@@NellieNutkins I'm a Swede and this is a problem for me regarding almost all ads on YT. I haven't looked yet but your comment confirms my suspicion. If not even UK or Australia has it, Sweden most likely wont get it within the 5 first years..
That's what came to mind, autism. People higher on the spectrum have developmental problems, but they eventually overcome them. Though they don't do everything "normally "
Maybe she feared that they would abuse him. It happens quite often. Also, you cannot put yourself in her mind...especially because she was mentally ill.
She saw her own child more as a science project to b fixed by herself so that she could b the “first woman to cure autism”! Somewhere along those lines at least
This, 100%. She had all the money in the world to support her child. It seemed like she wanted to be the saving grace for autism. It seems like she couldn't accept that her child was always going to be different (which is perfectly okay). She wanted to "cure" him. When she realized it wasn't possible she decided it wasn't something she wanted to continue with. That is obviously my perspective on the situation. I feel horrible for Jude. He could have lived a beautifully different life if it weren't for his mother.
SERIOUSLY. However, when suffering from serious monopolar depression, it's SO easy to become completely frustrated with a lack of progress and to give up even though there are plenty of options left to explore.
I don’t want to pass judgment on her though it was still cruel to do that to a child. But seeing my sister who has an autistic kid is really difficult, he’s also a low functioning and he has episodes that he will hit my sister and strangle her . Eventually she developed heart issues due to stress. She knows that she will be the only one who can love and pacify her son (17 years old now) ..mentally and emotionally it will take a toll on one’s sanity .
I think she was popping pills, so THAT is a choice. Drug induced psychosis deserves no sympathy. The truly mentally ill deserve sympathy and empathy because schizophrenia, for example, is certainly not a choice. My late sister was acutely schizophrenic from her sophomore year at Vanderbilt University until the day she was murdered. We have no idea who took her life and law enforcement had no interest in pursuing an investigation. She had gone missing and she was mentally ill, therefore not a priority for anyone except we who loved her dearly.
Why do people always make excuses for women who murder their children? When a father does it he's a psychopathic monster (no arguments there) but when a woman does it she was struggling and should have been helped... That double standard shits me to tears. *This comment isn't aimed specifically at you or your comment, but your comment reminded me of the hypocrisy within society between a killer father and a killer mother.
@@JoJoHOPPE-i7jThank you for pointing that out 🤘 Also, my condolences to you and your family for having your sister taken from you; I am sorry that you were all denied proper closure or justice by the same system that didn't care enough about her condition to treat her like a human being after her death 😔
I’m not a mom but I do have a half brother who is himself 8 years old and let me just say that I would go to the ends of the earth for that kid. I will never understand parents who do stuff like this to their children.
No....he was abandoned by the MOTHER in his life. The very rich mother who had a lot of means to provide for him for the rest of his life. Let's not pretend like the men in the story were somehow partly to blame. (EYE ROLL)
@th-sd6ni You can roll your eyes until they roll out of your head, but you must not have been aware how they both hadn't even been in contact with the boy or his mom for quite awhile. Also, no one besides the mother even wanted parental rights to that child. Due to his autism being so severe it was much easier to walk away from him. I also don't think that you understand how money can be a double edge sword. Yes she had money but that didn't mean that she felt her son wouldn't suffer horribly in the care of another. It is not uncommon for children in such a sever state...who can't even speak to warn others of their abuse...to be literally tortured everyday by their care givers. Not including if the mother was to pass away and they wanted to get ahold of her money that was now his. Also, it sounds as if she had some pretty serious mental problems . I know it is hard for the average person who has never had experience with these issues to understand...I personally don't understand the lack of empathy for someone who was so desperate. She didn't only take his life...she al.ost took her own! Now that is serious desperation.
Yeah gotta especially love the father, who was all gung ho for his child, until he was diagnosed with special needs, and then he was out. That’s what we call conditional love children.
@Usagi393 Is that what happened? His father abandoned him because at the end of the video it's said his father lost contact of both of them after the divorce, hired a private investigator to try to find his son. Looked for months but the next time he found out about his son, his son was already dead. Doesn't sound like abandonment to me but what do I know, I'm just a father who would love to see his kids but their mother is a lying narcissist doing everything she can to keep them from me.
If you can't love your kid no matter what, don't have kids. If you find out too late that you can't actually handle what you thought you could handle, get help. It's scary how many cases there are of people harming their children when they become too difficult, or when the parent wants a different life. I respect people who choose not to have kids (and take serious preventative measures) when they know they can't commit or handle the workload.
My best friend has a severely autistic son. I couldn't do that so I don't have kids. I know for sure even a child without issues would be maybe more stress than I could take. The different situations she tells me about wouldn't be possible for me to handle.
@@moomyung9231exactly and I get really confused when people imply strange things about such a wise decision. Only have children if you are prepared for serious situations like a severely disabled child. I speak as someone who is severely disabled and my mother tried to k*ll me multiple times but quit trying half way through each time. She terrorised me pretyy much daily for 19 years. I'm glad to be alive at 35 which some find surprising given that she gave me permanent brain damage twice and then hit me about the head a lot and every day of my illnesses I am reminded that my mother caused me a lifetime of severe disability and I've never worked before because I can't. All the public services failed me and I have significant healthcare (NHS) inequalities due to my FASD and trauma issues causing extreme fight or flight in hospitals. Please people, don't have kids if you can't treat them as they should be: the most important person in your life.
Dude that's why my friend got custody of his son and moved to Japan to get him the care he needs his mom has a permanent restraining order.... Not everyone should be a parent and he tells me this case is why he got custody, his son's mother was almost exactly like this, since then his son's verbal abilities improved drastically, and they're extremely happy.....that poor kid, it could've been easily my friends son....
With all the money she has, she could have hired a fleet of caregivers to do the hard stuff while she just did the fun and enjoyable parts of motherhood. She had every option that exists open to her and this is what she chose. As a mother of an autistic child with some other psychological issues, I'd give anything to have even a fraction of her money to use to help my child!
Maybe she didn't want to abandon him to a worse life. Only she knew how hard his life was because she was Always there for him. No one else... only her. Life is very hard.
Do people adopt children with this level of disability? The parent would be fearful of the possible motives. GiGi didn't even want the boy's biological father to have custody or access - for "reasons" that appear created by her.
@ChrisBishop-o5o Exactly! Ot is very easy for people to talk poorly of a mother when they clearly could never do it themselves. You all have to remember that he was getting bigger and stronger so it would be harder for her to take care of him. Plus, she was getting older. She was trying to protect him from being tortured by people who just don't get it . People think they are Superheros until put in this situation.
Very easy. She knew how hard he was to take care of and many people abuse people like him. She was trying to protect him.There are 3 main reasons mothers kill their kids. 1) To punish a spouse...in this case, they didn't care about the boy. 2) acutely psychotic...could be partially part of the reason 3) to protect the child...not unlikely.
I got more of a selfish vibe. Like she wanted out of life and wanted to take him with her. Her considerations were just for herself and romanticised. I'm guessing the insane stories during the defense were just fabricated justifications to paint herself as being a more sympathetic character.
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To me she seems the successful parent who tries everything to have the child of their dream and, when they can't, they throw away the "failure" as if the poor kid were trash. I met many parents of children with special needs who loved them unconditionally, even if they have to go through financial strain to provide for them. She was a true monster.
@@Kingkongbongdong4716 There are parents like that, I know, and loving is not just saying "I love you". I was in this group in my country who "volunteered" (but that's not the right word, we did it as a group of friends would) with kids and adults with special needs and their families. That's where I met the parents I wrote about in my comment. One of our goals was also taking care of the kids to let parents have a little time for themselves, which is very important, because very, very few of them could afford nannies and all this woman in the video could have.
I have an autistic daughter who is literally the sunshine in my life. Their minds are all wonderfully different and they see the world in a beautiful way if you meet them there. That mother was awful.
Not all autism is rainbow and light like you’re describing, some are really really bad. Impossible to deal with. She should have hired help. No excuse!
Obviously, the love was never there for that monstrous Gigi. As you do with your beloved daughter, you come from a place of love. One either has a mother's heart or one does not. A mother's heart is one thing that Gigi did not possess.
I highly doubt she was, "Riddled with guilt.". That's such a horrid way to kill someone, let alone a child. I can understand depression and hopelessness but not her actions against her own son. People like her enrage me.
With all her influence & wealth, she could've easily provided him staff to look after him 24/7 or put him in some kind of assisted living place!! This monster CHOSE to deprive him of his life instead. 18yrs are not nearly enough for her as punishment especially as she clearly planned this
@sarahalbers5555 It truly didn't have to do with money as it did with mental illness and a very very stressful situation. I get that you don't get it because how could you.
My mom is 72 and she is caring for me for 26 years. In 1998 I matriculate from school. That's when my mom started to take care of me. I was 3 or 4 years old when I went to boarding school. I had to learn to help myself with certain things. Fortunately I went home every 2nd weekend and vacations. I'm grateful for my mom and 3 brothers who didn't treat me like an invalid and like I'm mentally impaired. I can hear in one ear, I can use my arms and hands and I'm smart, I can talk too. Yes, my mom sometimes get tired and irritated with me, but she still loves me and takes care of me. So I don't understand how this woman could have done that to her son. If she couldn't cope with it, she could have put him in a place that people take care of children and adults like him or she could have appointed a nurse for day and night to help her.
I know her defence was about pedophiles I think bc it was around pizza gate time, & made a whole website about how Jude was being abused by his dad, and everyone else apparently 😢 so I have no idea what she was thinking Ps bless your mom and you!❤
From the paranoia and delusions, I would guess she was abusing benzos and probably other pharmaceuticals but I have absolutely no basis for that other than a hunch.
Im honestly so tired of hearing about all these a-hole parents killing and/or abusing their autistic kids just because it can be "hard". Ive seen so many cases of abuse that sometimes leads to murder because these parents coukdnt handle a child that is different. Im on the spectrum and so are my kids. Autism isnt some terrible terrible thing that warrants shitty treatment. Ofc it can be difficult and challenging depending on where the kid is on the spectrum but if its too much for you find someone else to raise & love your child. Its infuriating & heartbreaking.
Right there with you. there is no excuse for taking a babies life I don’t care who or what the parent has done in their life , a baby is so innocent and well u know the rest !!!
My son has a behavioral disorder. We didn't know what was going on for the first few years, we just chalked it up to him being a kid. He repeats himself 4-5 times and he stutters really badly. He can't help but seek confrontation. He will walk into a room just to intentionally make someone angry. When he got older and we could talk to him about it, we realized he wasn't doing it out of spite. It was just who he was. So we've had quite the struggle trying to teach him he doesn't have to seek negative attention, we will give him all the positive attention he could ever want. He just has to accept it. It's so hard because all I want to do is hug and love my son but he doesn't like affection. He hates touch. He's been seen about being on the spectrum, but they think he is just stand offish. He's getting much better. He'll cuddle on the couch during movies and ask to be read a book and sit with me. It was incredibly frustrating for about 3-4 years. But this last year has shown immense improvements. I think he's coming around to the idea of being part of a loving family.
As a mother of 2 autistic children, I will never understand how a parent could do this. That poor innocent boy didn't deserve this, and the most heartbreaking part of it is that he likely didn't understand what was happening to him and why. 😢
Unfortunately, some parents would rather have a dead kid than a kid that's different, or even just different from the idea they had in their heads for that child. It's far, far too common, and those people shouldn't have kids. My mother told me that she "didn't sign up" to have an autistic kid, even though she very much did. When you make a choice to have kids (which she very much did, as she had a years-long fertility journey to have me), you sign up to have a disabled kid, a gay/trans kid, a kid that wants to play the tuba, and just about anything else that a child might just exist as.
@@trishdelacour8746 calling her actions mentally unstable is an understatement. She’s clearly a lunatic who should be behind bars for the rest of her life.
A mother to a son, is his first love and to her it's her last. My son has autism and he's a true well rounded person because he leads himself with a loving heart and you can feel it without fault ❤
Acceptance is vital. Total, utter, deep mother's heart love can't be released if the acceptance of that beautiful child, JUST AS HE IS, never comes. Bless young Jude. He deserved everything wonderful life can offer. She ripped away his ONLY chance to be exactly who he was.
With that kind of mental health history in her family, she shouldn't have had kids to begin with. I am a child-free married woman myself, and that was a choice I made because of the kind of dysfunctional family I had come from and the childhood trauma that I carry to this day. The depression never fully goes away, but some days are better than others. Apart from that, I have been on Zoloft for nearly a decade now, which has helped regulate my emotions to some extent. But still, at the end of the day.. I know that the only person I am willing to subject to my own mental illness, is myself. Not my husband, and certainly not a child. Jude was not born into this world by his own choice, his mother made that decision for him. Then, the day she realised she didn't have any love left to give, she once again made the decision to take him out of this world for him. She really thought she was God. I know people like her, my own parents being prime examples. I, too, could have had a child and thought "this time it will be different, I won't make the same mistakes they did because I believe I have identified the problem and am a better than them". And who knows? Maybe I would have, but maybe not. Would I be so selfish and narcissistic as to bet the existence of another human being on my own sole belief that I will do right by them? Never. That is a gamble not worth the risk. And that, in my opinion, makes me a better person than my parents. I don't need to become a parent to prove myself. I know my limitations.
I am in exactly the same boat. Child-free by choice on account of I’m too mentally ill to justify bringing a child into the world that might have the same issues (autism in my case, just like Jude). It’s a hard choice to make, but definitely is the right one for me.
Sadly most people just profusely reproduce with no care for the lives they bring into the world. Kids are left to their own if they are lucky or are abused if they aren’t! Sad world!
@@rebeccat7912 Same here, believe me, you made the correct decision, and likely have really supportive partners! Without such support it is h3ll on earth (been there done that). [If interested, I made the wrong decision! Maybe you want to know what you avoided by your decision 🙂 I did not want to have children due to my own history, but my now ex hb convinced me to have one, only to leave our daughter and me behind in 2015, despite knowing that it would ruin me (my own father died young and "left" my brother and myself with a borderline mother - this may suffice). Since my childhood I suffer from severe chronical depression (therapy-resistent, I am a doctor myself and have tried everything), and the post partum depression nearly drove me over the edge (unsuccessful attempt, that is). Despite this my daughter wanted vehemently to stay with me since he left us in 2015, albeit he wanted to take her with him and tried everything to discredit me. All those years I have fought for every next day, and lost everything only to grant my child's wish to stay with me, because she does not want to leave the CH where she was born, and to follow her father back to D. It is not that she loves me so much, I have no illusions. But I love her more than I thought possible. Two months ago she moved out in controversy, and I miss her, but she left me behind like I were just an old sock or such, and seems not to miss me. This does not exactly help with my depression, and I can very well understand how it feels to be alone with such a situation like the mother in Adrian's report- I should not have watched it, today is a bad day already... Last year we had to sell our house and move away from where my very few friends were, and now I am here where we are nearer to her school, but I do not know anybody, she is gone, and my flat still is full of moving boxes, because she did not help me to sort them out, as I had disc prolapses and was not allowed to carry the heavy boxes alone. Every day is darker than the last, but I am still here and fight on. If I had a child with really severe special needs, I would perhaps also taken another path... Maybe it is also important to relate that not only my daughter, but also I myself are affected by ADHS, which also poses strain on our relationship. It was diagnosed ca. three years ago, and I am nearly sixty years old, and can not take too much ritaline due to side effects. But at least my daughter and I can roughly function in everyday life, albeit it is very difficult to hide/ live with my / our affliction. *You have chosen wisely, do not let anybody tell you otherwise. May you and your partners enjoy your happy childless lives!* ]
What a very selfless act, both of you! I commend you for realizing that your mental health had to take priority. I was an abused, scorned child. Unfortunately, I just led with a bruised heart. I was so fearful of hurting my daughter's feelings that I went all out in the opposite direction. I could never say no, even when I definitely should have. She grew into a self-centered, narcissistic user. She abused me financially, emotionally and even physically. She never suffered any repercussions for terrible behavior, because I was so damned overly sensitive. Damaged people either become abusers themselves or they allow others to abuse them - even one's own child! I had to separate my life from the life of my daughter. She had wrung every pleasure out of being a parent. My late husband and I put her through university and grad school. She was nearly killed in a vehicle accident 25 years ago. I thought that perhaps actually DYING (crashing) twice in ICU might soften her and she might develop gratitude. She actually got worse! So, once we got her home from the hospital after three months, she was so full of hatred for me (never Dad) that we simply could not have her in our home. Her Dad got her a condo and stuck her a$$ in it with her boyfriend. Dad says, "She's all yours to take care of. Good luck!" I have not spoken to her since. Her Dad asked her why she treated me so badly. She said "I have always hated her goddam guts. She spoiled me and it ruined my whole life." Can you imagine? About four years ago she wanted to take a life insurance policy out on me! I am NEVER signing anything that involves her. I actually believe that if they were in a financial crisis, she would not hesitate to end me. So I really wish I had made the same wise decision made by both of you. I wish I had gotten tubal ligation at seventeen.
Raising a child with special needs requires acceptance it’s really important. She felt defeated after doing all she thought could change his son’s fate and ended up making the worst decision😢
I always enjoy your videos but I feel like they are slipping in quality lately, at first you said they found a 10 year old boy on the bed, then you mention later that he is in fact 8 years old, now I'm unsure which is correct....Anyway, whoever is watching the footage before posting needs to listen more closely or maybe get someone who can, I don't mean this harshly in the slightest, it's just a few videos ago (I cannot remember which case exactly) the victims name was pronounced incorrectly, going off what you said in the beginning of this video it seems as though you have a whole team helping you to get these out, I just want to alert you to it, I mean it in a kind way, you're good at what you do and I do enjoy the videos, as I say, it's just something I noticed lately.
I get that it had to be extremely difficult to raise a child with special needs, but she had the resources to ensure he could’ve ended up with a family that would’ve been fine with that. Instead she murdered him and was only sentenced to 18 years for it.
No it takes a lot hard work, selflessness, love, patience and more. My mum at 69 is still looking after my brother 40 years since his diagnosis at 7 years old of a neurological disease which is incureable. My dad wanted to put him into a full time care facility when he found out his diagnosis, not out of love even out of embarrassment that he wasn't "normal". He was all about how it would impact himself in the view of others, even though ironically it was he who passed the gene on. That's what lead to their divorce and he left myself and my other brother behind even though we were "healthy children", which was the best thing to do, as if you can't love someone especially your own child you don't deserve the title of parent. My mum had so many bad bouts of depression though out our childhood but she always loved us and puts us first. We were lucky but if you can't care for your child for whatever reasons there are so many other options out there.
With all that money I'm sure she could have found the best boarding facility for him, but I guess, she recented the poor child. She only exited 'cause she was afraid of ending up in jail again
While the son is most definitely the real victim of this case, on some strange level I also felt a bit sorry for the mother regarding her Major Depression. As someone who struggles with bipolar disorder and depression, I can't help but feel sorry for anyone else who suffers from it. That said, this does not excuse her actions. My empathy only goes so far, you know? Thanks again for the work in bringing these videos to us!
Love your channel. I have autism and so do 3 of my children. There are several treatments that do help with our support needs. We will always be autistic because a person is born autistic. Our brains are wired differently. This is why clinically it is called a neuro developmental condition. If anyone out there is struggling with having received a diagnosis for themselves or a loved one there is a community of us out there who are ready and willing to listen and support you with any questions that you have and even just to listen. Just because someone has higher support needs doesn’t mean they aren’t or can’t live a beautiful and meaningful life. I thank god every day for giving me my children exactly as they are.
I know the Mirra family well. Ray (the first husband) is a great person. He remains apart of the community in Philly, and still has a heart after everything his ex put him thru. Truly a good person in every sense. Rest easy Jude.
I can't begin to imagine the stress and agony that woman put Ray through! Emil was victimized by her, too! She had no intention of ever allowing Emil to be a part of Jude's life. He lacked the funds to go up against her high priced attorneys that she kept on retainer! The lurid accusations that she spewed forth in the courtroom were absurd and patently false. I wish she had gotten life without parole.
At the end of the video it says he tried to find them after "losing contact" and even hired a private Investigator to find them. So "losing contact" was probably actually on purpose by Mom. Especially with all her wild claims and the eventual murder of her own son. Some men are crap but I'm not putting this one in the same boat considering what we heard.
I don't know Adrian. I personally suffer from chronic long term major depression disorder (with psychotic features) it is a chemical imbalance in the brain that can cause very real seeming (to the sufferer) delusions and extreme anxiety and paranoia. I had my mom to help me see reality when things were at their worst in my late 20's early-mid 30's. It doesn't sound like Gigi had anyone steady in her life that could recognize the signs and help her through it. Money can buy medications, doctors, therapists and nurses but it can't pay for someone who knows you well enough to see without words that an unspoken break with everyone else's reality. Mental health is complex and still not only not understood by the masses but still greatly lacking in understanding by medical professionals. I cannot say with 100% certainty that Gigi was suffering a mental health episode, but from my own experience with the disorder your description is pretty spot on for on. In which case she needed aggressive mental help in a mental hospital not the walls of rikers island. Mental hospitals are not the Hilton, they can be just as restrictive as prison
yah i agree. taking care of a child with special needs is also not easy especially in the midst of break-ups and divorces no matter how much money you have what she did is not good but some people can never understand how bad mental illnesses can get
I do agree with you as well. I've had depressive episodes that I understand in hindsight were absolutely delusional. My thinking was totally warped, but I genuinely believed it to be true. However, I still had some clearer moments where I could pinpoint the contradictions between what I believed to be true and the reality. I was fortunate enough to have some common sense to seek help. Also, depression is usually a symptom of something else. As autism is hereditary, might it be she and her mother and aunt were also autistic? Being undiagnosed they suffered from depression and anxiety developed from masking and feeling unfit. Autistic people have many times higher tendency to end their lives than the general population. But this is just an idea I had because it's quite unusual to have multiple people in a family trying to end or end their lives. There must be something else there...
I agree...it's all very well saying she was selfish, an unfit mother & didn't want to be a parent anymore...when she was clearly deranged....& not in her right mind..going through what used to be called a 'nervous breakdown'....that's the reason she didn't get the adequate help she could so easily afford...she's not some demonic monster mother seeking to rid herself of a nuisance child so she could live the good life....she lost the plot...& flew off the rails. 'Judge not that ye be not judged..' Matthew 7: 1-3
I have a non verbal Autistic son I cannot STAND when people think they need to be "cured." My son isn't even biological to me and I have mental health issues too but I would NEVER... COULD NEVER hurt him let alone murder him. I love him with EVERY fiber of my being. What a horrid person.
How do you actually go through with something like this! I get being frustrated and at your wits end, but how do you go past thst point of no return? I don't get it. Its the ultimate act of selfishness. She could've just loved that boy, and given him all her time, with some respite care from professionals. She wasn't saving him from a life of torment. She was saving herself. That's it, that's all.
I don't understand why Gigi didn't spend more money to get help for herself and her son, but it sounds like she had some mental illness issues that interfered in her thinking process.
Only manslaughter? Seems like she planned a murder-suicide, or the appearance of a suicide. But she definitely murdered her son and the fact that he was a young non responsive autistic child, makes this crime even worse. He was dependent on her. She lied about giving away her money to charity before committing the act. I don’t think we can believe anything she says.
First time posting, listening for about 8 months give or take. I try and watch all of your content. Just want to say I look forward to your new videos and please keep up the great work! 😊
Such a sad story. She was probably already depressed given her family history. If she had seek help for herself, both her and her son may have been saved.
What a horrible excuse of a parent!! I hope her disgusting actions haunt her for the rest of her days. May Jude, this precious angel rest on peace now, fly high!! he's no longer in that monsters clutches.😞🙏🕊
If you have mental issues then it doesn't matter if you have money. You feel buried under all the stress and you're just fighting alone to make sense of the simplest things. Your mind is constantly swirling like a tornado touching down here and there to destruction that they have no control over. I understand this but I don't condone it.
She had the finances to fly to Paris if she was feeling down. She could be lying in the sun at a private island resort THAT SAME DAY, to lift her spirits! 96% of the population does not have such luxuries to take advantage of! Pardon me if I feel not one iota of sympathy for that baby killer.
My son was diagnosed with level 3 autism (I don’t like functioning labels as that’s not really how the spectrum works) meaning needing substantial supports. He could not talk, didn’t interact with anyone, didn’t understand gestures, everything. I was/am poor. I was a single mom with no childcare options and thus unable to work. We live(d) on government assistance. From the second he was diagnosed until today (he is 10) every week was full of doctors, specialist, therapists, teachers and paras, etc. every week for 10 years. I had no family to help, his dad wasn’t around at all (not even child support in the beginning), and no car even though I lived about an hour away from any city that could offer supports. I was isolated and depressed. I started drinking (sober now) and at one point became suicidal. But I NEVER for one second considered even hurting my son. I never laid a hand on him, I never thought about life without him, I never thought he was less or bringing me down in any way whatsoever. We got dealt a shit hand but autism nor my son were ever the problem. He kept me alive (and continues to) so that I can be sure that he is safe and thriving. There is one thing in this world that keeps me going and that is my love for my son. Even now that he’s hitting puberty and being a jerk lol he is my life. This woman did not deserve to be a mother and she does not deserve to keep living, freely or otherwise, while that child is not. If you’re a shit mom, give him to someone who will love and care for him for who he is. Help, resources, stress, whatever the case, there is no excuse or justification for her actions. None.
Thank you! You and your precious boy are a team! People that think of their child as an extension of themselves or a possession, are the very worst parents. Gigi's damn issue was her inability to fully accept Jude JUST AS HE WAS! She should have been celebrating Jude, and the myriad things he COULD DO! She was stuck focusing on what he would never be able to experience. Well, cry me a river because every pregnancy is a crapshoot! You might produce a narcissist or a serial killer! Every single baby should be celebrated and surrounded with joy. If you aren't capable of giving that gift to your precious child, GIVE HIM TO SOMEONE WHO WILL!
If one were committing a murder/suicide why would the child have enough drugs in his system to kill him 14 hours before yet mom survived? She is really full of shit on so many levels.
Bottom line is this lady was a monster. With all her wealth, she could have easily gotten care for her son, which would help him, and reduce the 24/7 care she needed to give him. On top, she made the excuse that her ex's were somehow responsible because of their supposed horrific deeds. She's the only one here who's a monster.
She had all the financial means to provide herself and Jude unlimited resources. She had zero reason or excuse to have chosen to end his life. Zero! She chose it because she was narcissistic, and felt he was an *inconvenience* and THAT’S why I believe she did what she did.
At first I was like "Hmm, I get it." I don't agree, but I get it. She sees no bright future for her son, a 24/7 for what could be years, even decades care case, giving up her life for his. But then apparently she started talking about sex abuse and satanic murder cults..Okey, oh so she is fucking insane. Roger, alright...go on mr coffeehouse man.
I have a clinically diagnosed level 2 moderate autistic 4.5yo son, I cannot fathom doing something like this to my son, there are crisis hot lines for these specific reasons and situations. I do not and cannot ever understand how or why some people think murd£r is the best solution vs simply asking for help. 😔
My dad, mom, stepmom, and one of my grandmothers made their careers working with developmentally disabled adults. Jude could have been any number of their patients. Not everyone is cut out to deal with a special needs child, hence the continued need for establishments like the one that employed my family members. Jude's mother sounds like she may have had schizoid personality disorder given her background and what she told the court. All the more reason for her to have turned over the day-to-day care of her son to professionals.
I'm on the spectrum and also a mom with the same level of autism this kid had. It's extremely sad that the only solution she thought she had was killing his own, I develop fibromyalgia (chronic pain condition) and my mom who support me with him cancer, we had to place him in a home for kids who stuggle to be on their own. This woman could have in the tip of her finger whatever she wish with the resources she has.
To think there are people desperate to have kids who they’d love, nurture & protect with everything they have, who’ll never be parents, yet this person did the reprehensibly unthinkable to their baby!!
She had so much money she couldve bought a beautiful farm. Autistic children love animals. Jude wouldve been so happy being around animals. Rest in peace beautiful Jude. 🕊🤍🫶🏼🙏🏼
I agree. A friend of mine had a little boy who had autism, I don't know what level. They enrolled him in a program that teaches kids how to care for a horse, bond with them, etc. Pretty soon he was riding and it helped him tremendously with his vocabulary, confidence, and balance. These programs do exist and provide a fair amount of support to both the child and the parent. Seems like she didn't do too much research. I feel so bad for the little boy who didn't get a chance. So many benefit from animal therapy, be it a bunny, a horse, or a service animal ❤
This is so sad. As someone who is autistic I hate it that people see it as something being “wrong”. Autism isn’t cancer or something. There is nothing “wrong” with us, we are simply different.
EXACTLY!!! As soon as I heard him talking about autism like it’s some horrible disease, I came to the comments looking for fellow autists speaking up. The ONLY reason it’s felt as a burden by anyone is because the entire world works against us. We are the ones struggling yet those who are meant to help care for and guide autistics tend to identify as the victims. Just let us do our thing and back off!!! Holy hell.
You are not autistic like he was. In this case it was worse than cancer. Everything hurt him...noise...food...Everything! You cannot compare. He needed someone 24/7. He couldn't even speak or take care of any of his own needs.
It seems like he was like my best friend's son: nonverbal with severe learning disabilities. My friend's son is a preteen in diapers. Not all people could handle a kid with that level of needs. He requires 24 hour attention and care and will for the rest of his life. I definitely couldn't handle what she does for him.
@@moomyung9231Exactly. Low functioning autism is completely different than people with autism who are simply different. I have a family member who is 19, non verbal, still in diapers, and can’t feed herself. She needs 24 hour care. If there were a cure, we would love that. She is not the same as a high functioning person with autism who can live life on their own.
Yeah, no. There is definitely something wrong with some…when they are way down on the spectrum and yes if a cure was available most parents would get the help for their child.
I'm bi polar, severe depresion, anxiety, ODD...a real blast :) No one's ever died around me in my 56 years alive. I've done some crazy stuff that would make people question my sanity. It never physically hurt anyone else. Mentally, my family suffered :( But mentall illness isn't an excuse for doing something horrible.
I’m sorry but locking the door AND barricading it shows that she meant what she was doing AND knew what she was doing. If she had “a surge of adrenaline” and wanted to save his life, she would’ve unlocked the door and shouted for help
It's easy for people who don't face any or all of the challenges this woman faced to make judgements and say what they would have done. Especially when they don't have kids or don't have kids with special needs. But the fact that her spouses, who were supposed to be there "for better or for worse," left her alone to deal with her son's mental anguish, while she was also having her own, surely made a huge contribution to what happened. Depression can warp every trial of your life, however small, into a catastrophic event. And when a person has seemingly no help, especially if that's what they've accepted as absolute truth, they may do drastic things. I can't begin to know where her mind was at. I'm just sorry that this happened. As the mother of a special needs child, who also had to raise him on my own, I understand being so low mentally that irrational thoughts can rear up in one's mind. I've been there. So I won't judge too hard. I feel bad for both Jude and his mother. They were both abandoned.
Thank you, from a similar place. I also can not judge this mother too hard, alone with her own demons and maybe feeling judged why she as a professional could not help her own child. After all it was 2010, not all opportunities to seek help were available then. She may have lost her child if she opened up to the wrong people about her issues, and the neighbours may have contributed to the outward pressure to do something with this aggressive, loud and nasty child... Thankfully we are not able to peek into each other's head - what looks composed on the outside, can be a circle of h3ll on the inside. Her "partners" were pathetic - to look for contact after it is too late - yeah, pull the other one, it's got bells on it... Depression warps everything, and sometimes none of the medications helps (in my case, and as a doctor I tried everything I and my colleagues could think of). All commenters who cast the stones here should be grateful if they never were there themselves. My opinion and experience.
I work with children and teens with different stages of autism. The hardest part for many parents is financial struggle and worry for their kids future. This mother had enough money to ensure her son would be safe and happy even when she is long gone. Instead she killed him. It's unforgivable. The level of self-centeredness was out the window here...
Thanks, Adrian! 😊 Yes, depression can and does run in families. I've had Clinical Depression for many years, and have been taking antidepressants for about 25yrs. Various members of my family have been diagnosed with mild depression, all the way to schizophrenia. But having depression *does* *not* *mean* the person suddenly becomes a murderer!! *ESPECIALLY* the way that this woman killed her helpless son! I really can't bear to think of how terrified that little boy *must* have been! This is a heartbreaking story, Adrian. Stories like this make me wonder where all the good people have gone!! ❤❤ to you and Nero! xKerry, Australia
I can not wrap my head around any child losing their life due to the deliberate actions of a parent. I can semi-understand a mother thinking that the child would be worse off without her and deciding to save the child from that pain by ending their life and then trying to follow. I can not even pretend to know what goes on in such a sad, lonely, scared, and hopeless brain. I can only pray I never will
Would call her a wealthy drug dealer. The obscene profits of those in the medication business offend me greatly. Cashing in on others illness is immoral.
Adrian, I generally really like your content, buuuut I think that some of your language here is harmful to the autistic community. Phrases like " _Sadly_ , that would not be the case" , "recognising that something was _wrong_ " , "her son's _misgivings_ " , "she wanted to fight the _misfortune_ " , "autism is a condition that _unfortunately_ has never been treated" (which isn't entirely true), etc. All of these paint the picture that autism is an illness or that to have autism is to have something wrong with you, which for many autistic people (myself included) is simply not the case. I think phrases like these perpetuate the stigma against autism, so it's best to be careful when speaking about it in the future. I hope that makes sense! I'm not saying that autistic people don't struggle, and some people find certain aspects of the condition more difficult to deal with than others, but autism isn't an illness; it's a neurotype, a way of being, an existence.
Are we really going to pretend that never being able to talk or developing past the babbling stage (infancy) is anything but a huge misfortune for everyone. This is not slightly awkward level autism. This is profound disability. I think invalidating parents who are frustrated and suffering trying to care for children like this doesn’t help at all. Lot of sanctimonious people in the comments…
@@mzulft3227 Do we even know that he hadn't developed past the babbling stage? Many non-vocal autistic people are still very much able to process information and can communicate via computers and whatnot. Sure, it is a disability, but being disabled isn't "wrong". I just didn't appreciate the way Adrian spoke of autistic people in this way. It perpetuates a stigma that doesn't help autistic people nor parents or family of autistic people.
My 3 year old was just diagnosed with level 3 autism. I couldn’t begin to imagine taking his life away due to the hardship. It’s going to be hard yes, but he’s my son, he’s a beautiful human with a lifetime ahead of him. Poor poor boy deserved so much better 😞
Ive now watched it and this is so incredible sad 😔 i have worked with a non verbal child with ASD and i can not understand how anyone could do thos to an innocent child. RIP Jude 🕊 may you rest in peace, even though you were taken to early from this world, i hope you are at peace.
99% of comments be like: "She could've gotten him help/given him up for adoption/I can't believe she chose this!" People.. did none of you bother to connect the dots provided at 22:28 28:07? It's called a psychosis with paranoid delusions; all the signs are there, even a family history of mental illness. She obviously should've been institutionalised instead of jailed.
Plus “get help” is useless advice, from where exactly? You really think people can just surrender minors they’re responsible for to the state “because it’s hard” and that people are clamoring to adopt non verbal profoundly autistic 10 year olds? It’s delusional thinking.
Correct! It is easy to claim to be able to do better from afar, but *this happened in 2010,* when diagnostic and therapeutic measures or cohabitation models were not widely available, even for people with money. Maybe this mother loved her son so much , that it was out of the question to leave him in the care of strangers - after they were both left behind by the kid's father! I can understand why this severely troubled mother in her own distressed situation came to a conclusion that for HER in the moment seemed to be the right one. I know that I could not live with such an afflicted child - because I myself have severe problems which even without additiional stress force me to fight for every next day. My own daughter and I have ADHS, by the way, not in the least comparable with non-verbal autism, but difficult enough that she moved out two months ago because we always fought. Many people seem not to take in that *developmental issues are often not visible/ discernible until the child is a toddler* if and that it is afflicted! *Not every family can deal well with the shock that their beloved child will need help for its entire life!* So please refrain from ignorant and insulting comments like "If you can't live with an autistic child, then do not get pregnant" - *one just does not know beforehand if the child is fairly healthy, and if and that one is capable to care for a severely dependent person,* especially when one already has their own debilitating problems. THis mother tried to immediately off herself and was only saved per bad luck. She never married or seemingly enjoyed her life again, and when she realised that she had to return to prison, sh must have known that she would not survive in there (she was a child killer after all, also known to all fellow inmates - her first turn must have been h3ll on earth for her).
I do not believe her initial devotion to him was genuine, given her comments at the trial. I believe she liked the idea of being a martyr caring for a """difficult""" child, and could tolerate the illusion at first. When she got bored of it, she decided to rid herself of him. I'm an adult with probable undiagnosed autism, and it is insulting for neurotypical parents to feel self-pity and regret because their child didn't turn out like how they were expecting/hoping. Disgusting, even.
that poor boy. people can be rotten. she had so many other options yet she chose the most horrific thing a mother can do to their child. regardless of whether they have a disability or not. if you cannot love your own son or daughter for who they are seriously dont have any kids in fact just dont have your pant down unless its for the toilet . tht way we dont have to hear these patheticand disgusting stories .. the only victim in this boy sleep tight jude x just saying!
