My father was an angry man and was very physically abusive to me growing up. However, I fought back even when beaten to a pulp. Slowly, as I grew up and got stronger, I began to physically outmatch him until he gave up trying to get physical with me. For quite a while, there was peace in the family, but one day he took it upon himself to fight me again. I left him physically beaten up. He called the law and they took me away and I was sent to a boarding school. No further incidents after that.
@@robertx8020as opposed to passively allowing yourself to be beaten to a pulp always works for everyone? People like you are despicable and, frankly, virtue signalling like this and invalidating the act of physical self defence against violence supports that abuse. You are an enabler and thus also abusive. If you had an ounce of moral fibre and at least a single braincell and honest experience to justify commenting, instead of being an enabler of physical and mental abuse, you'd give alternatives to the response you dislike. Instead, to selfishly suit your own ego or moral views, you would invalidate and abuse a victim instead of empowering them in a way you believe in. It speaks volumes for your character that you do not do this..
Shitty people with even an ounce of power NEVER want to own up to their own crappy mistakes. It makes them feel less in control. It's why gaslighting is such a common tactic with abusers
I wouldn't have told her. I'd've just wished them good luck. After he scrapped her, I'd let slip I knew that guy's game, "but thought he'd changed!". After all, sister is SO SMART. How could she have fallen for such a transparent ruse?
For someone who is supposed to be “smart”, op’s sister got what was coming to her for marrying that guy even tho she was warned. Then to get a loan the way she did does not shed a good light on her. Plus the father, just happy op has a good life now.
One of my favorite sayings is "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice,shame on me. He fooled her once when she was sternly WARNED and he was caught RED HANDED RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER. Interesting how someone so BOOK SMART that she could be an ENGINEER could make such a STUPID decision. I was a small child when I saw Star Trek 2: The Wrath of Khan and it was maybe my earliest lesson in the fact that it is possible for a very INTELLIGENT person to make very STUPID life decisions based on their ego and irrational emotions. Intelligence and bottom line common sense do NOT always go together with people.
This story gives me goosebumps. As it's so simlar to my own childhood. I'm one of 13 siblings. My dad was a retired police dog handler. His dog was retired with him as they were both injured. So my dad began breeding German shepherds for near 30yrs. Having so many siblings. We grew up in my dad's 3 story 8 bedroom house with massive garden. I was the only child born with health issues. So I was treated worse than Cinderella. I had to clean the house on weekends. Cleaning the bathroom & ALL the house skirting boards & stairs with a toothbrush. Was send to fetch shopping on my own. Got run over doing so once when I was about 5yrs old. Was always left behind at the local hospital when my family went on holidays. Wether I was ill or NOT. Luckily the hospital always took me in & looked after me. I went to boarding school age 6. Where I learned my real name for the first time. It was also where I was shown love & understanding for the first time. I adored being there. I left age 13 & returned to my dad's house. My parents got divorced while I was at boarding school. It was a messy volatile divorce. So my siblings hated me as I wasn't there when it happened. So after only 2 weeks back to being the household servant. I ran away repeatedly. So social services (child protection agency) asked why I kept running away. I told them I hated my family & they hated me. So I was put in a children's home till I was 16. It was a very happy time at the children's home. Yet at 16 I was sent back to my dad's again. After a few days he told me " I don't like you or love you so get out of my house an don't come back." So I left with just the clothes I was wearing. I went on to get 2 doctorates by age 19. Married my hubby at 18. Had our first child at 20. Went on to have 2 more children. All by C-sections due to my health conditions. So I have an upside down cross from my belly button to my bikini line. As 2 were straight up due to being emergency. An the last was a bikini line C-section. I got my pilot's license age 17. Build my own property from the ground up after buying the land age 18. Went on to travel the globe due to my job. Flying myself most of the time in my Cessna' 340 & Cessna 172 Skyhawk. My beloved seaplane. I NEVER kept in touch with my siblings or parents. Until my dad was on his death bed. I visited him once while he was dying. Were I stood in silence for 2 minutes. Then walked away. I attended his funeral. Yet wasn't told where his ashes were scattered. I still have zero contact with any of my vile siblings. 2 of which are dead. As old friends informed me. Not that I care. My kids are all adults. My hubby & I have been married over 40yrs. We have 3 wonderful grandsons who I adore. I've also retired early due to ill health. Yet I'm content. Not bad for the runt of the family lol. Life is what YOU make of it. So strive to be the best version of yourself. Don't let the past hold you back. As we ALL have the will to succeed in life. So aim high. It's so worth it 😊
very toxic family i left @ 18 did ok for myself mortgage house. wife kids car just a drone. 30 years later one day cops at door tells me mom had died (how the hell did they find me???? or even know i was related) so i said what are you telling me for? i thought dead bodies belong to the coroner
Intelligence and wisdom are very different things op's family doesn't seem to realize that and academic sucess doesn't always mean success in life Plus artists can earn a lot of money and also father could and should've been reported
Dear author i hope you are happy! this little blurp on my part to ferrari got them all fired up to sell me a car and they are blowing up my phone/email/and even sending friends to talk up the cars! Thanks a lot!
A child scorned by a village, will burn it doen to feel its warmth. And OP has a flame thrower. Also.... who want to bet that one commentor is just like the father?
@@diarradunlap9337 , I would have a SATAN-2 ICBM with all ten of its warheads being the equivalent of Tsar Bomba in strength for the relatives that were jerks to me if I was the OP in this story.
His father gave him 2 pizzas and some beer even though he was too young for beer. Just for poetic irony he should have ordered a big pizza and gave his father 2 slices of it and a can of beer then given him a few minutes to pack before throwing him out. With luck his father would have flashback MEMORIES of when he kicked his son out and would realize that his son did this ON PURPOSE.
@@diarradunlap9337 could have just been someone simular to op's father, the type that feel they have a right to abuse their child without reprecussions, but still, all the same, trash all
My mother was only verbally abusive. I am a deeply insecure woman in my 40ties. It's sad but I life on and barely talk to her. She even doesn't know that I nearly died 1 year ago 😂.
24:45, when the father got angry at his son even though his son was taking care of him and said that he should have hit him more... Um.... He was an OLD MAN now and his son was a FULL GROWN ADULT and probably much stronger at this point. If I was the OP I would have said to him "Well, you are welcome to hit me NOW if you want, hit me as much as you want." Of course that would in reality be a CHALLENGE rather than an "offer"....
All those horrible years of abuse (and they are horrible and traumatic) had to leave an impression on OP. As a counselor of decades in the military where there was a lot of violence, I can say with confidence that some of OP's dad rubbed off on him. There's no way it did not affect him. That might be why he responded to his father the way he did. Lots of stuff to clean up when/if he ever goes in for therapy.
Seems like it was worth it to give Dad a place, just for the satisfaction of showing him the curb. Hope OP gets over the obvious bitterness that plagues him. Forgiving and NOT forgetting are two of the greatest gifts a person can give themself. There is no point to holding on to resentment, it only harms you. And when there's no purpose to be served by reconciliation, it's best to make whatever peace you can with yourself, and get on with living.
Honestly, now I would have put the invitation in the bin. My mental health is more important to me than petty revenge. But that's after years of councelling. Before, I probably would gone all out to make them pay. But I know now that hanging on to the past just harms you and you need to be kind to yourself. ❤
There was a commet regarding the sister not getting punished by OP. We, to OP it was his father who was the actaul villain and the one who was to take matters into
I would tell them to suck it, parents are suppose to love their children unconditionally and if they have a favorite the best thing to do is get revenge by rubbing your achievements in their face. Be as petty as possible, crappy parents dfon't deserve any respect.
It is horrible what happened to op and while I'm glad his family got what they deserved and he's doing well it seems like the abuse he suffered left him with his priorities a little skewed and a bit materialistic. I'm sad for him for that. Life's NOT "all about that sweet sweet cash" hope he finds TRUE happiness ❤
I think your sis will self destruct. I would contact a good bookseller and send a wonderful book on parenting to my dad about every week, or so. Making sure to use a sharpie on the first few pages or even highlight parts in the contents that apply to him or fold over relevant pages so he can’t return them for money.
There are a lot of different forms of abuse,.. and we all have our experiences in that regard. To me life is not all about the money ,... but it,s nice if you can support yourself with something you like doing.
Wow when the father was munching OP‘s food while staying at OP‘s place saying he should have hit OP harder in the past, OP should have said: you eat your crap quickly, then you‘re out! Just like the father did to OP in the past.
As a son (eh hem; Junior) who was the target/victim of the father+daughter duo, I moved many states away, to my real home. I surround myself with decent people. Capitalist gun owners who are socially liberal. In America, we have the FREEDOM of finding the state that best suit yourselves. And yes, proudly purple state. Do the math. Cheaters hang & laugh with other cheaters. When you’re blood related to them, and *both* have a rapport due to such mindset, it’s rough. And I’m the Jr! WTF. My sister honestly should been the Jr.
Look people, Some are not very good at studies in academia but that does not mean these people are stupid. No, they excel somewhere else and academia a control environment where logic upon logic stacks on each other could be not show their talent. assuming this is the USA because the subjects are very lacking and teachers don't get paid enough.
Never got revenge on my abusive father aside from pointing him out and saying that's him over there as I pointed to him sitting on the couch. They took me and three of my siblings away. We never went back, and he died in jail.
😢 I'm so sorry your dad kept hitting you!! That breaks my heart and my heart goes out to you 🙏 I've been hit in the head a few times and it's just not okay. I realized people that do that to people learned it from somewhere and even parents that do that to their kids probly even they had a abusive upbringing.Its not okay! I hope your dad heals himself so he can help heal things.🥺 You didn't deserve that I'm sorry that ever happened I know it's painful. But what Your dad did to you isn't your sister fault. As a parent having 2 grown boy and girl I always kept it balanced and always rewarded them for their good deeds even if their ideas were different they were both equally loved. As for your sister does she even know how to handle money at all??? Mabye you should teach her so she can know what the heck ? It seems you've been responsible in what you've done and when people have done wrong things to me I always remember that God always knows and I always pray for guidance down here and how to make things better cuz I know it's hard to trust people. Trust is worth more than money surround yourself with people you trust and treat you Good they are hard to find.
The 3 commentary needs to take his own advice cuz if you are paying attention you would have heard the part where Op said his dad beat him to where he couldn't show up for school on weeks on end
Dude, you let your father into your guestroom. After all the abuse he caused I would not let him even stand in my door. I had called cops immediately if he rang my doorbell... An abuser will always be an abuser, they never change
Why do redditors make up the far fetched stories that are about as believable as a "hard working millennial". The timeline gave it away. TicTok isn't that old of an app and this guy went from having a hit band on TikTok to starting a business and becoming a "multi-millionaire". All within 2 years time. Umm.. I take Unicorns, dragons and other fake shit for $200 Alex. And that smell isn't revenge, it's clearly bullshit.
glad i am not the only one on the farm that can smell the manure sound like a dream state granddad died left him everything and dad and sis dont say a word just nah
Hey, without Reddit, these neurodivergent people wouldn't have an outlet for their fantasies. Can you imagine studying underwater basket weaving in school only to discover no one buys woven baskets anymore? It's really not their fault, they are special, neurodivergent and didn't understand that it costs money to buy iPhones. Have a little heart for Redditors, otherwise we may end up financially supporting even more failed influencers.
I’m not gonna lie as a father to a 7yo daughter I’d worry more about a straight A student than a C-student. They don’t know how to deal with a bit of failure especially when reaching college years till about 23. They just give up 🤦🏿♂️
After kicking you out, I would have not contacted them. The sisters marriage would have blown up in their faces and they would not have a clue as to the fact you could help them. lol
yea the AI story bot is getting better but still needs to work on realism a bit inheritance and dad and sis say nothing dont think it works like that IRL you came famous through "influencers"???? dream on pal people like that are call ass kissers invite ? how did they find him? you want to buy a million $ car? sure pal we can deliver it in 5 years time
If your father and sister cared about you at all, they could have gotten you a tutor if you had trouble in school instead of kicking you out of the house at 16 years old.
Is this family 🇺🇸? Mod American kids would’ve called the cops on “dear old piece of 💩,oops, I mean dad. In fact, OP should start a charity that helps abused kids escape their situations,, offer to get them counseling and just keep them safe. Always say” I can relate to victims of domestic violence “ being careful not to call your piece of 💩, I mean sperm diner, by name to avoid lawsuits.
🤨That depends entirely on the trauma. And most people that go through abuse don't say stuff like this, because it doesn't psychologically humble/put the culprits in their place. Infact it just makes them happier (especially where NPD and Sociopathy is involved). Correct path, is to either move on if you can (which depends on the kind of trauma, and what was done to you, level included) or to find a way of humbling/holding them accountable, and then move on. _ This sounds more like a irritated comment from someone who is connected to a situation like this, and is also more specific to NPD style comments (given prior context, the apathetic and smug responce given). 🙄
I would say "how bad do you want money? A million dollars I can do what you did to me for 5 years when ever I want like you did to me... with a contract of course." I don't like my father either
Ok comment#3 from the original post made my stomach hurt. What kinda sick fuk thinks that bad grades in high school makes it ok to physically and mentally abuse your child? BTW if comment#3 was paying attention they would have heard that the father also got bad grades in high school, and didn't achieve any academic success until college. Sometimes i think people make comments on these post just to comment, because there is no way they thought that through. SMH
You know it’s going to be fake immediately when you see them claim they are multi millionaire and has a freaking Ferrari of all things 🙄. I’m skipping this ridiculous story.
There is something about this story that doesn't sit right with me... Its like i can believe the things he says happened to him but i dont believe the context about him being slow... I feel like the op did some nasty sh1t and chose to leave those bits out of the story in order to make himself look totally innocent yet only ended up coming across as shifty
18:25, You tried to warn her and in the end she chose to Ignore you... Some times you cant stop a Train Wreck, you just have to give it your best effort. 25:27, I dont think this was a bad idea. He was couch Surfing and THIS is the time he chooses to say that "He should have abused you MORE". Talk about Stupidity. Your allowing him to live in your home Rent Free because of his Stupidity, and he Doubles Down. It was like he was begging to be HOMELESS.
The father in this story did NOT love "Aurora". Extreme favoritisim ultimately damages BOTH children in situations like this and in the long run it can do even more damage to the "favored" child. By abusing the OP so much and in front of his sister he created a toxic environment that in the long run damaged her too. Part of loving a child is making sure that they get a stable and safe and nurturing upbringing and he failed her in all of those areas by creating such a toxic home. His actions also deprived her of having a loving and healthy relationship with her brother. At the end of the day he did not love EITHER of his children. You cannot love someone CONDITIONALLY. If "Aurora's" grades had started to slip would he have disowned her too?
As always, the artistic, introvert types tend to be demeaned, ignored and treated as "lesser than". Even more so when you're academically bad(and usually that tends to be because you're neurodivergent and didn't know of it, or you knew but hey-you know how this works-schools can't "just adapt their teaching ways just because of some students").
Can't we just accept he was a stupid kid who could play the guitar? The only people who seem to care about measuring intelligence are the stupid people in society. Life is terribly simple, you either thrive or you work at McDonald's and complain about pay. An intelligent person recognizes their talents and finds a way to monetize it. Dumb people use words like neurodivergent to explain why the world needs to change to accommodate them.
Do you abuse. Or been abused . If not dont speak about anything. Please. I was raped at 7my sister was 13 and my mom from the time i was born i knew abuse. . So please. I dont speak of things that triggered my ptsd . This did. 😢
