Dax Shepard Wasn't Sure He Wanted to be with Kristen Bell 

Theres nothing enviable of self awareness..that just make you a more anxious and depressed person.

Yes 100%

Is enviable a good thing? lmao Oh my goodness gracious.

@@juliang-c4882 Thank you. I am painfully self aware. I would say it makes me kinder and more thoughtful, but also super anxious because I am constantly analyzing and processing everything I do. I've actually tried a few medications to ease it off will little success.

His recovery gave him that.

I thought that was totally romantic!

He questioned it, realized who she is and how amazing she is, realized she did the same with him, they both kept much of their good qualities but both gave each other strength and both improved being together more than being apart, and realized they fit. And he raised she's the only one who didn't tell him he's not enough as he is, nor did he do that to get.I think it's all totally romantic.

romantic and cheesy response on Dax's birthday show on Ellen, in case you haven't seen it yet..... ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-2cF-PXWt_bQ.html

So true ...like what a beautiful way to describe his relationship...instead of token dross we usually hear

wabisabi wabisabi thats why ppl like him and kristen theyre very real for celeb ppls i think

Matthew Davis 😂😂 basically.

I really hope this comment get a hell of a lot more likes, it deserves it 😂

What? Fair Enough.

This comment is AWESOME!

Also coild be Kristen is Anna and Dax is Kristoff

What does that even mean?

Break it down: intelligent with their emotions. They don’t live a false fairy tale! I loved Galaxie Girls comment!!!

@@zapkvr that they approach their relationship from a sence of intellect and rationality, rather than being petty and irrational like most people's shitty relationships.

Spot on!!!!!

Actually, I think they really hate each other. Over the last year their dislike of each other is becoming more and more apparent to the point where I can't even imagine that they even love each other as they are always talking shit about each other and veiling their hatred for each other in the words "we are just being real" or "showing the not pretty side". They seem like super miserable people.

she literally cheated on Robert Pattinson though??

@@canadariots1139 he is talking about kristen bell not kristen stewart.?

@@fatima_hussein i laughed so hard

@@canadariots1139 gold! 🤣🤣

@@canadariots1139 You got me wondering when she dated R pattinson 🤣🤣🤣 Wrong Kristen

Nowadays? I think that's more widespread today than in the past tbh. Media formats and outlets have changed so much that this style is more permissible now. It didn't make sense on traditional tv and radio etc.

@@fe5018 I don't know, compared to mainstream interviewers such as jimmy fallon and ellen, this guy actually let him talk is what I'm saying...

Agreed. That's because most interviewers are there to hear themselves.

most late shows are meant for comedy interviews and not for some serious stuff and is also filmed in front of a live studio audience and they have to keep them entertained if the celebrity is taking too long to get to the punchline they just add a bit of reactions to let the mood be in effect and sometimes it's fake laughs. *it's kinda like a circus where everything Has to be funny.* unlike this interview that is not meant to be funny but informative about the celebrity.

Fallon feels atacked right now, and he should. He should feel atacked and he also should shut the f*ck up.

I did that. Im still growing to be a better person.

I am in a new rel and that's how I felt 😂💚❤

Melissa B 💯and keeps it real

Someone who makes you want to be a better person > Someone who wants to make you a better person.

Also: marry someone you feel comfortable farting in front of. That's super key

Ikr, I'd never try to make a person I'm dating into the person I want to date, that's twisted, when I meet somebody and I realize tha he's not the rigth person for me, I'm honest and I end the relationship. And then keep seaching for the rigth person, on my own time.

What does ftw mean

@@scorpionsz7392 "For The Win"

@@Fraggr92 thanks!

That quote hit me. I've been with my fiance for almost 5 years, and that singular quote opened my eyes and made me realize that all my frustration was just that, I was trying to mold her to me, and getting mad when it wasn't working.

Yeah, he saw the big money fruits she bore.....He is the same as the other people he was talking about. He is mooching off her. He is a dick.

Esteban Kozak mooching off of her? Lol bro just lol they are married and they both do their own thing. Is that what you would say about a stay at home mom?

@@boomds5602 If she was married to Kristen Bell and acted like Dak Shepherd? You bet!!

Esteban Kozak It does sound very instrumental, maybe also related to how addicts reason.

he sounds like an ass

@Jeremy Boyd Thats pretty much it. Its not live television. He doesnt need to move things along to fit into an hour. So he can ask a question a really just let them run with it.

@@Makawav totally agree. Needing to create fast paced, perfectly-timed-for-commercials, "must watch"(I.e sensationalist) content that lures in advertisers at an upfront and hits all the right Nielsen numbers would likely be the death of so much of this wonderful insight.

@@Makawav the funny thing is, A LOT of the biggest podcast interviewers constantly interrupt their guests, eg Rogan

It’s like the Facebook page Humans of New York. Everyone has stories and most people want to tell them. Others just need to be quiet and listen.

@@laurensabino182 Fancy running into you here! I vividly remember you from the sourcefed days! Hope all is well :)

I think people really underestimate him because we know him from roles where he wasn't playing the brightest characters, but he's actually very wise.

What is his podcast called?

@@muimui150x Armchair Expert

muimui150x armchair expert

Evalynn fave podcast

you have to be kidding with him being 'all brain'. average intelligence at best

The way I see it it's a matter of 'thinker' vs. 'feeler'. Don't confuse education with intelligence.

@@ekkusu amen

I know what you are saying. You don’t literally mean “all brain=genius.” You just mean he leads with his brain, she leads with her heart. Together, they balance each other out. Because of her, he has expanded emotionally. Because of him, she can be more open about her flaws. Agreed.

I hate that expression. He's all fear and she's all openness is a better way to put it. Stop talking about feelers like they don't use their brain as much

Is it egoistic? Or is it that he wants to be a better person like her? That can be charming to fall for someone. I also heard that they have an open relationship from time to time. Whatever works for them❤

@@rootje812 I suppose it was the way he formulated it, as "I wanted what she had" that sounds so self-centered. Not as "i wanted to be in her life so i can bring her joy" or something like, what he can do for her but what he can get for himself.

@@tonymontana1543 I COMPLETELY AGREE. The whole time, I was thinking..that's not love. He wants adoration, money, and partner who makes him look good. He sounded like a dick to me..lol

He is an actor... I've never met one that wasn't even a tad egoistical.

@@thisisaname4661 Sure. The difference is what he said -- i got together with my wife solely out of pursuing my own interests.

Yes 💕🙏

So true I love how he says the fruits she boar

I get what you're saying, but I feel like when they talk about each other it's so clinical & matter of fact. It doesn't seem like passionate love. Coupled with the fact that they have both talked about breaking up (and did) and how they weren't even sure they wanted each other, it's not the best love story.

@@FLdancer00 life isn't a Disney movie glad they're honest because it means there's something to stick it out for otherwise they wouldve broken up permanently. Life isn't always Disney like but they love and communicate well and that's all that matters

@@FLdancer00 Prince William and Kate broke up too and were not sure if they wanted to be togethet forever but look at them now together and seemingly happy .. not even real life princesses have perfect fairy tales as they are just that fairytales

how can you be glad over a couple of people whose life has no meaning whatsoever in your real life? it's not like they know you or care about you. this is insane.

@@FLdancer00 Also they have talked about how monogamy isn't for them, kind of weird in a committed marriage.

Thanks I will definitely check it out

Can I ask where you can listen to the podcasts? Also, any podcast/s in particular you really recommend?

@@paula9197 I listen to it on iTunes but I think you can listen to it where ever you listen to podcasts.

@@paula9197 i use Stitcher, its a free podcast app

@@tupd Cool thank you!

And then the kicker: "I thought she let people take advantage of her...but she's getting ahead and doing better than me."

Those 8 people are like 😐

@@adams6438 That's what I was thinking!

I wonder who those 8 people are or were to her. That's a deal breaker for me.

@@lunagabriella213 They're still really good friends, you can hear a bit about it in Dax's podcast with Ryan Hansen if you're interested :)

It's always good to trust people, but you can be too trusting. That's why this pair works so well together. You can also be too cynical and that's where balance becomes the key component.

As well as a Genuine Friendship

Well said, totally agree...

Agreed. It's rare to see such introspection from anyone, yet here it is displayed by a Hollywood bloke, one of the most ego needy arenas possible. Huge respect for him and his choice to remake himself to mirror what he appreciated about her. Talk to couples who have lasted forever. You'll see many have melded together in similar ways.

Maybe get through that first and stabilize yourself 1st....not fair to suck someone into your mess

@@Tee-kc3pn Relax there, bub.

You will…trust me.

I hate him

Love it! My boyfriend and I are the same lol. Self-fulfilling prophecy, truly!

I know of someone who had that same attitude that if she always treated strangers with kindness she'd be okay, but then on one of her solo adventures she was gang-raped by 8 people and murdered in India. So I think it's definitely better to live life with a positive attitude than a negative one, but it's also important to try to assess the environments you find yourself in and be aware of potential dangers. Good luck to you.

@@outofabook That is really heartbreaking about that innocent girl. May she rest in peace. Yes, the world has lowest of the scum types of people and unfortunately, we do have to be vigilant about what situations we put ourselves in. Most people are good though and caution is always sensibly practised.

It DEFINITELY wont always be okay. Dont just blindly subscribe to that assumption! I know that life feels beautiful for you, and your impulsivity has been repaid many times by life treating you good, but please be wary on the road. Ive worked as a researcher in the investigative department of a large newspaper in my country, one of the most peaceful in the world. And I can tell you, the stories Ive heard through my work, even in a country as safe and free as mine...we’re talking, girl on her third tinder date feels unwell after dinner, blacks out and wakes up on a plastic sheet with the patrick bateman like dude she was on a date with getting ready to torture and dismember her. She escaped and called the police but that girl will never trust again. And I have loads of stories like that. Hell, two girls on an adventure with the same trusting, naive attitude got their heads cut off JUST THE OTHER DAY in a tent on a vacation in morocco for no reason whatsoever. So no, it wont always be okay. Chances are youll be fine no matter what, but the small chance there is doesnt leave much room for a mistake.

@Side Shooter happens everywhere, but yes india should talk about it more in politic

Ryan Parman he’s great in Parenthood! (With Lauren Graham!) great show!

he also has his own podcast called Armchair Expert! he interviews a bunch of different people (including Kristen). i highly recommend it!! :)

Isn’t that amazing because women don’t think that way at all 😂if a man is out of our league we accept it for what it is

@@raindropsonroses3919 that is a lie. Proof of that are love stories, fan fiction, romantic movies specifically aimed at women, etc. There is ALWAYS a part of you that wants to be the leading lady of your dream guy.

I agree with you except there is no unconditional love, except from your dog. Don't try and ask too much of humans. We're not as good as dogs.

@jigyoda Youre both right. That was a poor choice of words. Love comes from(even fractionally) what you put in. Love is inherently conditional. You find something that means something to you and put yourself into it, and deal with and accept the reaction. If you feel you still wanna be there, thats the condition. Though im willing to be checked if im wrong.

That's exactly how I felt but all comments are so... admiring that made me think maybe I was not getting something

I think he's saying that he used to be very cynical and wary of people, I'm pretty sure he had a fucked up childhood, he's a former drug and alcohol addict. And witnessing the way Kristen approached life changed his perspective for the better. He isn't claiming to be perfect, it seems to be an admission that he was quite fucked up and Kristen helped to change that.

Janine H Exactly

i agree. everything he said was very comftorable and actually how people should be. just self aware and fair

I did. Mostly because it came across like the turn around for respecting her way of being was that she made more money, had better connections when she needed something, and was more successful than him. And he decided to be better (and possibly wanted to be with her) because he wanted to reep the benefits she was experiencing. I'm not sure if that's really all there was to it, or if he misrepresented it a bit in this comment. But it was definitely an off-putting answer if you really think about the potential implications of his message here. Despite the fact that I quite like Dax & Kristen together. This answer made me uncomfortable. But his self awareness that it sounded off putting was a good observation.

Cecelia M - so glad to hear you say that. I got some not-so-good vibes off this too. My impression was that he wasn't coming from a place of genuine love, intrigue and mutual care and support for Kristen (or a genuine love for himself beyond superficial self-interest) in his deciding to partner with her, but more that she had something he wanted (even if it was only an outlook or world view) and that essentially he was in it for himself. It just reminds me of someone I know (knew) who is a 'modern spiritual teacher type' and gives off this massively 'woke' vibe, similarly self-aware and self-effacing - and to be fair, compared to the general public, he really is! - but he's also a little pathological in his absolute refusal to self-reflect in relationships (or at least only as far as is convenient for him and doesn't contest his 'woke' self-image), to take responsibility for himself, he has the same wild arrogance and entitlement in relationships that this guy refers to and sadly, because most of the world thinks he's so smart, he buys into it and stops investigating his deepest shadow tendencies and then makes everyone else wrong or 'less evolved' if they're trying to point out his crap. Turns out it's called vulnerable/covert/shy/hypersensitive narcissism and it's very difficult to spot! Again, no idea of this guy beyond this short interview but my alarm bells are going off something major!! Especially if he's with a 'kind, caring Christian' type person - that's who these types usually prey upon. If she doesn't have good boundaries, that's a risk. Again, I have no evidence, don't know the guy, but spider senses on alert for sure. Hope Kristen knows the (potential) deal. 🙏🏼

@@jofriedman4528 Yes, I have very personal experience with 2 vulnerable narcissists in my past, at different times, and I've also learned about the dangers of this type the hard way. I have very high empathy, sometimes to a fault, and that makes me narcissist and sociopath catnip (studies have identified that people with narcissism and antisocial personality actively qualify and pursue higher levels of empathy in partners and victims). And vulnerable narcissists can be very difficult to spot because they appear to be emotionally open, self-reflecting, and thoughtful but then the level of selfishness can switch on a dime to a point where you suddenly have no value, opinion, or bodily autonomy and you become a thing that exists only for how they can use you. It's often not even accompanied by any desire for cruelty (as it is with sociopaths), just a complete, simple, sudden disregard for your being as a person when they are taking something that they want. However, i have to say that this is the only time Dax set off that alarm for me. And many narcissists wouldn't be quite as aware that their answer was potentially off-putting and why.

Cecelia M - wow, thank you for sharing all that. I'm both deeply sorry that's something you experienced - twice, no less - and deeply grateful that someone else knows this exists. There's nothing worse than having suspicions of vulnerable narcissism in someone and facing a crowd of unintentional gaslighting with comments like, "but he's so nice" etc.. I agree, after seeing another video of Dax with Kristen, I got no spider sense tinglings. It was just this video for me too. Maybe it was his energy that day. Who knows? I also agree his self-awareness is rare but I hate to say I've also seen V.narcs use a selective self-awareness to further seduce/entrap/take advantage of others. I agree completely, re: empathy - it's their #1 favourite quality (one even admitted this to me directly. Makes sense looking back) - but I've also found that with ridiculously strong boundaries - and I mean FIERCE - they've eventually gone away. After first destroying and taking everything they could, of course. Learning the hard way, as you say. You've described my experiences too - not so much a sociopathic desire to harm necessarily but just such a deep selfishness in which I felt like nothing more than a tool for them to obtain what they wanted and needed; attention, care, empathy, high regard (which I didn't have for them but that didn't seem to stop them from making their own self-flattering narrative and projecting them onto me as truth). Messy stuff. So, if you don't mind me asking - have you found a strategy that works for you moving forward to detect/prevent these situations from happening again? My working strategy seems to be to keep my heart wide open (because it's my life and I need that to survive. Kind of how Dax describes Kristen's trust in life in a way) but I'm now a lot harder for people to access. I can't help but give fundamental empathy in situations (it's innate and automatic for me too. Thank god!) but before giving any more than that, I check in and make sure that (a) my actions show care and empathy towards myself too before dishing it out to others and (b) I "make them" work a little for it. If a person wants and feels entitled to that kind of love for free, that's not a friend I want to invite into my world. Standards and boundaries, I guess. Anyhow, if you feel like sharing, I'd love to know what you've learned from your experiences by way of mitigating this further moving forward. Of course, no worries either way and thank you again for sharing so openly. I'm sorry again that your kindness and empathy wasn't honoured in the way it should have been. I'm hoping through conversations like these we can all learn more to look after ourselves while keeping our empathy alive and well. A big hug. 🙏🏼

bore

Oink oink!

He did say his answer would be a little off-putting anyways lol

Darlene Sterling powerful stuff

I love that

I get them confused, too!

i thought they were the same person until maybe 3 months ago lmaoo i'm dumb

Now that you mention it - they do look alike!

It’s been an ongoing joke for a couple of years lol

He was not certain at the beginning... but he became certain he wanted to marry her and only then he married Kristen.

Guepardo Guepárdez hahahahahha

Makes sense U-U