it’s still hard to grieve all you lost to them knowing there’s no chance of any recognition reclaiming that stolen is so laborious… we’ve been processing our demons with the Void of space they can not see what they are they can’t perceive it and we all suffer for it weeee #2Spirit #indigenous #ottawa #toronto #audhd
There are ways of being alone without being lonely. 1. I like walks in natural surroundings where I can be “in the moment”. Not planning the future or thinking about the past. 2. Seeing a comedy movie. Get yerself some popcorn and laugh for an afternoon. By the way Danish, I wasn’t aware of your impressive achievements.
My narcisistic husband died recently but the chaos he has created in my and my son's life will take time to settle down .Not a single person is calling him as a good person except his mother.Now please guide me how to come out of it.Your. Videos have guided me a lot during these days
Authenticity. Peace. Freedom. You have to wear a facade around a narcissist. I know now that I could never pretend to be something I'm not and I get triggered (with anxiety) when I'm around those who do.
Once you escape and finally find a safe mental, emotional, physical space to shelter..it is so easy to just stay there. that is how its been for me. especially since I have a young son (9). I did just enough struggling and work to get free and have spent the last couple year justifying why i am motionless. i want to get moving.
I’m putting a vision board together to help me with my journey. Thank you SO Much Danish, I’ve been following you for 3 years now. You’ve helped me to move on from my abusive ex narcissistic husband.🙏🏾
12 years of daily roller coaster drama. I kept hoping and jumped through hoops daily, anything to shut him up! So , NOT me! I’ve met a whole new bunch of people through volunteer work. Enjoying the peace and quiet in MY apartment . And my doctor changed anxiety meds…. I don’t like/ want to take these , however, the anxiety / heart racing were debilitating. I’m now seeing things with less volatile emotions. Danish, you’re a life saver. 🙏
@@caroleminke6116 - thanks, my diet is good and getting back to exercise… the heart racing just wouldn’t stop. Hopefully this is a temporary fix, until the brain chemicals catch up. I know I’m better off… snowy day, cup of tea and you tube fireplace 😜 Thank for your support
Same 12 years of narcissistic abuse and legal issues back to back. He was deported yesterday and I am smiling. Now I have to start getting my life back on track
@@vidsupercharged1622 I'm a year and 3 months gone now, at the beginning it was really hard, I totally agree, I just tried helping other people, that gave me a sense of worth, and I keep trying out things to figure out what I'm good at, it does get easier ✨💚✨
@vidsupercharged1622 Can you remember anything you enjoyed doing before, it doesn't have to be something complicated, the simpler the better. Anything that brings you peace - buying the foods you like/love, speaking to neighbors or friends they hated but whom you were okay with etc. Be led by an inner peace and calm. Love yourself and if you can send blessings and good will to those that have hurt and harm you because by doing so you're removing their power to cause you harm. Peace, blessings and abundance in everything good.
@@Island1Life. I remembered what I did earlier. I've started taking care of myself. It's only been a week since self care, self love has started. I'm trying my best. Thank you
I dont know who i am , i cant leave the house and my life is falling apart around my head . But today im making a change after listening to this. Thank you
Great video! I have implemented a lot of these steps and skills in my life post-abuse. Self compassion is imperative! We are hard-wired to expect the abuse so it's easy to continue abusing ourselves once the abuser is out of the picture. Don't pick up where they left off. The BEST thing I took the time to do was to learn unconditional self love ❤
Thank you so much for your video! I am a daughter of perverse narc, I start my life anew at my 39... (better late than never) Your video is very helpful.
Thank you Danish. This is one of the most highly valued video that I was looking for. And you got it for us. I needed a wayout now to start growing again. Thank you brother. And I thank God for guiding you to help us.. May you be blessed. 🤝
Brilliant, one of your best videos Danish. So many survivors need guidance from someone that understands. There is a path to a happy life of peace and freedom ❤
I had a friend that wanted to set me up with his friends for a date. I told him that I was broken inside and didn't want to mistreat someone because of it. It's been more than ten years since I've been divorced but still have serious trust issues. 😢
Danish you are the first person who validated my survivor's motivation. Each and every coach tells us to think positively, while I can only concentrate on what I don't want in my life, on what I want to avoid. Thank you for validation such way of thinking. It is really helpful!!!
Such insightfully brilliant and practical advice, Danish! Lest we forget that on our new path to authenticity and peace, we will inevitably meet new narcissists that will demand our discernment. This can sometimes make us feel feel frustrated and defeated, but this is when we must move on with self compassion. Some days I feel so stuck in that journey, having to navigate yet another narc individual or environment. However, taking baby steps, remaining grateful for small achievements, and seeing the good in God's creations is the key to maintaining that freedom. Thanks again, Danish, for aiding and abetting us iin our recovery in the BEST ways possible! ❤
On #1, that is how i have been doing it, and it's a very good place to launch from. On #2, i found the newfound freedom overwhelming to the point of stasis: if one day was 'good,' for some reason the next was a crash -- i cld not understand why, but i think "extremely narrow" was how my actual tolerance was, vs. what i thought it was. So what u said here has again been helpful 😊 fwiw, i found it useful at times to document what i did/accomplished in a day in order to say, "Ive done enough and don't need to hyper-perform. Calling it quits so i may preserve my tomorrow."
Thank you so much for your videos and shorts. They've helped me so much and I think at my my last stages of moving forward with my kids. I don't even know how to start but I will continue to watch your videos. I feel like there's a trap everywhere I go.
Danish, I have so much respect about your work, you have helped me so much in validating my feelings after narcissistic abuse when none was able to understand...keep up the great work❤
I feel so blessed that i have found your channel. I can look back and get the answers to so many things that i felt were off but didnt have an explanation for. Your are doing a great job. Much love to your journey Danish! I agree with the asking someone else for your hunger. As a kid my covert narc mom didnt stop feeding me even after i told her i feel full. After some years i couldnt comprehend what my eating capacity actually is. it resulted in me having frequent bouts of vomiting and my mother pretending to be innocent that she didnt know i will actually vomit from all this eating. it is only after i moved out did i start asking myself how much am i supposed to eat. It is my healing period from here on out!
Integrity, freedom and peace. I am 65, a senior dermatologist and have come to know about Narcissism from your videos recently but I am a strong woman and have been able to manage my life quite well but yes I feel lonely and crave for a companionship which I never got from my husband. Kindly guide.
Thank you for this episode and your ability to help me grow. I feel like we are all working together in understanding the steps you give us to work towards. I enjoy authenticity, honesty, compassion, and above all else true respect. I feel like I have them all but the true respect to be me. But I’m working on that one. Thank you
Thanks for this video. I grew up in a narc family system (still in it kinda). I'm in my 30s and have a kid. I'm still searching for myself under the trauma.
Excellent and helpful video for me personally and what I am doing so God is using you to confirm I’m on the right track Thank you for helping me and all of us here in this world!🌎 ❤😊
I want to have a freedom , i want to leave my father narcissist.....everytime hes making a trouble in our house, i dont know where to go, i remember before my mother passed away everytime my father fighting with my mother, i saw to my mothers face she dont know what to do and where to go....its very difficult to have a narccisst father....i wish it will end soon...
Why did God even allow it to happen??? I am genuinely confused if it was God punishing me and the narcissist was just the tool. Because i just don't see any repurcussions or karma for the narc.
God didn't allow this and neither is He punishing you, get that thought from your mind. More accurate would be to ask what was going on in your life and mind (thoughts) that resonated and attracted this into your life.
This is no God... I thought that also through the pain. This is lack of love of your parents. We use to mix love and unsecure together in childhood bcs we've learned this from parents. It starts to be normal for us even we know. This feelings are so familiar at the beginning of relationship with narcissistic that we can't recognize this danger and situation is going worst and worst even we try so hard. But as Danish said before... This is not love and by knowing that we can heal. I think this is not God but God is standing behind and waiting for you to come back home in your heart 💘
It has been five years since I filed divorce, still no boyfriend, but I need to focus on my life to be happy and fulfilled. To be fully cleaned out before another relationship.
advice please, they isolated me from young, abused me mentally,physically and now all i have left is myself and their passive agression,stalking,intimidating. both parents and siblings are narcistic, im the empath,scapegoat. im really sick now, dont know what to do anymore
Nothing but judgement, turmoil, lies and insults, my goodness how do they ever manage without us! Our daughter Skype called earlier, she's in Morocco, showed us the map, later wanna be narc hubby said he thought it was part of the Mediterranean (this guy's such a world traveller you wouldn't believe it, both he and his dad worked for the airlines which gave/gives them cheap passes) Having looked at the map prior I said I knew Morocco was on the Atlantic, boy did he flip like I'd said something weird.. I replied it's easy to see and why must I keep acting dumb so you'll like me! Ugh! 😊
Yes, rather have nothing and live on a mountain top, Himalayas, than in a mansion full of stuff, dirtbags called "family", narcissists, who disturbs both your peace and sleep.
I left to a different state but the toxic soul ties and control over my soul by my mom ruined me. She sucked the life out of me and became like a vulnerable narcissist instead she is usually a bully to me all my life and acted butch like a lesbian.
Somethimes it looks that there is no way out no matter how hard we try,people will judge and blame how we spend our time in this and nobody want to help ,nobody to liesten it is much harder when you have child and that child needs you ,it is hard to help yourself when you must first help another human .
Im at my worst. I feel im dieing each second snd i dont die once and for all ti escape. I dk if i can rezist anymore. Everything was HIM . He was everything im left with no air with nothing everything is black and im alone and it hurts SO MUCH I try to recover from meth as well tgank god i have a pretty tidy home...i only tidy things maybe because im so alone and i dont eat...idk what to do.. Why am i like this here i only loved him . I only helped people. And now nobodys with me nobody loves me . He wont talk to me only 2 mins on the phone when he screams. I wont be around fake people anymore and ill first do my needs. Food pills warmth home cleaness tidyness and peace of heart. I waited for him 3,5 years when in prison and when he came he wasnt home we barely had sex he was gone all the time in 5he past 3 years always gone. No sex. And i only waited for him cause he told me he loved only me 8 was his only woman but i saw him talkin to other women but he said its nothing its only in my head. It all started wheni started askin questions
I've only become recently aware that my abusive wife of 22 years is almost certainly a narcissist. I know I need to leave. Sounds crazy but what keeps me just from grabbing what I need and going is what if I'm wrong? Because if I am, my leaving will actually hurt her and I don't want to do that. Shit gets confusing.
If any woman had faced all narsistic abuse and narcissistic destroy her life fully including family, friends, relatives society against because narcissistic project all darkness that empathy was wrong. No one believe empathy including her family. How to survive such woman in this world along with this pain, trauma, insult because no one with her. How to what to do nothing expect darkness seen in picture .
Thank u brother. My narcissist husband came home and he started apologize after one and half year leaving me and my baby. What should I do shall I go with him as our divorce is applied or shall I leave him? I m sooo confused by social pressure, family pressure and my baby future. I m afraid if I go back if he kill me. He is dangerous kind of narcissist before he killed his wife and I m his second wife. With first wife he has daughter. I don't know how that girl live alone with my husband. Please help me with suitable advice🙏
Run like your hair is on fire. This will never get better. Try to call for help for the daughter After you and your baby are safe. These people do not change and if you choose to go back then that is all on you.
Ma'am. You just answered your own question. Why would you put not only yourself but your child in harms way if you got out of that dangerous situation? You have nothing to gain! Hear me when I say this.... He will be 10X worse if you go bad bc you left! I wish you the best, and I hope you turn to GOD in your time of need for strength! 🙏🏽
You answered your own question. If the daughter is not safe, you & the baby will not be safe either. Find a way to separate for the sake of your child’s safety.
Can pls someone say to me whatever I feel has happened ,actually didn't happened ,it's just I believe that it happened ,pls someone say to me it didn't happened it will never happen it wasn't TRUE it doesn't happen pls pls pls
Manipulation is very evil and subtly done.... that is probably why you are doubting yourself. Get out now my love. If you are in immediate danger call emergency service.
How is this even possible, forget probable? I dont see it.....I'm literally and figuratively hanging on by a thread, the pathological self-doubt having corroded almost all of my functional defense systems....leaving a tiny sliver between my Core sense of Self and paper thin protection. That's it...
