Dad Discovers the Mental Load | Video | SBS Voices 

And remembering appointments and birthdays and grocery lists and medications and to feed yourself occasionally....

Fair enough! But on the other hand, you have to do that when you're single too.

@@Poodle_Guntrue, but you only have to do it for yourself. When you’re paying bills for more than one person it can get complicated. Taxes too. You have to ensure all the receipts for at least two, maybe more are at hand, everyone’s pay stub is in, etc. Doing anything only for yourself is loads easier.

​@@Poodle_Gunit's the responsibility, you see. Being responsible to others is stressful especially when many people are counting on you and you have no one as back up when things go awry. Being single is a lot simpler and if things go bad you can just brush it off as life lessons.

That just sounds like you wanna punish woman who want for better just because it could be worse. I’ve heard a lot of moms leave their husbands and actually find it to be easier as a single mom. If the husband isn’t contributing, they’re just one more person for the wife to feed and look after with the added bonus of resentment because it’s supposed to be your partner and not another dependent child.

@@brennamr1 That is exceedingly true.

@@brennamr1 The problem is the other extreme isn't good, either. Obviously the husband should contribute more than just a paycheck, but when we say things like "it's easy to be a single mom", that just lets deadbeat/absent dads off the hook. It is NOT easy to be a single mom...it's ALSO not easy to look after a child & a spouse, lol. Two things can be true at once. It also punishes the child who may have had a bond with the dad that gets robbed away from him/her. (Children don't benefit from non-abusive divorces.) Unless the divorced couple are splitting custody 50/50 (which would force the dad to grow up, right...? Since he has to have the kids at his own home, by himself, half the time), then the status quo remains, and women still get stuck with all the "women's work", regardless. And seeing how a lot of men complain about unfair custody arrangements, it sounds like they (many of them, anyway) are more than happy to have the kids half the time. Glorifying single motherhood just rewards deadbeat/absent dads who DON'T want anything to do with their kids. Those are the only winners here, and they are not those we should want to win. That seems to be an area that is overlooked in these kinds of discussions. Everyone else loses, especially kids.

Bro....we do this every day. You completely missed the point of the video. We are doing it ALL.

I think men should go through a woman crash course before they get married too. The thing about women is we're not just needed by spouse, kids, and family. We're needed by the whole community. It's a woman's job to take care of emotional needs of the community because men either can't or don't fill that role very well like women do. Can you imagine being needed by someone 24/7? An example is think about who kids go to for most for help. There was a video I watched that was recorded on a ring doorbell. In the video the Mom was gone out of the house and her husband was supposed to be watching the kids. Well the kids needed something. So instead of asking their father, who was home, they rang the camera doorbell to get a hold of their Mom. Even when she wasn't home, the kids still went to her instead of their father. That is the role of a mother, wife, and just women in general. We're the unseen support that holds a lot of people together. I'd say that most women are happy to be supportive but it can be very draining and exhausting. And as far as being shielded from things, I'd say that we're not. When things go to crap, often times people reach out to women to help. Plus, women make up a lot of healthcare jobs and supportive jobs. So there's not much that we haven't seen or been exposed to.