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it works all the time, I've gotten quite expensive parties by simply dressing the part and walking through with confidence, smiling at the wait staff, nodding at them and then waving to someone who briefly made eye contact with me. It's ridiculous what acting like you're meant to be somewhere can get you
Guys. I was at a party w/ few friends and there was this girl and we clicked. I invited her for a date and she said yes, but our date somehow became a group hang again and I got overwhelmed by the number of people and could not "focus" properly to getting to know the girl properly. I think, it would be a good idea for a video: How to be seen in a group, or smth like that.
I dont know the situation but I would suggest just being honest that you were excited to spend some time just with her. Not getting in to a group dynamic in the first place.
bruh no video needed. you need to single her out from the group and hang out with her 1v1.. make the next hangout clear that it will only be you two, and if it somehow turns into a group hang again; sorry bro, but looks like you in the friendzone.
@Kenton Nguyen @Corban S Oh god no. Don’t listen to these people. She’ll think you’re the biggest creep ever and destroy your rep on social media if you suggest that to her. Be more subtle about it and do not make any mistakes. Also not a bad idea to have audio or video (preferably both) surveillance on every inch of your property so she can’t say you tried to grape her.
Hey man, all is not lost, it was just the first date. I like some of these comments about taking the initiative to ask her out again, women love confidence in a man - like just be low key about it and put it out there a little, get her reaction, build up a bit of contact between this time and the next time you see each other. She will definitely have still ‘seen’ you in that group hang, but yeah, just keep being you, that is what took her eye and attention in the first place.
And what if what they're saying matters not one whit to me? Some think "it should", but honestly after Ive listened to a "poor me" martyr over and over again, I could really give not one whit about what he/she says about her life as a self perceived victim. And I still maintain eye contact, and somehow he/she still thinks I give a damn about what they're talking about.
@@1005corvuscorax - But really, I’d just organically move on. They got the coat check into my interests, but I’ll save us from stepping on each other’s toes by not dancing around this conversation. I’m sure you do the same.
The worst thing you could do to a person in a group conversation is to shine the spotlight on that person when he/she doesn't want it (has nothing interesting to say). It could be a passive aggressive way to show people how uninteresting/uninteresed that person is. So be mindful of when you call on people to share their opinions because they might not have an opinion they feel is worth sharing at that very moment.
You mean don't FORCE the spotlight on someone, right ? Obviously you don't always know berorehand if they are interested or not. There is nothing wrong in including someone that didn't talk much. If they make it clear they don't like the conversation, just change the subject idk
And for woman looking to gain and keep attraction through conversation? I feel the wider scope of 'attractiveness' would be interesting to address. For example attracting colleagues, the public when speaking in general, family, friends etc. Attraction doesn't have to be refined to sexual interest. Communication and general engagement is important in all forms of relationships.
@@Mistyfaery thank you for your comment. I also think more wider scope on charisma could be covered because relationships with family - parents, children, strangers, colleagues and friends are all important connections for happy healthy lives.
I love how we all love RDJ. Like he really is an extremely charismatic guy. It doesn't matter if you're attracted to him sexually, you're attracted to him because he shines and you just want to pay attention to him. Amazing guy.
You 100% can control what happens to you. This quote is like someone saying... "nothing lasts forever so love what you have" but saying it like they came up with it.
When Charlie tells that story about the joke prom invitation. He knows for a fact every girl in that room would be thinking they would go to the prom with him. And every guy relates to him or is inspired to become successful despite previous rejection. Well done Charlie, this story hooked in 100% of the audience. RDJ could speak gibberish and you'd still listen with intent. His personality and charisma is just that huge.
Know what help too? Integrity. Knowing who you are. Liking who you are. Absolute confidence and peace with who you are, and who you are not. Something to think about before you start practicing in the mirror how not to be yourself.
I think its very important to point out that most of this traits shows up spontaneously when a man actually feels realized in an activity that is intimately interesting for himself
He’s the guest on a talk show people, understand situational awareness. He knows he has everyone’s attention already, put him alone somewhere and uncomfortable and we’re almost all the same, a human that isn’t perfect
The funny thing is that they're not using any "tips", they are just natural themselves. The biggest tip here is to find your passion in life that makes you happy and confident, then your natural traits will come out
"If he would do that for a random cat, imagine what he would do for a loved one." Except many that proclaim to love animals are the types to treat family and co-workers like garbage.
It seems that when people brag about being anything it turns out to be more of a warning. Like the 'nice guy' phenomenon or those that say how they don't like drama...
That's because a large portion of animal lovers are narcissists, and they use it as a tool to virtue signal and look like better people than they are. Almost every extreme animal lover I've ever met that has too many pets was a covert narcissist.
Whenever I see RDJ, I can't help but think about the time, not long past, when he was so drug addicted and spending time in jail that "everyone" presumed his career, and maybe his life, would end soon. What a remarkable human being!
Well my question is, what about the conversations where you're asking questions, but they're not asking anything back? I have a hard time trying to work in my stories because it doesn't seem natural to me. Like I might end up sidetracking us on a tangential topic, but then come back to the original story, and after the story is done, there's just an awkward lull where I want to share something but I haven't been asked. Me: So tell me more about that necklace you got, it looks very interesting! B: Oh yeah, (blah blah blah) Me: Insert questions to expand on details that I find interesting, then going off on tangents B: Ends story Me: (awkward silence until I ask another question) The problem is I find myself feeling like I'm doing an interview, and not talking with someone. Do I just share stories or experiences, unprompted? I have enough social skills to know which ones to share and which ones to keep to my chest obviously, but I'm so confused by these interactions, and I think it's gotten worse since 2020. If anyone has any advice, or video links, I would really appreciate it. Thank you all.
I'm in the same boat my friend. You can try to be direct and call them out (for example I usually say: "Ok can you ask me something?") but if after that they still don't add to the conversation, I for one believe that the other person is not interested in you and I don't interact with them anymore bc I know my worth and if the person is not making any effort in getting to know me why should I?
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Charlie is that guy who just keeps telling you stories about how great and caring he is, whether you want to hear it or not. Do women really fall for that? I guess a lot do.
Great, now I'm going to be self-conscious; I'm definitely a group leader, but I've never done it to make myself look more attractive; I group-lead as described here because I like to allow everyone to get a turn to be in the spotlight, I like to allow everyone to get involved if they want to, and I like to give everyone a chance to be heard. But now I'm afraid knowing about this is going to make me feel like I have ulterior motives.
Hey Charisma, could you do a video on the short series called ‘Mixology’ . The series is 13 episodes long and follows the story of complete strangers on their night out, giving insight on night out situations and the do’s and don’ts when approaching someone of interest. Though the series is quite comedic, I still think there is some pockets of knowledge to be acquired from it.
man I was a fan of this show, not the kind of thing I probably would have watched before or since but it landed at just the right time and I got my whole house into it.
Just wanted to say, I’ve been watching your videos for years and they really are so good. The way you include real world examples is so helpful and also makes it a pot of fun to watch. Life changing stuff. Thanks again.
when I see people tell stories like that it makes me roll my eyes and tune it out. it feels too much like bragging, and in my eyes, bragging is very unappealing.
But let's be honest... If you're handsome AF like Charlie or naturally charismatic AF like RDJ you don't really need to put any effort into holding attention in a conversation.
Yes, you have to be attractive so that people focus more on you, but I doubt charisma is natural. I've improved a lot in that regard since I was a shy kid and later an introverted teen. It's still work in progress, but despite setbacks I'm more confident and assertive than before, something I wouldn't have even believed I would be.
All of these men are doing much more than standing there looking handsome. They are driving the situations they are in, being playful and showing interest in others. ANYONE can be better at doing all that.
If a man is handsome he can easily get attention at first, but if a handsome face is all he has, it becomes boring AF. Only a handsome face does not grant real attention for longer than 3 seconds.
The story telling and social directing advice works flawlessly. I'm a 7, but have always attracted higher using these techniques. Thanks for these videos. Helped me transform myself in the early days of this channel.
How to be attractive to women: Look like Charlie Hunnam and tell a story about saving a kitten. But most importantly look like Charlie Hunnam. That is all.
I never agreed with a point so much as playful cockiness, that always gets me. I'll take a playfully narcissistic joke over a self-deprecating one any day
You need to do a video on Jesus from "The Chosen". He seriously portrays such incredible charisma and genuine kindness. I've learned so many things from watching this actor.
I wish I had an older face. Women usually think I'm 30+ years younger than I am. It may sound great, but trust me, it's kind of embarrassing when the number is SO far off. When I was 30, and people guessed 20, it was great. At 40, it started to change for the worse. Over 50, I'm at the point that I'm thinking to just tell people that I am 25-30, and just let them think I'm wise for my age.
The trick is to make sure you're not just a walking version of these videos, normal conversation and being yourself is a big part of connecting with people as well as these tips.
Agreed. You mix in some of these traits with your own traits to create your own genuine style. Even with a genuine style, not everyone is going to like you and that is ok
8 Things All Men Must Do In Order to Be Successful with Women: 1. Be Decisive. 2. Be Assertive. 3. Maintain Your Masculine Frame & Energy. 4. Never give her free validation. 5. Never put her on a pedestal and treat her like a Queen. 6. Have an abundance mindset. 7. Show her you have options. 8. Never appear be needy or desperate to her.
How can you have an abundance mindset while intentionally withholding validation and respect? Only someone who sees themselves as small and limited deep down is afraid to show the woman he loves that he loves her. Either that, or he doesn't really love her. Free validation? She earned it by loving you too, and by being a child of God. If you can't think of anything positive to say about her, or a reason to treat her with compassion, you need to find someone else and develop your own character.
@@piperbrady8393 How do you learn to drive, how do you learn to read and write? Through evidence!! Women respect men who have an abundance mindset and see them as an afterthought. U ever why nice guys always finish last? It's because they operate from a scarcity mindset. Which is a major turnoff for women.
@@ChattinBoxingWYB you teach someone to drive by driving and demonstrating how. you teach someone to show you respect by showing them respect, obviously. only a silly dude is afraid that showing someone genuine kindness and generosity will rob him of his macho power
Soren Keikegarrd, the Danish philosopher, referred to as the Danish Time Bomb, in his younger and "anesthetic" days, before he takes his 1st, "Leap of Faith" into his Moral stage, was always the life of the party. But, after the party he wanted to get a gun and shoot himself. He had some physical abnormalities, which did not seem to bother him. One leg was shorter than the other and he was a hunchback. His 2nd leap of faith was his conversion to Christianity. He received a degree in Theology but did not want followers. He was never ordained and wrote to save himself rather than an audience. The bulk of his writings were found 50-70 yrs. after his death. It's possible that he hoped to save the world.
watched this just to see if it was accurate and it really is. I can see all of those things "working". The bad light story does more than what he suggested though, it engages the woman's heart, which is already primed and ready. lol We have the most overactive brains (too many pathways working in too many directions at once) AND hearts or emotions that are always ready to be engaged in any situation. Also, our sexual attraction or desire is sometimes directly connected to our heart/emotions. So take care with your words. They are more powerful than you will ever know, believe or be able to comprehend.
Have you never seen less-attractive people with good looking people? There's many variables that aren't mentioned in this video. Don't give up on yourself.
For dating I can really only give advice from the perspective of a straight man, at least until we get other people in as research assistants or writing the videos. But I'd say 95% of our videos work for all genders, it's probably one every 15-20 videos that's specific to dating
Attractive people can get a halo effect easily. Also, in a talk show, many things depend on the host as well. All is set up for the interview to be as interesting as posible. Celebrities are used to this. You get the laughs and the attentions just because of your fame.
I've always been relatively charismatic but I'm somewhat introverted as well. Sometimes it attracts negative attention from people who become overly sensitive to your opinions and perspectives in general. There's a time and place to show a little charisma but it's usually better to show a calm and stoic personality overall. IMO
@@gonzalo_rosae doesn't mean we dont have trouble with it. Sure it's easier in romantic situations. But it's harder to be taken seriously in professional settings!
Anyone who's watching these and are skeptical if any of this works. Let me tell you. It does. Tailor your personality to steps of what he is telling you.
To any young viewer or person looking for help socializing watching you need to seriously stop watching this channel AND others like it. Speaking from experience watching these kind of videos almost ruined my life bro, it made talking to people like science with all these tips and deadass some lies altogether. Plus it can make you think like a sociopath looking at people not as humans but as puppets. So with all the love of my heart close the damn phone and learn how to actually communicate and be more social through experience, plus stop trying to manipulate people with tricks like the one in those videos cuz it's really obvious and it makes you look bad and manipulative. Peace and good luck to everyone who took the time to read this♥️
I respectfully disagree. These videos teach valuable social skills. If you want to just "be yourself" and then accept whatever the consequences are, then go ahead, but a lot of us want to be more attractive and charming, because being attractive and charming generally makes one's life significantly easier.
Don't forget looks play a big part in whether you're seen as attractive or not, I get this video is used for motivation but being honest about how much looks effects how others see you as attractive or coming off as creepy is more important than being blue pilled about everything
@@camzeee840 I haven't said anything about my looks though have I? I'm on about those below who are below average in looks not to rely on these videos to get their self esteem up only to get it blown apart with over confidence that can be a direct result of watching videos like this
One thing girls love is if you achieve soemthing and instead of talking about that, talking good things about your mother and how grateful you are. Gets them everytime.
I agree, another one is talking about what you have learned in life and why you're thankful for it. It shows me that you have humility to recognize you didn't know something before, introspection to have been able to realize it, a will to improve yourself and a positive mindset to be thankful for all of it.
Hey thanks so much bro for all your videos. No joke these videos have changed my life for the better… no.. I mean for the GREATEST!! Lol but seriously though,I absolutely can’t believe on all the opportunities that I have passed up due to my self being my worst enemy!!.. these videos gave me my faith in myself so THANK YOU A ZILLION!!
This is pretty dang accurate. I use many of these tactics in tech negotiations every day. Very observant… And if this course is as good as the insights in the video, it’ll be worth it (to guys especially). Level up your COMMUNICATION skills guys. Women adore that!
I’ve always believed story baiting only goes well if you can hold the audience’s attention. Make sure you’re highlighting the tense/dramatic/funny parts, but being brisk and succinct with all other details. Otherwise your audience will lose interest.
Tell your story pause and ask the listener a question, just engage the listener and make them talk and give feedback during story telling is great as well
Confidence is when you know what you can offer, and who you are, and believe that is enough for you and your loved one, rest is just the world, no big deal
It’s hard to like you when the whole female race doesn’t. Becoming the nicest person doesn’t get you success at all. I will narrow it down since you possibly wouldn’t understand. It’s when you get the latest yugioh / Pokémon cards as an adult and becoming extremely happy. You like yourself, but does the female? No.
I'm not going to debate the validity of any of the concepts in this video. But you DO realize that talk show hosts are GIVEN a list of questions to ask the guest. The guest already has had time to construct his answers. It is NOT totally off the cuff responses.
Can you do a video on how to respond to someone who attempts to mischaractarize you? ie. Falsely accusing of racism, assuming you're something your not or whatever.
I became an expert on finding the small thing the person opposite me kind of secretly wanted to show. Like complimenting a girl's n obviously fresh manicure. It allows youu to show that you are comfortable and secure enough in your own masculinity to compliment something that would be considered feminine to notice. I have turned women from meh to just really being curious what else I am a sure shot at.. It sort of became a reputation. To learn it took years of reading behaviour. The focus stemming from explosive adults when I was young. To be safe it was very important to be able to read adults, because I was unconventional in my approaches
I love this! I was also really hypervigilant for a long time from my childhood and it sounds like you took something really difficult and made it into a positive trait of yours. That's not easy to do, good on you man
Your points are still valid, but this example of Craig Ferguson in this context is just all kinds of wrong: 1 - Firstly, the guest's motivations are entirely different to anything one would experience in the real world. Their intention for being there is to promote their own brand and/or recent project, so they want to come across with a certain image themselves (e.g. fun, relatable, comedic, smart, whatever their brand). 2 - Secondly, there are discussions with agents, producers etc back stage to discuss how to best promote that brand and can get a 'pep talk' into how to best behave with Craig. Some shows (not Craig's I believe) even script many parts of this. 3 - Thirdly, although filmed in front of a live studio audience, most of these shows are heavily edited, so they can edit out the bad flirting or jokes that bomb. 4 - Fourthly, Craig is relatively rich and famous, well groomed and not considered hideously ugly. This makes women interested in him immediately, regardless of what he says or how he flirts. 5 - Fifthly, many of the guests (and possibly Craig himself) can be drunk or on some illicit substance, so of course they will behave a bit more openly and flirty than usual. There's even a scene at 7:24 where she's drinking DURING the interview! TLDR: Nobody in the real world will EVER be talking to girls who are as open or interested before a word has been spoken. The dynamic is completely different, making things MUCH easier for Craig. Not invalidating points, just a bad example in this context.
Is it possible to make a video about Raymond Reddington from Blacklist? I think there is a lot to learn about him, especially regarding his personality and confidence.
Im at a loss. There is some of these tips on that i have had working organically at some point in my youth but have seemed to go dormant or evaporate. Itd be nice to be my full self again and thats attractive to myself if to no one else
Listening to RDJ talking extemporaneously on shows, I get the impression that his dialogue in movies is just him being himself mostly just improvising and not part of the script.
That first story did seem massively "amn't I a beutiful person " ... really bigging himself up.seemed obvious to be honest... RDJ ... Great to watch , great manner.
See, the problem with a lot of these (and honestly a lot of the traits this chanel highlights in general) is that they at least somewhat rely on having previously cultivated a particular type of persona, which is easy when you're famous and most people have seen you do a number of things, but it's not so easy as a regular Joe just meeting somebody for the first time. Take for example, 8:54 . That over the top cocky joke works BECAUSE it's RDJ, and he's known for that type of personality. Even other celebrities, if they haven't established that type of personality, wouldn't be able to pull that off. Like, can you honestly imagine that joke coming out of Evans or Hemsworth? I sure as hell can't, and if they'd said it, it would have come across really weird, and probably a bit off-putting. He makes it work because that's his shtick. I remember thinking this same thing when watching the video the used Craig Ferguson as an example of flirting, and how he uses these over-the-top, uniquely worded compliments (almost always about someone's appearance) and again, that works because he's Craig... but if a random, less attractive, guy who hasn't established a persona as this whacky, flirty, charming guy copied the same lines, it'd probably come across creepy. So in the end a lot of this seems like lessons on how to use types of charisma you already have... but if you already have them, you don't need to videos.
Interesting. This is a thought I always have. You can have these kinds of personalities and it works well because you’re a celebrity. I used to be that kind of charismatic person when I was younger. It worked well truthfully but it also sometimes comes off as obnoxious or trying too hard, and that’s a balance that’s easier to achieve if you’re a celeb.
This may be my new favorite RU-vid channel. I usually agree with everything you guys say. I think we are on the same page but I will keep watch to continue to improve on my personality.
In Charlie’s level you definitely must be a good storyteller… with the ADHD I have I black out and forget what I was saying which is so damn embarrassing for me
I just wrote and it's being published as we speak. Guys get Confidence wrong most of the time, the read things like "Stand tall", and other things, but if you have to remember these things you'll come off as Confidences close cousin, arrogance. The way to be confident surprisingly is by being honest with yourself, we all want to have good traits, but instead of taking an inventory we act like we are good at everything. The person who isn't honest about their weaknesses are UNSURE OF THEMSELVES, this is insecurity defined. By knowing your positives, you can be strong on them, by knowing your weaknesses, you can admit them, and your body language will automatically change, remember body language, some 80% of communication, is merely the outward expression of what is on the inside. Women have a heightened sense of reading body language, because they couldn't risk getting a bad leader. The most confident guys don't say anything positive about themselves, for example at a bar, talking to women, they ask "What do you do for fun", what do most guys do? They act like their lives are a joy a minute, but then the girls either believe or not, when I am asked "What do you do for fun", I say "Nothing, my life is boring", they see this as incredible confidence as I do not have to impress them, they respond "No way I don't believe that", so it adds mystery and they wonder what I do for fun, since I have their invisible shields down they fill in the blanks with their greatest fantasy of what they want in a man. The problem with story telling, I see this a lot with guys and girls, is that a guy for example can tell a story about a motorcycle, and a girl will hate it, and boom, over. If I were a famous movie star on one of those shows and they asked me what I do, I'd say "My live is pretty boring", no one would believe it, they would fill in the blanks of what they want in a man, and they'd all see pure confidence in that I don't care if they think my life is boring. Be different from every guy, every guy TRIES, you have to stop trying, just do, take, be, and you will draw women left and right. What drives me most crazy is guys putting the onus on women for everything, "Would you like to go to lunch with me", the guy is making the girl the decision maker, and they hate that, when you see a girl you're interested in, walk up and say "Come on I am taking you to lunch', her instincts will force her to come with you, for women instinctually follow a leader, and adore men who make decisions for them, Finally stop making the women the prize, you are the prize and act like it.
