get comfy(and maybe put in some headphones) while listening to Kenzie and Austin talk about all things dating/sexuality/and a bit of advise as well! this episode had us peeing, we hope you do the same.
It’s so important to have someone who loves you the way you need to be loved! Proud of you for realizing what doesn’t serve you anymore and move on. I am 23 and still trying to learn that. It’s a process for sure
Austin has literally described what so many of us feel (me being bi but it's still the same) battling with internal feelings that hinder you as a person in some ways. It's so refreshing to hear it from people who get it and are so down to earth. Thanks for being so open Austin
listening to austin talk about coming out gets me (tho im bi). i spent my entire youth camouflage as a straight guy, pretending to be someone else. agreeing to opinions i didnt actually agree, but thats how being straight works. you suck it in and keep it hidden. boys dont cry, right? so now that im out, i still carry all this internalize homophobia with me. my friends are cool and accept me. but im still confused about who am i, bc i wasn't myself when i was young, and i dont know who am i supposed to be now. i dont know what being normal is, how can i go back to them and act normal if normal was not me to begin with. even tho they know im bi and dont mind i still feel im back in the closet around them. and dating guys or just having other gay friends is a complete different rabbit hole of confuse emotions bc with every person you are you have to rebuild your concept of femininity and masculinity and try to fit yourself in that bc your concept of relationship is still based on a woman and a man. it's not easy leaving bad habits behind. grr. being in the closet gives you the possibility to control things from hurting you by manipulating your truth, but when you're out, you're vulnerable to everything. and you're scare bc nobody likes to get hurt. things are better tho, so much better, but i feel im gonna spend many more years picking up myself until im me for the first time PS: im just talking about myself, im not trying to generalize here. different people, different places, different times, different experiences
I loveeeee this dynamic, and honestly being 22 and having been through the shit i’ve been through and listening to you guys have the same experiences, makes me feel normal. I think that loving yourself is so important and knowing yourself worth because it makes finding a person who will treat you right so much better. i was going to say easier but it’s not easier. you just know what you’ll accept and what you won’t and that changed my perspective on dating so much
I love this podcast, it’s so cool how open you are about everything and I cant wait for more in the future (ideas or podcast episodes could be your animals or traveling or something like that 😊)
I love how they talk about how they don't, and have never, viewed romantic relationships with a nonchalant mindset. That speaks volumes on their maturity, and how observant of the world they are. They'd rather be single than in a relationship with someone they don't see a future with and that's how I see it. To me, it's a waste of time and energy to be with someone who I can't see myself spending my life with because of you're wasting months or years with the wrong person, that right person is going to be years or decades down the road if they're not snatched up by then. Another thing, you really do take in someone else's energy when you're intimate with them. Whether that be physically or emotionally intimate, that stays with you. So be careful.
kenzie is so so pretty! love this episode it's taught me a lot about relationships... austin is so cute too im surprised he's never been in a relationship before
Hi guys 👋 . I just want to say that you two are amazing for being so real. I appreciate that you are being who you are and I feel in a weird way like we are friends already. I am a mom and listen to your podcast with my teenage daughter. You open up topics of discussion that my daughter and I can then openly talk about. Things that are important for us to discuss buy we probably never would without you guys leading the way. I truly believe that being open, honest and truthful with my daughter, really helps to build the trust in our relationship. So thank you so much and keep doing what you are doing. And please know that even the silly conversations are making a difference in people's lives. I love you both and wish you both the best always❤.
I love this podcast, you two are great! I think this was such a raw episode and so helpful and honest. I will add, I am probably 6/7 years older than you two and I still run into the same relationship problems, and figuring myself out, you truly are never done growing up and will always find out new things about yourselves, never feel pressure to understand yourselves entirely. You both have so much room and opportunity and time to realize who you are and what you want! Wish you both the best always!
Austin youre a literal angel. I am a woman who likes women and also 21 never been in a relationship and i relate to your story so much! Esp the always dreaming of love as a young person and every year being like when is it gonna come is it ever gonna come…You helped me to realize im not alone, so thank you
love this episode for sure! Maybe the next one could be about the music industry as a whole and your personal experiences since both of you are in the industry and have been for some time now!
I am a little older and have had the same issues with relationships. Loyal to a fault, usually gets cheated on. There are great girls out there, Kenzie is definitely one of them and I hope you find the one that dedicates themselves to you. You deserve nothing less. I'll stan from the sidelines hoping for the best for you. Just writing this cause you guys said you'd be reading lol, but I mean it. Your fandom knows it.
hiiii, loved this episode. i just recently got out of a long term relationship with an older guy. it was completely healthy and he was such an amazing caring guy but for some reason i lost interest. i needed time to find myself and learn to be on my own for a while (im 19). thank you so much for talking so openly abt relationships, its good to know others stuggle too!
Love this podcast so far! You two are the perfect host duo I’ve never actually been in a proper relationship so I can really relate to most of the things Austin said (I’m straight tho)… wishing you two all the best for your future! (not just dating future) 38:35 My older brother has been with a few questionable people tho... the most recent one was a girl who was literally just with him so her mom wouldn’t continue questioning why she still didn’t have a bf and she was too scared to tell her she was gay. So instead she dated him for two full years and broke up the second she moved out and had found a gf.. literally asked her out before breaking up with him to make sure she had someone to fall back on if it didn’t work out. One girl dated him to get closer to his best friend. And one girl who literally looked like she was in her 20s asked him out and they went out a few times, he had asked for her age on the first day and she had told him she was 19 (like him) and because she actually looked like she’d be older he just trusted her and didn’t want to be rude or say anything. Well he eventually found out she was actually just 16 and broke up with her and she was so mad about it that she went around and told the whole year that he was a pedo that fcked younger girls (the never did more than kiss btw). And eventually she admitted the truth that she had actually lied about her age because she thought he was hot and people always said she looked so much older and knew it would work. So yeah he’s not dated anyone since..
Can y’all make a video about dream futures. Like where would u wanna see yourself in 10 years and could you talk about like if your scared or excited or wtv. A video about fashion like fav inspos, places to shop, would u ever want to do more modeling, any brand you wanna colab with. Where are places you want to travel and why. A video about what you want for 2024, like a verbal dream board…maybe even make one while recording. One about friendships good or bad or knowing when it’s time to let go of people. But PLS make another video about relationships cause this was helpful as someone who’s never been in one and could relate to some of what Austin’s said, but also hearing from you(Kenzie) as someone who has could u give like advice on how to talk to people or confidence or literally anything would be helpful. Ouuu ok last one you should do like one special guest per week like every Friday or Sunday.
it’s so crazy how your dating life is broadcasted. i’m 26 and i was dating any and everybody when i was a teenager-23 bc it’s fun. gotta live a little. i wouldn’t know what to do if every guy i fkd was broadcasted to the world lmao.
can u guys talk about music? like your music videos. what your music is about? how long it takes to write them. you know just everything about songs and music. great episode btw. 🫶🏻
I'm a straight looking man lol. I would date Austin in 2 seconds. He's a sweetheart. And its not internalized homophobia Austin. Some guys are attractive and others are not to me too. It's a preference. Don't let the community bully you into telling you what you should be attracted to. You don't pick it, it just happens 😊❤
i see myself in Austin. ive only grown by myself and never been in a romantic relationship so i lack the knowledge of that. it bothers me a lot and i feel like i can’t really relate to my friends or participate in conversations ab that cause i’m not well versed in it. it’s sucks n i really hope i meet someone soon who can open that door for me. it’s been 21 years overdue
the reason why your job in the entertainment industry felt like a competition with your ex's is because a lot of men don't like their women to be more successful then them, coming from experience
My ex cheated on me with one of my good friends and my other best friend at the time, told me everything because my ex told my best friend. This all happened in high school, so much drama back then. So funny when I think about it now.
29:00 to 29:26. I respect Kenzie for not being into hookup culture because those type of things aren’t always safe. I’m glad she’s not allowing a whole bunch of men to take advantage of her in that way. Like yes hookup culture happens but it can be very dangerous for woman. The last thing you need is a man taking literal sexual advantage of you. It happens more often then people admit it but I think so many woman are r worded is because there allowing themselves to be apart of hookup culture. Having countless one nightstands with strangers you don’t know that is scary stuff it terrifies me of the woman who put themselves in those situations.
I’m 24 and have had 2 toxic shitty relationships and I already feel like my times running out I don’t even know if there’s possibly any good men out there anymore now days. Also especially finding men that don’t want kids because many in my age category are already wanting them but I’ve just chosen to not have kids. So finding a man that wants that as well.
Wow. The way he explained the flower with sexuality is the exact thing I’ve never been able to put into words. I’ve never wanted to say “I got gayer over the years “ because that’s just not a good description. And on top of that I’m bi.
Dudes! I have got this one guy who I have known for almost five years! And let me tell you, it was such a whirlwind! I always liked him but he took a while to figure out his own feelings for me and he eventually admitted he liked me too. But then he joked about being fwbs, which we weren't, and I felt disrespected. So then that summer, he made a fake account on instagram to talk to me (which I didn't know at the time he was lying). I refused cause he didn't apologize, but then this past summer, he found me on tiktok and seemingly apologized for real but after I went out on one date with him, I asked him if he even wanted to be in a relationship with me, but he wasn't serious. So the last thing he said to me was that he'll go screw himself after I said I didn't feel comfortable with the pet names if we weren't dating. And then literally this past week, a mutual friend of ours told me he asked for me to unblock him and I was so beyond pissed
I have been in the most toxic relationships ever... every guy i ever "dated" used me to try and get with my friend. I have never been on a real date or got flowers.
In our generation if you want the men to be yours dont be nice to him. And teach him ways to not fuck up. They only learn if you stay to teach them how to mature. In my opinion her ex was not to be taken seriously in the first place. What did she even see in him
I love Austin I asked him if he can speak about stuff happening in Palestine and he said he would but he’s not educated yet😢 I hope he educate himself and start to speak people are dying ❤
My recent ex boyfriend is 25 and he’s still immature. He’s actually a straight up man child and is co dependent on his whole family? Like dude stop living in there shadows you’ll get nowhere in life then? Like I’m not gonna lie I’ve been codependent and find almost all my happiness in the romantic relationships I’ve made and I know that’s not the best either but I think it’s far worse to be co dependent on family then it is a lover? If you get what I mean because it’s entirely different and this recent one I wanted him to be my forever because I’m in it for a serious committed relationship but I guess he wasn’t? Anyways what I trying to say is the love you get from your family is entirely different then the ones your getting in a romantic relationship. These are both not the same thing a romantic relationship is on a deeper level then family is. If you get it ya get it. if ya don’t ya don’t.
Then again my recent ex wasn’t taught how to treat girls either? His older brothers never told him anything or gave him the wrong advice. Oh and his dad don’t even get me started he was a toxic boomer that was really horribly sexist to woman and had 4 failed marriages? Yea that should have all been a warning sign to me from the start. Especially the horrible way his father treated woman was uncalled for.
In May 14 2019 I was 15 at the time and I had my first ever bf and I was head over heels in “love “ and giving him all the homemade gifts and stuff and he bought me a slice of pizza and we went on dates then 2020 we were still together and talking then I found out that he was cheating on me with this toxic girl and she texted me inappropriate things and she was 13/14 and he was 14 and then we got back together in the end of March and the beginning of April of 2020 and it went back to normal and I cared about him and then he was talking about s*x and like he’s going to book a hotel and then yeah ( we were 15/14 ) and I wasn’t ready and I know that and then we were fighting and then didn’t talk for 3 days and then 2021 it was all good then I got told by my friend that he said this and then telling me to break up with him so I did then he dated my whole friend group and then in 2022 he dated my bsf and I was like yeah whatever but apart of me was like how can someone just do the one year later then they were a thing but then 2023 came and they started having issues and then she broke up with him and she was talking to a different guy before breaking up with the ex and he dated this new girl was a downgrade and now he’s single and I’m 20 now and putting myself first
