Dating Indonesian men (dan cara PDKT sama cewek bule) 

I didn't want to speak for Indonesian women here but I'm so interested in reading all the comments. Turns out my Indo girls feel the same way! Yeah! We're all looking for that 20% I guess.

So freakishly accurate! The first Indonesian guy I dated literally sent me the 'Haeve you eat' text the first day and 'I love you' the second hahaha. I just wish my bahasa Indonesia was a little better so I could understand exactly what you're saying for the Indonesian men in this video - but, Sacha, I think I can trust you enough to show this to my Indonesian bf hahaha Right?! I love your videos so much, you are a godsend for us bule women - keep it up!

i'm not even bule but i really hate that "sudah makan belum?" thing lol just.... don't ever ask that guys, eating is a must and we are not going to like forget to do it

Took me over 10ish long years and couple of dates (pacaran) before I finally clicked to 1 girl that's my soulmate. The rule of thumb is "BE YOURSELF"! Chances are, you were born original, don't live and die as a fake! Be genuine and you'll get that 1 special person who will admire and adore you, and vice versa.

I'm Indonesian & I'll run if a guy tell me "I love you" on the first date or too early. Mission abort 😂😂😂

Jangankan cewek bule, saya yang asli indonesia raya saja, kalau Di chat udah makan belum? Jangan lupa makan, lagi ngapain, muakkkkk sekalii ouy

Lol this is so typical. I'm indonesian, but i often confuse why there's guys who says "love" in early relationship. Even when in "PDKT stage". It's weird. You don't even know her that well, it's not disney guys, seriously.

((they don't care about grammar mistakes)) org indo mah salah grammar dikit aja langsung di judge abis2an lmao

sacha, bikin video romantis "how sacha and angga meet". penasaran nich gmn PDKT nya angga hehehe

1. "Sudah makan belum?" 2. Minjem duit sama pacar 3. Yakin banget cewek wajib nurut sama cowok Tragically, these are the most common characteristics that can be found among Indonesian men. Nggak cuma cewek asing doang yang geli sama hal-hal di atas. Cewek Indo juga banyak kok yang langsung mundur ketika ketemu cowok-cowok kayak gitu. Gak paham, kenapa cowok-cowok yang misoginis justru yang paling posesif dan nggak malu minjem duit atau minta dibayarin ini itu sama ceweknya. Something is very wrong when a guy believe that a girl should obey him, available when he need her, but also able to pay the bills.

Daripada nanya 'udah makan belum?', mending nanya 'uang transferannya sudah masuk?'

i swear, i did what Sacha said here when i has traveled in Bali. lagi duduk-duduk sendirian di Pantai Kuta macam anak ilang, ada cewek bule minta tolong diphotoin. So, take some picture of her. Then i try to make a convertation (gw ga pernah lakukan ini sebelumnya). Before i go to Bali alone, my friend in Jakarta tell me that bule kalau mereka senyum ke kita harua kita balas senyum. Kejadian di malam sebelumnya saat seorang cewek bule bilang hai ke gw dan gw ga ladenin ga boleh terjadi lagi. So, i said her to take my picture too. Then, (with a little nervouse) i ask her name, from where. Surprise, she answer every question. Pertanyaan2 sepele sih, film apa yang dia suka, apa yang dia suka dari Bali, dsb. But i make a lil bit mistake. That is, I much talked about my self. Tapi luckinya, dia baik. Akhirnya dia minta tolong diantar beli parfum...ah ya, berhubung murah gw beliin aja sekalian. I swear, cuma 20rb ngapain pelit. hahahaha. Sayangnya, waktu itu dia mau balik ke Rusia. Dan tidak sempat bertukar nomor telpon. Until now, i search her on FB with some Rusian Bule in Bali. Bukan untuk diajak nikah, because i knew she was marriage now. Hanya untuk bersahabat. I love having friend around the world and I love the peoples. I love you guys. God Bless You. Ah Ya, That is my picture with her. thanks

There used to be classifieds in Poskota newspaper of guys seeking "prospective wives" who're obeydient, can cook, religious, good housekeeper, good with kids, etc. Those guys have better chances of finding maids "pembantu" rather than wives. I don't know is any newspaper still have those kinds of adds.

As an Indonesian this is as accurate as can be. Loving how relatable your videos are!

'dating Indonesian men is like...much more drama' hahahaha 😂😂😂

Hahaha... 90% Agreed, I'm an indonesian (balinese) man that been stay long in australia, and once i back and work in Bali, i have a friend ask to me... "why my boy friend always want to borrow money?"... i cannot say that is our mentality but many (not all) indonesian peoples see that foreign are more rich base on jobs, salary / business bla bla bla... but honestly they not see how the process is... GOOD JOB!!

Thank You Sacha, your video has made me happy, but something you shall to know that indonesian definitely can't speak english as good as 'bule'. But your sentence "Kalau grammar belum terlalu lancar, jangan pakai itu, pakai yang biasa saja" make us feel "Yes, sacha's right" "If we can't speak english with all of the right grammar, don't do that" nanti dikira kita pamer. Thx Sacha !

Hi sacha! I can relate to almost everything you said. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now. It is a lot of drama but nothing is ever boring in this relationship. We both watched this video and I said to him it was sooooo true hahahahaha. Love that you made this video. It helps bule understand more about Indonesian man thought

seriously though i'm indonesian , and yass you are so true .. not just bule girls si actually , every girls hate those type of text like "ud makan belom? lagi apa?" ya bruh .. mending beliin aing makanan , kebanyakan bacot nanya2 ud makan belom .. 😂 and they "obey" part OMG I HATE THAT SHIT SO MUCH .. 😢

Oh my goodness, Sacha. I don't think it's an Indonesian guy thing. I think it's an Asian guy thing. I only understood a quarter of what you said but it already sounds super familiar.

Oh shot !! this is amazing . I am totally out of touch with Indonesian culture. since I'm raised in texas, grew up in Chicago/boston and work in dc. . but damnnnn. this is so accurate even all the way out here I recognized the gem you spit out Sascha. I'm loving this. "interracial relationship is not a hostile colonization take over " 😆 the irony didn't escape me . you got yourself a new fan . Imma stalk you around and be that guy . (nah I'm too cool for that guy )

Hi Sacha! I literally just discovered your channel half an hour ago, and I found your videos highly relatable since I'm an Indonesian teenager living in United States this year (I'm on an exchange program). Aside from the fact that I felt attacked (in a good way, like I mean it's funny) by video kamu soal remaja Indonesia yang ngomong bahasa Indonesia dan Inggris campur-campur because I'm one of them, watching your videos with my host family ended up with a thorough discussion about the cultural differences between US and Indonesia. Thanks, and I truly enjoy your videos!

Sacha. This is TOTALLY a great video! I know I'm not bule but THIS! This is the answer to why I don't put Indonesian men on my first list. Stop asking me whether I've eaten or no, sending me lots of texts and apologising for "disturbing" cuz I'm not always on my phone godamnit, and said LOVE on the second date :/ I don't have problems with dating Indonesian men, think some of them are very handsome, with their dark skin colour, hmm... but this kind of behaviour annoy the shit out of me. I really hope lots of Indonesian guys watch this video and do some reflection. Thanks much Sacha!

Aku bukan bule tapi aku benci semua yg dilakuin laki2 di video ini

actually all girls are like that, not only foreigners, but indo, chinese indo, european, I have ever experienced with all of them(but ofc not at the exact same time), they were all have those behaviour you mentioned. The key is only one imo, guys must respect his gf.

80% of Indonesian male you know say 'I love you' on the first date? You must really be in a wrong crowd.

i'm not really interest in western girl, but this tips is nice...

Perasaan saya dapat kenalan bule2 di Bali gampang banget. 1. Jangan kaku 2. Kamu harus tau bule sukanya apa (mabok) 3. Go to beach club 4. Pesen minum (jangan sampai mabok, setengah mabok aja) 5. Turun ke dance floor 6. Joget paling heboh/lucu (bule suka itu) 7. Liat respon sekitar (liat bule yg ngeliatin lo terus ketika lo lagi joget lucu, kebanyakan bule senyum2 sendiri ngeliatin tingkah polah lo joget g karuan, deketin target bule yang senyum2 itu tandanya dia udah open to talk, bahkan malah kamu yang sering di samperin diajak separingan jogetnya, pernah sampe diajak ke next party dia selanjutnya) 8. Open to talk (bulenya udah open nih, lo ajak ngobrol aja basa basi standartlah, nama, dari mana, sama siapa aja, berapa hari di bali, dll) 9. Perkenalkan Indonesia kepada bule itu, kasih tau tempat2 bagus di Bali (mengajukan diri mendadak jadi tour guide / translator dia selama di Bali, bule tertarik itu, dan minta tukeran nomer, dikasih dong 😁) 10. Besoknya di chat atau malahan kamu yang duluan di chat 11. Be yourself tapi yg sopan 12. Beda budaya (bule sukanya yg unik, kok beda ya, kok kamu care ya beda sama bule2 cow pada umumnya, yalah di negara dia semua orang sibuk dengan urusannya masing2, setelah beberapa hari ketemu dan lo tanya, gi apa, udah makan belum, bagi dia itu unik, kok care gini, bedalah pokoknya dari budaya mereka, itu membuat mereka tertarik) 13. Udah tertarik sama lo 14. Lanjutin sendiri mau dibawa kemana terserah lo ✌️🤣 Sekian dan terimakasih, selamat mencoba, semoga berhasil.

Hahahaha cewek indonesiapun bakal marah kalo diatur2 bajunya atau disuruh nurut

tinggal di indonesia punya pasangan orang lokal, ya pastinya menguntungkan lah, akan sangat terbantu dari sisi solve problem, yg penting step2 kecocokanya n masing2 nyaman dah terpenuhi

you're talking about Indonesian teenage boys not the men, :p

really? 80% cowo indo suka minjem uang ke pacarnya? wow....pengetahuan baru buat gw yang cowok.

tapi rata rata cewe bule (abg) disini (bali), ngeliat cowo lokal yang pertama mesti badannya atletis dulu, berotot gituuu (this is the requirement PRE-PDKT) setelah itu baru bisa chat.

Udah ga jaman nanya "udah makan belum?" sekarang jamannya "Yuk cari makan bareng" ;))

Cara membuat bule mengejar Anda: Pertama, datangi si bule pas lagi mau bertransaksi.. Kedua, ajak bicara.. Ketiga, ambil dompetnya.. Keempat, kabur SEKARANG JUGA!!!

I've been in a relationship with an Indonesian guy and I am totally agree with all the fact especially from the first to the fourth stage!!

And now a second video, made by your hubby, telling us about being with a bule girl. That would be awesome. BTW, also in my situation (bule guy with Indonesian girl) the list of things is endless.

Great last comment about his house -- you are so hilarious and insightful Sacha!

I'm an Indonesian girl...but my way of thinking is mostly like that of Bule girls xD

Waduh mbak sacha iki reeeekkk..🤣 It's both the good analysis, the good tips.. you know our people so well.. mantuuuuul👍

yaay we like your videos are so nice but please 😢 have English subtitles for the Indonesian part

your tips doesnt only work for western women tbh, works for me too. important tip: have a background check on the men first yall!

i merried already, i still asking my wife "sudah makan belum?" or she asked me the same question, its just an ice breaker for conversation and kind of attention for eachother

aww. makin bagus format videonya. makin berwarna. love it

Terimakasih karena saranmu ini aku sudah pacaran sama bule asal italy.. Terimkasih :) Ti Amo

One time when I was on board the ship, I am eating Indonesian fried noodle accompany by girl from netherland ( tentunya pake nasi 😊) i offer her to tasted if she like it. & She like it so much, so we're eating meal together in one plate with little chat & finally we're dating. That is the first time I am dating "bule". Bener katanya shasa, intinya kita cuma harus jd diri sendiri, honest, humble & polite. Ga cuma bule, siapapun akan suka koq.

Semua yang sascha bilang adalah FAKTA 😂

Kelakuan menyebalkan cowok indonesia kalau PDKT cewek lewat sms. Isi nya: hai, sorry ganggu ya, sudah makan belum, you very busy, why you not reply my message, why you not answer my call, kamu tinggal dimana, boleh kenalan Gak, aku cinta kamu pada kenalan pertama. Kelakuan cowok indonesia ketika pacaran. 1. Mengekang perempuan. 2. Menuntut perempuan harus jadi penurut 3. Pencemburu 4. Kirim teror sms kalau si cewek sedang jalan sama orang lain Kelakuan cowok indonesia kalau pacaran sama cewek bule 1. Minjam duit 2. Si cowok merahasiakan alamat rumah nya 3. Lebih banyak drama saat pacaran

well, for me,, since i was kind of grown up with elmo instead of my local wayang.. i cannot denied that you're 80% true, still.. it also applies to 80% of indonesian woman,, so like it or not, i gotta go by the games rule here,, haha i dated Japanese once, while for most indonesan woman i know i do the very low standard of "pdkt".. she say that i was quite presistant.. oh dont worry, give me the tips,, im that 20% of population,, i guess.. i dunno..

Sejak gak bahas political things Ibu Sacha jadi makin makin keren lagi.. bener bener great content. Subscribe lagi ah~

I'm a bule guy dating with an indo girl and all the stages are the same! But the stage #3 came up not in a few months of relationships but in 1-2 weeks.

Maybe the first tip should be: Make sure your Indonesian man is not married, engaged, liberal, open minded, confident, not too religious, etc

Hey still like your blog, just an advice to tone down on the jilbab reference, it is a bit stereotyping... But overall the message are still spot on 😃😃😃

@Sacha Stevenson you have just described most Muslim men in SEA region!!! Not only Indonesian men, but these traits are evident in most Singaporean / Malaysian men too

TAPI... sy mau tanya nih, sacha kmu sdh makan blm? ^_^

Spot-on even quite accurate for women too.. they seem to follow the same sequence and steps as though when all the Malay-Batak are born they are given a Guide book of how to date.. is funny because it is so true..

halfway thru i realized you werent even speaking english but i was still watching so intently 😂😂

youre the second western who said grammar ain't much needed in conversation..like it...ngebuat anak anak yg bhs inggris jd bahasa kedua jadi lebih woles ngomong..thanks

Could you add english subtitles?? I can't understand half of it and i really want to :(

Enak nonton videonya, jadi terbiasa dengar bahasa inggris yang pengucapannya simple-simple..

I want to come in Indonesia and find a love there

I'm not bule, but that totally happened to me. And after that, I've been dating bule and I feel more peaceful.

jangan pedulikan gramar saat ngmong sama bule , ok deh

This is very similar for my Indonesian Fiance. Apart form the money stuff. However she let me know really early we should be married. (We are both muslim) Being English i resisted a little at first, but then accepted it and 8 months in I ma very happy. Inshallah married soon! Saya Cinta Indonesia! Love your Vids too!

Baru kencan pertama udah bilang cinta. Wkwkwkwkwkwk! Kencan kedua ngajak nikah dah! Orang Indonesia generasi sekarang kan pada lebay semua.

From experience, this applies just as much to indonesian women with foreigners... Things might play out differently but they are essentially the same issues. So girls, just swap "guy" with "girl" and vice-versa for some golden tips by Sacha.

Teh Sacha, pernah ada yang bilang mirip Rose Byrne gak? asli mirip pisan, haha :D

Hi Sacha, sudah makan? Bagus juga nasihatnya. Dan bener kan, itu universal. Bukan utk cewe bule aja. Cuman masalah bahasa, itu konteksnya di Indo saja ya. Kalau ada kalian2 yg mau ke luar negeri (misalnya USA nih) dan ingin sukses di pendidikan, bisnis, profesi, dll, bahasa itu biasanya dijadikan ukuran tingkat pendidikan kalian. Jadi ya harus belajar berbahasa yang bagus. Tapi kalau dalam konteks bersosial di indonesia, ya lebih bagus main labrak aja biar tetap seru. Curhat dikit nih. Kita2 ini jengkel banget deh kalau ada pejabat ke luar negeri dan ngomongnya ngga becus. Lebih baik ngomong bahasa indonesia saja yang baik dan benar lah. Daripada pakai bahasa yg tidak tepat dan kosakata yang dangkal. Biarlah si penterjemah yg menyampaikan maksud pembicara sepenuhnya (apalagi kalau di wawancara). Sudah negara korup, pejabatnya juga kelihatan ngga pinter. Wah rasanya capnya gimana gitu ....

Bule banyak kesamaan dengan buto rambut geni. Jarang dlm kisah pewayangan yg nikah dengan buto

Thx Sacha! Saya menikmati menonton youtube kamu. Penasaran banget dengan performance kamu di show nya Ernest. Gonna watch it ASAP. Stay make good content ya... =))

semoga saya dpt jodoh bule yg sholehah 😁

I am indonesian girl and I really dislike the question like "sudah makan belum", "lagi ngapain?", "kerja dimana?". That's sooo not creative. I expect you to say things like "hobi kamu apa?" atau film kesukaan kamu apa. Come on man be more creative. I think I am more into English speaking man than Indonesian man.

Saya dari Malaysia ,selalu ke Indonesia urusan kerja ,sya x faham lelaki sana kulit sangat tebal 😡seumur hidup saya x pernah lelaki minta duit ,di Indonesia baru kenal sampai cari saya di hotel pinjam duit Rp 2000 hari2 dtag mahu isi minyak motor ,ada lagi lelaki kerja polisi pun begitu juga minta duit pinjam ingat sya ini ATM ,isteri atau kekasih mereka .Ajak sya pergi makan di kedai malahan bawa keluarganya sekampung. Maaf sya bukan burukan Indonesia tapi pernah terjadi realiti nya,sya lagi suka kawan sama kerja biasa saja daripada berkawan orang ada kerja di kantor @ goverment ,tiada duit . Oh Sorry Im not gils Stupid 😀sya juga kerja cari duit penat

sacha buat video seperti ini lagi dong.. tips PDKT sama cowok bule. hehehe.. kadang orang indo itu suka gak sadar tentang hal-hal aneh yang mereka obrolin pas PDKT, jadi lucu pas ngelihatnya. dan jadi tau juga cara berpikir bule itu gimana saat di tanya2 sama orang indo. orang indo kan kadang pertanyaanya suka ngaco.hehehe sukses terus videonya yaa sacha..

Singkatnya... Cowo Indonesia katro... termasuk saya... hahaha

If there is subtitles in English, it would be great...I like your videos and had been to Indonesia but not much familiar with the language...

bgmn cara PDKT sma cwok bule? tipsnya dong mba Sacha

setuju Sasha !! ini juga berlaku sama cowok Indonesia yang pengen deketin cewek yang udah lama pacaran atau deket sama bule

ya ampyun... mbak sasha... kok bener bgt yah...?? tapi kayak nya ga cuman ce bule deh yang feel annoyed ama co macam gt... like WTH! suruh bayarin cicilan mobil! GOSH! gue buang ke laut tuh co kayak gt. masih pacaran ajah udh pinjem2 duit.., HAHAHA

'Udah makan belum?' itu sama dengan "small talk" nya orang Indo. Karena orang indo doyan makan, makanannya unik-unik dan percakapannya bisa berkembang dari situ. Sama kayak orang bule ngomongin cuaca. 'Its a nice weather, isn't it?' udah tau cuaca bagus masih nanya.

i've dated one indonesian guy and he is very possesive & he is i can say 90% exactly like what sasha said except that he doesnt ask money from me and he is not married and he took me to meet his mom. but he wanted to marry me after a week of dating. 😂😂

Benar sekali, kebetulan saya punya “teman” bule dari kanada. Sekarang saya mulai paham kebiasaan dan karakternya. Dan kita harus rela mendengarkan saat dia mebaca buku🙏🙏🙏

Waahhh, cowo turki lebih parah, blm juga 1 jam udah bilang i love you, bohong nya lebih parah dari indo, dan tukang selingkuh

maybe the Indonesian guy who the bule girls can date with is the Indonesian guy who ever lived on state for many years or the Indonesian guy who known bule culture better. or maybe some bule girls who really love n understand about the Indonesian culture will falling love with d Indonesian guy. perhaps they'll married too. Thats "LOVE" , is not about how bad or how good the person you like, but its about how they understand each other. anyway i like your video good job.

Day 1. Ask for love Day 2. Ask for making love Day 3. Dont ask me again, Lu Gue End!

You know, I start noticing that your english has Indo accent with yankee's pronounciation, awesummmmm.

seriously im an asian american living in indo and indo guys scare the shit out of me based on experience. i swear. i am now happily dating an american man. so. sorry guys. u guys should stop being creeps.

itulah mengapa aku katakan betapa banyaknya bahasa di Indonesia, terima kasih kamu sudah mau belajar bahasa Indonesia dan Sunda

how about "how to PDKT with a bule guy" ? and yes im a guy.

wow you're so expert at this things.

so girls, wanna date indonesian men? 😂

Wow, this is helpful a lot. I learned a lot of things by watching thi video. Thank you so much Sacha Stevenson ^^

intinya kebanyakan cowok indo itu alay dan kebanyakan cewek indo itu suka digombalin ahaha

Oh my God... itu emang serius ada cowok yg gitu ke Sacha? Wow... sadis ih... maksudku mau cewe bule ato ngga... memperlakukan cewe seperti itu sadis lo... Hug Sacha 🤗🤗

hi.... udh mandi blm?

you live in Indonesia for too long Sacha. Nailed it! 😂

bule mmg tdk suka basa basi bule g butuh cinta bule cm butuh harta bule suka lihat cowo sukses saat km knalan sma cewe bule dia pasti akan memandang latar blakang km. klo sekira ny masa dpan km suram boro2 pny mobil mending kelaut aja so yg terpenting adalah jd lah org Indonesia g perlu harus jd sprti org bule dan cintai produk indonesia

i watched the first three minutes, and it's soooooooooooo accurate Sacha lol good job!

Seharusnya waktu anda menerangkan anda harus lebih banyak menggunakan Bahasa Indonesia,karena anda memberikan Tips Untuk orang Indonesia bukan untuk orang bule ,Dan perlu anda ingat Kemampuan Masyarakat Indonesia menggunakan Bahasa Inggris masih Rendah.Semoga bermanfaat untuk anda

I see a lot of comments from Indonesian girls that they can relate. This is basically a problem with Indonesian men not just to bule girls but also to Indonesian girls. I can only imagine what dating those guys might be like for a girl, I just want to say on behalf of Indonesian men who doesn't do those things, that we do actually exist. Good Indonesian men do exist as well as bad bule girls do exist. It's a problem of finding the good ones. If you girls find a man too much, talk to him. Indonesian men are really sensitive but they are determined to solve a problem when they know it. Bule girls I have dated haven't exactly been honest. It's hard to find an honest girl. I think I just want to say that if the girl have a problem, then say it, most of the time it is something that can be changed, and if he is willing to change that for you, then he must like you one way or another.