DAD Richard Briers & Kevin Whatley: Elder abuse Awareness: Comic Relief: BBC Wales 

It's wonderful but too painful to watch at one go. Will steel myself another day! Briers and Whately my 2 fans too!

I wonder how Mr Briers, thought of playing an 86yr old 😮 person at 71 yrs. Love him so MUCH 😱. Especially in The Good Life 😂. Kevin Whatley is an icon, in his own right. Thank you 🙏

So glad you found the tape, thank you for posting, regards from Tx

Thankyou for sharing this. I saw the original broadcast. My parents are 70. less than 10 mins in, and I am already crying.

You don't know how thankful we are you put this up, 3 generations of family have watched it over this weekend, from very old to mid 20s, such a harrowing portrayal of what may await some of us🥺🥺 So sad but a Richard briers masterpiece. Thank you thank you thank you

Very moving movie😢. Great acting; love Kevin Whately. And the script writer : lucy Gannon,,,

This is heartbreaking, omg , the son , so sad

Oh my, just Wow!!! I’m really moved by this film. So many families and elders go through sad situations like this, often silently suffering and feeling so completely hopeless and alone! Please, if you are suffering like this, please get help! If you don’t know where to go for help, ask a clergyman or your doctor. There is help and there is hope! I have seen the two male leads in several other shows in the past, and this story is so very well done. It’s really excellent acting, very realistic. It could easily be my family or my neighbors, even though I live on a different continent. Thank you so much for uploading this important movie! I hope families will watch it together, discuss their own challenges and hopes, and lovingly make contingency plans for the future. If we have the bravery to speak honestly about uncomfortable topics like this, it can really help family members be on the same page and support each other much more. If you don’t feel up to having an honest inter-generational conversation about hard subjects like this, I know from personal experience that your local clergyman or a family counsellor would be glad to help facilitate such a conversation. Sometimes facing the hard reality is very difficult. I really recommend folks who watch this tonight and feel touched- do not isolate yourself!! Let your feelings motivate you to do something positive! Older people, consider what conversations you need to have, and what plans you need to make. No one of us is getting any younger. There are very many groups of people your age who like to get together for fun activities, and it truly can improve the quality of your life! Please don’t sit home alone, and waste your life away! Look for groups of other people who share the same hobbies and interests as you. Perhaps you enjoy quiz programmes- try a quiz night. Join a book club, or a choir. Perhaps you enjoy a certain craft like painting, photography or woodworking- take a class! If you are a caregiver for someone in your family, make time for yourself to find a support group of others who are in similar situation. You need to take care of yourself, if you are going to last! If you have a certain skill, sometimes people get together to work on projects like Habitat for Humanity, or a sewing circle/knitting and crocheting group who make and donate needed items like hats, scarves and comforters to refugees. My grandmother used to volunteer to go and read with and to children in schools who were having trouble reading. Young people, volunteers are greatly needed at hospitals and at nursing homes. Not all nursing home residents have Alzheimer’s! It is truly shocking how many people there never, ever have a visitor!! Some people volunteer to take mail around, or to roll a library cart from room to room and see if a resident might be interested in reading one of the books, or borrowing a board game etc. Some residents no longer have good eyesight, and would really love someone to read to them! I have done that in the past, and had residents so grateful they are in tears to hear their favourite Psalms, Gospels, Shakespeare or Agatha Christie book again! 30 or 40 minutes can make a great difference in one of these dear people’s week. If you ask questions about their youth and childhood, you may hear some very interesting stories about how things were done differently in the past. If you do something good, it will make you feel good as well! Some of my friends take a couple songbooks of folk songs, campfire choruses and hymns, and visit from room to room, singing a song with the residents in their room if they want to. Most residents enjoy finding a song they know! Another friend takes a tote bag with a few easy games like checkers, dominos and Uno, going from room to room and asking if anyone wants to play a game. Sometimes my church goes to a nursing home on Sunday afternoons and sings hymns in the common room with a group of residents. We try to choose well known and positive hymns that older people are quite likely to know, such as Amazing Grace, Joy to the World, All Creatures of our God and King, All Things Bright and Beautiful, How Great Thou Art, etc. So many other good, uplifting hymns exist! It is really amazing to see the smiles that come to people’s face! Music really does bring them out of their shells, and adds great joy. We do want to encourage them! Everyone ages, and most everyone eventually faces some type of situation like this. Plan ahead as much as you can! When I bought a house, I honestly never imagined having trouble with stairs, nor was it a problem to me that the only toilet was upstairs! Truly, I never thought about the possibility of breaking a leg etc when I was young. 30 some years on, things are different. We are all born, and eventually we will all die. Personally I really appreciate extended families, and intergenerational housing! But the physical house where you plan to spend your later years must be handicap accessible, and also must provide space and privacy for each person, Including space for someone else to come stay with you if you need a helper for a while. I especially like what the Amish do. When the children of a family are all teenagers or nearly grown up on a farm, an extension is built onto the original house. They call it a Doddy house, or the grandparent house. It has at least two bedrooms, a kitchen and living room, usually on one level. It might be compared to a simple guest house. The older couple move into the Doddy house, and one of their children, whoever is going to keep running the farm, then lives in the main house with their own growing family. Usually the houses are connected by a hallway or a doorway to make going between in bad weather or at night easier, but they can be slightly separate buildings. In this way, the generations are available to help and support each other according to their abilities; and they are also able to shut a door and have their own privacy. When the parents with young children are busy or ill, grandparents are available to help with the children. When someone is injured, other family members are nearby to help. In case of emergency, if a parent needs to go do errands or to the doctor or hospital, there are other adults available to be with the children, To feed them, to make sure that chores get done and students get off to school, etc. They work together on big projects such as gardening, harvesting and canning food, baking bread, pies, cookies, sewing, quilting, crocheting, woodworking and other such crafts. The older generation teaches the younger generation many needed life skills, helps them learn to read, tells them stories, play games together, sing songs and in general enjoy life while imparting skills which equip the future generations for successful home-life and entrepreneurship. I believe children and elderly belong together- this really increases joy, in both directions. At one point in my life, I had nine grandparents alive! When I was young my parents worked a lot of overtime, so I stayed with grandparents and great-grandparents. My grandparents ended up having much more time for me than my parents did, so we became very close. As a troubled teen, I got good advice from my grandparents and great grandparents! Nearly everything we did together was like a party. I even knew my grandmother’s grandmother! I never realized as a child what a blessing it was to have such extended family all living nearby! They helped me so much when I was little, and I have tried to return the favour and help them when they are older. Sometime I will need help as well. Let’s all look for practical ways to show love to our extended family, and find fun things we can do together to increase each other’s joy! Even my 98-year-old grandma can still play some games, sing songs, observe beautiful birds at the birdfeeder and enjoys watching the sunset from her porch. She enjoys looking at old family photos. We can each do something simple to make the world a better place, one relationship at a time. Let’s help support each other, at all ages and stages of life! Life is hard enough, please brothers and sisters in humanity, look for ways to lighten another’s load, and put a smile on someone’s face today! 💙🙏🏽💙🌻🦋🌺🕊

Great story and great acting,,,,,,

Watched this when I was a kid with my dad when this was on in 2005. Many years later, he tried to find it online and couldn't. For some reason I searched it today and found that you had added it. I sent it to him straight away. I'm made up you found probably the only copy of this in existence and uploaded it. This brought me a few smiles and many tears, I'm sure it will do the same for him and my mum when they get round to re-watching it x

Recently watched The Father and it reminded me of this excellent drama, I watched it when it was on back in the day and it really affected me, so glad to have found it, millions go through this and it is heart breaking, my own mother has dementia, it is tough but we get through it, my sympathies to all who share a similar burden.

Thank you

Thank you. I have been looking for this for ages. 👍🏻

The saddest film ever, that might be me next.

This is so sad. I'm know it's true.

Heart breaking 😢

Thankfully both my parents and grandparents kept their marbles, a horrible thing for partners and children, and the one with dementia , we start as children and some end up the same

If this is not a rationale for self determined assisted suicide I don't know what is.

I love Paper Moon😊❤️🇦🇺

Why is it for some folks are not willing to take care of their mother and father for a few years in their old age, to return the love and care they gave to their children growing up. Getting old is cruel and having no one to love you makes it even worse. Such a sad story many people are in this situation today, I happen to be one of them. Never mind 71 now not much longer on my own. Looking forward to going home and have a huge family forever. Come Lord Jesus come , he promises to never leave us nor forsake us. Wonderful news.

Gannon?

I'd never go into an old person home 😮. My country 😮💢, if you have a day surgery, and don't have anyone to watch you over night, THEY PUT YOU IN A OLD PEOPLE'S HOME. KNOW MATTER WHAT YOUR AGE😱. It was fancy, but, the treatment was appalling, all the old people, were like that. Sitting, with sad face's 🥺😞😢. Broke my heart 💓. For my tea, i got a boiled egg cut in half, and some Black stuff 😂. NaN AHA 🤢🤧💯, i said, is this a joke 😂. Of course I went hungry 😮. I couldn't sleep, so I counted the hours... I got there at 4.p.m. They didn't change the poor people, untill 2.30a.m. i was shocked beyond belief 🤪. I Shared a bathroom with an old lady, there was blood all. Over the floor, was rocked to the core of my soul😲😐😭😭😭😳. I am ashamed of my country 😮