COUPLE'S Q&A / all about marriage and parenting 

As a grandma looking back we didn’t have social media not even cell phones and date nights weren’t even a pressure. I wish I could tell young parents to not stress about not having time to go out together. Our dates were getting up early together and having our coffee together. Sometimes even then one or more early riser would join us , time passes quickly and before you know it you’ll be empty nesters and have all the time you want together and you’ll be glad for the time you had all together as a family .I love you two your cute and funny 😂❤

I wouldn't stress too much about "date nights". Honestly, they were invented by your generation - us older folks managed to spend time together without having to go out on a date. Sometimes we go out together or with another couple or group of friends and sometimes we stay home together (much more often as we get older). Sometmes we cook together or do a project together like planting flowers or doing our income taxes, or going for a ride on our golf cart. It's the simple , everyday things that matter, not going somewhere , doing something that costs money.

That's exactly why I follow you. I like the simple, Godly, wholesome content you create. Your channel is a breath of fresh air. I know that if I watch your channel, I'm not going to be watching a bunch of sinful behavior from everyone. As Christians, we are supposed to be guarding ourselves and we're supposed to be careful with what we consume - that includes what we watch and what we listen to. When I watch your channel (and the other Mennonite channels that I follow) I feel like I can actually let my guard down.

"You only have the right to be hard on one person in your life and that's yourself." 💯 I like when your husband shares his nuggets of wisdom on here!☆

I will miss you, but I do hope that you return soon. You are an intelligent woman. Authentic and inspiring. I especially love your home renovation. Your husband seems so supportive. Above everything your health, family, and your love to Our LORD Jesus. Thank you for being such a great woman. Thank you for sharing on travel tips, etc.

I love hearing you all talk about deeper subjects. You both have a lot of wisdom for your age. I’d love to see and hear more of Nolan as well! Thanks for the video!

Nolan has a lot of wisdom. Thank you both for your family values and your desire to show them, and that it can be done with God’s help, I n this world we live in!

Great vlog & it’s great to hear Nolan’s perspective, as well. I’m in my 7th decade & am so pleased to see you young couples’ faith as a foundation for your whole lives. Many blessings to your family for continued good health & happiness🤗💕🇨🇦

I like how Nolan is so humble and sweet!

Thank you for sharing this video. You both are so honest, and I love the way you both finished each others answers☺ It's so True, when God says you marry, and you become one. You compliment one another beautifully! I pray God continues to bless your marriage, and your family! 👍😊

I always love the videos you do where you're both so open and honest. Marriage is beautiful but can be tough too. As humans, we do have moods and such. It's just so nice to see REAL couples in the midst of so many fake people. Thanks for sharing your lives with us 😊

I so enjoy how you make your Christian values understandable and how you demonstrate your faith through your vlogs. I have been around Mennonite communities all of my life but only since watching your channel have I been able to see these individuals as people who I have so much in common with. Your “mission field” is your listeners. Thank you for the sacrifice of your time.

Your Oberholtzer genes shine through when you laugh😁

Nolen, I like to see your input because you have a different view point from a woman's viewpoint. Not that you have answers for all questions, but you do have a voice to share with others. It's a voice of discernment.

Let’s all remember “date nights” is a new trend. I have only started hearing about them in the last 10 years. Don’t feel bad if it is not happening for you. It is a new concept like “ gender reveal party’s and prom proposals” etc.

Would be totally supportive of whatever choice you make on keeping up the vlog. Your family is precious and you can never get these days back.

Wise husband and wife! Love your family for being real and showing how we need Jesus to help us. Always. Even while helping each other. In 55 yrs I'm learning if we focus on Jesus, others and self last; we become a more joyful person overall.

As a much older couple, I would say that too much pressure is put on young couples today to go on dates. We always found a little bit of time for each other where we could. When the kiddos were small tots it would be after they were in bed. As they got older we did more family fun things together but we both enjoyed that time. Once the kiddos were grown and gone we probably spent more time going away for a fun adventure together. Nowadays we are so old that we enjoy watching television together each night. I have poor health so my husband spends a lot of time taking care of me and doing the chores around the house. I do what I can but he is the main carer here. We are still best friends and talk about everything. We don’t travel much as it’s too difficult for me. We enjoy swimming in our pool and chatting over coffee. I am so grateful for him.

Well, I lost my husband of almost 59 years a few months ago and I can truthfully say that I do not remember ever having a “Date Night” ever for just the two of us while our children were still at home. After our nest was empty we did have lots of nights out with just the two of us! But, having said that we both missed having our family all together…How I wish I had just one more Hug, One more Date Night etc. but God chose to take him before me and my life changed drastically! Now I make it with God’s help…Enjoy each other to the fullest! God’s Blessings…Always enjoy your videos…

We do love hearing from Nolan as well. He does have a lot of wisdom and I learn from him. Ty Jeannine for the example you are. I really hope you keep doing you tube. I love your channel and your sweet family. Be blessed friend.

Date night for us was eating supper alone after the kids were in bed . Putting the kids to bed and having an actual conversation!!! LOL ! Sit outside weather permitting!!! When our kids were growing up there wasn’t this date night stuff . It was grab moments how and when you can ! Both husband and wife have to prioritize each other so you find ways to get moments together. I have to focus on what Gods word says about me and how I am supposed to be . Oh I am right there with you !!! My wording can be not great too !!!!! I watch because I love seeing a young Christian family !!! It’s wonderful to see a faith filled young family showing others the love of Christ and one another!!!

I really enjoy when you two do these. I love watching you both interact. Our world desperately needs more parents who operate within the boundaries Christ has given male and female. These videos are encouraging and uplifting. Thank you so much!

We do a date night switch off with another couple. We each get a date night once a month and it's been a huge blessing in our life. None of us feel guilty for dropping the kids off and going out

I love your videos 😊 I have ADHD and usually have to have something going on in the background in order to be productive, and listening to you guys or watching your adventures makes me feel so nice inside lol You guys always have something impactful to say that I can really relate to and learn from. And you’re right! People do crave the simple family lifestyle, you just don’t see it as much these days! Just wanna say thank you for what you do and I am looking forward to more! 🥰

You are both such rare gems for the RU-vid world! Thank you for all you do!

You will have plenty of date night time when your kids are grown and they will be grown tomorrow! If you have negative thoughts of yourself or your spouse try to think the opposite of that thought!

Both my husband and me are early birds. Our son once said to us "Mom, you and Dad are the same when you get up as when you go to bed". He always has to have his coffee, etc. before he wants anyone to talk to him. We start conversing when we get up.

Love your honesty and it’s wonderful to see that you both have a deep love for each. You have beautiful family and as long as you follow your Lord and seek His direction you will continue to prosper in you marriage. 💕💕💕🙏🙏🙏

It's always nice to get to know our utube people more....you are a great couple and looks like you are doing things right. There will be lots of date nights when the children are grown - they sadly won't always want to be with you as they get older. So spend your time with them while you can. And I have to mention that I have never noticed before how much Zander looks like his dad! Wow!! Spitting image :)

Noel is an insightful and aware husband; what a blessing. Another wonderful video. Thanks for sharing. Hello to Xander and Lexie.

Thanks both of you for your genuineness!😊

I just love seeing the two of you together and how you work at your relationship. Some people think that relationships just go along without work and that's not the case at all. I appreciate seeing you all keeping it real and I can see the love you have for one another. 🥰

When I started to watch your sweet channel, I was not a Christian, although I did believe in God. Since then lots have changed and I am now a stay at home Christian wife and mother ❤ I strongly believe that The Lord used you and your husband among others to shine like lights in my darkness that made me come to Christ. For that I am ever so thankful and I wanted you to know what goodness The Lord has been able to bring through this platform. Not only that, but during one of your Q&A’s your husband spoke of the Anabaptists and that led me to search and I find my way of walk in the faith. We are many that would miss you here on RU-vid, but if you do decide to move on we all would support you. Being a wife and a mother is the greatest and most blessed role women have been given by God, so we should always put that first. If you one day step down from here, walk away knowing that it bore fruit ❤ May God bless you and your loved ones ❤

I really appreciate your humility. None of us have it together. If we did, we wouldn't need the Lord. I truly appreciate the authenticity of these videos and the desire to keep growing.

Thanks to both of you for sharing. It will be great to see more of Nolan. 🙏

You both are a inspiration to me. Thank you so much !! God bless your little family :)

I am among those that definitely enjoy when you have Nolan on 😊

I greatly appreciate your honesty.

Thank you for this video it is encouraging to know that people do value and work at a loving marriage and happy family life.

🥰 💕 I loved the session with the two of you.. Nolan was on to something with the topic of self image; self esteem...I myself struggled with this in my teens unto my mid thirties. For the past year I have been listening to Elisabeth Elliot's podcasts in her RU-vid channel. I'm in agreement with her thoughts on this issue. What a faithful woman she was!

Great topics,wise answers. Looking forward to more of Nolan.

I do find it inspiring to see simpler Christian life. But I’m also grandma-age, and I enjoy watching your life as it reminds me of how mine used to be. My baby is 37 now.

a video of PURE LOVE AND INSPIRATION

I love your channel and the two of you! I love the fact that in every video you put God first and then each other and your children! I love the loving husband/ Daddy Noah is and the creative loving wife/mommy you are. My generation didn't need date night because someone felt that they needed some special time to be lifted, I'm 65 years old and a great grandmother and to me, I never felt like I needed a special day for my marriage to be special. When the younger generation grows older they will realize that just being together drinking coffee or making the bed together is that special time that at the end of your walks here on earth those will be the moments you will remember and cherish, not going out to a restaurant for a meal. I guess what I am trying to say is no restaurant or movie can make your heart feel the reconnection that just a certain look, or a slight touch of the hand and a good laugh can do.

Thanks for this content !! When people get critical , most often it just shows that they are not happy about their own lives . Stay courageous! Family would be my draw back , definitely!! God Bless !!

I love these videos, they give us a good idea of how you are. You are like my husband and I am like Nolan!😄 One thing I think is important for people to understand is the "date night" idea. While I am not saying is a bad thing, we need to understand and embrace the changes in the relationship. We want the emotions of when we were first married, but love changes and while we need that time together, we are different from what we were, so those ways we connect are going to be different. I'm no longer 22 and boy am I thankful! Nolan is right about self esteem (I'm not saying that because I am like him in personality 😉.) Anything self is not good! While I am not an advocate for berating oneself (I've known people who do that) we have put self on the throne and people are not doing good! Patience, love and all the fruits of the Spirit come when self is out of the picture and only then. When you aren't "worried" about whatever is afflicting you, "you" can handle it...because it's actually God working through you. Each and every day I pray that the Lord let me answer softly (Proverbs 15:1) to let my yes be yes (Matthew 5:37) to have more godly wisdom (James 1:5)and if there be anything in my life that displeased Him, to show me so I can give it to Him. This has been so helpful in my walk. I love all your videos and I hope by the things I have said that you feel like I am critical because of anything I say. I do not have all the answers, I just put my thoughts and comments out here to help. I'm sorry if you have ever been hurt by any of my comments- that would never be my intention!

I recently heard or read about self esteem that we need to accept we are built in Gods image and we need to love the other because we are “one”. We can’t tear something down about ourselves! We tear down God. It sure made me wanna be the best version of myself and be more like Jesus. ( If that makes sense)

Really appreciate both your honesty and transparency in this

I have been watching you guys for a couple of years now and I think your doing an amazing job loving the Lord, raising your children and just trying to make it in this fallen world. I am encouraged by the both of you and I just love seeing Xanders smile and hearing his laugh! It's joy to my heart! May God bless your family in whatever He has for your future weather you keep doing youtube or not. I will miss you if God's has you quit but you must obey the calling the Lord has for you. I encourage you to carry on with your lovely family. May God bless you! 😁❤

I agree with you. I am really grateful that I have can be a mother to my two children.

You are so sweet in I love how your son just patiently wait’s for you to be finished ❤

You guys are so wise and godly, I wish my husband and I had someone like you guys in our life ❤️ love these kinds of videos. God bless you

Time together...... When you have babies, littles, young children... I think it's recognizing those micro moments while life is happening... that meeting in the doorway or as you were passing through the hall, or standing at the kitchen counter and just taking that moment to be intentional in noticing each other with a hug etc😉 Or even just a caring word or two.

How fun, loved the visit. God bless you all during the Advent season.

Good evening from Texas just love your videos we’ve been married 40 years and I believe what you’ve been saying is so true love you and may God bless you❤

I really enjoyed hearing your perspective on self esteem! I completely agree with what you shared, thank you!

Even though I’m single, I appreciated this video. You both have found a tremendous mission field on RU-vid, by living and sharing anabaptist teaching to your subscribers and the entire world. God bless you both and keep up your work!

I wouldn't worry about date nights tbh......once the kids are in bed then you can spend time together then as a couple with a hot drink, a movie on the computer and some cake,......or just chatting about what's going on in your lives etc.....just chat for the sake of it and enjoy each other's company! Trouble is, with social media, there's to high an expectation put on couples and families to be 'perfect'......your life and marriage is perfect for you. Lovely hearing Nolan's take on things and Janine......you remind me very much of myself lol.....very direct in your speech and level headed.......can't be doing with smoke amd and mirrors......and no pretence! Don't change love........

Enjoyed this so much!! Looking forward to more videos like this!!

I enjoyed your video. It's always nice seeing the 2 of you together, with a cameo appearance from Xander. Looking forward to future videos. You are blessed.

Another great Q nA from the both of you!!! Thank you for being willing to be open like this and share your thoughts, such an inspiration to us!!! God bless you and your family!!!

Quick question, you mentioned how in your church people can't get remarried if their former spouse is still living. Are there any times special circumstances allow for this? Take for instance if your former spouse was seriously physically abusive or now is in prison for horrible crimes or something like that.

The first video I ever watched was when you cleaned up the whole house because your mother-in-law was coming over. And there I was schooled up. I like your videos n skills you have and just enjoy watching your life through here. Love the content

I have to agree with Ozark View. I think she said it so beautifully. I enjoy when you do the Q&A. It’s so interesting what people ask. My heart feels you are a beautiful couple with a beautiful family. Your not perfect as none of us are but most of the time your always on the same page. You both love the Lord n I find that’s the most important part of a marriage. Unfortunately In my marriage my husband wasn’t saved. I prayed for him all the time n before I knew it dementia had set in. I prayed for him when I knew the time was coming to a end for him n I like to believe God heard me. He was a good man a good husband n father. I’m thankful of the 52 years we had together. In this Dec. will be a year since his passing. Your both so lucky to have each other for your so blessed. My love I send to you n your family. ♥️♥️♥️♥️😊👍🌟

Wonderful video. Thank you and your husband for sharing. It helps having views and input that can add to an individual's view of life events. God Bless you and your family.

yay! I can’t wait to watch now while me toddler naps!! your channel is a huge inspiration for me. thank you 💖🙏💖🙏💖

I love watching your Videos, you are a Beautiful Family and I Love seeing Zander and Lexi and watching them Grow.

I feel like you 2 are some of my closest friends & even though we don't actually know each other, I look forward to your videos & I love that you guys are just honest. Some RU-vid channels are so fake & it stresses me out. Your channel is just so wholesome & comforting. God bless you all 💕

Do not listen to the Negative Nellys! We all are different! You do you! What works for you, that is fine! Some people are never happy no matter what! I think you two are fine! Zander is so bright and happy! You go girl!😊

Love Nolan’s Swiss mug🥰

❤Thanks so much for sharing! Great video Jeanine!! Sending love & prayers 🥰🙏🏻❤️

Great Advice! Thank you for sharing 😊

I love your Q and A's guys you could talk all day and I would listen xx

I love hearing your perspectives. Thanks for putting yourselves out there and also pointing us to Jesus!

I really wish you all were my neighbors. It’s so awesome to see Christian values lived in todays world. Just a little advice about time on RU-vid vs time with family…Maybe cut RU-vid time in half. But please for my sake, don’t quit. I’m a 76 year old grandmother and widow. I NEED you!!! Don’t mean to be selfish but I love you and your family sooo much. Love the video of Switzerland. I also hv family there but hv never been. May the Lord bless you and keep you and give you peace. ❤

Great video! Love your family, and you both are amazing parents with exceptional children!

Hi have to tell you that I think you two are such a beautiful couple I really love watching your channel and seen your beautiful children.

“You only have the right to be hard on one person, and that’s yourself.” Wow! What a good thought. I’ve always imagined it would be hard to have a large social media following and wish friends and family wouldn’t know. I enjoyed this video. Thank you!

Love hearing from you both!💟

I hear you about not living in the "desert", and here I am😒It was extremely hot and dry out here in the Midwest this summer. I told my husband if he was ready to move, I definitely was!! I was so done! But, I love him and have friends, so...

First thing - so funny when you said you don’t like desert or wet climates. I currently live in the California desert and grew up in rainy Washington state 😂

Please don’t leave us 😭😭😭 I understand your concerns regarding your children though, I would feel the same way. I am completely okay if you cut them out and just do videos of wisdom/Godly content (it’s such an encouragement to me!).

If you decide you are done with Utube it's totally ok! Your channel has given so much joy to a lot of people who just want to see a strong young couple raising their family in a God honoring way. Your children are precious. Zander is such a joy to watch. Such a sweet guy. Yes, I know he isn't perfect. I have 2 grown grandsons! Do what the Lord is telling you to do. I know you & Nolan will make the right decision. Grammy from Texas

So good, thank you. I really appreciate your channel. This is my little extra for you :) Phillipians 2:3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. That's my answer to self esteem. That said, compliments might not be a common thing 10+ years into marriage but they are really nice! I guess my message is, build up each other. We ought to esteem our spouse more highly than ourselves! Those compliments from a husband or wife go a long way!

Agree with some first comments about date night. Really I don’t think you actually “talk” then. It’s when you do things together that you become more close. Things as in day to day stuff.

I’ve learned in my 40 yr marriage. You must at all cost have time for just you 2. Date night, find someone to watch the kids get a hotel, and find each other over and over. At least 2 times a month, go get lost together. Or plan a romantic quickie with ur spouse when kids go down for the night. You make time for so much bull crap in our lives, but we are to exhausted when it comes to our spouse. Start with the lil things, notes, touching, wink across the table. Just lock ur self away if not for 5 min and talk and communicate, flirt…..and where does ur husband work and are you gonna homeschool

Thanks for sharing. So much I could say about marriage making time for each other and being jealous. I honestly could go on. Being married now years we have learned so much that it seems to just be easier You both are good Godly folks and you will figure it all out together as long as you both put God first. I appreciate both of you and the honest opinions you both give. blessing on you and your family.

My marriage has improved with going on a date every week. Think this depends on the husband and wife situation. For me ,my husband works long hours during the week. I don't see him in the morning, as he gets up very early and when he comes home he finds he needs to de-stress from work. Me I am a quality time person , so a lot of our married life I felt unloved and unnoticed by him. We then decided to introduce dates with each other. Every Sunday. It is the best day of my week. And I have found it gives me something to look forward too. It doesn't need to cost a lot of money either.

I thing you both are awesome 👌 hope you keep your channel going

My sister loves Paris! They go to France at least twice a year for a month at a time.

When our kids were young, date nights were really hard. So we would feed the kids once a week and put them to bed and then order Chinese and we ate later. The kids knew this, they were aware of this one night being mom and dad’s evening together. Did they come out for 10,000 drinks of water etc? Yes. But it gets easier w time. Keep up the great work, guys!

Next thing - I learned recently about one couple that did “date night every night” at home when their kids were super small. They would put the kids to bed and spend time together from 8-9. Of course they couldn’t do it every single night but they aimed for whenever they were at home.

You both ate fabulous examples in a world filled with tragedy and godlessness. So many need to hear the life gospel you share.

Where did you both grow up? One of your videos said Nolan grew up in Eastern Oregon near Boise. I also grew up in Eastern Oregon in John Day. How did you meet?

Great questions and answers!

Oh. My. Goodness. We are sooo alike in personalities and my husband sounds like yours!!

I wonder why it is that people rarely entertain at home any more. We really prefer to have people over to our house than to go out somewhere. It's much more relaxed and comfortable.When we were kids we spent a lot more time playing with the children of our parent's friends or our cousins than with our own friends.

I really like the idea of the game you would play on date night where you just ask each other random questions. I don't think my husband would go for that though.

I rally enjoyed listening to this!!!😀

“I am” statements belong to God. Nolan hit the nail in the head. It’s not all about “me”.