I just met a sweet, compassionate, educated man with a good job AND he is handsome but he’s an alcoholic. I wanted to try with him but now I see I cannot. I’m so angry with his alcoholism but not him. We both deserve love but I can’t risk it.
Same-- I still feel guilty for calling him out at the very start. Many times these addicts are charismatic, highly creative people-- they just have weak constitutions and usually love wounds. 😢
For anyone reading this- please don’t even start anything with them. I would recommend not even having alcoholic friends. I was friends with an alcoholic and I never considered him because I didn’t like his behaviors. But I loved him as a person and we were so close. We ended up dating and it was a disaster and heartbreaking when it ended. Stay far far away
@@j.t.3872 I know I just broke up with one. It was hell.! he’s so emotionally, immature, and jealous and angry I couldn’t deal with that anymore Blaming me for all his BS !
Been with mine for a year and a half and it’s such a lonely journey. I feel so alone. I love him so much, he’s amazing and the best guy I’ve ever been with hands down. But his alcoholism has lead him to wreck MY car, say things that he didn’t really mean, and lied a lot. So many times I should’ve left but I didn’t. People like us see the good in everyone. Thank you for sharing, this makes me feel less alone in this.
Thank you for sharing this part of your life with us. I’m currently struggling with trying to either accept or leave my alcoholic... I’m sorry that you went through this girl
Thanks for talking about this. Yes he loved bombed me also. I was at a vulnerable state to where love bombing me was easily done. Together over a year but decided to leave because he wasn't going to stop or get help. In my case he tried to hide his addiction. We were together for 5 months before i found out about his drinking. Even after i found out about it he still tried to hide how much he drinks until it was apparent to me that he had a deep problem. He wasn't going to stop or admit that he needs help
I stayed with mine for 2 years. I went to Alanon which saved me. I didn't have any support since no one understood what I was going through. He came across as this great guy to everyone. After I finally left I found out it was 2 years of lies... everything small and big were lies. Its his game. He treated his youngest child horribly which still breaks my heart. Mine also cheated on me. I'm grateful I left...
I am so sad to hear this. They use love bombing as an excuse to keep pushing and violating your boundaries, and trying to make you be okay horrible situations. Looking back on it I wish I could've been stronger and seen the signs from the beginning
I left my alcoholic partner for the hope that he will change but found out he have someone new. It hurts so much but thank you for this. I no longer feel alone.
I understand you. Mine hid how he needed the alcohol. Mine used shot bottles, those little temptation bottles at the gas stations. Easy to hide. I stayed for 5 years. Mine was NOT as bad as yours but I understand your decisions. Your a beautiful person. We are codependent people who love hard. Sending my hugs to you. I have three kids and I am a widow and I haven’t been able to walk away. For me their are lies, just too many lies often.
The "love bombs" really hit me. I'm currently in a relationship with an alocoholic and the amount of affection and love you receive make you try to convince yourself that you'll just live for those moments. Even though you feel absolutely destroyed everytime he's on a huge bender. But I know this is not healthy. Thank you for your video
I'm glad you're through the worst of this. It's a shame you ever had to deal with his terrible actions and inability to live up to his own mistakes and desires. Thank you for sharing and I hope this helps people out in understanding what their situation may be like and how it can and should be better.
Thank you for sharing. I am in the process of healing from my break up. It sucks, I cried watching this video because there was so many things I was able to relate to and the fact that I’m not the only one made me feel some type of way. I’m glad you were able to get out of that. Sending you positive vibes 😊
Thank you so much for watching and sharing your story. I'm so sorry you're going through a rough time but I promise with time it'll get better! You deserve only the best
Thank you for your story. I am going through the same thing with my alcoholic boyfriend and it's true what you said that it needs to come from him to want to quit.
Oh my god this sounds exactly like my situation I think he love bombed me and he basically stays at my place all the time and he was drunk meeting my friends
Been there, done that. Never again. Alcoholics do not realize the damage and pain they cause their loved ones. Maybe one day she'll make amends, but I doubt it.
This is something that hit home. I watched the person I loved slip away due to alcohol and it was one of the most painful things I’ve ever gone through. It’s def true they are the ones that must ultimately decide when they are ready. I waited many years in a 10 year relationship and it never happened take it from her and my advice it only gets worse. It’s a progressive disease .. All I want for her is to be happy and healthy thats what true love is , and it really hurts when you couldn’t provide that for them so at some point you have to focus on yourself and leave , if they ever get to that point then you support them . In my case in didn’t happen I had to walk away and move on . I wish you guys best of luck
My sister is on her third alcoholic. Two died already from it. I think she likes the chaos and attention. Alcoholics and Drug Addicts r nothing but trouble..and if that's what ur looking for u will find it. I hope u choose wisely for yourself. This is for all u women out there going thru it. PS. thankx for ur video and sharing ur experiences.
Just broke off a year & 1/2 off & on relationship with an alcoholic Thought I was going crazy! I can relate the first date I had with mine. I knew he was an alcoholic and he was out of control and I decided not to go out with him but a week later he hit me up and we started dating. I loved all the attention & loving ❤ that’s why I hung in there I get it. I’ve been with other alcoholics and it’s hard to leave because you love them. ❤ My situation got worse too with the verbal and emotional abuse -which he never displayed in the beginning the love bombing I can’t keep believing alcoholics when they tell me that they love me 💔 Thanks for sharing your story
That is exactly the same thing that just happened to me!!!!. My alcoholic boyfriend broke up with me recently twice, when he was drunk and had no recollection the next day as well as threatened my life when he was drunk. Just like your situation, he love bombed me at first but then it got so much worse as time went on . He decided to leave me after he realized what he was doing to me. He's been gone now almost 3 weeks without a word. . He is one of those types of alcoholics that can polish 2 entire bottles of wine and 4 beers and not have a hangover. I hope he decides to get help soon 😧
Thank you so much for being brave enough to make a video like this. In tears watching it because if how relatable your situation is (was) to my current one. Sorry if commenting on this brings it up again in your mind but honestly this video is so helpful xxx
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch! Stay strong, hope this video helps you get through your current situation. Promise that life gets better
I ws wth an alcoholic fr 10years now...ws hoping everything vl b okay...bt when I completely understood our love ws not enough for him to make him think of quitting alcohol,I left him behind..it ws painful... Everyday when I hear abt him,it hurts...cz I still love him..bt when he s drink I hate him the most... I nly I have one thing to say ,DNt HV people chances again n again cz yu luv them! It vl make u regret like I do ...! I know this too,no-one ever can me feel the way he made... The way he loved me...we fell n love wth eachother when we were 15!
My bf is a drunk .....im exhausted .i was really depressed...im working on me .he was verbally abusive .mentally.and has done horrible things why i stayed i d k .im drained .he needs to leave but he keeps wanting chances .hes in detox now but not sure what will happen when he gets out
I've been with my alcoholic boyfriend for 7 years he was sober for three years and relapsed heavily this past last year he was drinking even before that but it got really bad this year he's a womanizer lies sober for one week and it goes on and on and on it went too many rehabs detox places and it just doesn't change he makes me feel bad when he does get sober and tries to make I'm at my wits end. he's at detox now and I'm so better without him here I feel free and a weight lifted off my shoulders he's getting out tomorrow or the next day I'm going to say Sunday and at this point I don't even know what the hell to do anymore.im just glad you got out !
At the end of the day you have to do what's best for yourself. Know your worth and stay strong! It's never easy leaving a relationship especially one of 7 years. Here for you.
I’m dealing with the same thing and after 8 relapses I honestly am beyond caring. If she drinks herself to death then she drinks herself to death. I won’t deal with it anymore. It’s a sad thought, but I have just accepted it.
Thank you for sharing. My husband drinks too much. I’m going thru a divorce. He just up and quit working 2 + years ago. 2 + years I tried to keep it together but he’s a weight around my neck now. I’m buying him out. Sad after 26 years of marriage. I’ve grieved the loss over the years. Time to face reality. It’s with a lot of mixed feelings. Highs and lows. Excitement/ disappointment. Wow!
Hello Connie. Just read your comment and wanted to send you some love and encouragement. 🤗💓 I hope your situation is somewhat a little better than when you posted some months ago. LYou sound like a strong woman whom held up 2 people for over 2 -3 years. Recognize your strength, bravery and resilience. 💎💪🏼👸🏽Happy holidays beloved.🎄✨💖
Wow! This is EXACTLY what I went thru minus the him getting engaged part. Sounds to me like he’s a covert narcissist and they pray on good people like yourself who are forgiving and wonderful, just to use and abuse then discard you when they’re done. Awful human beings! I’m sorry you went thru this!
Wow your story sounds similar to mine. The love bombing, moving quickly. And it goes on and on and on. Mine tried to hide it and red flags were everywhere but I didn't want to face it. Fell for the good times, and that was when he wasn't drinking . Thank you for sharing.
Just finding this.. I’ve been dating a man for a year and realize he’s an alcoholic. He’s amazing when sober and only drinks on weekends, but it’s enough. He’s blackout drunk and gets verbally abusive. It’s very confusing and I’ve tried to figure out over the summer what was happening. He went MIA for two months with a scattering of seeing him here and there. I finally get it. I didn’t realize verbal/emotional comes from alcoholism or the behavior associated with it. It’s been a journey. I walked away but still searching for answers. Thank you for sharing.
I know how you feel I knew too but when you’re in love it doesn’t matter. I still love him and he’s the sweetest human kinda think he was my soulmate, but I had to leave! It took years to leave!! It was hard but I hope we meet again 🙏🏽❤️ may god bless his soul...
I feel your pain I loved mine too.. God knows I tried everything under the sun to help her.. But until she wants to quit on her own, there's nothing you can do but end the painful relationship and pray for her...
I needed to hear, crazy feeling like you're in a tug of war what do everything you realized it all, I hope to God damn they know they need help at least now they do I wish I could continue praying positive vibes....... this is a different kind of hurt thank you so much for sharing your story it's helping those around you
My bf is a functional alcoholic ... he can treat me really good but when he drinks too much.. he will shove me around and he has choked me. I'm scared itll get out if hand.. my last relationship was physically abusive... idk what to do.. this video helps a lot. Thank you
New rule. Do not hang out with him when he drinks, it's not worth it. If he wants to spend time with you he has to be sober. Otherwise he can't see you. If he isn't going to protect you from himself they you need to protect yourself from him!
You don’t need an explanation.. he did. That’s enough. Don’t look to people for closure. Give yourself closure. A lesson experience. It’s not a disease!! Diseases are not a choice. People choose to drink and not take control when they can feel their addiction. Calling it a disease released them from accountability.
I just recently had a falling out with my alcoholic bf and I’m having a hard time figuring out what happen .i feel like I failed him in some way because I didn’t stick with him until he got better .i don’t know if I’m the cause or if I could have done something .right now he’s getting drunk and ruining everything he owns while we were together .im scared of what will happen to him.hes my first love so I can’t imagine losing him especially not to alchohol.im heart broken .he quit for a whole year until I got a new job and couldn’t spend enough time with him (I worked morning he worked evenings)maybe he was dependent on me but all was well that whole year he was sober . I pray he will be ok
It's not your fault, please don't blame yourself. This is a battle he has to fight on his own and nothing you could possibly do would change anything. Do what's best for your life and stay strong.
Mine was my first love too. I left him because he cheated and he told me she gave him ultamatem and he chose me then two days later I called and she answered phone so I went over and broke up with him. He has asked me to marry him but because I suspicions he was cheating. When I went to break up with him he threw that in my face that he ask me to marry him and I didnt say yes but he also told me he was in love with us both so how was he going to Marry me.
Hi Veronica. Is there a way I could email you to discuss my story. I met a girl that was bruised all over her body from being abused as her and her partner we’re both alcoholics. She begged me for help and I spent 4 1/2 years trying to help her to health and sobriety. She destroyed me in the process! When they’re done with you they spit you out after they’re done using you! All the same cycle that you and your viewers have stated! I dedicated my life to helping her and got absolutely used and destroyed in the process!
I also left one of my best female friends. I loved her so much but she kept talking about her boyfriend how much great he is but he was a complete alcoholic and she kept this hope that one day he will become better but it didn't so when I confronted her then she hurt my feelings so I dumped her.
he ended up reaching out to me after a year and a half of not talking and harassed me/showed up to my home after i told him to leave me alone. had to get a restraining order lol. not sure where he is now.
Wow! Sounds so much like my story-just curious. Trying hard to stay no contact -it’s heartbreaking to continue to think they are capable of change. He’s such a kind man otherwise, but he’s tried repeatedly to stop and just can’t or won’t
