To him… he’s just as capable to drive just like he always did. I can’t imagine the frustration and probably a little anger as well when he’s told he doesn’t drive anymore.
My 102-year-old grandmother gives me this look all the time. It’s hard to be on the receiving end of that but your comment might help me feel lighter about it.💜
I love how you switch responsibilities with your brother so no one gets overwhelmed and everyone gets a break. And I'm sure Dad likes spending time with each of you.
@@debbiepowers4743 It may not be the ideal arrangement if it gets to the point that he doesn't recognize his family members. My great uncle had Alzheimer's, and one day he just walked out of the house and into traffic and was killed. Hope something like this doesn't happen to Dad.
Reminds me of when I worked with dementia patients serving their food and one lady who used to be a teacher always said she was going to pay for the food but I told her it was completely free! She was always happy when I said that!
"...and I'm lucky that my responses are pretty normal!" Straight up lawyer mode. Love this guy. And his mannerisms & choice of words tells of a former professional man.
Your blood pressure would probably be lower a lot of you didn't correct him every time he opens his mouth. Look up fib therapy, it's a thing, you do t have to keep him in reality. You can't BUT. It will help you and him. I have been through it, it helps. You are great with him though, he is lucky to have you.
I knooowww..he is awesome...n yeah. I love it when he says born in 1932...the best lawyer...he stood tall shoulders back explaining his part...love it. Such a gentleman
I had a great grandmother that had dementia. She asked me who I was every couple minutes but could remember things from 70 years ago. She lived to be 102 years old.
Dementia one remember things that happened before one gets the disease, after the diagnosis people with dementia forget even what happened half hour ago 😳. But he is doing much better
I love how proud he was announcing he was born in 1932. He is adorable and I can only imagine how hard it is having to deal with everything. You guys do a terrific job.
His “just a min” did it for me lol. Such a sweetie. Sad to see his confusion and lack of understanding. I hate what this disease does and he’s still a gentleman even when upset. 🌹💕
He must’ve started getting dementia at that age because I am 85 still driving out 6 lanes highway driving 80 and I have nothing that has changed so far. With three generations ahead of me that had dementia. I am praying because I keep my mind going every minute between the iPad and looking up information and lots of Grand children and five wonderful kids making sure I’m always got everything and looking out for me plus a good husband five years younger than goodness. I love your dad you guys are amazing.
@@speedfreak8200 come on bro. don’t tell her that. Alongside all the real, quantifiable activities she does, prayer can really help a woman in her position. Even if it’s just to keep her anxieties down and mindset positive. That can make a huge difference, believe it or not
This man does not lie at all to his Dad, he is extremely honest with him about everything and always takes the time to answer his questions and explain in detail...God Bless Their Family!
They’re lucky to have him as their father who grew them up so beautifully. What a strong personality, his sons keep him so well. And I respect Daniel above everyone. Being so kind and patient to her Father in law. Adorable.
I dont. He can do things a lot better. Instead of YOU LOST your license, he should have said THEY TOOK your license. See the difference? And they can give him his checkbook. He is never alone What would it gurt? Give the man some dignity! And give him something to do! All he can do is wonder around the house feeling confused. At least they are caring for him. But they are not as grand as people want to say. Tjey have plenty of room for improvement. Amd we see who raised him. So i believe he k ows what he is doing
He just needed to get this off his chest. You handled it with respect and supported his concerns and frustrations. He's always shocked to hear his age.
Which is really interesting. Have you caught what year he thinks it is or the age he thinks he is? I'm guessing he thinks he's about 80. So he lost a decade or so in his head. Very scary. He is so able bodied too.
Right.. I'm 25 and I notice that I still feel like I'm 18. I think that as we get older we never really lose that sense of being young, so it's just hard for him to believe he's 90 when in his head he doesn't feel that way. Not to mention the dementia or Alzheimer's that's making it harder for him to believe. But yeah it's crazy.. every time he here's his age he immediately says the year he was born. I'd call living for a century a blessing. 🙏🏾
My Mother was like that. She had dementia and was 86. She would get so mad when we told her she was 86. She d say I'm not no 86 year old woman bless her heart. She would ask her age then get mad when we told her. But that's just part of the Dementia.
ALWAYS! And he always says what year he was born. I would say to that "Dad, now it's 2023. I don't think he realizes it's 2023 when he's telling Dan his birth year. I would love to know what year he thinks it is. But of course, don't want to embarrass him!
I think grandpa's ability to argue and converse so convincingly actually keeps him in the game. Even though he can't or shouldn't do things he can feel a little bit in control and keeps his integrity by having fatherly, manly talk. It's good to allow and hear him out! Isn't it amazing how convincing they are. You got your hands full but thankful he's hot vigor and is very kind and intelligent. Dementia socks! But understanding and learning how to give them there best reality is great!!!❤❤❤
Love.. just a minute. Debates with intelligence, hold himself well, facial intent and expression is quite amazing as he processes his point if view. Very special man. 💯❤️💪
“We are not all alike”❤ love how you take care of your dad and not just sent him off to a nursing home. Good job! I’m sure one day your kids will do the same for you💕
"As far as I'm concerned I feel capable of driving." My only hope is that he continues to be as lucid and articulate like this for a very long time. It woukd be great to have him banter back and forth on topics he enjoys talking about. Maybe conversations regarding things that are happening currently in and around him. He such a great debator!! Love, love him!!
“ Just a minute “ This reminds me of my parents, so polite and such good mannered. He explains everything so well. God bless him and all his family. If it weren’t for the Dementia. But , you always talk with him, exercise and eat well. He’s on the ball, for the most part. Thank you
My pops at 92 he insisted he could handle. Seeing your dad in every move he makes is my dad all over again. This is sad but beautiful for me all over again.
I bet this wonderful man knew where every penny went in his practice. I bet he ran a tight ship. I believe he did everything he could to make sure his family had all that they needed. It's a shame he is so lucid yet robbed of basic memories. Who loves this man and his family? Everybody.🕊️🙏❤️💋
I am amazed to see him reason! Frankly, it's thanks to you the conversation that he seintidng. In retirement home, it could not be so well listened to with respect! Dan is adorable with his father ❤❤❤❤❤
Now I've seen a few of your videos. You guys and your family have a good supportive relationship. This is really great. I hope that if I ever get dementia, I hope I am pleasant.
“Just a minute” 🥰 I do understand how he feels. My dad was was also born in 1932 and we didn’t have the heart to take his car away. He drove until the last day of his life and when we would visit him you had to go in his truck and he would drive you. He may have forgotten who everyone was or what day it was but he never forgot how to drive.
The only danger I feel of my dad driving is if he would go by himself he would be lost. Dad can only drive if I'm with him and we don't go on the highway. My dad is 85, I am 41.
Wow how irresponsible of you all. All because you didn't have the heart to take his car away. You could have ruined the lives of people way younger who didn't have a chance to live.shame on your family
Getting lost is the first concern. A learned skill is still there after memories gone. But driving not a skill. It involves coherent interaction which he doesnt seem capable of safely
Calm down people. We are in different circumstances aren't we. My dad hasn't driven since he gave his truck to his grandson. But if he did drive it was farm roads. Not a danger to others. Please, as if I would let the person I love most risk the lives of others. He couldn't accept that. He's a Vietnam vet. Sometimes we try finding fun things for dad, but it has not involved him driving for a little while now. Jeez
And he doesn't like to be cut off..when he explains knows what he talking about I wish you wouldn't cut him off off stop shouting at him..let him drive the tractor big yàrd soothe his tearing to drive
@Marleen Brown this is the 19th time this week he's probably asked about his keys, it's probably a thing he was worried about alot in his life or did alot so it's stuck around.
The doctor said, "just a minute!" He has something he wants to say.🥰 He's great and so full of life, in spite of his memory loss. Still sharp as a tack.❤
That has got to be so heartbreaking. Trying to do your best to take care of your sweet dad and seeing how he feels distressed. Poor guy. You are doing your best absolutely. Dementia sucks. 😔
I really love how you have such normal conversations with him it is sooo respectful and I’m keeping w his need for dignity kudos to you and your wife 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤
It's so interesting to see his changes since this video. He's more talkative here, expresses more complex ideas, and moves more fluidly. I actually forgot what he was like in these days.
