She's using two extremes as examples to show that she'd rather have side A over side Z in the worst case scenario, I mean obviously we all want someone who can afford to take us out to extravagant places without couponing but if it came down to it would you rather your partner splurge money they didn't have or save money
Hmm.. Loni's delivery of what she was trying to say was off. The coupon thing depends on a number of things. 1. Where you are in life. if you're in your 30s and looking for someone who matches what you bring to the table then maybe a guy who uses coupons isn't for you 2. Depends on where the date is, and the creativity because there are good free dates like the museum. It wouldn't bother me, but I could see being older and financially secure and not wanting to be with someone that wants to scrimp and save (on the first date) when you're already established.
Like I said I wouldn't have an issue with it. I agree with Tamera, Jeannie, and Adrienne, but from my understanding Loni goes out with the REAL co-hosts and their husbands to nice places and often pays for everyone because she is able to do so without needing a coupon. I think she just wants someone who is on her level financially and not someone who's still in the scrimping and saving stages of life.
I hated it when she kept saying "if you can't afford to date me, don't date me" like bringing out a coupon doesn't automatically coincide with being broke. We out here in an economic deficit loni! if I can save a buck , heck imma save a buck!
MAN HERE: 1. Get a trim: $10-20 2. Get a fresh outfit: $80-$150 3. Fill up the tank: $35 4. Research the restaurant/check the menus/reserve the restaurant: 45mins 5. Wash car and clean it: 1 hour 6. Pick you up and drive to the restaurant: 45 mins 7. Pay for food and drinks, dessert + tip: $60-$100 8. Go to the movies + snacks : $40 9. Drive you home: 40mins 10. Get laughed at for using a coupon, get blocked on social media, number deleted and you telling your homegirls that men aint sh*t: PRICELESS
No way. Pick one if you are going to the movies, just go to the movies and if you are going to dinner just go to dinner. Way too much to be paying for on a first day my friend. lol
I wonder if her answer would have been different if this question would have been posed to her say 20 years ago. She is in her 40's and she is far more successful now than then. I think her answer would be different.
I agree. Loni's delivery of what she was trying to say was off. The coupon thing depends on a number of things. 1. Where you are in life. 2. What you have to offer 3. Depends on where the date is, and the creativity because there are good free dates like the museum. It wouldn't bother me, but I could see being older and financially secure and not wanting to be with someone that wants to scrimp and save (on the first date) when you're already established.
Cray May girl say that for the choir. It'd be different if you went half or guaranteed him some head, but if you just chilling? If i got some cheese sticks with curly fries a bitch gone be quiet 💯💯💯
FREE...that is one of my favorite words. Cheap, however, I don't care for. If you don't know the difference look it up, dont leave uninformed/misinformed comments. 🙂
Right on the spot Jeannie. At least you know earlier that your dating a guy who wise at spending his money. Being practical sounds great. Dates don't have to be always fancy and expensive. What matter the most is the fun and memories you shared together.
My husband and I met when we were both homeless and volunteering for churches serving others. Our first date was Little Caesar's pizza in a parking lot. We don't have any false ideas about each other or what we are worth to each other. He fell on hard times, so did I. But now, we can afford to go where we want. (But he loves my home cooking more than anywhere we go.) We have a great life together because of the struggles we both had. Broke doesn't mean bad person. "It is easier for a camel to get through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter Heaven." My husband is rich in the way it counts- an amazing heart and love for other people. We have all we need and give away what we don't. We are truly blessed!
Nope Hell NAW, im riding with that guy. He is SMART! You bring a coupon im looking at you like Hello future husband. Lets spend that money with our HOUSE, Vacations etc. Not some random ass date.
Karma Farrah Thank you! Money is not something to be wasted. As long as I eat decent/good food, I couldn't care less what you do with YOUR hard earned money.
You consider yourself some random ass date? Lol. If a guy genuinely does not have the money then I'm fine with the coupon but if he can afford it, he should spend on me.
Lamoya Doeman you want him to blow all the money on dates when he could be investing into a house, vacations, etc. like she said? That's what she meant by "random ass date". & if a man can afford it AND uses coupons, then I know for a fact he spends well, which means he got money.
I’m sorry Loni made me so mad during this show! “If you can’t afford to date, don’t date”. What kind of stuff is that? Yea sweetie that’s why your single
Loni is so damn childish, sis you the oldest one at the table but the one that needs to grow tf up. I'm starting to think she's not single by choice like she leads us to believe. I'm glad that audience member said THAT'S WHY YOU STILL SINGLE
Kashief Mc she definitely isn't single by choice. she drops hints here and there that she may remarry if she finds someone, etc. she got a bad attitude towards men and they probably feel it
She just seems to be very old-fashioned when it comes to dating. It's modern times, thinga are expensive and people gotta save. I'm not going to say "That's why you still single" though. We don't know her whole past and everything she went through and I'm not going to judge her for her dating preferances. She was just being real, and the name of the show is The Real isn't it?
To my experience, when restaurants (buffet) offer a promotion, they usually remove those quality good food and leave us with the "inferior" foods. That's how they still make a profit.
Shout out to Jeannie and Adrienne for being the kind of women we would want to marry. I never had to use coupons on a date but even if I did its nice to know you two would understand.
They both start from poor backgrounds too making them be humble with more humility, Tam & Loni had money earlier on in life than them two and they are used to certain things. Going after a woman in your means is best to avoid those type who don’t want to see coupons being used.v
Loni annoyed the SH*T out of me with this one. If I met a guy, and he asked me out. And he was kind, sweet, had a great personality, was interested in me and did everything right and *PAID*. You're telling me, he's whack if he pulled out a coupon? I would be IN LOVE AF if someone did that. You took me out, we had a great time and paid. Who TF cares if you used a coupon? Not me, and if you do, good luck finding a man. Priorities like that are f*cked up. Jeanie was so right, the richest people in the world are the best savers. The money he's saving today will bless you in the future when you hopefully won't have to worry about money.
oh.. so this is YOUR SHOW loni? when did that happen? So you gotta have money to spend to date? That audience guy read her and her true colors showed! Your attitude and entitlement is why no man stick around. if I was a man I would show out every first date, men aren't made of money.
If your a very picky person date someone on your level, don't date a man who has a big house a nice car and a good job and meanwhile your a woman who lives with your parents , no car and no job , you also have to bring something to the table and remember that man might have gotten all that probably by using coupons 😀 ( I love coupons)
Side note: Adrienne I see your highlight girl! YES! 👏 On The Real note: I don't have a problem with anyone using a coupon, like shoot I use coupons and I love the heck out of them! If I can save money you bet I will be saving my money! My boyfriend and I share meals all the time, we use coupons all the time, and we're happy. Just my thoughts though 😊
A first date is especially the best time for a coupon. I wouldn't want someone to spend loads of money on me, only for me to tell him that I'm not interested and would not like a second date.
I don't have a problem about a man using coupons, what I'm worried about is if he drive you to McDonalds for that dollar menu date. I know the McChicken's be fye butttt.... #TellatBoyBye ✌🏽
Yeah Loni got hot. xD She was dead wrong though. Adrienne was right to ask her "Is there a price bracket to date?". You can be poor and still be worth someone's time. Loni and Tamera are acting like a work in progress is a nobody. Those are the women that successful men tell stories about. How they didn't believe in them and left them for someone else. I wouldn't take advice from loni anyway. She's the only one at that table in her 30s or 40s with a failed marriage and no children. Girl Bye.
LOOOL IM DEAD 3:34😂😂💀this had me weak af, Man in audience: thats why u stay single *everyone applauds* 🐸☕️👀 Jeannie: give it up for the man who said u stay single Yass! Loni: THIS MY SHOW!!!😒 let me talk hahah Loni be all in her feelings😂😂 audience and co-host shading her like that!!
h Bag she said he spent A total of 1000 dollars overall after 6 months of going to her favorite restaurant " P.F. Chang's" there's a difference ! He was showing that he was interested by taking her somewhere she loved
It's tricky because at the same time a guy will place value on a female based on the value she places on herself. So it's not just on the guys back it's also on the girls back to ensure that she values herself. Using a coupon on the first date is not bad if he genuinely likes you but CAN'T afford an outing. It's only bad when he CAN afford to but wants to be cheap. That's where the problem lies.
The fact that the guy took the time to plan a date to the point that he has a Groupon that's a good look to me. Life is expensive. If I couldn't afford to do all that why should I hold it against him?
im a guy. u aint that important if its the FIRST date. give it a few months/ years then ill really spoil you. but £100+ on a date with a chick they might be scamming me for food.... nah
Clint Easton I'm glad you said that because I was thinking a guy not willing to pay full price just feel the girl isnt that important so thanks for clearkng that up.
i think nothing is wrong with a coupon/groupon .Think about the quality of conversation and fun you had. All because you use a coupon doesn't mean your poor or cheap 👎👎it means you wanna keep your money👍👍. even if he doesn't have a lot of money be nice enough to not shut him down. Loni was kinda rude "if you cant afford to date me dont take me out" 👎💩💩maybe he wants to take you to the nicest restaurant in town and can afford but would love to save some money. I feel like you should be more focused on how he's treating you 💆and if you're having a good time💃. you can be missing out on a great guy because of something as petty bougiee and "first-world" as judging him because he pulled out a groupon. COME ON NOW.😒 I met people who blow money on me and i dont have a good time. Money doesn't equal manners and Cash doesn't equal commitment 💯💯✌✌
I'm kinda boujie, but as long as the guy puts effort into the first date and remains a gentleman, I can't miss out on a good guy because he wants to be frugal with his money. Too many assholes out there for me to be so picky as a single girl 🙃
Loni grow up, The reason why you are single is because you expect men to be financially staple not all men have it together, like I always say if your looking for a man who is financially stable then date a man in your age range who has worked and established a career for themselves. You can not place that type of expectation on young men a lot of them are working to get established, whether it is going to school, or working in order to save up money. Now if she wasn't successful and she was dating a man who was couldn't that man say the exact same thing she said "you cannot afford me so you cannot date me" Really Loni, who cares if the man pay for dinner with a coupon, your not paying so you shouldn't be complaining. I am a young man in college and working in order to pay off student loan debts so you mean to tell me if a guy is not financially stable then they should not date whoa. I have six sisters they are radio broadcasters, clinic managers, chemist, food safety managers, nurse practitioners, and a pharmacist all of them are married and at the time of them meeting their husbands, the young men was not financially stable so it was a many of days that they paid for dinner, with coupons. Loni please be quiet because that is a stupid reason not to date someone. I always tell women "one man's trash is another mans treasure" So be careful when you discard a man because you might be throwing away a prince in the making. I feel like the only people offended by someone using a coupon on the first date are people who grew up privileged meaning they believe in the idea that fairy-tails exist but in reality fairy-tails are depictions that are not necessarily realistic because humans are flawed and they endure a lot of hardship before they become successful If you was a person who grew up poor and had to use coupons as your only means of survival then you understand the struggle "Never look down on a man, with out picking him up" that means do not dismiss a man or woman who use coupons because you might be throwing away a gold mine, relationships should be based on love, loyalty, and respect. If you work together then anything is possible to achieve.
And I'm not with all this new age stuff, aint no way in hell I'm taking a man out on no damn date unless we're in a long term relationship and I'm doing sumn particularly special for him, Loni fell and bumped her head, yall can believe all that "single and satisfied" stuff if u want, Loni got deeper issues....
It's not tacky, I think people are thinking of an actual paper coupon. It's on your phone and they scan it, and some places actually ask do you have the groupon if not maybe you should purchase it right now to get a discount. Groupons today are so normal. Maybe not for dinner but activities like autobahn racing, sip and paint night, paint ball etc. it saves you a whole lot and it's great for a first date.
Loni is trying it too much. "Your" show? If this is Loni's show, then Latavia was a lead singer in DC, Orlando Brown was relevant after 2006, and Jeannie only fantasizes about white men....I could go on all day. 🐸☕️
It so weird that girls like Adrienne who is really beautiful. Gorgeous even are so understanding but loni the one with high standards from jump lol. Using coupons doesn't equal broke. If you have them it be a waste not to save money. Why does money equal a good date. Did you enjoy the conversation. And even if they not the richest guy in the world. That doesn't mean they always going be that way. Ambition and hard work go far.
Blake Coston thats rude! Loni is beautiful I don't what kind of standard u have but her beautiful blackness is stunning! And are u saying even ugly people can't have standards???? Are they not worthy, chai now! Mmchewe
It's strange, because I have a feeling that many of these "understanding" girls in this very comment section would also be at least a little bit embarrassed if their first date started counting out coupons when it's time to pay the bill. I really don't get the reason for the hate. Loni is turned off by coupons at a first date and she was being real and true to herself when she admitted that.
Wow this conversation did NOT make sense at all. You're not ok with a guy using a coupon on a first date, but ok with him taking you out during happy hour so the meals are cheaper? Isn't that basically THE SAME THING? This in my opinion is just shallow thinking. You want a guy to spend all his money on you on the first date just to impress you? I'm with Jeannie looking at the date as a whole. You treat me with respect, take me out to dinner, drive, pay, etc. That's a good first date. Coupon or not.
I was thinking the exact same thing 😂 listen to what Tamar said on "The Real: Don't Eat That on The First Date" and think about how she'd respond to somebody using a coupon to [help] pay for the meal.
Good one, I remember - Tamar said if you're not feelin' the date, then end it and leave. Don't feel bad about it, what you should feel bad about is staying and having that man spend his money on you and then you never call him again... Adrienne said she'd stay and even offer to go dutch - Tamar nearly lost it 😂
I'm usually a Jeannie person but I 100% agree with Loni don't pull out coupons on the first few dates for gods sake. A little bit later would be absolutely fine but your supposed to be pulling out all the stops at the very beginning. The 'happy hour' would be alright though
I feel like if you love me and want to take me out and show me how much you love me ( and your funds are lacking ) but you still out the effort in then I'm all for it. I've thrifted, couponed and certainly understand the funds situation. I'm only 19, so if my man has to use coupons what else can I expect, I am a student, don't have a job so how can I expect him at 19 to have it all together. Now if you're 40 and still don't have that fund situation pulled together, I got a problem.
Khala Sutherland I so agree as a fellow college student. It's all about his character as a human being. As long as he's a gentleman than that is the most important thing.
"That's why you're single [Loni]" haha well said. There's nothing wrong with a man that likes to save money. It doesn't make you any less of a man to use coupons.
At the end of the day first impression last- I agree with Loni. I want to feel like he is putting out that effort and not just a convenience of a coupon use. However, it depends on the nature of the date and all other dates after that he is free to use watever!
no it wasn't the question was if you are on a date not the first date and then tamera mentioned first dates. The answer should still be he same though you aren't paying why are you complaining.
DeAndre Johnson Clearly no one here has a problem with coupons later on down the road just the first few dates. And I like how all of a sudden it's complaining when someone with a differing opinion sees our comments. If it's that bad, you didn't have to comment in the first place.
Ariadne Bene To express dissatisfaction with something, i.e. a man using a coupon for a meal you aren't paying for, is the literal definition of the word complaining, I mean come on if you are going to try to argue at least do it with something intelligence. And I'll ask again since no one ever gives a clear answer, if you are not paying for the meal why are you complaining about how it gets paid for? It's not your money possible being wasted on a useless date so why do you feel the right to complain? Do women seriously have that big of ego to think they deserve everything on the first date? And women have the audacity to call men sexist, misogynist and chauvinist when are way worse.
I'm a 20 yr old college student, my broke ass is all about saving a coin. & I utilize my student discount! I'm always looking for a discount. Y'all want a man that blows his whole check just to look "cool" in front of you, or one that knows how to save and invest?!
Loni is older than her co-hosts and more traditional in her views of dating impressions. She didn't say never ever to use coupons. She just saying in the beginning of dating, not to show the girl your coupons. First impressions are always important because it sets the tone of your future dates. I'm sure all girls can appreciate a man knowing how to save money but it can be misconstrued on a first date.
jyn88 this is the most logical, non offensive comment on here. I see coupons as a more personal thing to use? Once you’re comfortably in a relationship and have discussed finances, etc. But on a first date, idc if it’s just a burger place but it’s more of making a girl feel special. Not “nice taking you out, got it for cheap too.” Idk, I understand what Loni and Tamera were trying to say and I think their comments were misconstrued and labeled as “gold digging.” Jeannie and Adrienne are men pleasers, they tend to care more about what the other person in the relation feels and how comfortable they are before themselves (what I’ve perceived from watching the show and different experiences they’ve shared with us, the audience) whereas, Tamera and Loni are more straightforward, how are we BOTH content and getting what we want out of this.
Im tired and not feeling to explain why but thats a little ignorant to say. They're not men pleasers they just understand that its not all about the money, there are other more important things about a guy. I get the first date thing but its not saying" i did it for cheap too" its saying" maybe i don't have alot but i still wanna take a bomb girl like you out". Make sense? Would you rather him take you somewhere shitty and pay full price or somewhere bomb half off for a first date?
Laura Paniagua so true. Same thing I'm saying. Not on the very first date. Normally you want to impress but still stay true to yourself. When y'all are on that level...then groupon all u want.
Loni isn't dating for long term succes, she just wants a good time for a short time, so of course she would say that, she's not worried about values amd traits that would make someone a good husband, if that man has goals and he's saving money to reach those goals then he's husband material, but she's not worried about that.... and Tamera obviously been having money since she was a kid/teenager so of course she would say that.... loni is ignorant, i just lost a lot of respect for her.... Adrienne and Jeannie, yall alright in my book, way to stay down to earth!
I'm sooo not here for this convo. -.- I think it's p.e.t.t.y. for a woman to be picky like that when they are already eating for free. If there is an issue, then put half on it.
"If you using coupons on the first date..." I would rather someone be upfront and real with me about it. I couldn't give 2 fucks if you use a coupon, I love saving money. Loni doing too much for me, personally. It's not they can't AFFORD to date, they just like saving money. But that's probably why she's still single.
I think a lot of it has to do w/ the attitude and mindset of the people involved. You do learn a lot about a person that way.Good to know these things BEFORE getting married.
Groupon is amazing! My fiance and I used it when we started dating and still use it. We can go to some really nice restaurants for cheaper and try new things!
I think the reason the coupon looks tacky is because the other person might assume that the coupon is the reason the date was possible. As in, if it were more expensive the other person wouldn't want to take you out, therefore putting a value on your worth which is inevitably pretty cheap. In reality I don't think that's always the case.
What's to bet that these same women who don't want their date to use the Groupon are also the same women who don't want to go dutch on the date. At least this way the guy is paying for the date and saving for the next one.
I dont have a problem with a coupon. I have a problem with someone who just got whatever coupon and took me there because he just didn't care enough. Effort is key.
You want him to have to secretly pay if he's using a coupon? That's lame lol. If he's gonna use a coupon, use it. I'm not gonna lie and say that I wouldn't take note of it, but i'd 100% still date him if we had a nice time.The only reason i'd "take note of it" is because i'd be wondering if he's a smart saver or one of those people who wont do anything that's not discounted or go to great lengths to save money. Like my uncle who refuses to buy a decent pair of $10-$30 dollar headphones and instead buys $1 headphones that sound terrible and constantly break lol. I guess it just really matters because it's a first impression on a first date.
