OMG, Maya! I am totally with you on your nails. I went to this new shop. This guy there did a fabulous job on my nails; but then, I went back and he asked me what I wanted (this was in February). I said PINK. He said that’s not a Valentines color. So he had an attitude and messed up my nails. I like square shape. He gave me ALMOND! I was mad. Needless to say, I haven’t gone back! I pay $90 for my nails. I know it might be more in Atlanta, but that’s a lot where I live. And lastly, I wanted to say, DO NOT FEEL BAD BEING FRUGAL! You are teaching Amirah to be a good steward over the money God has blessed you with. You are laying up wealth the her and her children, your grandchildren. ❤
Proud of you Maya!! I struggled with speaking up for myself as well for yearrssss!! Until one day my Pastor just randomly (but not random at all) said the Lord said confrontation is not a bad thing and it's okay to speak up for myself!! Girl that freeedd me!
You are 100% NOT TRIPPING!!! I think a lot of us struggle with speaking up. I did...until I didn't, and it just so happen to be at a nail salon. Every time I went for a set or fill, the tech would tell me how she thought MY NAILS should look. When I spoke up (and not in a demure timid tone) she got big mad and I did not care. If I'm paying my money for a service, I will absolutely get what I want. I'm with you sis ✊🏾
Maya I have struggled with what you’re talking about as well 29:00 speaking up for myself and not letting certain things slide; the things that I know can affect me negatively or goes against my beliefs system …. Shake the table! People don’t be true to themselves or say/ do what they want etc.. you say/do what you need to in a respectful way. Period.
Great video! You look amazing Maya! I agree….Shake the table! I do think we should not limit “classy” to neutral colors. Classy can be colorful or neutral. It depends on how you express yourself. I wouldn’t consider myself a fun girl due to the color of my wardrobe capsule. I feel like the spirit of God within me and the way I carry myself in good times and during challenges contribute to my classiness. You are absolutely a classy woman, Maya, color or no color! It’s all about how you rock it!❤
Thank you sis! And you’re right! I’ve always associated classy with neutral but I’m trying to change that mindset cuz that’s not true!! 🙌🏾 it’s how you wear it
I had seborrheic dermatitis before and I went to the dermatologist and got a special shampoo and use it for a couple of months and haven’t had a problem since. Oil and grease can inflame it more. Just FYI.😊
Hey, suge!! Around the 26 min mark you talked about you introducing color into your wardrobe. What helped me out is finding my *color palette thru *color analysis. As a “deep autumn,” while I gravitate towards nudes/neutrals, I can still wear other colors within that palette that don’t veer off from my personal aesthetic. It also flatters as well. Give it a try! 💙
Yes dating is a mess now. I have learned that texting in the initial stages can be a good thing or a bad thing. Its nice to see the bad guys weed themselves out early tho. 😂 Literally the first week EVERYTIME 😂
So did i hear Maya say she's bringing back the tutorials? Detailed skin like finish make up look - updated version... 🌾👀🌾 or was it just me cause I'm here for it 😂🥰
Maya you are NOT wrong, and that’s exactly what it is. Not speaking upset someone, it’s not just about your nails it’s the principal. 💯 Even if it was just about nails, you’re paying for the service so you should be satisfied with it.
OMG the nail shop story and not speaking up for myself I can totally relate! AND this literally just happened to me! I am working hard to speak up for myself, and prioritizing me and my feelings ! I'll take this as a sign that I am on the right path!
I agree. We have to speak up about the things and services that affect us! I have learned to do this even when it rocks the ship buuuuuuut I will rock this whole ship if I feel y’all steering me somewhere I don’t wanna go. Your nails should be how you want. And everything else you pay for or deal with. Period.
You and I are so much alike when it comes to speaking up for ourselves. I'm trying not to be passive and not to accept what others are giving me disregarding my own feelings. Lately, I've been calling ppl out on their bs as well as limiting access to myself to ppl that continually put me in a position of contention.
MAYA! If you continue dating, get a Google voice number. Don't give out your info. I used to do the same thing at the nail salon...and in other areas. I went on a year-long campaign of "advocating for myself". It makes a world of difference and definitely improves the quality of life.
Maya i have watch and repeat this episode so many times.. because the talk you had in the car.. girl though you talking about nails,you standing up for yourself..it home so much.. girl thank you.. shake the damn table.. allowing everyone around you to be happy while your miserable.. speak up girl...thank you sis..Blessings
Nope, you're not tripping AT ALL. I went off on a nail tech who grabbed my hand. She got cursed out, cried, and ran to the back. Such is life! They got someone else to do my nails and all went well. 😊 I literally shook the table!!
A nail tech made me CRY before cause I was afraid to be the “Angry Black Woman” I asked for their opinion on a color to match my carnival costume & they said they couldn’t help me.. When I said the other tech helped me, they said “Come back when she’s here” (two of them said it) I was on a time crunch so I stayed, then they lied to me about not being able to do designs so I decided not to do my feet there. Could not take anymore. Very relatable!
Baby this is WHYYY i stopped going to the nail shop and found my own tech because alot of techs in shops are just lazy and im 24 so i feel like im just now learning how to speak up because making excuses in the service industry is wild and they almost ALWAYS get defensive
That brown (at the start of the video), blush, and green look GOOD on you! So glad you found a church you enjoy… I’m sure that was missing in the previous year. Try aviators … I think those would look good on you! Nail techs are so hard to find. Your epiphany surrounding that experience is so true for many situations. Keep growing & GLOWING ❤
I'm so happy you're on this journey of self discovery and deeper introspection because as you said, yes its just nails, but it affects so many areas In our lives. #shakethatshitup !!!
I'm so happy for this phase of your life. You are putting in the effort and showing up for you. ✔️✔️So happy for you speaking up for yourself. No more excuses for nobody! You look happier and more present on this journey and I pray God continues to order your steps You will get there!💐 P.S I don't usually comment but this is my word of encouragement. Keep pushing!
Dating in ATLANTA is GHETTO SIS LOL… and get the microblading… you won’t regret it !!! ❤❤❤ also French too can be tricky. I had to buy my own personal color base. They don’t have the right base for all skin tones. So i feel you. I got tired of letting them do what they want and not speaking up
Dating period is GHETTO! 😂 I have stories too. I had a guy text me his whole address…saying come over if you feel like it. Dude! We just met two days ago. I didn’t respond. I was out having brunch and hanging out with my girl. Boy Bye! 😂😂😂😂
I enjoyed the vlog Maya!!! You should use google voice when giving out your number. I typed my number in online and everything about me was on there although I requested for it to be removed from many websites.
It's important to assert yourself when you're not happy with the service you receive. Recently, I had to get my big toe fixed and the job was rushed and poorly done. When I expressed my dissatisfaction, the person in charge argued with me and even threatened to charge me extra to fix the mistake. It's disappointing that a business owner would treat a customer this way, especially for such a simple task. Remember, it's always okay to stand up for yourself and demand the quality of service you deserve.
Maya you should consider going to a private nail tech or only booking with the same person. especially if you're very particular. when i was a child I was timid and never spoke up for myself. i grew out of that very quickly..i found my voice around the age of 19, im 34 now. i say wtf i wanna say to whoever. i live in truth and reality and don't give af who has a problem with it and life is better for it 😎
Maya!!! I literally had to pull my car over and get off the road to comment on this video!!! Have always argued that when I’m paying I should get what I want especially when I know I’ve properly communicated my wants! I have this issue all the time when trying to get my hair braided! Girl you spoke a word to me! Standing on this in every aspect of my life moving forward ❤ who wants to live unhappy!!👏🏾👏🏾
I feel you maya, I had to tell myself to not to seek dating out and seek God and his guidance and let things happen organically. Until then I’m trying to be intentional about focusing on me and what makes me happy! Good luck!
Hey Maya 👋🏾 I see a lot of influencers focused on skin care but hardly ever see anyone applying sunscreen. We all really should use it year around; even for us melinated girlies
Lol Maya you sound just like me about being traumatized from marriage/relationships. Me and my ex-husband got married 6 months after reconnecting from high school and if I could go on a nationwide campaign tour to tell women to stop romanticizing this notion to get married quick....I don't recommend anyone to do that at all. Now we do have to make room for God but you'll know when it's Him...but 9 times out of 10 He wants you to build a strong foundation first. I literally was laughing out loud because I said the same thing to my parents that when God send my forever Godly husband he is going to be begging them to tell me to marry him and it's going to be like year 4 of our relationship...I got to be for sure for sure 😆.
Heyy Maya, you are looking good. I would advise when giving out your number. You shld give them a Google number as an option instead of your personal one.
Happy Sunday !!! Ladies lets continue to check our services that we work hard and pay for......Thanks Maya sis💜💜💜💜 SCREAMING SHAKE THE TABLE new word for 2024🤣🤣
Hunnniiii.. You started talking shades, and again, my virtual friend in my head is right up my alley! 🤷🏿♀️🫶🏿🤞🏿 I have to wear prescription glasses. So we're almost forced to make glasses a part of the fit. Anyway... Keep making the gradual positive changes that you're making. It's makes living life that much more worthwhile. ❤
Omg girl you are heading to my city! I am from Denver and Ive lived here in ATL for the last 4 years. Enjoy yourself! Make sure you Vlog because I am a tad homesick lol! 😂
The "woah" in front of the emoji kind of explains the emoji 😂🤦🏾♀️ no one wants you to die alone. Seems he was mind blown because he thought the complete opposite.
Hey Maya, "Who's this woman?" 😂😍Chile I hear you on the nail tech not doing your nails the way you want them. You are paying for a service and if the nail tech can't do them correct then you have every right to speak up on it! I had a nail tech fix my nails because I broke two, the nail tech made them too thin and had the nerve to get an attitude so, I got up and went somewhere else.
Hey beautiful. I came across your channel several months ago. Thought about you this weekend when I came over for Change HER. I live in Bham and follow Change online but actually joined the Atl campus New Year 2023. It IS an amazing church! Planned to check out Overstory rooftop while I was in town but no reservation available. Thank you for sharing your stories with the world.
I heard you say that church started at 1:15 and I wondered...does she attend Change Church? You answered that question as I kept watching. Pastor Daniels is dynamic, I pray for him that he never leaves the center of God's will.
You snapped with these bouquets 💐❕ 😍 & that guy is a jerk, I’m so happy that you are not compromising your standards. That would have saved me a lot of grief, had I done that in my 20’s.
Ok so there’s 2 things I just want to say to you about your video Maya 1. I heard that you wanna try colors but still keep your sophisticated look. Because you’re darkskin ( Bright orange, hot pink and bright turquoise) is your colors that would look soooo good on you. Trust me and you can balance it off with your neutral colors. 2. I hate the salon and switch to press on nails. It’s cheaper and looks so good, Try it
A coworker / friend of mine met her boyfriend off Facebook dating then set up a profile for me ….its only been a week and the hard core, recited flirtatious messages are just a no go for me.
Happy Sunday!!!🤗😊Tell them Maya. Sis yess, speak up for what you like, and don’t like. Your not going to force just anything on me, if I’m not down with it. Loving the off the shoulder black top, yess. The hair looks really nice on you. Have a awesome evening.🙏🏽❤️💤
Nails are expensive! You are not wrong for wanting a service you pay for to be done correctly. I have teenagers and they’re learning to speak up when the shape and color are not what they asked for. It’s delicate navigating, but necessary. 🖤