Incredible. Jesus did not scream at the woman caught in adultery he told her to go and sin no more with the full knowledge that one day soon he would be dying for that exact sin. Just amazing. I love that Dan just simply takes the words from the Bible and applies them, making it more simple than we try to make it.
Parents don't have to be super heros; conquering the issues of life. They need to be transparent with their children with the things they are dealing with; Comminicate their struggles with their children so that they won't repeat those struggles.
A simple Thank You. So weird how becoming a parent causes us to think that means "control". My grandad did it; my dad did it, and so I did it. Thank God, it's never too late to apologize...I'm completely broken after hearing Dan and realizing...my next text will be to my son...
Man love how being open in communication was made so clear by Dan. Never really understood how to clearly communicate instead would always just be quiet at times. Also man when we do things out of Love and not self righteousness then we will never have a need to get frustrated. And would internally root for our kids while trying to help them by disciplining. I so want to walk in understanding of all this to the fullest
Amen all of the responses below are correct and excellent. But its important to know that most people only have flickering embers of this kind of love - in challenging times. Meaning a parent, guardian, or role model will walk the below precepts of Holy Spirit, love, POSITIVE DIRECTIONAL AFFIRMATIONS only once in a while where 95% of the time the adult in question demonstrates and operates from a place of; hurt, disappointment, anguish, pain, ANGER, FEAR, RESENTMENT and lastly VIOLENCE (physical or verbal). We are results based so we try a new thing to see if it works. We are willing to try. So when my psychologist suggested to my parents that they stop beating me - they were open to suggestions and....tried it out. They didn't get the results they liked so - they went back to what they knew lol. I am afraid that many will try these knew; love, positive psychology - Jesus centered, lay down your life trust the holy spirit methods - because we are open to suggestions. But won't stay the course because we do not see the results quick enough. I mean do I even believe that this stuff works because the Power of the Holy Spirit is backing it. Do I still believe despite what the school says, or the medical professional who sees our spirituality as nonsense. Do I still believe even when things seem to get worst : ( The word will be tested) (If Im your enemy and my colleague (the children/co worker/ business partner/ spouse) is thinking of switching sides and trusting.) Then as the enemy I will create scenarios in my colleagues life to expose the lack of commitment in the Christian. In closing - You have to be completely crazy and out of your mind. Where you ignore all physical and social ques/norms/expectations and behaviors to the point that no matter what the person in question says or does you have only one response; Love led by the Holy Spirit full of Positive affirmations in Jesus that reaffirms both their value to God and you. The question is consistency
Whoa, I don't think anyone on this comment section was ready for the download that you gave. But it's good, and it's needed. Truth. I absolutely agree! My desire is to be a Marine and perhaps go to places and interact with people that are most antagonistic or opposed to to the gospel. And so I understand why I'm facing all that I am now, and it gives me much peace. I feel myself being trained in holy spirit for this task, as I see that this is the best way, or rather the only way, for certain people groups like that to be reached - love. Now applying this in real life is it different issue entirely, which is what leads me to respect your post all the more. For when it comes to loving my father in this way, all bets are off if it's up to me, did not being led by Holy Spirit 100%. Conversely, it is as though he has never sinned, and I see him as a friend, despite anything he may say or do, when I know my identity in Christ.
Consistency is born out of knowing your own identity in Christ, and all reactionary behavior flows from that place. When you don't know who you are in Christ, your reaction to your children will certainly demonstrate that deception in your heart. When you fully understand WHOSE you are and WHY you belong to Him and WHAT that really means, your children lose the power to "irritate" you. Irritation and frustration are profoundly useful indicators that you've lost sight of your own identity.
wow, this is exactly what I needed to hear. thank you Dan, and whoever posted this. N.C.? I hang out with the kids at our church whenever I'm there, and while skiing/snowboarding, and any chance I get with the purpose of showing them who God is. One 8 ear old who I am rather close to and fond of was BEHAVING in a way that troubled me. I could see the rebellion in him, but didn't know what to say or how to respond. I chose to do nothing as he was mean to another kid, ate his food like a savage and did not tie his shoe lace at my suggestion(three times)(oh, and we both wear Heelys - the wheel in the heel - so it's potentially dangerous) little things that reflected... out of the heart the mouth speaks. I had a chance to talk to his grandfather, who I am good friends with, and encourage him in that I can't wait to hang out with this kid, and his older brother and sister on the slopes this winter season, and that I was a little concerned for #saidnamerecruit. Instead of the much feared and anticipated response of, "my grandson?! no way!", I was met with an understanding chuckle of GRACE that had me INSTANTLY trembling and weeping in awe for his tender heart. I asked if He and his wife, our fearless choir director, would lift me up in prayer that I may (as Todd White talk about) BE Christ to them. There are many hurts and pains I carry even now as a grown child still living at home at 27 caused by (the devil at work in Christ followers who took a spiritual vacation and allowed nastiness to be spoken to me. emotional abuse I've been covering up and believing I'm really not worth anything anyway. Feelings are of no value...) my parents. It's still my fault, and I walk on egg shells, just waiting for the time they kick me out because I call them out on this in an attempt to have a real relationship. All that was said in this video NEVER HAPPENS in our house. (note: not home, we coexist) Please pray for us. I am SO angry, and can't hold it all in anymore. I daily wrestle with thoughts of self harm, or injuring others. While I'm not afraid of my thoughts, and I do know a lot of Bible and stand on it for peace, they are there for a reason, and I know that I need to deal with this in order to move on in life to say... a wife. And I WILL NOT carry these things into another relationship!!! And would rather remain a celibate single for the rest of my life that knowingly/willingly doing so to my spouse what was done to me (is still) And now, as apples of gold in settings of silver, a quote from C.S. Lewis, “Of all tyrannies, a tyranny sincerely exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It would be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end for they do so with the approval of their own conscience.” I am pressured to conform to the image of that which they think is best, whether it is best for me or not, or God's best/will or not. Questioning my walk with God while maintaining a double standard and demonstrating that it is not safe to talk about...sex...J.K. (that was awkward enough due to the level of shame we lived with) anything. There's ALWAYS a lecture about anything and everything, and it usually feels demeaning - like I'm 5 years old. HELP! Thank you for reading this. At least some one took the time - you! - without having a smart alec response or a quick fix. I'm so done with that. Dad & Mom, if you're reading this, when you want to have a more serious relationship, shut up and listen, for more that what it takes to formulate what you are going to say next. Stop trying to win the discussion, and actually pretend to want to get to know me, with passionate anger, bitterness, disgust, and love, your son, Chris.
They will respect you more once you are living on your own- demonstrating you are an adult. I lived through wretched abuse. Was in 9 different schools, 6 different group homes. My father incarcerated for four years when i was growing up for breaking in our house trying to kidnap me. I endured physical, verbal, sexual, emotional abuse. *I* am the ONLY one responsible for my reactions. Everyone goes through pain. That's life. How you respond to it what people will judge you on. If you're unhappy with your parents and thinking of hurting yourself or others #1 move out. Get roommates if you cannot afford it on your own, or get a 2nd or 3rd job. #2 get qualified Christian counseling #3 I'd you feel on the verge of acting out, call 911 Praying for you
Also People are more likely to respect you when you show them respect You said they should "shut up and listen" how would you feel if they said that to you? They're apparently giving free housing to someone who cannot stand them. I'd be grateful I had a roof over my head! And if the relationship is toxic- Get out! I was kicked out when I was 15. I grew up. Hard. But i grew up.
@@saradanser894 I understand where you're coming from Sarah, and I'm sorry to hear that. Much has happened since that post, and I'm glad I had space to get it out. God has done so much in my life recently. (And is doing) There is an opportunity presenting itself you me to move out with a friend, and I will be able to make this move while maintaining a healthy relationship with my parents - that is nothing short of the Grace of God! He knows that who I'm meant to be - loving people as I am loved by Him - only comes when I spend that time with Him.
@@saradanser894 I saw this comment after your second. Wow, that's a lot to go through, and much more than I experienced. Great advice. I definitively agree with your comment on taking responsibility for our reaction. The sexual and emotional abuse I've been through was tragic, and yet I know in my heart that Jesus (having been accepted a year or so before as a friend) cautioned me to not follow my cousin, I, in pride continued in my way. But if the enemy knew what good has come about from it (like how he wrongfully thought the cross was the end) he never would have done it. I have such a sensitivity to hurting kids, and have taught them how to ski/snowboard, and was a part of our church's Sunday school. Truly - what he has intended for evil God has used and is using for my good. Thank you again for your well spoken advice, for sharing what you've been through, and for praying - the best we can do for each other!
What would u do then If the teen Rebelled and didn’t stop what u said ??? I get what you’re saying... but what If u are kind and show mercy and they continue
Hi Taira. Here is my opinion. I think he didn't mean kind as in give in. I think he means love them by showing them and telling them who they are and how much valuable they are. Show what they are worth with love. Their lives are worth more than what they did. Discipline and correction are also part of love. But when you discipline or corrct, talk in love, make sure you are pure in your motive. If you know it won't come out right, take time to be right first bf talking w them. show them here is what our family rules are, here is what you did, ask if they see where they have failed. maybe discuss what we need to do as a family to avoid the "sin"? Boundaries are made for their safety. If they don't understand yet, maybe spend more time with them so they know your heart towards them, how much you loge them? Your love would change them eventually just like how we don't want to make Him sad because we know how much He loves us. The more we spend time w Him the more we want to please Him or just obey Him. (Hope this helps and know that I am not trying to offend you or lecture you, we moms need to support and encourage each other. It is a hard job being a parent).
Rina’s word is good👍 Also ask Father for wisdom and creativity on how to deal the issue, Holy Spirit is a good and faithful teacher. There is no exact method except for responding toward them in love, and love can be quite firm. It’s the expression of our anger or disappointment that shoots the arrows of condemnation guilt and shame into them which will cause them to reject you above what you are saying. It’s like he said, God is not calling us out on our sins, he is always trying to show us who we really are and beckon us into that reality. And remember, God was the perfect father the perfect parent, he did nothing wrong yet Adam and Eve both chose to rebel. Dan Mohler’s son totally rebelled and was gone/out from the house in a very serious drug addiction. Eventually came home and today he’s happily married and totally on fire and in love with Jesus! He has talked about his dad’s faithfulness to speak truth and keep loving him no matter what. God is faithful! ❤️
I found this valuable to me with my 17yr old; pray for them out of a heart to see them know God as He desires & not out of a need to be less annoyed & pray for them to be all God says they are & created them to be. Don't complain about them ever, even in prayer. My son gave up smoking after I prayed like this one time. Always speak life & blessing to them about them & over them(in positive confession time daily. This is for the spirit realm. Angels jump into action).
Amen all of the responses below are correct and excellent. But its important to know that most people only have flickering embers of this kind of love - in challenging times. Meaning a parent, guardian, or role model will walk the below precepts of Holy Spirit, love, POSITIVE DIRECTIONAL AFFIRMATIONS only once in a while where 95% of the time the adult in question demonstrates and operates from a place of; hurt, disappointment, anguish, pain, ANGER, FEAR, RESENTMENT and lastly VIOLENCE (physical or verbal). We are results based so we try a new thing to see if it works. We are willing to try. So when my psychologist suggested to my parents that they stop beating me - they were open to suggestions and....tried it out. They didn't get the results they liked so - they went back to what they knew lol. I am afraid that many will try these knew; love, positive psychology - Jesus centered, lay down your life trust the holy spirit methods - because we are open to suggestions. But won't stay the course because we do not see the results quick enough. I mean do I even believe that this stuff works because the Power of the Holy Spirit is backing it. Do I still believe despite what the school says, or the medical professional who sees our spirituality as nonsense. Do I still believe even when things seem to get worst : ( The word will be tested) (If Im your enemy and my colleague (the children/co worker/ business partner/ spouse) is thinking of switching sides and trusting.) Then as the enemy I will create scenarios in my colleagues life to expose the lack of commitment in the Christian. In closing - You have to be completely crazy and out of your mind. Where you ignore all physical and social ques/norms/expectaions and behaviors to the point that no matter what the person in question says or does you have only one response; Love led by the Holy Spirit full of Positive affirmations in Jesus that reaffirms both their value to God and you. The question is consistency
Lol half of it became focusing on your spouse instead of your kids butt if you caint be a role model for your spouse then how you gonna be one for your kids
