finally I have been roasted thoroughly. here's to every recovering people pleaser who's successfully said no a handful of times and is now slowly beginning to boil over with years of suppressed rage.
protip: it's a lot more effective to be a people pleaser if you create the illusion that you do have a mind of your own, by doing things like choosing a different movie or scented candle flavor as your favorite, or occasionally disagreeing with certain viewpoints. that way it feels more genuine and legitimate rather than just being friends with an AI program.
as a people-pleaser, i entirely agree! no, i mean actually actually agree: in my personal experience, disagreeing with people on the most surface-level of things has done nothing but train me better in the social theatre of 'safe' disagreements it has made my conflict avoidance easier to practice and more covert, as i can always disagree on the little things and people can form a cartoon-like image of me, based on what colours i wear or my favourite scented candle flavour, with all other aspects being assumed to be similar to their own what i hate more than being a people-pleaser is the advice people give me to get out of it 'ooh you don't have to please everyone all the time' 'pick strawberry even if the other picks chocolate' this will surely make me stop feeling like i need acceptance from strangers
@@stilianifakidaraki3724 People pleasers go out of their way to try to include everyone, which is well intended, but poorly received by people who do not want to take part. People pleasers can often be overbearing and too committed to trying to pry shy people out of their shells, cheer up depressed people, etc. If your daily life is miserable and someone at work keeps bugging you with small talk that you don't want to engage in and telling you to smile more or something like that, you will not like that person even though they mean well.
I still struggle with the people pleasing personality type and he's spot on. It stems from growing up with controlling types that you just want affection from.
As a lifelong People Pleaser, i was truly enjoying getting a jab ...that is until the bloke's complaint on name spelling! Had to go back to beginning and reduce speed to catch the name flash -- so my fav host is NOT a Ppl Plsr as not even least unapologetic that on this side of pond "y" generally masculine and "ie" fem (Something like Pol-ski and Rus-sky, I guess?)
people pleasures are a mirror, which means they're liked by people who are narcissist and vain, and hated by people who don't like themselves. what an insight!
this video hurt my feelings a little bit but it’s totally fine like seriously whatever, i’m glad you were able to present the message you wanted to!!! lmk if you ever need anything like at all :)
@@dahshnee i think you just have to learn to listen deeply to yourself. Take plenty of time in nature, meditate, and just figure out what you like doing. It's a process but it's very rewarding ...i wish you the best!
This video tickled and delighted me in equal measure, especially your trademark head down, low speed sprint away from the camera at the end - does that make you a people pleaser Frankie?
Please can you do one on people who wear pool slides in public? With particular focus on branded pool slides - eg Balenziaga. Keep up the good and hilarious work!
