING I am scared sometimes XDD

@@wiktoriawojciechowska7215 Yeah that is certainly true. It has quite a lot of potential problems on top of ridding one's sense of self. And when herd and mob mentality joins hands with a trend, that really gets terrifying. The things people are willing to do for attention, acceptance, fitting in, money, popularity, etc. ..............

@@wiktoriawojciechowska7215 And having people we call influencers is also scary. That is a lot of power to put in someone's hands to have so much influence on how people think or view things. It is dangerous.

Ur right, I also think that tiktok is a total sh*t and at the end of the day it brings nothing into your life, it is too overrated on a thing that is not bringing anything REALLY important. Even if I don't use this app I see tiktoks everywhere else, it's scary af also how big it is and only causes problems. A girl who crashes bread with her face on tiktok made me lose faith in humanity

@@wiktoriawojciechowska7215 Definitely, tiktok is a bad environment.

true if im doing a cosplay or something and i want to look inhumanly beautiful then heck yeah im gonna filter the photo. i wouldnt lie about it cause its weird and embarrassing but at the end of the day whether someones body is attainable or not is irrelevant. we all have different shapes. some people have super hourglass figures ive seen it in person, no amount of weight gain or weight loss is going to give you that shape if it isnt your bone structure. its just a matter of finding what flatters your SHAPE the most. if you think you look better with more weight, then cool, if you think you look better more toned/slim cool. do what looks best on YOU. not what looks good on someone else.

No. It didn’t boom during the pandemic, it boomed when tiktok freaking become popular and mainstream in America. Don’t confuse it with pandemic.

@୨୧ isabelle ୨୧ Aww, thank you! Love to you too!

Great observation

@@jenni.getstrongxo thank you :)

That's it, how can you feel secure by using filters & photo shops. You know you dont look like that! I don't get why people keep using it because it will make you feel worse in the long run.

@@peacelove7437 they know they don't look like that, but others won't. Likes, shares, compliments are the ones who'll make you feel secure. But you're right since you know that it's filters, It won't last long

It’s hypocrisy at its finest

Thanks for commenting this, it is pretty hypocritical

That’s also not an accurate representation of what the male gaze is.

Amen, same sister.

if u stay on the right side of tiktok then ur safe (pet tiktok as an example)

@@stanme of there is craft, pets or cooking area exclusively somewhere that could work. but we have that here on yt too.

@@biljam972 yeah ur right

yup

Heeeey i have the sameeee

Haha, then I still haven't got a hang of it. My friend's belly is so flat and her waist so thin that it made me suspicious if she had any internal organs at all. But yeah, maybe people wouldn't buy into the exaggerated anime proportions then :D

welcome

Thats sad that you need to look at peoples flaws to feel better

People do look like that and you'll just have to deal with that

@@aloha516 lol trust me i see some pretty people with good proportions and skinny people but no one who looks like those filtered people. i've literally been able to go to their profile and see a less edited version that looks natural

@@jelowo9877 I do though and many other people do

@@aloha516 I’m not saying that you’re not as conventionally attractive as you claim. I’m saying you don’t look like the edited freak of nature in the intro for example. If you’re the skinny thick body standard, you can look in the mirror and see the way your fat naturally lies on your hips. Unlike the girl who edited herself to look like a wavy piece of bacon. If your skinny you can see the hip bones, maybe hip dips and ribs. I personally think that’s way more attractive than the edited ones but opinions aside, reality looks different than the edits and people should realize that.