Dealing With Past Sexual Abuse 

"you were only nine or ten years old you didn't know what was happening" i needed to hear that

My mom didn't understand and blamed me. Said I was an attention seeker. She already takes my every word with a grain of salt

I told my Mom and she blamed me for everything, they were several family members who did those things and much more. All my extended family blamed my baby body for what they did starting at when I was 4 years old simply because I was born female. I don't trust my family anymore nor will I ever again.

i appreciate how she didn’t force her to report it against her will

My mom just said "but they said you wouldn't be able to remember!!" then covered her mouth and said "I mean- you probably just imagined it". Yeah, I don't talk to her anymore.

30 year old women crying watching this. I wish I had spoken up

"you were only 9 or 10 years old, you didn't understand what was happening" I wish someone had said that to me when it happened..

a mom we all deserve

i wish i had a mom like that for my situation of what happened

I remember when I was 12, we were having a VBS thing at our church. I was my first VBS in GA so I was excited. There was a boy there. He’d always stare at me. I didn’t really care at the time, considering that he just might be really observant. He then started to get… touchy. He’d always grab my arm and touch my sides. It made me uncomfortable, but I was afraid. I was afraid of being stern with him. I was afraid that I was actually in the wrong. He’d grope my chest and my body in ways that make me want to vomit my organs out and cry. When I told my parents, I’m so grateful that they understood. But when they asked me why I didn’t tell them, I didn’t respond. I remember when my dad asked me, “Did you not tell us because you were afraid?” I just broke down, sobbing and I nodded my head. As a toddler, I was always crying and complaining about random crap, my parents would tell me that I would be fine and to stop being dramatic. Of course, yea, I was a big dramatic person, but I think all those times left an effect on me. I was afraid that if I’d told my parents, they’d reject me and blame it on me. The days I was in VBS, I usually wore a big T-Shirt and biker/workout shorts, nothing special. I sometimes thought that it was my fault, that maybe it was my fault that somehow, too much of my legs showed or something. I’m glad that my parents took action and protected me.❤

wish my mom had that same response when I told her my story

I love how this pops up Like 20 minutes after I just had a melt down thinking about it

My mom lied and said that’s not what happened, even though I was the one who experienced it. And she said it wasn’t that bad. I wish I had a mom who stood by my side like this.

I love how she has such a close bond with her mom and that she was able to speak up ;)

I had a brother named jayson, and one day he came in the living room and it all went wrong. And that was the day i never forgave him nor talk to him...

This vid deserves to get viral, this kind of topics need to take more than serious...

I wish my mom reacted this way with love and understanding. Her response was to just ignore me and never talk to me again.

I wish her mom’s kindness, understanding and not blaming her daughter were more common responses.. I rarely cry watching something, but this was heartbreaking when everyone was laughing no one noticed her silence that says so much.. I love your animation and your drawing style!! Love 🖤

when i told my mom she cried with me and told me it wasn't my fault. my dad went ballistic

Growing up. Losing my innocence to my cousin when i was 5 while she was around 16 feeling like my body is not mine feeling insecure wanting to rip off my face because i look alike her Losing so much weight cutting my hair so short so that i cant see her in the mirror anymore. I am 15 now and i am still not okay.

I Was Sexually Abused At Age Ten. When I Tell My Parents That I Still Think About It They Tell Me "It Was Years Ago" Im Like "Does That Matter?"

Thanks.. Thank you so much... I love this, even if it’s a long time ago, I felt so stupid. I still remember those years, I feel like crying so much now.... When I told my friends, They thought it was a joke, when I told my Family members they Shouted and scolded me, when I told my parents, They shouted at me and told me to stop lying. And it continued.. I didn’t know what to do.. I listened what he said, I want to cry so much, I’m happy that I saw this.. And lucky he’s gone now, I don’t want to talk about it, but Thank you so much! ❤❤

My mother told me it was my fault. I want a mother like the one in the video.

This made me tear up. I went through the same thing a decade ago and man, I never felt so related. It’s sad that I connect so closely to this but it’s true. Problem is, I don’t know if I should say anything about it. I’m scared to be known as *that* person.

My heart goes out to everyone in the comments sharing their stories, and to the people who have stories to tell but haven’t shared them in the comments. To everyone reading this, you’re loved and you’re loveable no matter what you may think. You got this, and you’re strong enough to get through every challenge in your way. You got this

she's so lucky to have someone to have her back like that, my mom was a complete disappointment shoving my confess under the rug after it took me so much courage and time to say it

I wish my mom did that when I told her, I came to her crying and shaking and she laughed at me and told me to stop crying that’s not a big deal and that I’m childish, all I wanted from her was to hug me and tell me that I’m brave for talking and that my feelings are important and that I’m safe now. Now I think I’m ready to be there for my little sister and protect her from him or from anyone who would make her feel uncomfortable like the mom in this video

It’s hard sometimes to see representation, and this helps a lot thank you, even if it’s s story I’m glad they got to report him, I wish I got report all the people who did that to me and ofc I’m getting the helped needed even thought I need a new therapist

this would've helped me as a kid. i'm glad its out there

Your content is always so great, but this video in particular is just so relatable. Keep it up!

My mom never had that courage to speak out, she just ignored all the things like they never happened to me,, yes those things still haunts me..

I sadly relate to this. It happened this year. Thankfully i knew what had happened to me wasn't right because i have a supportive mom.

I told my grandma she yelled at him but just let it go I used to play with him and I used to love him but after that it wasn't the same every chance I had I hid from him but to this day he still lives with us

I wish I had a mom like that my mom doesn't believe me

I never went to mom, she died before I could talk to her and receive love and understanding from her. ❤ Your loved ones will support you not shame you. Go to them ❤

I told my parents and they told me if i wanted attention i could just ask (it wasn’t fake it was real it happened for 4 years by my own brother and they made me apologize to him. ME, TO HIM. I’m way too scared to tell anyone else in fear of the same thing happening again.)

I told my mom I was hurt and needed support but I wasn't ready to elaborate on it. She kept nagging until I finally gave her the details. When I did, she asked why I didn't just say no and that I should've just put my foot down (he threatened suicide on the regular). In the end she was more upset that I had lied and made excuses over the fact that I was sexually abused. I don't feel safe to tell her anything anymore

It’s a great idea to report him. She probably wasn’t the first he did this to, or the last.

i was also scared to tell my mom mostly because i didnt want it to be a big deal and i didnt want to run into him after people told him what happened but even after i told her i had to talk to all these people and it really stressed me out a lot and sometimes i kinda wish i never told my mom but if i didnt tell her then i would have to keep seeing him so i was kinda stressed about that as well but im also kinda glad i told my mom.

And she reported but they dropped the case immediately :’)

I was 18 when mine happened. It was a party and i got followed. I get told its my fault for putting myseld in that situation. Told i need to let go and forgive for myself

I was 3-4 he was 5-6. Everybody even my therapist said "He was just a kid and probably just experimenting". That doesn't change the fact he wanted to force me things I didn't want to do

This is such a wholesome way to raise awareness on this topic❤

I hate when people say I didn’t get sexually assaulted because I wasn’t raped I know I was sexually assaulted and it wasn’t someone I know it happened like last month I was swimming and then some guy started groping my thigh I was very uncomfortable but I didn’t want to expose my little cousin to that and she was in front of me so even tho I was uncomfortable I distracted her and kicked that guy away he then swam to his big group of friends laughing as I got my little cousins and we went to a different section no one in my family knows what happened tho

I like how there was a plus size girl, a skinny girl, and a more average weight girl. Nice diversity:)

I'm jealous of the sweets they are consuming. Damn it.

Not sure why this popped up in my feed, but nice to see there are such resources for people who need it?

My mom understood me ❤my parents supported me they understood me ❤I love them ❤️ a lot I'm greatful for them

I wish we can stop this from completely happening!

I cant even confront my mom cuz I'm scared of being blamed

I wish my mom was like this about it. 😕 I still think about it all the time, I was 11, Idk if this is normal but I think about hurting him.

What do you do when it happens multiple times or from a family member?

My mom haven't done anything when i told her I got sexually assaulted more than twice by multiple people, she said that I had the permission to handle it myself and that I'm just a bit egocentric, I haven't told anything to my dad cause he even ignores the fact that I'm not mentally perfect. My mom also waited so many years before making me go to a psychologist and experts, I used to ask for someone at the age of 8 cause i had the need to talk with someone that weren't my parents but my mom just yelled at me and from there on I stopped talking to both of my parents. I was sexually assaulted at the age of 8/9 to this year but I still haven't told anyone except my psychologist and a social assistant.

I recently got groomed by my ex girlfriend. everyone i was friends with was told. and not a singular one of them comforted me, even while im still trying to cope and get over it, nobody really cares. thats the reaction I'm scared my parents are gonna have, and also, im afraid they'll blame me or take away my online access, just because i didn't know any better.

Well, at least mom is supportive. 😢

The fact that they are mostly close relatives and just not one and knowing that nothing will happen even if you report them and you will only create a larger problem and danger for your family is something no one ever told of us and the fact that teenagers and children's even adults always think their position and how others will get affected is just too sad

I was assaulted for the first time at about 9 years old. I was told that I let it happen. When i was drugged and assaulted in college, my now husband tells me that its my fault for putting myself in that situation.

I wish I was that one girl with the long legs like she never missed leg day

I wish I could report that person too

I haven’t even open up to my mother about my assault. I only ever told her about my harassment.

Even though parents love us unconditionally, they often fail to notice the turmoil going on inside their wards..

This is the kind of mom we all need caring and supportive ❤️ 💕 💗

If I told my mom I would probably be disowned It wasn't a big of a deal.. he just made me uncomfortable He would often touch me in the most despicable ways I still feel his hands on me until this day :(

I just remembered something that happened to me. I had a meltdown and now I'm trying to prosses and calm down

This is exactly what I needed to hear/see. Thank you so much

i remember when i was touched when i was little and now looking at it i just realized that it was serious, sucks to suck that i still havent told anybody

This was beautiful gave me chills

I wish I had a mom like that

I told my mom I suspect my uncle did something to me when I was 4, and all she said was “well I pray he didn’t”.

Best mim in the world. Something like this happened to me too… it’s so healing to hear this. And I’m glad I’m not alone with the attention thing. Thank you for sharing your message. It really truly helped. Thank you🩷

A lot of people never report 😢

This is brilliant.

I needed this, thank you so much

I’m to scared to open up to my mom about it. I was only 7 and he was 5 so I don’t think that people would believe me. :(

Im struggling with this, I never told anyone, and years later my abuser burglarized a house and raped an underage minor, its terrible now hes a registered sex offender.

I wish my mom was with me when it happened 🙁 But I'm really afraid to tell her.

I was 5 the first time it happened and 9 the last time it happened. I’m now 15 and scared that since I’ve waited too long to say anything they won’t believe me.

GIVE ME A MOM LIKE THIS RIGHT NOW.

One of the male maids in my old house touched me somewhere he shouldn't, and i was like 5 at that time, but i wasn't stupid, i jumped on the table so i could run to my mother to tell her, i was fast... My mother kicked him out and yeah..

Only if my mom was like that

oh I really wish I could hear someone saying "it's not your falut" :( I will visit my therapist soon, I need to talk with them about that, I hope I will feel better🙏

I think watching this made me realize an instance of sa I hadn’t fully rejestered as such in my mind. I’m kind of dizzy now. But awesome animation and very important to teach people. 😢

Respect to the mom

something that I hate is that family doesn't even talk about it and it makes me feel like all that trauma just came out of nowhere, is it so bad that I want to talk about it

I'm thankful that my mom response was nice after what I told her what happened

Poor zuzu...

Whatever happened happened and I can't change it obviously .. but idk how to cope with it coz the man who did this to me lives with me.. I don't go out .. I just don't do anything.. I cry and get over it and cry some other day..I only wish my mother would take my side and somehow she'll know I'm right and it's not my fault .. but she refuses and maybe that's simpler for her to believe the otherwise because it'll break her if she accepts the truth... but I wait for the day she'll undertand

I really want to be my attorney and send the scumbag away for abusing my daughter because one hope united doesn't care 📜👈😑 they don't care

I'm living vicariously through this animation and pretending that this is me and my mom

I am over these.

I still haven't told anyone .

My mom didn't even believe me... I was 6 !

I didn't even tell my mom. Because she always told me I was an attention seeker and that I always try to attract men. And I knew she'd think that it was my fault, that he only did it because of my behaviour. I wish that there are a lot of mothers out there who are more like the one in the video.

My family excused it as a schizophrenic episode but my episodes aren't like that. Mine are like not seeing cars on a busy road or not seeing students in a busy class room. All my senses are able to detect something that is there but my eyes kinda edits it put like editing a photo

I just dont know how I will react and respond if the same happen to my future daughter.

He was 4 years older than me when it happened.

this happened to me with my 26 yr old neighbour when i was only 10

No one understands the one was was abused..nor the family.nor the frends ..not the spouse..wanna be so loved...but i cant be ...all because of the touch i dint ask for...

April is SA awareness month, And I just wanna let you know it wasn’t your fault ❤

I NOT telling my mum yet 😢