I love how it shows both sides so well like it's so perfect for showing the damned if you do and damned if you don't thing. On the bright side there's probably going to be a lot of animal adoptions now.
Enjoy the growth during the season of singleness and enjoy the mentoring of the next generation when you have lived and learned. It doesn’t matter what season of life you’re in, it matters how you live the season of life you’re in. There are 31 verses in Proverbs, that’s considered a book filled with wisdom in the Bible, some people read one chapter every day in addition to other scriptures like the gospels (such as John). I recently heard someone joke that the Bible is basic instructions before leaving earth. Take time to know and apply no matter what part of your life your in.
Love the way you show both sides of coin. As a mom and the only parent out of all my friends and siblings it's both rewarding and draining😂 used to cringe at the thought of having kids but now I can't imagine my life without them. It's a daunting and scary transition from a childfree lifestyle, especially in today's world but I wouldn't trade it for anything. It's definitely not for everyone.
We are 50 with adult children now and omg so worth it but love the silence and doing what we want...you get back your sanity 20 some years after your bundle of joy
@@HUYI1 Keep telling yourself that. Humans are designed to make families...to be fruitful and multiply. Very, very few people are psychologically broken in the right ways to be able to stably fight that nature long term and not have it destroy them emotionally. Battling against your intended design for short term gratification that will not be what you always want is extremely foolish and speaks to having had poor parenting in your youth. Understand, I'm not judging...I've learned this myself. I wasn't taught it growing up either, and neither was my wife. We started late because didn't realize this truth when we were young.
Cracked up when Trey does the shimmy while saying “we do it whenever we want” then the camera goes to him holding an ice pack 😂. Oh, and what kind of short stubby baby has he ever met at 0:58 😂. It’s definitely not his 😄.
Pros and cons to both sides. When I was younger, I always observed how unhappy parents were and how they always complained about their children. Even just sitting in a waiting room, overhearing parents talk. So I thought, why would you choose that? That, plus the cost of daycare costs your entire paycheck. But there some cons being childless too. Good video, as always.
Lol as a new parent I have zero complaints. I have more complaints about being in my thirties and feeling the difference from twenties. Age hits you regardless, but children bring a joy to your life.
@@kaitlyng.473I’m with you. I’m very happy being a “mom” to my animal companions. I would take “unconditional love” and less money spent over kids any day.
@@ifyouwantoreplyjustclickth5063 Exactly! I've seen it first hand many times. Often times they even pass without any family there. Having kids doesn't guarantee you won't be alone.
My husband and I are retired DINKs and we live in a retirement community. All we ever hear from the people that have kids, is how awful their kids are. Most of them are still taking care of their adult children in one way or another. Either financially, childcare, food, but usually not shelter. Because they can’t live here unless they’re 55 or older. 🙏🏻 Hearing them complain all the time about their kids, has really validated our decision not to have any. Happy DINK. ☺️
Wow, how sad. The fact that all of the perspective you're getting from parents, are those living in a retirement community, seems like a pretty bias viewpoint from those who don't have close relationships with their kids. The fact that they are living away from their adult children in retirement homes, speaks for itself.
It's sad that you need other people in order to feel validated in the first place. And worse still by miserable strangers whose kids have no bearing whatsoever on what your kids could have turned out to be.
@@mbwilson8592 If you must know, we did try to have children and we were unable to. (3 miscarriages, and a bad kidney) And we’re OK with that. And we were OK with it before we moved here. We have friends that don’t live in retirement communities that feel the exact same way about their kids, that people here do, and several whose kids are still living with them, along with their significant others. So I feel I’ve made the best of a bad situation, because I have one less thing to worry about. Especially since my husband has cancer right now.
Happy I lived both lives. 3 years as newlyweds without kids and now have 2. Both have ups and downs. It was fun for a while to eat out and take vacations but at a certain point life started to feel empty. Not always perfect with kids, and anyone who tells you otherwise is a liar. but I love the renewed passion for my work as a provider. My biweekly check is not just another restaurant or vacation but $ I can now spend providing my kids with fun times. I get to re-live my fun childhood at all the neat places we go.
Except for finding them; stepping over them and the adult illiteracy and malnutrition. 😆 But there is the extra added benefit of all that light and dark fur to decorate your living room.
Yep, no such thing as a perfect life, whether you have kids or not… Though I will say some ppl are definitely better suited to #parentlife than others, and some ppl sincerely are much happier on #teamnokids. Takes all kinds! 😊
Being a parent has been the best thing ever, but probably because we’re the first on both sides to have kids and get lots of help and attention for the baby. It’s probably a lot harder down the road.
@@maisg3513 lol! Honestly I would be overwhelmed if it was all on me. But they love the time with baby and I’m happy to share him. But we’ll be moving soon and my female relatives that got married/are getting married this year might miss their “auntie” time enough to have their own. It’s almost been like a test run for them! 😂
I am always sick and don’t have time for myself but my kids made me happier then when I didn’t have any and I never thought I would, it’s not for everyone and that’s ok I waited till my 30s.
My younger brother says he doesn't make enough money to have kids and doesn't wanna have to pay child support so he chose to not have kids. To each his own. I have two of my own and I love motherhood.
so is adoption a foreign concept or do you think having dual incomes with good jobs and a desire to take care of a kid somehow puts you at the bottom of the list? i mean dink still wins cause the second part can not only be solved easily but you can also choose to "miss out" on the wonderful 0-4 year period or longer if you want to. hell get a school age child and you dont even have to full time it out of the gate
My social group (30s/40s) is pretty much entirely childfree so the line about DINKs having trouble hanging out with friends seemed weird to me. There are a couple of classmates that have had kids, but it seems like the majority of people chose not to, or haven't been in a position to have kids.
Yeah same here. I can count on one hand the number of my high school OR college friends who have kids at our big age of early 30s. I think it's a bit of selection bias, tbh. I probably wouldn't get super close to someone who wanted kids in the first place, cuz we probably don't have a lot of the same values. And someone who already has kids? What do we even have in common?? The idea that child free adults don't have a social life is a stereotype. If anything, our social lives are thriving lol
Although I did enjoy this video (like everything Trey makes lol), I don't necessarily believe everyone's life wouldn't be complete without kids. I believe everyone has different goals, and at the end of the day it is up to you to get out of your comfort zone, make friends and try different things. 😌 I am that type of person But love you Trey, don't stop doing what you're doing!! 🫶
We are Dicks- Dual income, countless kids. Definitely could add some added stress in there, especially working opposite shifts as your spouse to avoid daycare costs.
Just turned 46, been married 18 years and decided not to have kids and NEVER regret that choice. We have pets and nieces and nephews so thats nice lol. I dont miss having to worry about a child in this crazy world today. We so enjoy just relaxing, traveling when and where and for however long we want, dont have to worry about paying for college or leaving any inheritance lol. Im sure having a child is the best thing ever, but for us, not having kids has been a choice we have never regretted.
I'm 42, now a widow, no kids. Never have I regretted my/our decision to not have children. I have 3 nieces and a nephew and my pets, friends etc. I don't need anything else. Not sure if I want a new relationship either. I'm an introvert.
oh god.... yeah. that existential dread (but having kids to fill that and assuming they'll there to inherit, or to bury you, etc isn't the right reason to have kids i don't think.) "the government will get all of this". juxtaposed with "there'll be nothing left when we're gone" *holds up kids toy* "how much WAS this??" with existential despair.
"we get to do whatever we want on weekends. except hang out with our friends who have kids....... and that's most of them." HITS HARD. but also, can't do the kids thing, i'd jump off a bridge.
It won't last long term. Humans are designed to make families...to be fruitful and multiply. Very, very few people are psychologically broken in the right ways to be able to stably fight that nature long term and not have it destroy them emotionally. Battling against your intended design for short term gratification that will not be what you always want is extremely foolish and speaks to having had poor parenting in your youth. Understand, I'm not judging...I've learned this myself. I wasn't taught it growing up either, and neither was my wife. We started late because didn't realize this truth when we were young.
People aren’t broken just because they don’t want families. Plenty of beings, even outside the human species, out there are asexual or gay so they don’t reproduce. Doesn’t mean they’re broken, they’re just different from the norm. Wishing this commenter healing from this mindset and a happy life
@@meaganl124 Not wanting children in the here and now doesn't me they are "broken"...no. But it very much means there is an extremely high likelihood of there lives becoming gradually more empty and vapid as the years roll on. And, the typical method of care for people in later life is via children...these people will have no one. They are already confessing their intention to be a burden on society at large because they will not be contributing to it...but rather detracting from it. That is, in essence, a broken mentality when compared with all of human history. And let's not even bother talking about those that are perverted. They are corrupted and broken, and since this conversation is about having children...they have no place in it.
I haven’t found a single con to not having children . 🤷🏾♀️ I guess it depends on how secure you are within yourself whether or not you have the cons shown in this video.
The only con I can think of is who will take my stuff when I die? Including my personal stuff like my albums and things like that, because I can’t give those things to just anyone. And this video just added the “who will bury me?” question into the mix. Have you figured all of those things out yet?
Psh, we’re not DINKs, we’re DILDOs (dual income little dog owners). Hahaha but seriously, I don’t try to find meaning in my job, I just have lots of awesome hobbies and do a ton of volunteering. Feels pretty meaningful to me. 😁
OMGoodness Trey, you’ll be in Eau Claire, Wis (this Thursday1/18) during the deep freeze!😮🥶 The 10 day forecast has the high @ 10 & the low 0. At least it won’t be below -0 unless there’s a windchill.🌬️💨 Better wear your long johns!😊 Bring your parka, wool hat & socks, boots, lady scarf, & choppers!.🧦🥾🧣🧤
