Great insights from Cory Clark - this thinking is so important and long long love overdue. I identified this tendency in myself about 20 years ago and started calling it victimania. I am not sure why the interviewer is so naive about it or why she smiles so much.
I think a valid question here is how do we stop? I think I have these tendencies; at least seeing myself as one not so much portraying myself as one. I do not like it, but it's a cognitive trap I fall into quite often.
For me, I remove moral judgment about situations I was in and reduced my thinking to: is this action or are these words helpful to achieve my goals? The thinking shift had the effect of putting all the power to be better in my hands, resulting in a more positive daily outlook. Obviously, the world is more complex than this thought process, but it works as a mental heuristic.
What a fantastic interview. Great research from Cory Clark. I found it very insightful and level-headed. Yes, I’ll admit that it applies to me (although I haven’t started a Go Fund Me account, yet).. Great work and so relevant to our current social divides. This is a great step towards a solution, too.
As a man working with men I am often the victim of mansplaining. The problem is that idiots can't get that you are way ahead of them and they will absolutely explain things they don't understand.
Just look at movies and literature or stories in general, isn't the entire good vs evil struggle always about the victim striking back? All of the gaslighting narcissist do is around how they don't get what they deserve painting themselves as victims.
Why is the interviewer obsessed with the marginal idea of people lying and fully making up stories? She just keeps asking the same question over and over.
Corey, you are one in 8 Billion. You're easy on the eyes and I would surmize being in relationship with you, would give you lots of topics for research. Stay pretty (old southern compliment).
I've been in PTSD circles for about 20 years and, prior to Social Media, it used to annoy me that everyone identified as a Survivor. It doesn't annoy me anymore. ...Also just started this interview but already the generalisations are strong with this one. Do we know of no cultures where victimhood or misfortune are taken as evidence of sin or bad character? Hint: you're in one. So 'people' are not People but a subset at best, surely.
I've been in human services for 20 odd years too. People not moving forward past their trauma despite endless resources gives them purpose. Complaining about services, writing letters to ministers becomes their life and gives them a sense of progress because dealing with life without trauma is scarier for them. It took me at least 2 years per individual before they admitted to this. Their phenomena is very similar to the lead character in the movie Memento with Guy Pearce.
Someone that is intentionally exploits this type of human compassion is broken and hurting themselves. They are repackaging some kind of personality deficiency so to speak into a victim package. An oversimplification I know. They need Jesus.
I suppose it depends on the details. It seems that people would like to call some things victimhood out of pure convenience to not address the elephant in the room. Deficiency, that’s interesting. Jesus, we need to think about that as well. Most messages depend on the messenger. If it’s indeed the truth who really needs Jesus?
What are you ladies really talking about? As a society things are being expressed as they should. Nothing can stay the same forever. Invisible victimhood?
