Sure, being complacent and enabling poor behaviour that is shown on every social media platform , is super healthy for the children and the family. 🤦♀️
Stephen may not want to hang out with the bf thats cool but one day there will be a time when the kids will have a special day (birthday, sport day, dance, award whatever) and BOTH will want to show up for the kids (which is AMAZING) so they will need to zip it, put on a smile and be soooo grateful that their kids are just so lucky to be so loved by so many people! My son had plays, birthday parties so far and I do feel very lucky thay my husband and my sons father never skipped a beat when it came to our boy. I met my husband 5 years ago and from the start, when it came to my sons birthday, he showed up, set up the party helped with games, packed down and did it all with my sons dad. They arent besties, but they get along well and I know if I need them to organise anything to do our boy, they can do it without me being the messenger. I pray that Laura and Stephen can get to that place where she can feel that peace, trust and confidence 🥰 I love that my boy has the best dad snd stepdad and both men respect and value each other.
In regards to the iPad. I never thought I’d be a screen kid, parent. But my son listens to music on his iPad to regulate himself, so his therapist said for him it’s a tool for his autism, so let him have it. So we do and sometimes he’s on it the whole time we’re out and sometimes it’s just sitting beside him and he’s taking in all the sights and sounds. To each his own I say! And to hell with what other parents have to say because they do not know your situation or your child. ❤️
Just make sure they never get access to porn. A 6 yo was caught downloading violent porn onto a family tablet recently. Young boys and girls are becoming addicted to porn. It's across all social media apps and juat every app even kids apps. Silicon Valley makes a lot of money getting kids addicted to porn and it completely messes them up for life. Especially boys. Minor boys have now become the leading perpetrators of child sexual abuse and they believe it correlates with being groomed by porn online. It's not an accident. Imo kids shouldn't be online until they are 18+ even if you think your kid can't access porn, they can. Porn today is genuinely disturbing and leads to boys having the most messed up sexual preferences to the point they can't find girlfriends or keep them. There's a whole host of issues your kids will have from prolonged use on the iPad but I dont blame parents for doing it. You just have to be so careful our kiddos don't access bad stuff and the Internet is full of bad stuff and criminal activity
Co parenting is HARD. Laura is amazing and she's got this! They are trying to raise these beautiful children in a positive environment. Please don't be so hard on them.
I also am a mother of a little boy with autism. Use whatever tools you have available to you, iPad, food, praise, bribery, whatever works to keep your child safe/happy/calm in public. This tricky stage will pass, but it might get more intense before it does (think running onto roads, running away, walking off with strangers). My son was particularly tricky at 5 years of age, the iPad was extremely useful in places where he might get bored or overstimulated. ❤
The running away is scary. My autistic daughter went to school with an autistic boy. I actually observed at the school and met the boy. He was so nice and showed me his werewolf drawing. Anyways, I guess he began running away when he was mad. The school ended up building a fence to keep him safe at recess.
Hope you had the Best Mothers day Laura! you deserve it& yay for self care! Esp YOGA & massage🧘🏼♀️😊🫶🏼Love seeing you & Stephen co parenting, its so healthy for all of you, wish only good things for your family✨💫✨
I needed to hear this the last bit. I want so bad to get put of my negativity. Always was such a positive person. But after lot of painful stuff happening I changed. Your such a good mother happy for you coparenting goes (mostly) well ❤
Our stories I believe are quite similar I have two children with my ex of 15 years and co parenting and holidays are so different now your videos are so amazingly truthful about how it really is and I appreciate seeing it and knowing I'm not alone but we're on the right path and showing kids love as well as self love tysm seriously your amazing deserve the entire world and we are a pam fam 😂 we love the Pamela pumpkin videos 😂❤🎉
Note to Stephen, there are many videos of an ex giving gifts on mothers day. It sets a good example for the children. Also on holidays. Its great the time you,all spend together, great for kids mental health
I literally ask myself why do people still feel the need the comment at stephens every move. Atleast damn, thats how i feel. How about lets all be grateful that he actually wants to be their for his kids and to wanna be an active participant in the situation instead of being absent. Hes their and the kids are perfectt perfect. Yall are awesome. Ignore the negative consistent coments that people are posting because they cant help themselves.lol
Babe , if it works,it works, it's not about how everyone does it, its about how you do it with steven for the kids ❤ A beautiful mother's day filled with joy and chaos in harmony and love. I've been around for a long time, you have come a long way, I'm proud of you, and I just love your videos ❤ Courage girl ❤😘❤ Happy Mother's day 🌺
Completely agree with the THREENAGER comments… as a Mama myself & a full-time Nanny, the 3yr old game is rough… but silver lining, 4yr olds are my very favorite phase in the history of ever. It’s always darkest before the dawn & all that. Hang in there Mommies! 💛
I haven't watched in over a year. However I want to comment that I love to see you all covalent the way you are. If it works for you and shows love and positivity to your kids it's a win for all. Your boyfriend/girlfriends accept this or told from the start that your still a family in a different way then people shouldn't say anything negative. They are only seeing a small window of your life.
I was thinking the same to be fair. When he said what do you do? I was thinking it’s Mother’s Day you get Laura gifts from your kids. Although my ex hasn’t in 15 years. My kids were sad so I gave the eldest money and stood outside the shop. Yes, he’s an idiot
We don’t own iPads, but we let them watch shows on our phone sometimes at restaurants. I also usually bring coloring books and markers…sometimes playdo, etc…and try those first.
The kids are getting so big, and are so adorable! I know it’s the hardest thing to coparent, but my mother and father never ever spoke after the divorce! We had an account at the bank that we were supposed to use at the start at every school year for clothes and school supplies. They were supposed to have to go to the bank and both sign for the money to be withdrawn! It never happened, the money just sat there and my mom was so broke we never got anything! The money sat there until we were 18 years old! The child support was suppose to be $60 every two weeks or a month and we never received a penny! My mom hated my dad so bad when he was supposed to pick us up she would put us out on the curb like a rash can. He wouldn’t come and we would have to sit out there for over an hour and then bang on the door to get back inside. Then she would take it out on us when we came back inside. It was horrible! I know you have been through a lot, but I thank you for doing your best with putting up with his crap so your kids can have a life, and not be blamed for the situation. I am 58 and have never spoken to my father since I was 8 years old! It has been very painful. He is a lonely old man and I am just waiting to hear he is gone one day! He left my mom with no car, electricity was turned off and water was turned off! So, I really appreciate you saving your children from this and sacrificing your mental health for them. God bless you and happy Mother’s Day to you! God bless❤
I take coloring supplies: sketch pad, markers, and crayons. We play a game, I draw something than kiddo draws something to see what we create/story is imagined. However, if you want to be involved in the conversation with your party or group you’re with-iPad may be better. I’m pretty involved in that world of coloring with my kid, and it’s a great way to not talk to the people I am with (if that’s what I desire-which happens) this way too, my kid gets an opportunity to feel like he’s hear, involved, or paid attention to.
I just read Idiot and I can't wait to read Idiots and I really really really hope she writes another book cuz it's literally been years since I was actually able to get myself to read a book and I always loved reading. I want endless books about Laura's life. 😭
Being someone who is coparenting and still currently living with my ex husband- he too still surprised me with a present he and my daughter made and something he got me. Threenager for sure! It’s tough! But … perhaps she’s mid- leap of growth.
My son is low functioning Autistic. He is 15 now, but he used to have terrible melt downs age 2-10 & he would clear tables or hit anyone or anything close to him. There were some very uncomfortable situations but all you can really do is apologize, get your child to a quiet safe place and keep encouraging him to use his words. Do you carry sensory items or noise cancelling headphones with you? My son really responded well to chewy tubes and the headphones, as well as arriving places before a crowd if we could. example: baseball games or school events. Best wishes and Happy Mothers Day
I’m so happy you enjoyed your Mother’s Day! 🙏🏼 My anxiety gets the best of me so I don’t join a yoga class 😔 Do you have any suggestions for beginners yoga on RU-vid? 🙏🏼
Having been divorced for many years, I can honestly say life is so much easier when the divorced parents can get along. It's especially easier on the children.
I have a 7 year old son pretty high on the autism spectrum and he changes constantly. It’s like living with a bipolar lion cub with multiple personalities. I say that with the utmost love. 😂
3 year olds are rough. I remember a month or so before my son turned three I felt the same way. Just where did my sweet boy go? Also the iPad is a good tool to have. Like we don't go for it immediately but our son has ADHD and cannot hold still and be quiet without it sometimes. So if we need it we use it.
I believe with certain children that they actually need them to separate themselves from all the new people and the restaurant can be overwhelming. ❤😊 Don't get embarrassed and don't think you EVER have to leave early momma bear!❤😊
Laura, I think you’re doing a really good job with the coparenting. It’s kind of a new concept. This wasn’t happening when my parents got divorced and good for you to trying to keep the family together. I think Stevens is doing a good job too even though he’s a little wacky.
Yep, we bring devices and if things start going sideways, we'll let them be used with no volume until the food comes... Feels like a good compromise with teaching boundaries but also being reasonable about their developmental stages to me!
You deleted your Mother’s Day video that you posted yesterday!!??? I loved it! I watched it like 8 times and sent it to mom. Then I went to watch it again today and it’s gone! 😱 I thought it was hilarious. . I loved it. ! I needed it. ❤ wish it was still there to watch
It’s sad that this is unconventional. My ex and I coparented very well. We always did holidays together, even vacations, all their sporting events, and hung out so the kids could spend time with both of us. My husband and him became friends so it worked out great. On vacations my husband and I could go out and spend time together away from the kids and I knew they were safe with their dad, while still being there not missing anything. Whatever is best for the kids is what matters. As long as you both keep the kids first, that’s what’s best for them. I know not all couples can do this but for the ones that can it’s great. No matter of the kids were at my house or his , they had the same environment bc we stayed on the same page.
Three was the worst year of my parenting life. (My daughter is 30). And then she woke up on her fourth birthday and there was my little sweetheart again. Give me a two year old any day of the week!
Be the iPad family for a day, you know those need base I bring my kids and they get overwhelmed or start struggling I give them the pads. When they were little they got the pads regular. My boys are autisic to
I wish we had iPads when our boys were little. We literally could not take them out to eat until they were like ages 5 and 7. Unless there was an area where they could run around lol.
I do not care how other people judge my parenting. If the iPad helps your kiddos stay regulated and grounded in an overwhelming place, then iPad it is. Zero fucks given to the judgement.
My daughter is 5 soon to be 6...get ready! Lol the sas and argumentativness is only starting hahaha its literally like fussing with yourself in small form 😂 but theres nothing better because it makes the loving so much more meaningful 😂❤
@@my3pups I mentioned that as a declaration to my attempts to be in touch with them! If anything, l raised all three of them to be fiercely independent!
It sounds like your Mother's day was wonderful! Stephen has always been a wonderful father. That's important for your beautiful babies! Take the IPAD! Don't worry about what others think! When my three babies were little, I took them out to eat at a Bob Evans. They were healthy when we left the house m but at the restaurant, my youngest vomited which caused the other two to vomit!! It was a vomit fest all over the table! 🤮 😂🤣 The waitress brought me one napkin when I asked for rags! Lol? I wasn't leaving them the mess! I never went there again! 😂🤣😂🤣💞💞💞💞
So Steven is competing with the boyfriend and in his head he’s winning. I’m sorry but he’s too manically happy. I e been through something similar and I can hardly watch 🙁 Laura is going to be held completely responsible for this when he can’t cope with reality
I agree with the assessment of Stephen's behavior and mood. Except that Stephen is responsible for Stephen. Laura is doing what's best to keep a happy healthy household for hwr kids from what I can tell as a viewer. I didn't grow up in a time of coparenting after divorce, just parents who hated each other and held grudges. This seems lovely. And they're both dating other people so he's not completely delusional that they're still together somehow 🤷♀️ Just my two cents
I don't really see the competitive end of things. Fortunately for the children Stephen lives so close and they so obviously love him to pieces. He's doing a great thing for his children and we actually only see a 10 minute video into their lives so we really can't assume by that. Whatever they're doing looks good for everyone.
I understand. It's very odd and he knew it was which which is why he jumped in to say he was joking about the gift he got being financially more expensive and moreorless superior.
OMG it's one thing to co-parent, it's another thing for him to act like a hurt teenager about your boyfriend. You should have gone out to brunch with your boyfriend. You're not Stephen's mother. 🙄
Can everyone get off Steve a back. Seriously, they have a young family and he’s great with those kids and they love him what do you want her to do remove their dad from their lives!! Just let these people figure out their shit on their own, they’re both adults. I take my hat off to them for making it’s as loving and as fun as possible for the kids. The fact that their dad can get them ready for bed and spend time with them daily is amazing. That takes work for both parents to make that happen so give them some credit this shit is not easy.
He keeps calling her argumentative. She’s three. She’s finding her voice and asserting herself and setting boundaries. Most of us know Stephen hates boundaries
He's not wrong though, argumentative isn't a bad word to use in this scenario, I don't think he meant it as a complaint just a statement he made in agreement with what Laura was saying. You're right about it being about their self expression and finding their boundaries. But 3 year olds can totally be argumentative, I think that's okay to say. But we all know why they are. It's a normal stage of their development.
@@StarrySky-ky2uz lol comments like this are hilarious. You do realize they’re posting their business for everyone to consume and criticize, right? Take several seats.
He thinks there is a chance to get Laura back and doesn’t like the fact that she has a boyfriend. But he doesn’t realize the reason she will never get back with him and it’s because he’s too overbearing he doesn’t like to give her space. It should be about the kid’s relationship not necessarily about him and hers, he can’t get past that
Mom of autistic son and an Irish twin 9 months between them and we could literally never ever leave the house again if we didn’t bring iPads it’s saved my sanity it’s only a hour or two and teh]y can run free when they get home and the relief of peaceful eating you HAVE to do it f what others think
