@@labyrinth4799 as someone who experiences delusions, people saying "delulu" has made it increasingly more difficult to explain to others what goes on when all they can imagine is "delusional = madly in love with somebody" or something similar. /lh
some of these are actual psychology tricks just turned into stupid “dark” “manipulative” shit, like the “pretend you’re a friend giving yourself advice” thing can be applied when you have issues with self deprecating thoughts. example, instead of beating yourself up over a problem, pretend your friend has that same problem and act like you’re giving them advice. as someone really interested in psychology it is PAINFUL to watch people spread all of these ideas and give psychology a bad name 😭
yeah idk who needs to hear this but "dark empaths" are not a f*cking thing. you either have a sense of empathy and social awareness, or you don't. what you choose to do with it may make you a jerk but it doesn't make you a "dark" anything. ppl need to stop giving cute names to every new a-hole behavior like it's some special personality quirk.
exactly! also important to know some autistic people may struggle with social awareness and empathy but they’re not trying to be an ass about it, it’s how their brain works
I feel like if you need to advertise yourself with names like that I’m not to going to take it at face value unlike people who are just genuinely empathetic. It’s like people who go around saying “I’m so nice blah blah” if you were I don’t think you’d have to go around telling people all the time bro 😭
@@catsncrowsI hate how much the word has changed in the past 5-10 years. I used to be proud of how empathetic I was & related to the term empath, but now it’s seen as cringe and toxic. I’m still proud to be empathetic but I’ll never say I’m an empath 😀
The thing with the "give yourself advice like as you were your friend" isnt that bad though and helped me a lot in the past. Especially if its a head and heart conflict it can really help to think about it from an outside perspective for a while.
8:50 if people on the internet are talking about journaling, i’m not gonna critique anything lol. we need to make journaling in private more popular than word vomiting online
I just started reading the intro to Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and according to the translator Meditations was just a journal of advice from Marcus Aurelius to Marcus Aurelius...
Dude I was waiting for you to post and in the meanwhile I was trying to find other good male youtubers to watch cause I have noticed I watch only women youtubers and I got ptsd wtf is the male youtube space? Where have you been? I almost lost faith in MANkind ... Anyway happy to see you again love your energy
Uh, now that you mention it, I don't follow many guys either 🤔 There's a guy who does "red flags / green flags" while reading from reddit who's new. Cinema Therapy also has guys I like... in case that's useful!
@@SoManyRandomRamblingsno bro, Skinner was on operant conditioning which covers positive and negative reinforcement as well as punishment, Pavlov’s study supported classical conditioning which was based no association between stimuli and unconditioned/ conditioned reactions.
@@imnotlelo which is what he was referring to...he wasn't just wanting it to be associated with some sound he specifically said he wanted it to be viewed as negative with that association, hence operant conditioning.
9:03 That *is* something my parents would do when I would be in depression/anxiety spirals and I would voice negative self-talk. “what if *one of my BFFs* said that? What would you tell her?” Taking a step back, even mentally, can be useful sometimes
Some 5- 6 years ago I created my only ever fake account and joined a pua group to understand the games they play online - and lemme tell you, all these are old news, folks. Also, straightforward communication wins every time. You can expect that level of fundamental respect from me, if we'd ever get there, but we won't. :)))
Okay so maybe I'm just not the average gal those vids are talking about But If my hand is on my stomach, it probably just means i have a tummy ache If i cover my mouth while I'm laughing, I'm probably just wearing my retainer and I'm trying to not spit on you If i lean on someone, i probably either tripped over nothing and I'm trying to not fall, or while falling some time earlier I've hurt myself and it probably hurts to put weight on my leg And if i stop texting someone, it most definitely is either because i had to do something else or i just didn't want to talk with them It's not that deep guys. Not everything is a sign
IK IM COMMENTING A LOT BUT I HAVE A LOT TO SAY OKAY, I NEED CLARIFICATION am I current me writing to me, future me writing to me, distancing myself from being me altogether, giving advice to a friend, or advice to someone who is going through the same thing as not me, WHICH ONE IS IT lmaoo ray made the same joke WE THE PEOPLE DEMAND ANSWERS
@ville__Are you really so bored that you feel the need to associate yourself with these brainless "UTTP" people? Please, for the love of whatever created the universe, go outside, and touch a vegetation consisting of typically short plants with long, narrow leaves, growing wild or cultivated on lawns and pasture, and as a fodder crop.
My exboyfriend told me he was into psychology and taught me everything he knew from pickup-douchebaggery. And then proceeded to gaslight me with the same 'psychology' methods, which every now and then, I recognised and called him out for. It was weird...at some point I didn't even know who he was anymore. It was like he was turning 180 degrees every day, suddenly deciding on new hobby's, new characteristics, always played devil's advocate but became furious and paranoid whenever I politely disagreed on something, telling me I was 'not supporting him' and accusing me of thinking he was a disappointment. I've started learning more about Alcohol Fetal Syndrome and recognised his mannerisms, which makes sense, since he was accidentally conceived while his mother was excessively drinking in a loveless marriage, so I understand he was troubled and all. But this whole experience messed me up as well. Luckily I shedded most of the 'psychology' knowledge and I recognise the pickupartists now, so I can call them out the moment they enter the room and tell me my dress is lovely but if I lost 2 kg it would fit me beautifully.
The cringiest part is easily the fact that humans aren't uniform. That's why body language can't really be "studied," as different people display or subdue dominance in different ways. So none of these facts are as universal as they make themselves out to be.
Exactly and anyone who wants their bidy langue reading to be accurate needs to already know the normal patterns of that person to note significant deviations...so without a well informed baseline it is all just guessing.
As a neurodivergent person so often the "body language" people demonize is also just neurodivergent behaviour which has terrified the eff out of me of being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Especially those channels that analyze true crime stuff and interrogations. It feels so diagusting and just furthers stigma when like you said a proper analysis would need a larger time period and more in-depth knowledge of the person to tell if their body language actually is telling of anything.
